Moving On......After the Flap
Welcome all, to the "lounge" for ladies who have had flap reconstruction, and are finding that their days are becoming more about life in general, as opposed to flap recon, 24/7. This is not an exclusive place....you don't have to be a certain "variety of flap", you don't have to be completely done with all the stages of recon. You will most likely be happy here, if like me, you are over the initial "stuff", and want to turn your energy into moving forward on the adventure called "life". I hope the ladies joining the discussion, feel comfortable sharing the hopes, laughs, questions, fears and tears that make up life, the "magic" that holds friends together, knowing that we all also "get it"..like no one else can.
I hope we can keep this thread as a place to take a deep breath, and be able to stay in touch.....moving on with life.
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Countdown to W3 gathering at Mt.Hood
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Blue....to be more precise, I don't believe that acid/alkaline diet fandango. However, I do not like what the acid from the lemon fruit does to my tooth enamel, so when I found the lemon essential oil, I jumped on it, and it is wonderful. The fact that it comes from the rind and not the fruit is inconsequential......it's the fact that it won't ruin my teeth that I care about!
SBe.....Salsa and Beer, North Hollywood? Do you want me to bring you a bottle of lemon oil when I come?
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So......life is definitely moving on....son is a senior. We are heading to a scholarship competition at Central Michigan University this weekend (prayers, please, this is for a full ride which would be so stinking amazing). Been drilling him on writing and answering interview questions. He is also finishing up his Eagle Scout requirements in the next few weeks. Work is crazy busy. Thanksgiving and Christmas coming up fast. Oh, and I have surgery coming, too. Seems like a minor distraction at this point.
Thanks for your service, Katy! Go Air Force. My son's friend is going to enlist in the Air Force next year!
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Forgot to say....I don't have so much of a sweet tooth as I do a salt and crunchy tooth....especially at night when I am reading. I love nuts and seeds.....but a little go a long way (on my hips!) So I have been chopping celery into small pieces and adding a sprinkle of sea salt and harmlessly munching while I read. Really satisfies that salty crunchy craving for me!
Also it's snowing and 30°…ugh.
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OK....if the first attempt is any indication....I will defo NOT be joining the "chunky veggie smoothie" brigade!!! .
I suppose I could try bailey's trick of celery and a sprinkle of salt ( not a sweet tooth in my mouth), but.....I may just skip the salt and on occasion, eat a few potato chips, lick my fingers, smack my lips, and smile. ahhhhh.
Hang on for the ride, bailey....isn't "normal life" great!!! Got everything crossed for you son to do well. -
I just had to share this photo from Thing 1's Senior photo shoot this past weekend....is he cute, or what?
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Son is adorable, Bailey.....
Good luck this weekend......DD#3 & 4. Both got full rides......hallelujah ! One for soccer, one for grades, etc. Absolutely the best thing ever to happen to us since we started sending kids to college! I will send lots of positive energy and prayers in you direction! -
A....D...O...R...A...B..L...E!!!!!!!! -
What a cutie! No full rides for our three.....would have been nice. Best wishes to your son!
Now I am craving celery but don't have any!
I walked for an hour outside today and worked all afternoon at the food bank. Great day! -
Bailey, what a fabulous photo! It belongs in a magazine! He is totally wonderful. I bet he has a string of adoring girls following him around. And what a cool, hip thing to wear a cap like that for a photo. He's my hero.
Movie! Salsa and Beer is one of our favorite places! There's one about three blocks from DS's and DIL's house, and we go there a lot because it's so close. I love their food, and so will you. I can't wait! And I love your new quote in your signature line. It's funny...and REAL.
I'm not bragging, just sharing the facts...my radiologist son got a full ride to U of M medical school. I think it was because they look for applicants who are personable and have a lot of "lifetime experience." Not someone who has done nothing but study since kindergarten. He feels extremely blessed to have been given this wonderful opportunity, to graduate without a boatload of student loans, and has lots of plans about how to pay it forward.
Aubrey just went home, after chewing on my fingers for a few hours. She is so adorable. And Sammy, our little rescue woofer, loves her enormously. Whenever she's playing on the floor, he cuddles next to her. Photos coming. -
Jeannie...you're a good person. I bet the people at the food bank know who you are and know you're helping out of the love in your heart. -
Ah, Sbel, thanks! I felt such joy being back at the FB today. Everyone is very solicitous of me, especially since the newspaper article, which is nice for now. I do hope they treat me normally soon, but I guess I'll never be "normal!" LOL. The clients missed me and one even said he'd been praying for me. It's an honor and joy to spend time there. -
Bailey - Adorable! I want print his picture and hang it in my locker! Well, I don't actually have a locker, and if I did that would be weird - but his personality just shines. I'll be keeping fingers and toes crossed this weekend.
Speaking of Shiney personalities....Jeannie, without having met you I just know that you light up a room. Sounds like good things are coming from that article. Your town, family, food bank, friends, and Wilbur, are lucky to have you. Sometimes when I read of your adventures I think you should have your own sitcom - 'Everyone loves Jeannie' -
Great picture Bailey? My children didn't get scholarships either. My son got $500 for being athlete of the year. Ha ha! they did both graduate from Michigan State University where I met my husband. ( So did there spouses) we are very very GREEN In this family.
Well I made it. One year ago today I had my mastectomy and DIEP. I bought them a couple of new bras. no underwire though. I still want to be careful. These are the first real bras I've had. Happy Birthday girls! -
Cherrie - Happy birthday girls! -
Janet, you are funny! Believe me, my life is not exciting enough for a sitcom. In fact, I am struggling with how to fill it up. I'm not working so there are empty spaces. It's just that "redefining" time of life for me. I'll figure it out, especially since I am done now with OR surgeries and can really heal and start to move on while waiting for nipples. Gosh, I'll be glad to stop thinking and talking about boobs and nips! As for my personality, I am friendly but kind of quiet. Not a chatterer, although I like to be around them. I often tell my husband he fills up a room with his personality, which is a good thing. With him filling it and perhaps me lighting it (I don't really think I do), it makes for an interesting scenario...Thank you, Janet, for your very kind words. I appreciate them and will be thinking about them today with a smile!
Cherrie, maybe I'll wear my U Mich shirt and sweatshirt just to rile you up when I see you...NOT! JK. My DD and DSIL are so invested there while he is in dental school. He is VP of the dental school in his second year and has just been appointed to the university budget committee for some reason. DD has risen from an admin position at the school of public policy to student advisor in just a year. (They both have master's degrees). She was also registrar for a few months simultaneously. She is also nominated for a university-wide staff award for being enthusiastic and excellent, which is puzzling and embarrassing for her since she is so new. She doesn't even like living in Ann Arbor but is certainly making the best of it. Pardon me for bragging about these kids. I am just so darn proud of them and that's why I proudly wear the blue and gold. Cherrie, happy birthday to your "girls!" What a happy day! I put my stretchy bras away, too, and am enjoying wearing some of my old bras which are much prettier. Too soon to buy new ones although I don't think my size will change much unless I lose weight.
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Jeannie - I had this flash of you taking a ride in the ambulance, and waving, during the opening credits of your sitcom. I know the whole ambulance ride wasn't funny, but you came across as light-hearted in spite of the circumstances. Wilbur would be a guest star, of course. And maybe George Clooney as a paramedic. -
for a "our" sitcom==it has to have Steve Martin and Whoppie in it. Ah, all of the funny antics! -
Janet, I like the way you think..Wilbur and George! The ambulance ride still seems crazy to me but I shudder when I think how I traumatized my grown daughter by being in such out-of-control pain. She talked it through with her therapist, it was that bad. That was just four short months ago---I'm so grateful to be in this moment, this time, now.
Kat-ski, we would surely have some laughs with those two although we are a crazy, silly bunch ourselves! -
Jeannie- I am quiet until I know people, but canbe chatty after coffee and wine. You should be very proud of your children. Both of my children graduated as Packaging Engineers and are not in their field. My daughter and husband are opening their second Little Ceasar's franchise. She is able to stay home with her daughter and does all the books for their company. My son is learning how to brew beer at Naked City Brewrey in Ballard. His wife is an assistant buyer for Sur La Table. They are both happy and that is what is most important to me.
I walked 2.7 miles this morning and have 6647 steps today. My goal this week is 7000 per day on average. -
Cherrie, happy 1st birthday to your girls! A milestone, for sure! I can't wait for my own twins 1st birthday......last year I threw a "No Pity for the Titties" going away party.....maybe this year I can throw a Birthday Bash! (Complete with Show-And-Tell)......
And good for you! you are really working on building up your steps......If you leave the pedometer on all day, you will be surprised by just how much ground you cover just doing your things!
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Movie, I also worry about my enamel with coffee. I am addicted! A friend of mine drinks it with a straw. I can't drink hot things with a straw.
Bailey, your son is such a cutie! That's a great photo.
Happy birthday to the girls Cherrie!
"Sunburned" and snowing here in NJ. Want to go cool my skin off but I'm sure the authorities would frown upon a red Unaboober in public.
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Cherrie, maybe we should toast with a glass of wine at lunch? You are doing great with your exercise! After my hour walk/food bank day yesterday, I could only manage 30 minutes on the elliptical today. But at least I did it and now I'm off to a big "grocery/everything else, too" store so I'll get a lot more steps in.
Movie, I'm glad you aren't quiet! Keep it up! That must have been a great party.
Bluebird, I'm sorry about the burning. I remember it well but like everything else, it will pass. I'm sending a gentle (((hug))). -
cherrie...give yourself a huge pat on the back!!!! It may take a few weeks, but I bet you start to notice some improvement in how you feel, physically and "mindset" both. And then....the reward will be a wonderful visit with your son, and maybe a bit more energy to explore his new environment with him! Again.....awesome job!!!
I'll never have bragging rights for "mainstream" accomplishments for my kids.....but....we are so proud of our daughter lately. She has now been living on her own, getting to her appointments, taking her meds, independently for 6 months (minus the flood disruption). She has also controlled her diet enough to bring herself out of a "pre-diabetic" category, has lost 20 pounds, and has stuck with her CPAP regime enough, that she has reduced her sleep apnea episodes from 25 to 30 per hour, to one!!!! These are HUGE accomplishments for someone who suffers from significant clinical depression, anxiety disorders and chronic migraines. My son, has gotten his ass in gear, put his IBS/colitis issues in semi control, found a job he enjoys, and has stuck to it longer than any other in recent years....again, doesn't sound like much to others....to hubby and I, gives us a ray of hope, that maybe.....this time...... Just as we are different, our families are different too. We should all celebrate the big things and the small things...they each have meaning. -
In the end we all just want our children to be healthy, safe, independent and happy. We can all be proud of our children as they try to reach these goals. (Big or small) They are all celebrations eh! It can be very difficult along the way.
I am keeping my pedometer on all the time. I am more of a sitter, reader, and am not high energy except for in the mornings. I was never that way when younger. Working on this!!
Yes Jeannie. Wine and seafood for lunch sounds like heaven. Can't wait to meet you. If we want to go away for a couple of day where would be a good place. We love to sight see and enjoy nature. Are there whales near the islands this time of year??? -
Nihahi - applause to your kids. Even though they have issues, kids often don't want to manage and accept them. It sounds as if your kids are reaching that wonderful point of brain maturity that will allow them to do it for themselves even if Mom is not there to nag. We can only hope and yours are proving it might just be possible!
Cherrie - I, too, love to sit and read. I learned bad lessons from my mother on that. "Just let me finish this chapter" was her mantra. Her last 10 years of life were on dialysis (caused by type 2 diabetes and high blood pressure) 3 days a week. She fought her weight for years, but no one ever explained to her about "bad" carbs. They did suggest exercise which she interpreted to mean walk to the mailbox and back. I really don't want to go there! -
I hear you Marty. I had just over 6000 steps at 9:30 this morning and only have 7,051 right now. This is an improvement and I will keep adding steps each week. On the 22nd I am doing a 5k walk with four friends. We will be in red, white, and green. It is called Silver Bells in the City. Tree lighting and fireworks over the Capitol Building in Lansing, Michigan. -
Bailey, that boy is sooo cute - pity I don't have another daughter!
Cherrie, you are on your way. Are you feeling proud of yourself yet? You should be! I hear you on the sitting and reading - that's me too. But I have changed my ways, and I'm much more active than I have ever been before. Benefits are just overwhelmingly favorable. I will even run laps around my kitchen island to up my steps for the day. DH laughed at me, and now he is doing the same. Wonder what the neighbours are thinking - last night we were both doing laps at the same time, and my kitchen windows don't have any coverings. They probably thought DH was chasing me . . . LOL.
Nihahi, so happy to hear your kids are doing well - hopefully they have turned that corner where they realize that they are adults now with adult responsibility. Some kids just take longer to reach that point. It seems that all my kids are in a happy place at the moment. My youngest DS finished his studies, and got to adulthood way before his brother who is 3 years his senior. DD has never given me any trouble - a model child.
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My problem is consistency. I love a day with 6000+ steps, but too many others are under 1000. DH & I need to really make this a priority. I think it will be easier when I am done with surgery. Right now I still feel like I am in a holding pattern. -
Cherrie, I know the orca pods have been nearby lately but I'm not sure where they will be when you are here. I have only camped or stayed with friends in the San Juans. The ferry ride from Anacortes is beautiful. You can check ferry schedules/cost at wsdot.wa.gov/ferries/. The most well-known resorts are Rosario Resort on Orcas Island and Roche Harbor on San Juan Island. There is a state park with a nice viewpoint (Moran State Park) near Rosario. The islands are not highly populated. You would definitely be getting away! They are beautiful, though. I stayed with a friend on Lopez Island this summer. There is a very small town there but she took me around to the beautiful beaches. Friday Harbor on San Juan is probably the "biggest" town. It has a whale museum there (no live whales) where you can learn about their travels, I'm sure. Maybe Mammalou can tell you where she stayed? I know she is a little busy at the moment.... Whidbey Island is a short ferry ride from Mukilteo. It has resorts/motels/b&bs, also. Langley and Coupeville are the towns closest to the ferry and where we usually spend our time. We don't often spend the night there, though, so let google guide you if you're interested. If you want to go east to Snoqualmie Falls in the Cascade foothills, there is Snoqualmie Lodge right there, too. I don't have any idea if you can get rooms at these places or not. You are doing great with your exercise. The 5K sounds fun! I have about five pedometers. I guess I should put one on once in awhile!
Nihahi, I celebrate your children's achievements with you, great or small. Like Cherrie said, we as moms just want them to be happy, healthy, independent and safe. I will add "nearby", too, since two of mine are so far away! I'm sorry if I bragged too much. My kids certainly aren't perfect. -
Thanks Jeanie! We are looking at some of the places you mentioned. The San Juan Islands look like a long travel, but look beautiful. -
Cherrie, congratulations on the exercise! I just got my drains out, so now I am ready to get active. But wouldn't you know, the day after getting my last drain out, I woke up with a pinched nerve in my shoulder. It's slowly resolving, so I hope to be on my elliptical by next week. Do you live in Lansing? I am in Toledo, which is only 2 hours away. Maybe we could get together sometime.
Nihahi, you must be very pleased with your children's progress. Those milestones are huge in a mother's eyes. My children have not followed the easiest paths, but they have managed to find happiness in their own way in their own time. It may not have been what I envisioned for them, but that has been a great lesson. It's not for me to envision. It is their path, and they will find their way. So happy that your daughter's health is improving. -
I live west of Lansing. Basically, between Lansing and Grand Rapids. It would be nice to meet up sometime. -
Bailey- So funny, we called our twins thing one and thing two when they were toddlers. He is adorable!
Cherrie- Congrats on one year!!!!
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cherrie.....as the saying goes....."you've come a LOOONG way"! I hope you respect the strength and courage it took you to get through a very tough year. That walk sounds like fun! It sounds like a nighttime thing??? I LOVE Christmas lights, carols, etc.
Thanks for the heartfelt comments on what I shared re: my kids. Life gives us all different challenges.....what is a "pfft - no big deal" for one person, can be a very major accomplishment for another. Yep, we can't measure our children's "success" by our expectations.....we are all on our own "path".
cherrie and marty....I'm a big reader too!!! I have found I have to save that for my "reward" in the evenings. That's my "low energy" time of day. If I let myself pick up a book during the daytime....I wouldn't do ANYTHING for the rest of the day!!!
zenful.....take it slow there grasshopper, maybe up your walking before you hop onto that elliptical....hope the shoulder pain eases off quickly.
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Awwwww....Nihahi......I probably sounded like I was bragging.....and I guess I was.....but the two DD s I was talking about have given me no end of grief over the years, and haven't stopped yet.......like you said, I am just celebrating the good I can hang onto! The strides your children are making are a testament to your nurturing...I really do believe that kids eventually get it right, but as. Zen says, in their own time.....,
Spent the last hour chatting with a woman in her 50's who was just DX with IBC........had to welcome her to the ever-expanding BC club......tired now......my bed is calling my name......
Oh.....I read an article in the WSJ today about how stores like Whole Foods are jumping into the vegetable juicing market and they are finding out people are willing to spend up to $10 for REAL veggie/fruit juice.....better get out the juicer........ -
Thanks, y'all. He is adorable. He wears that hat a lot, Katy.
Ok I caught up, I said hi. I am SOOOOOO tired. Gnite friends!
Your kids all sound great
I think they are all challenging and worrisome and heart breaking and wonderful in their own special ways. I know mine are. -
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Nahahi- I think its awesome news about your kiddos, yes we got a few flakes but it was just a dusting. Having just moved from the mountains where we got a ton of snow, this was just pretty to watch falling. It is cold though, twenty-five degrees this morning so I had to actually break out a coat....lol.
I have to paint the rock at DD's school for her birthday but our high will only be 45 which means it will take forever for my basecoat to dry. Fun, fun.
I am looking forward to yoga today though. Happy Wednesday everyone!
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Bailey, love the pic. What an adorable young man! Jeannie, I wish I craved celery. Chips and dip, and many a sweet tooth in my mouth. Have a good day, ladies! -
bailey, very handsome boy!!!
I went for a run last night and I nearly froze to death!! I need to get something to wear around my ears. They were hurting so bad after my run because of the cold. I'm right at my 6 month mark since my DIEP and here I'm sitting here waiting to see my BS. You ladies have a wonderful day!! -
cherrie, marty....PUT THAT BOOK DOWN!!!!!! !
sweet....back in my days....painting the "school rock" was a big no-no!!! . It belonged to the senior class, and if anyone dared messed with it aside from the "official" logo of the class....DETENTION!!!! Of course, that was high school....big rocks in elementary school were just things to climb on!!! .
kuka....I'm sure the appt will go well. Bet your BS is impressed with your new Br'st!!!!
gosh, ladies.....I was just presenting a different "side" of things when I posted about my kids....didn't mean to upset those with "happier" stories..no need to apologize for being proud of the uber achievers...again....sorry, didn't mean to rain on anyone's parade. -
Nihahi, dear one, no one's parade is getting wet! We all have different journeys and stories for our kids, and they make us proud in so many different ways. Please don't apologize for being proud of hard-won accomplishments!
I had never heard of painting the rock until I visited my DS and DIL at U of M. The "rock" there is so thick with paint it was probably twice its original size. I learned that people sometimes line up, waiting their turn to paint the rock, and it never keeps its layer for long. My DS and DILs friends helped them paint it with the UCLA logo after they learned they were coming here for residency. It lasted long enough to take a photo...then..
DH and I took a couple of days off and drove to San Diego for a short vacay. We're going to stroll on the beach and ride the bikes around Mission Bay. The motel room here is pretty crowded, we're sharing it with our bicycles, and they're blocking the TV.
Sunscreen and the beach, and it's almost Thanksgiving. California is such a strange place!
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Katy- I may have put a slash of GREEN on that rock in my much younger days.
I had my full body massage today. A gift to myself. She took it easy on my inner thighs. I wasn't sure whether they should be massaged only 8 weeks out of lipo. A great way to celebrate. I'm also feeling pretty good about my new real bra. 36C Same as before. Not too big or too small.
Nihahi- I could read all day. My steps are at 8322 today. Above my goal. Yay!! -
Cherrie, are your steps mostly from the treadmill? Good for you for treating yourself to a massage. That's one of the things LE has made me give up. 😟
Katy, so jealous. We lived in SD at one time, left our oldest there when we moved plus have other family there. Ahh, the beach.... -
cherrie...so glad to hear you had such a great day....WOWZER.....you're doing awesome on those steps!!!!! 5k is going to be nothing, girl!!!!
It was absolutely lovely here today....sunny, mild and unusual for here..no wind. So I went for a lovely long walk.
Is it just me, or is anyone else already annoyed at all the Christmas themed commercials and ads?????
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jeannie....do you get a chance to go back to San Diego much??? Boy, sounds like a perfect place for a mid-winter get away, when the Seattle grey gets to be too much! And a visit with one of your kids to boot!!!
marty....look out....cherrie has thrown down that gauntlet....PUT THE BOOK DOWN!!!!!! !
Anybody here read cookbooks too???? I could spend a day reading cookbooks!!!
Better get moving before I ignore my own advice and pick one up!
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Yep, Cherrie is outwalking me. But I do go to the Physical Therapist with my DH and he really works us. Whew! This guy is really the best I have ever seen or worked with. So, when we got back we juiced for lunch finished with warm bone broth. Yum! -
Cherrie, good for you on all those steps! I'm also doing around 8000 every day. Find that I don't really have time to do more, because I also exercise at the gym 4 days a week. It is a 20 min. drive there - wish it was closer. Oh well, you've gotta do what you've gotta do.
Nihahi, I love reading cookbooks too, or check out recipes on the Internet. I have found such good ones there. Christmas ads - yep, that and the whole Christmas madness become more annoying every year. Last year I came off lightly with the whole Christmas gift/decorating/celebration thing because we were away, and this year it's the same. I am to the point where I just do not want to do this any more. Don't mind doing some baking, and cooking a Christmas dinner, but that's enough for me. Maybe when there's grandchildren coming for Christmas I will feel more enthusiastic again. Lol. -
Nihahi, if I read a cookbook all day I'd be hungry all day! Don't you find yourself wanting to fix, and eat, everything in the book?
Liefie, I was diagnosed in October 2011 and we just couldn't bring ourselves to haul out the tree and do the whole, mad thing that year. We skipped it last year, too. Now that Aubrey is here, we'll probably jump back in--but with a thought to how relaxing it was to not join in all the holiday craziness. Watching TV this time of year drives me nuts. Who gives somebody a CAR for Christmas, for heaven's sake?
Alas, we're back from our San Diego vacay. It was truly lovely. But the bed in the hotel room was extra-firm, and I woke up both mornings stiff and sore, with an aching shoulder. It's bad enough having the Femara soreness--throw in some early morning pain and I was moving around like someone's elderly auntie.
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my appt with BS was great. She was very happy with how everything looked and asked me if I would mind showing her nurses , so I did. They were all very impressed.
If I didn't have small children I wouldn't join on the holidays either. It's just too much work! But it's all worth it just to see their faces. -
I love cookbooks. I especially love finding them at yard sales and old book stores. It's silly but I love the old books with color photos of each prepared recipe, church cookbooks, and especially old betty crocker cookbooks or any cookbook with notes written in it! The funny thing is I enjoy looking at them and collecting them, but when I want a recipe I usually turn to the internet to get it quick or use my own notecards. -
under my goal today, but made 6544 steps. Close!! Working on that baby quilt. Going to see Mamma Mia tomorrow with my girlfriend.
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love you too cherrie..zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.
sbe....keep the vaca mindset....don't do dishes until Sunday night! That is a bummer about the mattress. Hubby has similar issues with firm mattresses. We bought a "memory-foam" mattress topper at Walmart, and bring that whenever we go away (by car). It has saved his shoulders on more than one occasion.
children make Christmas...no doubt about it. We have very much cut down on the decorations, food, presents, etc. as they got older. I used to absolutely exhaust myself, trying to create a "wonderful" holiday for everyone. I'm glad I did it when they were younger, now, I still do some special things, but make sure to give myself a chance to relax and enjoy myself too.
bluebird...I'm much the same, look at lots of recipes, usually end up cooking the old reliable standbys. Sometimes I make myself try a new recipe once a week....doesn't last long! We're pretty simple "eaters" though.
Walked 11.75km, yesterday and today....gotta enjoy the mild weather while it lasts.....cause a change is a-coming!!!!!
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I will happily be sliding into my Tempurpedic bed tonight! It's so old that there's a Katy-shaped nest on one side and a Jerry-shaped nest on the other, but the squishy quality still works just fine and is much easier on my shoulder and back.
The TV news is on...we might have some cooler weather soon but no rain yet. All I want to do is put on a cuddly sweater and sip some hot cocoa...is that too much to ask? Sigh. -
Sbe, you live in the wrong place for hot cocoa........ however, you live in the right place for Salsa and Beer......DD said if Sherman Oak one is better for you, we can do that one instead........ . By the way, snow level down to 1500 ft tomorrow night.....which means Nihahi is probably gonna get snow.......again !
I just cooked the yummiest dinner tonight......lentils with butternut squash, tomato, onion, celery, carrot, garlic (of course!), kale, and chicken/apple sausage.....cooked in a chicken stock, with white wine, and some curry.........served with warm crusty Artisan bread.............I am stuffed!![:\](https://breastcancer.vanilladevelopment.com/resources/emoji/confused.png ":\")
I have got to get some sleep........
Love you all! XO
PS......have averaged 15,000 steps/day this week......we'll see how long THAT lasts!
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Good Friday morning to all,
The grand kids are spending the weekend with us. Great fun but exhausting. Then I'm taking a fused glass class to make a Christmas thingy on Sunday evening.
Then we are off to Tennessee for a week. Then stage II! Have a great weekend. ...Julie -
jlbloom...gosh that's pretty! I love taking classes like that.
movie...dinner sounded yummy, yummy until......you lost me at "curry". . Yep, you're spot on with the forecast....freezing rain here at the moment....turning to heavy snowfall warning...ah, winter!!!
sbe...we've got a tempurpedic mattress too....L...O...V....E...I...T!!! Hope the shoulder feels better this morning. -
We have a Tempurpedic, too. I have to use a T. pillow, too, for my bum neck.
Movie, sounds delish...except for my nemesis, garlic. Can you believe I'm allergic to fresh garlic?? Dining out is a challenge, as you can imagine....
Jlbloom, pretty! Since I dropped a bottle of Italian salad dressing which went everywhere and later broke a glass which also went everywhere yesterday, I'm thinking I should not be allowed near something as pretty as your project! Have fun with your grandkids and in Tennessee! Do you have family there?
I do not enjoy cooking very much but I have a heckuva folder on Pinterest called "I don't like cooking, but...." filled with recipes that I haven't tried. I guess I like reading them, too. Pinterest is better than tearing out recipes that I'll never try from magazines, which then take up space in a real folder.
Movie, you could walk circles around me! It's been four weeks since stage II so I know I am still healing but I have worked out every day this week, eaten better and all I am is tired. No lbs. lost. I know it's a process---and a recurrence protection---so I'll continue, of course. I am careful not to compare myself to anyone because "comparison is the thief of joy." I think it's great that DH has lost seven pounds in seven days, no exercise, just by cutting out sugar and being careful with carbs. He really loves sugar so I'm so happy he is eating more healthfully.
Apparently my dear brain -injured brother hasn't been feeling well for a while so he will be getting GI tests next week. He will have to be sedated for whatever they do because he would undoubtedly be uncooperative. His nurse said he seems to be declining in general, 39 years after his injury.
(. She asked me if I want to be there when he has his tests. Inside, I'm freaking out about having to be in a hospital, around more doctors and all that goes with it. I have post-traumatic-anything doctor/hospital related-syndrome, I guess.
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aww jeannie......uber giant hugs going out to you. You have EVERY reason in the book to have "doctor, et al avoidance syndrome".
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Sbel, I guess part of my irritation with Christmas is the spending/shopping frenzy that one is drawn into. I've been actively trying to resist that, and to stop feeling guilty about 'not doing' Xmas. The whole craziness just does not fit with the actual reason why Christmas is celebrated in the first place. Will make an effort though for the expected grandkid once he/she is bigger. This year instead of Xmas gifts I will donate goats, chickens, etc. on my family's behalf to destitute families in Africa. For me that has way more true value than stocking stuffers . . . DH does not fully support me on my Xmas gripe, and I see head butting happening next year when we will be home for Xmas.
Julie, I love glass work too, and so admire people who can do this. My mom was an artist who could do/make anything she put her mind to. Unfortunately I did not inherit that talent. Can surely appreciate it though. Enjoy!
Movie, can you share/pm that lentil recipe if you don't mind? Nihahi, will have to remember not to feed you curry, goat cheese or mooseballs when you visit me - LOL. Curry is big for us South Africans. The slaves imported to Cape Town from Malaysia in 1600/1700 brought that food culture with them, and we all loooove curry.
Talking about beds - the older I get the more I love my own bed. And my own pillow for that matter. Already dreading all the different beds I will sleep in during the S.A. visit. Coupled with jeg lag it will be 2 weeks before I have a decent sleep again. Oh well, the excitement of being there will more than make up for it - musn't be greedy. Lol.
This morning I'm half a pound away from the goal I set in the beginning of August. Have lost 14 lbs. The real test will be my weight when I come back from the holiday . . . temptations will be waiting around every corner, and it gets so hot there that exercise has to be done early in the morning, or it does not happen, unless you have access to a pool. DH is also at his goal, and we will just have to be each other's cheerleaders. Will be very interesting indeed.
Nihahi, hope you are safe and snug inside? I have to take dog for a walk, but the low, grey skies are not very encouraging. Maybe later it will look better. -
Jeannie, just saw your post. Good for DH - men do lose easier than us, eh? As a sugar addict myself I know how difficult it is to break that cycle. Yep, the comparing game is one you just cannot win. 'Thief of joy' - so appropriate, and I will remember it. Don't feel guilty for not wanting to be around drs and hopitals. You've certainly had your fill!
Speaking of hospitals, DH has been having pains over his upper right abdomen these last few weeks, and is getting an ultrasound this afternoon. He thinks he has gallstones. Just what we need now, eh? -
Oh, Liefie, I hope your DH feels better and gets good news or, at least, news that can wait to be taken care of. We're expecting a windy rain storm here yet again this afternoon. The mts. will get snow. I wish we could send some to Cali and Sbel. They really need it.
I have an appt. with the eye doc today for one cloudy eye. Could it be cataracts already?? Darn Tamoxifen. But I don't know what the problem is yet.
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Jeannie, I'm also dreading eye problems from Tamoxifen. So far I seem to be okay . . . touch wood. Sincerely hope you get good news about your eyes today! Will have to have my eyes checked when I come back - just so darn sick of tests and drs. -
Liefie, I saw what you wrote about your DH and possible gallstones. A few years ago my DH (more than a few pounds over weight) decided to go in on a diet pool at work. He really wanted to win, and he went from eating everything to eating just steamed fish, or chicken and veggies. Within 2 weeks he had lost 13 pounds, and had a gallbladder attack. They said fast weight loss can cause this event. Who knew?! He had gallbladder sludge, not stones. He treated himself with the Raw Unfilitered Apple Cider Vinegar cleanse, and it worked!!! No surgery, thank goodness. So, just in case your DH has sludge and not actual stones, you guys might want to read about it, and give it a try. Also, I had a stone that disappeared...lol. During all my scans leading up to my dx they saw a stone, and I was having mild symptoms, then on subsequent scans it disappeared. Maybe God thought I was dealing with enough...hehehehehe -
shoot...I seem to be stepping in it all over the place! Jeannie.....please do not compare to me! If I came across that way, I am truly sorry....was simply telling you because it pressures ME to be accountable....to ME! Putting it out there for all of you to see it, means I have admitted I have done that, and the next day better be at least as good step-wise.....I would go nuts comparing myself to Nihahi, as she walked circles around me on our hikes in glacier.....we are all so different, and we are all coming from different points. Hang in there.....the first leg is really difficult, but once you see progress.....even a tiny bit...it gets easier.....and you start looking for ways to add steps. For instance, it is not even noon here, and I already have 12,600+ steps for the day. (Dirty little secret: I get MOST of those from the elliptical every morning). The rest of the day is a bonus, and I enjoy seeing just how many steps I DO take in a day....
In other news....will be phoning up PS, as my abdominal suture from 2a is leaking something....and seems to have a small hole....hopefully just from sutures that didn't dissolve......
Julie! Beautiful! I want to learn to do that! Looks like a lot of fun!
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Holy crapola Movie! You would walk circles around me too. You can be our inspiration. I am averaging half of what you are getting, but still feel good about stepping it up. I do need to work on eating habits and I have wine every other day or so. Not much, but I like it.
I don't like to cook either, but do look at recipes on Pinterest. We are very simple eaters. My hubby is a skinny minny and has a sweet tooth. I like the salty stuff myself. Juicing doesn't sound good to me at all, but I am going to Florida for February with BIL and SIL and they juice, so you never know.
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Goldie, thanks for the Apple Vinegar Cleanse tip. Will certainly look into it if he has just the sludge. There is no time for surgery now, so any advice is appreciated. He did not have a sudden weight loss, and has lost about 25 lbs since January, so a slow and steady loss eating sensibly and exercising daily.
Movie, my armband pedometer does not count steps if I go on the elliptical - frustrating, because I like the elliptical. Be careful with that abdominal wound - sending vibes for it to heal quickly and completely! -
Liefie (and anyone else that would like this recipe....) here it is......(Jeannie, I bet you could modify this to work for you...)
Savory Lentil and Squash Soup (Serves 4-6)
5 1/2 cups (or more) canned vegetable or chicken broth (I used chicken)
1 pound butternut squash, peeled, seeded, chopped (about 2 cups)
1 cup chopped onions
1 cup lentils
1 ripe tomato, peeled, cored, chopped
1 medium carrot, chopped
1 celery stalk, chopped
1/4 cup dry white wine
2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice
a tablespoon curry powder
1 large garlic clove, minced
1 bay leaf
Preparation
Combine 5 1/2 cups broth and all remaining ingredients in heavy large saucepan (I used medium stockpot). Simmer until vegetable and lentils are tender, stirring occasionally 45 minutes. Thin soup with additional broth if necessary. Season with salt and pepper to taste. Ladle soup into bowls and serve with fresh, warm Artisan bread (with an EVOO garlic salt and pepper dip) YUM! -
Movie, no worries! I am not comparing myself to you or anybody. As Cherrie said, you are inspiring. I have never been a high energy person, always borderline anemic, so I keep that in mind but push on. I used to garden all day, though. I wonder if my elliptical is counting my steps correctly. I'll just keep plugging away. Movie, thanks for the recipe!
Here I sit at the eye doc's, eyes dilating which will be a b?$ch on the drive home in this rain. But the eyes look good so far.
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Movie, I'm sorry about the incision. Freaky! Take care and let us know how it goes. -
movie....BE PROUD OF THOSE STEPS, GIRL.....!!!!!! FYI.... you keep giving people the wrong impression of my fitness...we're just going to have to hike together again, so I can set you straight!!!
liefie...oh lord, mooseballs again!!! ! I'm sitting here chuckling...I guess I have a pretty bland palate. The food I was raised on, was a bit of american, fresh veggies and fruit (just plainly prepared) with a great percentage of Swedish, peasant food. Probably where I got my love of salt from. Give me plates of sil (pickled herring), ham (hello salt), korv (pork, potato, onion sausage, with globs of salt and allspice thrown in) or my all time mouth watering favourite....kruppkakor (dumplings made of leftover mashed potato, raw potato...filled with diced salt pork and onion)....yum yum yum!!!!!! and FYI.....you can keep the lutfisk . I'd list more favourites, but I'm just making myself hungry...hmmm...think I have a jar of herring from Ikea in the fridge...bye for now!!!!!! -
jeannie....sitting here with EVERYTHING crossed for an A+ report on the eyes. Let us know!!!!!! -
Nihahi, those potato dumplings sound divine! Do you make them sometimes?
Movie, I have all the ingredients for that soup, and will be making it this afternoon. Thanks a lot!
Jeannie, let us know how the eyes turn out - hoping for best outcome!
DH' ultrasound showed no gallstones at all, not even sludge in the galbladder. Now I'm really worried . . . will just never again be gung ho about these things. -
liefie....all teasing aside (from the other thread) I hear you.....but remember....he's a doc, himself, so maybe if he's not worried????
Yes, I do make the "kruppers" as we call them, every now and then. Total comfort food for me, but nothing the least bit healthy about them. They do help "hold me down" in a strong wind though.....H..E..A..V....Y in your tummy, they are!!!!!!! The best things about them, is after they are made....you slice them in half, and fry them in marg. Some real diehards cover them in a milk gravy that has more of the onion/salt pork in it....likely about 4 zillion carbs and calories....but hey, winter is long in Sweden!!! -
As long as you keep the 'kruppers' for a treat now and then it is totally fine. My mouth waters just thinking of them! One has to live too, right? And it is boring to always be so good - such goodness is not normal or balanced IMO. Lol.
I have a little voice telling me that DH will keep stuff away from me not to upset me, so will grill him thoroughly as soon as he sets foot in the door. Not much we can do about it now - hopefully we have adequate medical insurance for the trip - lol. -
well, yes.....they do tend to do that "don't want to worry you" thing, I agree. Hope all turns out well.....gotta go make meatloaf for supper tonight...Friday is "comfort food" night around here!!!! (mmm.....meatloaf, mashed potatoes, gravy, carrots and spinach...bye for now!).
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Thanks for sharing the recipe, and enjoy the cooking. That should keep you out of mischief! I should stop yakking now, and get a start on dinner too. -
looking for updates:
liefie....any more info from hubby about the pain?
movie....what up, buttercup, about that open spot?
jeannie....can you see me now???? How's the eye???
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Nihahi, DH thinks he did pass a small stone last night. If he does not get the pain again, then that is probably what happened. If it comes back - well, that will be. . . ummmm. . . .upsetting, to say the least. So it's wait and see. He will be with all his colleagues for the weekend attending a course at the hospital, so will discuss with them and see what they think.
Movie, I made that soup. It is delicious, and there is enough left for me for tomorrow. Broke my own rule of no bread, and had 2 slices of wholewheat toast with cheese - heavenly. -
Good grief, what an afternoon. My 1:15 appointment at one ophthalmologist turned into a drive into Seattle, wind rain and dilated eyes and all, to see a retinal specialist. My optic nerve is inflamed. They don't really know why this happens. There is no treatment but for some reason I had to get bloodwork done, never a good thing for me, and I have to see a neuro-ophthalmologist on Tuesday morning at 8 smacking 15 in the morning all the way in downtown Seattle. I'll have to leave at 6:30....hypertension was mentioned as one of the possible causes. It's so hard to get an accurate bp on my leg that I really could be hypertensive for all I know. I'm certainly under a lot of stress. DH got home and told me his boss, a mystery to all who work for her, is not happy with him and wrote him up. He could be out of work in 30 days. This came out of the blue, no warning. I finally got home and my brother called to say my dad fell---again----and is so confused it appears he may have had another stroke. He refuses to move from their house into senior living which is just so unfair to my mom and scary, too. It has to be done somehow. If this is "moving on," I'm not too happy about it....I feel so vulnerable. -
Awwww, Jeannie, what the heck! Why does everything happen at the same time? So sorry to hear about the eye problem, and that you have to go for more drs visits . . . About DH - I'm speechless, and hope that can be sorted out. As for your dad, maybe you should just put your foot down. They become like children again, and the roles do reverse. Your mom deserves better. My siblings and I had to do that when my dad's Alzheimers became so bad that my mom could not care for him anymore. She was so relieved that we made the decision for her. Best wishes to you, and big hugs. You must be reeling tonight . . . will pray for you. -
Oh jeannie....what the ****. I'm so sorry for the way today has turned out. Wish I was closer, I'd be your driver for you. Sorry too about hubby's work situation and your Dad. I just know I don't have the answers or the right words, but you are in my prayers. Stay with us.....this is the place to "let it out"....you are much loved. -
just an fyi......I'll be reading posts tomorrow, but won't be able to respond, as I can no longer post from my phone. -
Jeannie, I'm so sorry, dear one. You're sure getting blasted right now. You and your hubster will be in our prayers. Be sure to let us know tomorrow how your appointment turned out! -
Hugs to you, Jeannie, dear one. Not fair at all.
you are in my prayers.Nihahi - Thing 1 is sitting at the desk in the hotel room recopying his application. He says THANK YOU for the best wishes!
He is excited and nervous. We are hitting the hay here soon. I hope I can sleep.....I hope he can sleep. He seems pretty relaxed right now. He will likely get keyed up in the morning. I have everyone I know praying for this kid tomorrow. I gave him my "lucky charms" to put in his wallet lol!
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We'll be praying for him too, Bailey! He's on the list right under Jeannie and her peeps! -
Thanks, Sbel, you're the best
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Bailey, your boy is on my list too, and I wish him the best! My DS just took off from Calgary on the first leg of his journey to S.A. He is so excited to see his fiancee, but unfortunately had a cold these last two weeks which then turned into bronchitis for which he is now taking antibiotics. Told him not to touch her for a few days - lol - don't want the bride to get sick now, do we? If he will heed the advice remains to be seen . . .
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cheerie... I got a Fitbit pedometer in September and quickly turned into a walking addict. I was averaging 18000 steps a day before this stage 2 surgery. Did 8000 today going back to work. I'm not sure how much walking I should be doing after lipo to thighs, so I'm waiting until Wednesday dr. Appt to get the ho ahead from them.
I just got back from Orcas Island and it was beautiful. We rented a house there that was amazing.
Michigan seems to come up a lot. Just wanted to add that I was born in Lansing while my dad was going to Michigan State. -
Jeannie - Crap. I've been catching up over the last few days and you sure are being put through the ringer. I agree that 'Moving On' should feel a lot happier than this. I was mulling over a few inspiration messages for you, but they all seem kind of trite. Sometimes life is just hard. However - I'm going to yoga this morning and I'll do my very best to harness all the calm and positive energy in the room, and send it your way. I hope that your dad, and the rest of your family are ok. -
jbloom, be sure to post pics of your glass. Looks like a fun class. My dean does fused glass necklaces. I'm an old fashioned stained glass girl and gave her all my leftover broken glass pieces.
Jeannie, hugs for everything you are going through. Stay strong! Love the "thief of joy" quote. I especially struggle with comparisons. I need to go into a fortune cookie business with all the quotes I've collected from you brilliant ladies!
Janet, here's a happy (or not) thought for you. My red chicken just started laying and I think of you every time I see one! I have a strange urge to draw a face on it. :-) -
Oh Jeannie, I am so sorry for these bumps (mountains) in the road. Unfair!! Thinking of you. (((Hugs))) This is the place to vent. Prayers.
Mammalou- 18,000 steps- I walked with friends today and have 8600 steps. I thought that was great. LOL
How many steps, about, are there in a mile? How do you like your Fit Bit?
Bailey and Kat- went to the Grand Rapids downtown market. Very cool, but very expensive. Had some wine and cheese of course. -
Bluebird - I love your happy thought! Thank-you! -
Cherrie I haven't been yet, sadly, but hope to next week. Looks awesome. My sister is in love with it.
Mammalou, no wonder I like you so much!:) GO GREEN! They are ahead by 13 in the third.
So. We.spent the day at CMU for the scholarship competition. WOW. This is for entry into their honors program and for 130 full tuition and 20 full ride scholarships. Thing 1 could not possibly have done more in his high school career, his application, the creative project or the two essays to earn his spot. He is one impressive young man. All day today I kept thanking God that I was here to go through this process with him. That my cancer treatment put me in NED and that it came two years ago and not right now when he needs to be thinking of his future. It was a very good day. Thank you all for your prayers and positive vibes. He has done all he could. Now we wait. We will know before Christmas, though!
I am EXHAUSTED! DH is taking me to dinner
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first oyster roast of the season. Came home covered in oyster liquid and wood smoke. Shower for us, wash for clothes. Yum! -
Tthanks, everybody. We kept busy today and are coping with the shock of it all. I'm sure your prayers and good vibes are helping. It is overwhelming thinking of maybe having to put our house up for sale. We've lived here for 17 years. The purging has begun.
Bailey, what a wonderful opportunity for your son! I hope he gets one of the scholarships. I'm so glad you're in a place of health so you can be 100% there for him and your family. -
cherrie.... I love my fitbit. I think 10000 steps is about 4 miles. My fitbit just kept spurring me on to get higher and higher numbers. I'm taking a little break cause of the lipo to my thighs. I'm a little worried about swelling.
Bluebird.... I got very red and blistery with rads. My RO gave me these silicone sheets that I kept in the fridge. They literally sucked the red out of my skin and provided a lot of relief. I can't remember exactly what they were called, but I'll see if I can find the name.
Jeannie... Thinking good thoughts for you. I hope it all works out. -
I forgot to report that I did 9005 steps yesterday. My goal is 7500 this coming week. -
cccccccold morning here today. Windchill (in Fahrenheit, JUST for you sbe....is minus 6). After yesterday's commute from H*LL, I don't plan on setting foot outside the house. But the sun is shining...so.....you just never know! I did have to spend the entire day inside!!!!!
cherrie....I sure hope you are giving yourself HUGE credit....sounds like you have really committed to being more active, AND have accomplished it....in a very short time...keep it up, kiddo....good things come from it!!!!!
jeannie....you sound a bit more....."focussed on the future" after the latest plot twist. It's not always the same for everyone, I know, but I found the whole "purging" thing to be such a positive, "move forward", liberating thing. We went from a 4 bedroom plus full basement, garage and large lot, to a 2 bedroom condo. My daughter had just turned 5 when we moved into that house, so truly, it was the house we raised the kids and the dog in. Purging the house and it's contents, really helped to refocus the move and change in lifestyle to be one that was all about what was best for hubby and I.....It has been nothing but positive!!!!! It wasn't just a "we want to" type of move either....Had we not needed to do it for future financial reasons, we might not have done it. I hope that whatever happens for you.....reveals it's silver lining to you....it'll be there, sometimes it pretty hard to find "in the moment" though. ((((((X)))))).
There are some really interesting books written on the topic of how "hanging on to things of the past", not just "emotions, but physical objects", can make the struggle to "move on" much harder, even if they represent "happier times", those times are in the past, and clinging to them, can be a barrier to finding the happy times waiting for us in the future.
Yesterday was EXHAUSTING.....starting with the drive from hell, in the middle of full whiteout conditions, an intensive day, then a drive home in only slightly better conditions. I'm gonna stop typing, because I realize I probably rambled out a bunch of babble in this message, and lord knows what else might "pop out".....have good days ladies....I'm having another coffee in my pj's!!!!
however.....movie....where the "hmmm" did you go???? I can't find any updates from you since you were heading out the door to the PS????? -
that's a lot of steps ladies! I'm going to have to start wearing my nike fuelband again.
I have a question for those that are ahead of me. Has your scar on your abdomen fade away? How long did it take? Mine is still so dark. I got it reopen in August, but I thought it would have started fading away already and it hasn't:(. My breasts scars are still pink, but much lighter than my abdomen one.
I bought the turkey and ham today for thanksgiving, but no pies. I'm going to try really hard to not gain any weight during the holidays this year, so wish me luck! -
Me too, Kuka,...I'm having celery for Thanksgiving!
I love stuffing. I could live on stuffing. I love bread. I miss bread
Sigh. But it's not for forever....just for now. My stage two is a month from Tuesday. Saw PS briefly on Friday (to do a quick physical to make insurance co. and hospital happy so they won't cancel surgery!). Really want to lose 10 more lbs. Down about 8 already! Yippee!
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My scar is dark too and it was revised in May. My doc said give it a year and it will start fading more and more. My breast scars are quite light, but slightly raised and a brownish hue. I kept sunscreen on all summer and was not in the sun.
Maggie- Happy for your outcome. Wish I had cleavage, but am still thrilled with the result. I don't wear low cut tops anyways.
I did not walk today and have3600 steps today. My goal was to average 7000 steps average. I hit an average of 6553. ( two low days) that's ok, I am happy with what I have done and am not one to exercise 7 days a week. -
Lots of bad weather here and near (Midwest) today.....everybody ok? The worst of it missed us, personally. Was thinking of jbloom.....I think you are Illinois or Indiana. Hope all is well.
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My PS recommended ScarFade for my abdominal scar. He said it is silicone gel that you apply 2X a day. It's pricey so he suggested trying it for a month and seeing what I think. I ordered it online and just started using it today. He prefers it over the silicone sheets even though you can reuse those because he said there are fewer complications with the gel. -
My daughter called and said Ann Arbor is under a tornado watch? Warning? from 5 Pm to 5 AM. -
We (northwest of Ann Arbor a couple hundred miles) are just under a high wind warning until 4 am. Everything else was cancelled. But the winds are 50 mph or more. I think Ann Arbor is just under the wind warning now, too, Jeannie. Radar looks clear for now there, too. More rain coming. Sounds like the worst of it was south of MI. lots of power out here.
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Thanks, Bailey. DD says the worst is over. Phew! I feel terrible for all those affected by the tornadoes. -
Yep, we had a tornado warning here in Toledo, but it was so fast moving, we were only in the basement for about 15 minutes. Luckily, it's a finished basement so we don't mind hanging out there. All clear now, but the winds are still very strong. Glad I was home. I get a bit anxious when dangerous weather hits and I can't be safe in my own house. Hope everyone else fared well! -
Bailey, sending your family 4-leaf clover energy!
mammalou, if you find the name, please let me know. I'm getting desperate.
I have such sentimental attachment to everything! We've been in this house for 21 years and really need to do a purge.
I'm skipping Thanksgiving this year. Just too sore to even think about traveling to someone's house or cooking here. Looking forward to spending some alone time with puppykins and a good book. -
I don't even have the opportunity to have family over for thanksgiving this year so I would love to just skip it. DH would be sad, though. We have a half-as$ed invitation to our son-in-law's brother's house. Does not sound fun to me. Whatever we do, be assured that I will be spending intentional time counting my blessings and since you are all on that list, it will take some time. I am a strong warrior and will face these stormy times head on. I am screaming (virtually) "PLOT TWIST! at the top of my lungs and I'm confident there are more chapters, with joy, to come. Thanks for your good thoughts! -
Hey Sisters!!! What a nice and sunny day in SA!! Weather crazy up north. Stan said Snickers had to make herself to go out in the wind for her business. Cats have not ventured out through the doggie door. He said it is windy and ugly outside. He heard from brother that Grant had winds @ 60 miles. Not a nice day for many including Il and Oh.
I spent lots of time with the boys. Trevor(9 months) got a glob of my hair to feel and it stayed. Lol!! Gummed me kisses. Edward had I read the homemade book about 20 times. Guess it passed muster!! My arms are fine but I will put sleeves on when I dress on Wed. That wa scarey!! All is well. Ready to get these appointments done.
Tomorrow is children's museum than scan. Thinking about you all Be well and keep safe. Kat -
bluebird... I used the Vigalon Hydogel wound dressing sheets. I've never seen them in the store. My hospital just loaded me up on them when I started getting too red during Rads. Ask your doc. They really helped. -
No tornado watches here in So Cal. We might get a few sprinkles later in the week, though, and that would be great. It's dusty and dry, dry, dry this time of year. When we ride at night we can see the clouds of dust swirling around in our headlight beams.
It was the boys' birthdays yesterday, so we took everyone, Aubrey included, to a fancy restaurant for dinner. While we were waiting to be seated a very eclectic-looking lady was enchanted with Aubrey, who had the hiccups at the time. The lady said she was a reflexologist and asked to treat Aubrey's little feet for her hiccups. Momma said sure, and the lady touched Aubrey's feet in what appeared to be very light, rhythmic movements. "This will cure her hiccups and loosen up her bowels," she said. Five minutes later...no hiccups and a very impressive diaper blow-out. Who knew?
Have a great Monday, everyone!
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Gosh....hope everyone in the Midwest is safe and sound! Insane weather for this time of year!!!!!
Woke up to -23C windchill this morning...has since warmed up to a balmy -7C. sbe...do your own math!!! It's cold!!!
jeannie...did I detect a wee bit of "fighting spirit" in your voice??? Hope so. Lack of Holiday enthusiasm....it hits many of us at different times in life, I think. If you do go to the SIL's family gathering, you'd at least be with your daughter and grand daughter wouldn't you? Family gatherings....muddy waters sometimes!!! What about you and hubby working at a dinner for a shelter, or something like that?
kat....sounds like you're enjoying the grandkids...have fun!
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Nihahi, I hope you detected more than just a "wee bit" of fighting spirit! Bring it on! I see my PCP today to see if I can get on BP meds. I really think it would be a good idea, much as I hate adding another drug to my routine. My granddaughter lives in Escondido, CA so I won't be seeing her at Thanksgiving. I wish we could be there. Even if we don't go to the "family" thing here in town, my daughter will come over for a big breakfast or something. We have tried working at a shelter as a family a few times before, signed up and everything but then they turned us away at the door because they had too much help!!! Maybe I'll check into it again. Stay warm! -
OK, girls, here is today's choice of footwear. Don't you wish you were me?
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WOOHOO JEANNIE!!!!!!! GO GET 'EM GIRL!!!!!!
YEP.....you sounded much more like a fighter than a "wee bit"....didn't want to scare you off! Can't keep a redhead down for long, eh!!!!!
sorry, thought your GD was in Seattle....why don't you have an open house type Thanksgiving and invite some of your fly fishing gang!!!! Maybe you could all "cast" for the drumstick!
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Sbe...I can just hear you dancing around your office singing " Don't you wish your high heels were HOT, like mine?........" To that song of Beyoncé 's(?).......Don't you wish your girlfriend was hot like me?......
Heehee.........
Hope ALL you sisters I the Midwest are staying safe........scary weather happening there!
Nihahi.......better be wearing your long-john underwear.......with the butt-hatch....... As my DSIL #2 would say.....it's cold enough to freeze the t__s off a witch! (And no, you are NOT said witch!).
Busy busy day.....must get going!
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4 sections of our wooden fence was snapped right off and it fell down. These are 4 x 4 posts sunk in cement. The wind was howling so loud I didn't even hear it. Also, we had a 30 degree drop today. Wondering about our Illinois and Ondiana sisters. -
sbelizabeth... I wish I could sit like that. My tailbone was worse today. I could barely sit or bend over. I only took Tylenol because I wanted to be coherent at school and I'm thinking that could be the reason. I came home, took Wilburs, and climbed in bed. -
Oh, mammalou, there's not much worse than a painful tailbone. Sorry you're so uncomfortable! Right after my twins were born I could hardly sit down because my tailbone hurt so acutely. My OB said it was because their little heads had moved it somewhat, and that a baby's head can even occasionally fracture it during birth. Ouchhhh!!!! I hope Wilbur steps in and helps you feel better tonight! -
Bless your heart Mammalou. I taught for 35 years and I came home exhausted without this surgery. -
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sbelizabeth - I DO wish I was you! Fabulous!
Jeannie - Sounds like you've picked up your sword and your shield again. Cheers to that, sister! -
Cherrie, glad you're okay!
Well, tonight I'm on the not-so-fun part of the roller coaster but happy that I took some positive steps today. I did the elliptical for forty minutes, saw my PCP, started the search for a therapist, continued purging my closets. I'll see the neuro-eye doc bright and early tomorrow and hopefully we'll learn something positive instead of all the bad things it might be. Hoping I don't need a brain MRI but we'll see. I sure would like to be able to see better again.
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Janet...I used to have the knack of getting up quickly and quietly, ala Ms. Loren. That was before Femara wrung every last drop of estrogen from my musculoskeletal system. Now I am thrilled when I can get up with the aid of a prop, such as planting my palms on my desk and rising majestically to my feet. Like Barbara Stanwyck in The Big Valley. Or Yoda, with his walking stick. Whatever.
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jeannie....you're likely sitting in Seattle traffic with a cup of Starbucks, but just wanted to say hang in there today at your eye appt. Would it help if we all chanted "TOWANDA" all morning, maybe on the hour, and 1/2 hour???? I'll do it....I'm a little off the timing but here is my first one to start the ball rolling for you......ahem.......TOWANDA!!!!!!!!! -
Jeannie...TOWANDA!
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Thanks, guys! I'm sitting here in the eye office, waiting. It took an hour to get here. Keep the Towandas coming. -
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For Jeannie: TOWANDA! -
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ADNAWOT! (that's TOWANDA backwards, for blessings on the OTHER eye, too)
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You guys are making me tear up! Keep the Towandas coming, please. On to an MRI with the dreaded IV to rule out unlikely but scary things. -
Just had my yearly T&A check, with the gyno who saved my life two years ago. I went to her when I noticed the red spot in the skin of my breast, but by the time of my appointment, the red spot had faded--it was room temperature, not warm and flushed from the shower anymore. Neither of us could see anything, but she sent me for follow-up anyway...and the rest is breast cancer history. And it's HISTORY!
She couldn't get over how soft and natural my DIEP bumps feel.
Very gratifying to be alive and in the process of restoration. And the "A" is just fine, too.
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sbe.....exactly HOW focussed are you at work this morning?????? Drink some water, I think you may have over-caffeinated yourself ! fyi...light snow and windchill of -23.
gotta step away from the techno gadgets for awhile....sending jeannie another TOWANDA.....ADNAWOT!!!!!!!!!
Hubby is home from work today with an "upset tummy".......lord, please help me get through the day.....I'm heading to the gym!!!!! -
Well, the MRI showed I have a brain and no cancer detected there. That's good news! Doc thinks I have ischemic optic neuropathy, cause unknown, no treatment although he's starting me on a baby aspirin a day in hopes it protects the good eye. If my vision improves 100% within two months, then it isn't ischemic blah-blah and I'll have to have more tests. So I guess I'm hoping my vision doesn't improve 100%???
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That is awesome news!! Here's to baby aspirin.!
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I guess it is too late to say TOWANDA! I am so relieved you have a brain. What does the baby aspirin do??
Went shopping for a few things for my trip to Seattle. Getting excited. Can't wait to meet you Jeannie!
I forgot to report that my steps yesterday was 6600 and today I am at 8300 so far. My hubby walked with me which is a very rare occasion. It is cold here and getting colder by the day. In the 20's (f) this weekend. -
The baby aspirin should thin my blood a little to help it move around the eye better, I think. Thanks, Cherrie. -
Jeannie, does he think it's blood-pressure related at all? It would be great if aspirin alone cured you!
As for the brain MRI...I would think the procedure would be a little risky for the machine itself. Kind of like turning on the microwave with nothing in it. LOL... OK, I'm all finished cracking myself up at your expense...!
Yeah, Nihani, today was a total throw-away day. I futzed around with databases, ran some statistics, played with my tape dispenser, and went to Costco. And figured out how to spell TOWANDA backwards. -
Jeannie- So glad your check up went well and fingers crossed that all is well with your hubbys work! Towanda....belated
Sbe- Love the shoes!!! Wish my feet would put up with heels, Im a flat footed gal now.
Bailey- I have fingers and toes crossed for your boy! I am so happy for you to be on the otherside of cancer so that you can support him through his process.
Nihahi- Girl stary warm!
Movie- (waving) Hey girl!
Kuka- My scars are light in some paces and dark in others, so weird.
Did I tell you guys that I am scheduled for stage two? I cant remember who Ive told. January 15th is my day and they will do the ooph then also. I am also being sent for an MRI because my left shouler, affected side, hasnt stoppe hurting. Hopfully Ill have a brain too when they check, some days I wonder. lol
Hugs to all!
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Just catching up.....hey, jeannie! Yes, dear, you defo have a brain!!!!! Ok, so I'm somewhat confused (no comments sbe....takes one to know one ), but, it sounds like good news???? Weren't you were extra clever to get yourself on BP meds a day early! And, just for the heck of it, here's one more.....TOWANDA!
sbe...your day sounds about as productive as mine. Went to the gym to let hubby "rest in peace"...translation...save my sanity. Then had to go out in the friggin whiteout (again) to buy gingerale and crackers and jello. (I'm kidding....he'd do the same for me for sure).
cherrie...Seattle's getting closer....super steps today...keep it up girl!
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Sbel, this isn't a "cure" situation. My optic disk has been permanently damaged by the nerve swelling if it really is Anterior Ischemic Optic Neuropathy. No treatment. The aspirin may perhaps thin my blood and may prevent AION in the other eye, but they don't really know. I have normal bp and low cholesterol so that isn't a factor. There is so much they don't know.....it was freaky to see MRI slices of my brain. I suspected I had one but one doesn't expect to ever "see" it! Good job on the ADNAWOT! -
hey jeannie....any chance it could be tamox related ????? If so, could you you "comfortably" pause the tam to investigate if there is any improvement?? Just wondering.
editted to add....sorry, I guess I should be mri'd in the head....I thought you had started bp meds. WHATEVER has caused this, I've got everything crossed that it will not progress, it will "improve" as much as possible, and for goodness sake....leave your other eye alone! -
Nihahi, didn't go on bp meds because turns out I didn't need them, looking at my history in PCP office this year. Good thing because it's thought a drop in bp can bring this AION on. I would like to blame this on surgery or chemo but no known villains here. It's good news that I don't have cancer in my brain...not so great otherwise, especially if my vision improves 100%. That could be bad because it would require more tests for things like MS, perhaps. But doc feels it is AION and I won't get all my vision back because AION swelling causes permanent damage to the optic disk. I don't know if that makes any sense...I have been trying to organize what I know in my mind all afternoon. I think I understand it, at least, even if you don't! I have the advantage of the doc's illustrations on the whiteboard. I can live with partial vision in my right eye, I guess. -
Nihahi, Doc felt it was impt. to stay on the Tamoxifen. You are wishing for exactly the right things! And that it is AION and nothing else. Thanks! -
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hey sbe.... for you too! Missed your post about your checkup! Gosh, I bet that doc has a pretty special place in your heart. I'm about to go start the whaaaambulance. Lots of fresh powder in the mountains....might be too cold for me to go play in it!!!! -
Oh, Jeannie...honey...with all you've had to give up to breast cancer, and with everything else going on in your life right now, this is such a blow. I hear what you're saying about AION being the known, and lesser of other evils, but still. I do not want you to have to learn to live with partial vision in an eye! Is there really nothing that can be done? Steroids, laser surgery? You can tell I'm not an opthalmologist, can't you...
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I am actively seeking a therapist, no lie! Hubs and I went to bed at 8:30 last night because stress is tiring.
Sbel, there is no proven treatment at this point but thanks for the good thoughts and prayers. Ironically, I had laser surgery to correct my vision many years ago. Cost a pretty penny, too. No relation to what is happening now. Great news about your T & A appointment!
I'm thinking of getting a tattoo that just says "FU@K" instead of FU&K CANCER on my ab scar.......I am not usually foul-mouthed. Today will be a better day. It is cold for us today (literally freezing at this hour, 40 later) but I hope to take a long walk with my pup. Nihahi, I don't know how you deal with your temps! -
sob.....sob.....sob......2 friggin FEET of fresh powder in the mountains.....
-17 FAHRENHEIT windchill. at home, -29 in the mountains!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! waaaaahhhhhhh
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Jeannie, hope the eye issue will be resolved one way or another, and that it will be good. Towanda!
Nihahi - LOLOLOL! Stay inside, please!!!
I'm saying good bye as I'm leaving for South Africa tonight. Wishing everybody a merry and blessed Christmas, and good health, and will 'see' you when I get back on Dec. 29.
Quickly want to finish packing, then take the dog for a last walk before I shower and get dressed - we have beautiful sunshine here today - can't waste it. First flight is 9 hours long, second is 11 hours long, so I will do well to do some walking.
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Liefie, thanks and safe travels! I hope DH continues to feel well, the wedding is wonderful and you have a fantastic time with your loved ones. We will sure miss you while you're gone. You return on my birthday. -
safe journeys liefie....
WOOHOO......forecast for tomorrow is 18F in the mountains.....PIECE OF CAKE!!!!! -
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oh yeah.....I can get there....as long as the **** wind stays quiet! They are pretty good around here with plowing the main highways. Once I get closer to the mountains, we carpool, and another gal usually does that drive, since she has a much shorter drive than I do. If you don't hear from me tomorrow....I'M PLAYING IN THE SNOW! -
Liefie, safe travels and keep your legs moving during the flights. A DVT would sure scramble up the wedding for you. We will miss you!
Nihahi, it's snowing here too! Oh...wait...that's just the dust from the empty field across the street. Rats.
Jeannie, you're a solid human being. I just know you'll do what needs doing and incorporate it beautifully into your life. Still praying.
My gyno offered me some estrogen cream for "hoo-ha" atrophy due to the letrozole. She said it has no systemic effects, and is limited pretty much to hoo-ha improvement. I said no thanks. Stage III breast cancer, 95% estrogen-receptor positive, is in my rear-view mirror, and I'm not putting anything that begins with an "E" anywhere near my innards, hoo-ha included. W-D 40, maybe?
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Liefie - Have a wonderful Christmas, and stay safe and healthy. Talk to you when you get back.
Jeannie - I hope today is a better one. If not, it is completely appropriate to write FU*K across your tummy. -
Haha, Sbel! I agree about the hoohaa and E of any kind. I got the same offer. Let me know if the WD-40 works...... -
www.rd.com/slideshows/13-amazing-uses-for-wd-40
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Yeah, it's worth a try. Maybe it'll at least take care of that distracting squeeky noise we make. Or maybe that's from our hip joints?
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it's like duct tape in a can.....in that it can "fix" just about everything......beware though.....duct tape = sticky, WD-40 = slippery. . Ok , I am NOT gonna continue this....or I'll get a "reputation"!!!! -
Y'all - I check out for a day and things progress rapidly down hill. Slip sliding away (hopefully, that is). Liefie - travel safely. Nihahi - stay warm. SBE - watch those fifty shades librarian shoes. Jeannie - whew, what a week! -
My PA at the gyno office offered the same thing. She thought quality of life now was equally imp. I think I would rather live a long time. I said no.
Liefie- We will miss you. Have a great time and enjoy family. Have a wonderful Christmas. See you on Jeannie's birthday.
Jeannie-tomorrow HAS to be a better day. If not I think the F tattoo is appropriate. Sorry you are going through so much right now.
I went for a 3 mile hike in the woods with my SIL today. 7600 steps. Gentle walking tomorrow as I have that 5k on Friday.
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I was offered E too for vaginal atrophy and dryness. Opted for testosterone cream instead (my T was very low as well). Has definitely helped with the hooha issues. Seems like there was a study of women on ai' s and using T cream instead of E cream.
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And another damn thing....I got the date for my follow up scan ( to look at the internal mammary lymph node that lit up on my last scan). So.....two more weeks of worry and wait. Aye yi yi. I've done well so far....just a few more weeks to CHOOSE (like dear Nihahi said) calm and peace and strength.
Jeannie "f#+k the f#+kery" that's what my tat is going to say!! If I ever get brave....or crazy (crazier???)
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Bailey...don't you hate the wait. IMHO, especially toward the beginning of this mess, that was the worst part. Wait for the biopsy. Wait for the results. Wait for the lumpectomy...bla, bla, bla.
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Bailey- So sorry you have to wait, I agree that is the worst part of the whole experience. Sending prayers your way!
Jeannie- I am sending special prayers your way and just hang on until things turn around for you! We are all in your pockets.
I am finally seeing the lyphedema person today, the irony is that since starting the cymbalta, the pain has gone away. I still swell up though so Im keeping the appointment. Also waiting to hear back on when they want to do an MRI on my shoulder. Ive noticed it hurting more this week and I think its from missing my workout and yoga. I am convinced that the exercising has gonea long way toward alleviating my pain somewhat.
Happy Thursday ladies and stay warm my northern sisters!
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I'm convinced my starting the Estring contributed to my cancer rearing its ugly head. My doctor had me try testosterone which helped but when I read that testosterone gets converted to estrogen, I told him I didn't want to use it anymore. I went in for my normal checkup and breast exam and everything was fine. Had normal mammogram earlier. Doctor suggested Estring and said there would be "no detectable blood values" so I agreed. Two days later breast puffed up like a balloon and redness. And we all know how this story plays out.
Bailey, hang in there. Like the fu*k fu*Kerry! Ha ha ( spell check must hate Kerry)
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I do hate the wait. Hate the wait. Hate the wait.
Back on testosterone a minute....in order for T to get converted to E you have to have the enzyme aromatase. If you are on a aromatase inhibitor (AI, like letrozole or femara) that enzyme isn't produced, therefore the T can't convert to E.....at least on paper, right? This is how it was explained to me....I have enough info to be dangerous, most likely. I was also E+, but not strongly, like some of you. Talk to your doctor (i recommend somebody who deals with hormones.....like obgyn.....not necessarily your MO.....seems some of them are not up o n the ins and outs of hormones, surprisingly enough) if you think it might be worth it.
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Bluebird, did you have IBC? My sister was diagnosed with triple-positive IBC in July 2012 and she's doing great. She'll finish herceptin next month.
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Bailey, I'm in your corner! Or pocket! Or wherever you need me.
I am waiting, too, "watching" the vision in my right eye deteriorate a little more each day. This is not unusual for this condition but I don't like this f$&kery, either. Wouldn't you know, I have to renew my driver's license with an eye test before the end of the year. I better hurry up. I did just work out and that feels so good. My brother is getting an echocardiogram today and I just learned my 87 year old mom is scheduled for a colonoscopy next month because of the results from her f. o. blood test. Life's a trip! I'll start wearing my ring again that says, Love Life on the outside and Be Brave on the inside.
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Jeannie, your words of wisdom make me cry!
The kicker is I had a form of cancer that I don't think any of the doctors could figure out. The specialist oncologist told me my diagnosis meant nothing since I wasn't following any of the "rules". The cancer tested triple negative but reacted to hormones. Go figure!
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Got out for a play on the snowshoes today. Hope you all didn't get too chilled hanging out in the backpack!
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Lol Nihahi....I've been FREEZING all day! No wonder! Looks cold but wonderful!!!
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pics from my delightful dinner with Katy and her DH Jerry AND the always enchanting Aubrey....what a fun evening I had! SO happy to have met Katy in person! I am feeling so very blessed to have made the acquaintance of some amazing, dynamic, and lovely women through BCO.....and Katy is certainly all of the above..... Thank you , Katy..... For a memorable evening! XO -
Cheers to Katy & Jackie for a great meet-up!
Nihahi - that snow looks delicious. So beautiful. You are one of the only women in the world who can wear that many layers and still look trim. Me, I'd look like the Michelin Man's wife. Thanks for sharing. -
What a wonderful evening, Movie! We had such a great time meeting everyone and sharing lives. My DS and DIL brought Aubrey (as you can all see!) and Movie brought her lovely DD and SIL. Yummy, authentic Mexican food, conversation so rapid-fire it was hard to find time to eat, and everyone got to cuddle the baby.
Nihahi, breathtaking photos. I'm SO there with you. The crystalline beauty and silence of a snow-filled wood is like nothing else. I brought my toasty Smartwool socks for hanging out in your backpack so I could pop my head out of from time to time. Next time, walk backwards so I can see where we're going, not where we've been!
Bailey, how you hanging, girlfriend? And when will you hear about the scholarship?
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Good morning - It is SO nice to see the photos of you ladies looking so radiant and happy and healthy.
Bailey - Two week wait? That sucks. Although I like that you said you've 'done so well so far'. Let's concentrate on that - and other major past achievments. Before your know it, you can add 'two week wait with excellent results' to that list. Also, any news about the scholarship for the Number One Cutie? -
AWESOME photos of the SoCal meetup! You both look beaming in health and happiness. Thanks for such a lovely way to start the day.
movie...LOVE the new haircut....makes you look about 21....did they card you? fyi....can I chime in that I think it's INSANE to do that drive back to Portland in one go....especially with your Dec 3 date coming up!!!!!!!
sbe..might as well confess.....I am uber jealous of movie's cuddle time with Aubrey! FYI....going backwards while on snowshoes....not a good idea! I HAVE gone backwards while on skis....unintentionally....also....not a good idea. You'll just have to peek over my shoulder next time!
marty...hahaha.....I doubt if you could ever resemble Mrs. Michelin.....I had on long underwear, top and bottom...windproof insulated pants, a vest, a long-sleeved top, and a long sleeved fleecy underneath my coat....toasty warm! Of course...you have to keep moving to stay warm...that's the downside of stopping to take photos!
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Wonderful photos!! Breathtaking scenery and happy memories with a dash of cuteness thrown in helped cheer me up!
TGIF!
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Hey ladies I wanted to post a link here for you all to read. I use a PS group out of San Antonio, TX PRMA. Dr. Ledoux is my PS. They are one of the top in their field in the United States. This year they have published a couple of studies that have to do with DIEP flap that I thought you all would be interested in. The most recent is they they are using a superficial vein along with the main vein to increase success rate of the transfer. The study has a 99% success rate. The other two studies are using the Vascular Lymph node transfer for those suffer with Lymphodema and also a study for obese patients using DIEP successfully. The group does over 500 DIEP flaps a year. Here is a link to their news media and articles you can check out. Hope this is helpful to someone. http://prma-enhance.com/useful-resources/media -
Those photos sure are a pick-me-up! Happy, healthy people and God's beautiful creation. Love it.
My day consists of renewing my driver's license, complete with eye test, bwahaha, and then visiting my brother in the hospital because he has endocarditis, an infection on his heart valve. I need to find out more about his condition, treatment, prognosis. Also, I just received a Facebook note from an acquaintance who has just been diagnosed with Fbc. She is in the shocked, today I get an MRI phase.
I will carry on, put one step in front of the other, choose hope, live here and now, be grateful for the multitude of good things in a day, starting with my warm bed that I hate to leave....
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Well seems that I am being questioned about my motives here. I am a breast cancer patient and I do not work for PRMA. I just happen to love my PS. I had a very bad experience with my first BS. Although I did not have DIEP flap because I was not a good candidate not because I did not want to and I have been lucky not to have lymphodema but I do not let my guard down because I am aware it can happen years down the road. I think the work my PS group is doing is amazing and I am passionate about spreading the news of new work being done out in the breast cancer world. I have always thought knowledge is power and if it can help someone else then it is worth it. Sorry if I offended anyone with the multiple post that I had. -
Wow, nihahi, snowshoes-ing is going on to my bucket list.
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I've experienced an amusing miracle today. While renewing my driver's license, they forgot to give me the eye test, went ahead and took my picture and gave me a temp license. Everyone around me was taking eye tests and my renewal notice said I needed one, too. I just hope they don't call me back there!
I am at the hospital now with my brother. He is resting comfortably, on Vancomycin IV for endocarditis. They are still running tests. He could have an abdominal tumor that leaked bad joojoo, infecting his heart.
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Hey friends! Thank you for your concern....doing fine. Very busy, fortunately, I guess! I had therapy at the cancer center yesterday afternoon....like I have every Thursday for months....to work on shoulder and lymphedema, etc. I walk by the infusion clinic every week to get to the elevator to go the the next floor for therapy. Yesterday as I rounded the corner, thinking about a million other things, it hit me....I can't go back there....I cannot do that again...it was an overwhelming feeling of dread. I just kept moving past it as fast as I could. I got upstairs and was so glad to spend time with my OT and a student who had come for observation.
And of course I can do it again. IF that's what I have to do, of course I can.
But man I DON'T WANNA!!!!! I feel so good I can't believe there is anything brewing.
I am more anxious about the scholarship for Thing 1 than anything else. They said we will know "by Christmas"......So about 500 years from now lol!!
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Sbel, so happy your sister is doing well and finishing Herceptin soon! Great drug....LONGGGGG treatment. Hugs to you both.
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Bailey, I called my sister on my way home from work just to yak. She was wrapped up in a blanket on her sofa, freezing, and couldn't figure out why she felt so lousy. THEN she described her LE arm. She'd fallen on her elbow a couple of days ago and was concerned the red "bruise" was growing bigger and getting hotter and more painful. I said, you have cellulitis, call your doctor. So she called her doctor--got the oncologist on call, who focused 100% on "trauma" and said (and I can't believe this) even if it's broken, it can wait until Monday.
I said, go to urgent care. So away she went, where she got some IV antibiotics, followed by oral, and will be re-checked tomorrow to see if she needs to be admitted.
Geez.
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Oh, Sbel! I am so glad you called your sister when you did. Why aren't we and doctors and nurses better informed about cellulitis?? I remember long ago my brother had it. Nobody told me how serious it was. I have learned a lot from you sharing your experience here. Thank you. Prayers for your sister.
Bailey, I feel queasy every time I go to the cancer center. Thankfully, the infusion area is on a floor of its own and I don't have to see it, but I can imagine how hard it is for you to even walk by it. I can remember the smells of everything there, for some reason. I am praying hard for you! You are strong and brave and not alone in your "waiting room." And, Christmas is only a month away!! You're going to hear about that scholarship before you know it. -
I am convinced there is a special PTS syndrome just for breast cancer patients. I started with anxiety after my mom died. Just going into a hospital or even a church caused me to think about her awful experience. Not sure why church caused it, since went my whole life before her funeral, but I think about her service while there. Still working on moving forward.
Got a date for expander placement, but may just cancel . Need to get through rads before I can think of that. Started oxycontin last night and not in good frame of mind to make decisions but don't want to lose skin elasticity from waiting either..
But to end on a happy note, enjoying a new fish tank next to my bed. It's very relaxing and peaceful.
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Bluebird, I love the idea of a fish tank by the bed. We haven't had one in a long time but I remember it being peaceful. Of course, I didn't have to clean it. I'm sorry for the anxiety and pain you feel. You are doing the right things, taking care of yourself in good ways. It's hard to "live in the moment" when the moments can be so miserable. I do know that time passes and that helps. And hope. Hope gets me out of bed in the morning. When you wrote about your mom, I thought of my kids. All three daughters are seeking therapy, a good thing, but one of the reasons is my breast cancer. I hope I can find a therapist soon, too. As for TE placement, my story is that my TEs were placed after my bmx. During rads, the TE in the noncancerous side was partially deflated so they could get a good angle for rads on the other side. My PS was very happy and relieved about this. It was filled up again after I healed. Even with my horrible burns, the quality of my skin is now good, even though it is discolored with little broken vessels. Hang in there, Bluebird. Hope, hope, hope. -
Hi ladies,...off on a course today, hence the lack of OMG response to sbe's "sister" tale! HOLY CRAP BATMAN!!!!! Now crossing many body parts that things get sorted out for her without the need for more intense intervention. sbe...Please tell her we're all thinking of her and sending positive vibes and prayers.
jeannie..hope your brother is tolerating his meds and care well. Is he able to stay in his care facility or did he need to be hospitalized? Hoping for non-drastic news re: your Mom too....sheesh!!!!! You and hubby must just sit and stare at each other, with the "what next" look on your faces!
bluebird...hope you are soon finished with rads, and find the recovery from them goes quickly. How is life with your new doggie.....?
bailey...still having trouble walking, as everything crossed for thing 1 has remained crossed. Waiting is the bane of life, even outside of test results, etc. I hear you on the "gulp" of even passing by the chemo location. When I first took one of my neighbours for her session, it was the first time I had been down "that" hallway in decades.....Wasn't sure my knees were going to keep me upright! As I sat there waiting for her to be treated, I could "see" myself in the faces of the patients, waiting for their appt. Gradually though, I became more aware of the people WITH the patients, and it really hit home, on how difficult, emotional, taxing, etc. the whole thing is for family and friends too. My hubby was with me for every chemo session....but, I'm not sure I really registered at the time, how much he dreaded sitting in the "co-pilot's" seat.
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Thanks for the good vibes for my sister Kane, ladies. I just talked to her. She's still running a low fever, but the hot redness hasn't spread any further, so the doctor at the urgent care who did her re-check tonight gave her another injection of antibiotics with a plan to re-check again tomorrow. She barely squeaked by without getting hospitalized, so keep everything crossed, Nihahi, that the land mass will begin to recede and she can stay out of hospital-jail!
Jeannie, I was really hoping to do the tissue expander thing when I had my umx, but my RO was dead-set against it. He didn't want any expanders anywhere when he was calculating the radiation. It really didn't make any difference for me--they had to take as much skin as they could with the mx, and I don't know if they could have fit an expander in there. It just meant I had to wait to have the "healthy" breast removed, and I'd wanted to have them both off at the same time.
In your pocket, Bailey. We love you.
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Love you, too, Sbel! Y'all are n the pockets of my size SMALLER pants
whoop whoop....love diet and exercise SUCCESS!So glad to hear your sister is not darkening the door of hospital!!! Prayers for her.
Jeannie....f#?k the f#?kery honey...chin up....it s GOT to get better! Prayers for you, too.
DH is asleep at 8:49 pm on Saturday night.....remote clutched in his hand.....thing 2 is online and thing 1 is on a date.....just me and the puppies....and a strawberry/raspberry smoothie made with crushed ice and sparkling water. I keep thinking how good a shot of vodka or rum would be in this thing but I don't want the calories lol.
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Good news for once! The Vancomycin is working and my brother is doing better. They did not find any mass in his abdomen that might have pinpointed the source of the infection. He should go home in a couple of days with a PICC line for 4-6 weeks of more antibiotic treatment. I do wonder about damage to his heart valve but they haven't said anything about that yet. Also, DH and I had a fantastic walk along the waterfront and saw a gorgeous sunset later. Good for my soul to breathe the crisp air, hear the water lapping, watch herons fly overhead.
Sbel, good news that your sis is doing better! Sbel, I didn't meet my RO until well after my bmx so he had no say in the matter...I had skin-sparing bmx. Just sharing different stories is, I hope, helpful to somebody. -
jeannie....Well, woo hoo!!!!!! Great news about your brother, and flying under the radar at the license renewal!!!!! Sounds like you had a lovely day with hubby too. I'm so hoping that things keep rolling in this direction for you.
sbe...hope sister's "invasion" has retreated even more while she slept. Does she live far from you??
bailey....I read your description of "Saturday Night Life" and chuckled. Hubby is down in the gym at the moment, but when he returns, I think I might as well kiss the rest of the day "bye-bye". Today in Canada is Grey Cup Sunday, which is our version of the Super Bowl. It's going to be football, football, and more football talk, then late afternoon, they actually get around to playing the dang game! The Calgary team got knocked out last weekend.....so I could care less about watching, but likely will eventually sit down to keep hubby company. It's a good thing the weather looks promising for a long walk today!!!!
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bailey6760, when you wrote about your almost panic attack as you walked by infusion it made me think of a crazy near panic I experienced last year. I work in NYU hospital and we had to prepare for Hurricane Sandy. I came in the night before to sleep over in case I could not get in the AM. When my original sleeping arrangement in the med students dorm was "double booked" I was reassigned to the infusion center over on 34th st. I responded "You mean the Cancer Center?!" They said yes...and I said no way was I sleeping there! And I wasn't even treated there!
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bailey6760, when you wrote about your almost panic attack as you walked by infusion it made me think of a crazy near panic I experienced last year. I work in NYU hospital and we had to prepare for Hurricane Sandy. I came in the night before to sleep over in case I could not get in the AM. When my original sleeping arrangement in the med students dorm was "double booked" I was reassigned to the infusion center over on 34th st. I responded "You mean the Cancer Center?!" They said yes...and I said no way was I sleeping there! And I wasn't even treated there!
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cherrie.....travel safely to Seattle, and enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!!!!! Can you please give jeannie a super big hug from me?
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I'm driving 4 hours to UCLA to take my 20 yo son for a 2nd opinion on his congenital heart issues. Then my twins are going with us to Vegas to celebrate his 21st birthday. I can't wait to spend time with my kids. I don't really gamble but my son wanted to do Vegas, so off we go. Hopefully my bumm can handle the drive!
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Mammalou, I hope the appt. goes well and you have a blast in Vegas. Pretty cool that your DS wants to spend his 21st with you! It's good to have something to look forward to. DH, DD, DSIL and I just bought Groupons for a float trip (brrrr) to see bald eagles in the trees and feasting on salmon. We'll probably go in January in between all my appts. I was diagnosed in January 2012 and it's also when all my preventative appts. are, plus the MO checkup and now the eye thing. Grrrr. Bring on the eagles to inspire me!
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jeannie....eagles are very significant to me....they touch my soul. An eagle circled over me, on my last "walk" before my surgery, and I just "knew" I would come through it strong and move forward.......may they bring you strength {{{{{{{{{{{{X}}}}}}}}}}}}} -
Nihahi, this is for you! It is a Russian eagle at our zoo here, so awesome. I hope it isn't sideways for you like it is for me. -
my son turns 21 on Tuesday☺️. My baby -
Jeannie and Nihahi- I was sitting by my bay window today and a bald eagle flew right over our house. I have never seen this at my house before. I love them and enjoy watching birds, wildlife (from a distance), and whales. I took this as a good sign. -
An excellent sign, Cherrie! We see them and hear them in our neighborhood in the summer but haven't seen one in a while. -
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Hawks are my thing.....like Nihahi described, but it happens for me with hawks....but the eagles are beautiful, too! I love birds too....but outdoors not in the house. That freaks me out.
Ya know Kdoole, and others, I walk by the infusion clinic every week (on my way to therapy) without incident or heart palps lol....I have even gone in 3-4 times to say hello to the crew...but this incidentaloma just gets to me now and again. Before this I could hack sleep there as long as they gave me one of the little private rooms and not a recliner in a chemo bay....
I am in an accupuncture clinical trial (to see if it helps with AI side effects). I had to give them blood the other day. I swear the needle was the size of a toothpick....and the tech had to stick me three times since my veins were being very shy. And while she was poke, poke, poking I was thinking I pray I can have a port again if I have to go round 2 on this cancer' s @$$.
Not too much longer now...Will be busy right up until the 5th so that's good. Nothing like the possibility of cancer 2.0 to make you get your Christmas shopping done. What a motivator.
I am not normally a jealous person but gosh I wish I could meet some or all of you! Have fun Jeannie and Cherrie!!!
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Hi ladies,
I've missed you all while on vacation. The tornado warnings sent us to the basement a week ago, but nothing hit close to us.
Jeannie, hope things are starting to turn around for you. You are certainly in my thoughts and prayers. Bailey, hope the waiting time passes quickly. We are all holding our breath that all is well and you will just be taking care of Thing 1. Sbe, those shoes are amazing. I'm afraid of heights so they wouldn't work for me. Nihahi, love the pictures.
All of you are very special to me. If I see Wilbur tomorrow, I will say, "hello" for all of you. Lots of love. ...Julie -
Oh Julie I was thinking you were on Tuesday for some.reason.....all the best to you ! We are in your pockets!
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Bailey- We WILL get together this year. If I could only quit galavanting all over. I will be home next April. Sending hugs your way. No one should have to go through this waiting! STINKS
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Thinking of you, Julie! I kinda wish I could see Wilbur, just for a break. No ORs for me, though. You will do well tomorrow. I am very happy with my abdominal revisions, especially. I am excited for you! You'll be that much closer to being done.
Bailey, I am hoping and praying for an extremely merry Christmas for you, with great health news and scholarship news. You are so awesome. We are here for you, no matter what. We have a couple of resident hawks nearby that feel like "family" by now. I'm with you. I prefer my birds outside. With an 8 1/2 pound dog, and eagles, hawks and owls, he never goes outside without us! -
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Whew, busy day. Church, shopping, lunch, nap , bicycle ride, library, more shopping, dinner, and now the Broncos vs the Patriots. I'm sure I'll have to drag the DH off to bed after the game, because he'll have slept through the last half.
Jeannie, I'm glad the vanco has kicked in and doing its job. I hope your brother feels better soon.
Bailey, just keep moving. That's my strategy. Don't stop long enough for scary thoughts to build a nest in your hair. And you KNOW we're all here for you!
Nihani, there is life after football. I'm pretty sure. Oh, hey...is your football the same as our football, or is it what we call "soccer"?
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Jeannie....the incidentaloma was seen on a scan a couple of months ago (intramammery lymph nodes.....the ones under the sternum). Lit up like a Chritmas tree. They said it did not look cancerous at that time but to watch it carefully. They suggested rescan in three months. I suggested rescan in two months.....So I can get results before stage II surgery in case the plan needs to change. Two months is the first week of December, so scan is on 12/5. Hopefully it has everything to do with all the business I have going on on that side from the flap surgery and nothing to do with recurrence.
And the reason we are waiting on the scholarship is that about 1600 kids applied and they have to go through all of those application packages.....I as actually pretty impressed that they said it would be done by Christmas!
Good thing I am a patient soul.......NOT!!!!
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Bailey, thanks for the reminder. I am not surprised about the scholarship wait, either. The only "lit up like a Christmas tree" I want you to have has ornaments and presents under it... -
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especially for sbe......saw this on another thread....IMMEDIATELY THOUGHT OF YOU!!!!!
hahahaha.....gee I hope this copy/paste works.
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Bailey, waiting sucks, but good things come to those who wait! Sending positive energies your way.
Thankful week indeed. I've been dealing with complications from rads and complained to my RO about my bad luck this year. Not only my diagnosis, but surgery failure - now radiation problems. (Skin is gone) He looked me in the eye and said "There's no such thing as bad luck. Although you've been going through a really rough, painful time, you are still doing well and will get better."
I am very thankful that along the way I've had people in my life who help me focus and keep my spirits up.
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Nihahi...that is the funniest thing I've seen in a long, long time! Belly laughed and woke up the whole office. Now I'm wondering how to attach some cleats to some killer heels and make my own...
Beautiful ride yesterday, but we had a rainstorm late last week and apparently the creek blasted through with a lot of built-up debris, making a muddy mess of everything. I got my front tire in a mud hole and went right over the bars. Don't worry, the bike is OK! And I'm just a little sore and bruised. Crashing into soft mud is usually nothing serious, just dirty.
Have a great Monday, everyone!
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Bahahhahahha! That all I want for Christmas.....biking cleat spikes....in red!!!
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good lord, sbe.....foobs flying over the handlebars!!!!! Glad to hear the bike (and you, of course) are still in the proper number of pieces.
movie...hope you eventually got out of the car.
cherrie...hope the road trip is going well...from what I saw on the weather tonight, it's a good thing you're not heading East!
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Sigh. I've been talking to a gal who was diagnosed in September and is just now meeting with BS/MO tomorrow. She's still so shocked. I sure hope she checks out bco.org! -
Hey all......super tired....spent 16 hours in the car from LA to Portland.......I drove the whole way, as I chose that scenario over the one that had DD #1 doing ANY of the driving....as I would like to live long enough to enjoy my new foobs....
I entered the ugly Christmas sweater contest.....can you believe I DIDN'T win????????. The earrings I made from ornaments......bah humbug!!!!!
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Movie - You're a winner to me! I was reading this thread and saw your picture and almost spit out my coffee. What ran through my head was 'What the f*ck?' So glad that isn't your every day sweater. The cat with the beard and necklace is fabulously creepy. I can honestly say - the ugliest sweater I've ever seen!
Bluebird - I love your RO for saying that to you about 'no such thing as bad luck'. You've been dealt a huge challenge and deserve to have good people in your life.
In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I'm thinking not just of us girls, but of our brothers, sisters, parents & kids.We've already celebrated Thanksgiving here in Canada, so - since I'm not spending my energy thinking about stuffing and turkey, I'm sending all my positive energy to your loved ones, South of the border. -
Movie, that is one UGLY sweater. I'm devastated you didn't win. You were robbed. When you were describing it at dinner I just couldn't get the whole picture of hideousness. Now it's pretty clear!
Jeannie, remember those wretched days when CANCER filled your thoughts 24/7, and your heart was seized with fear? People here told me it would get better, and I didn't see how it possible could, but it absolutely does. I hope she finds here way here too.
Moonlight bike ride last night! It's so beautiful in the mysterious, magical dark, with the stars and crescent moon overhead and the smells of the woods so much sharper at night! We saw a bunch of huge, hoppy toads and an owl. And I kept the rubber side down this time!
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Made it with a fabulous view of the Cascades from the airplane. It was also clear enough to see Mt. Rainer from the airport. This time change is a killer. I have been up since 4:45 Seattle time. Anxious to see some sights today.
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cherrie....glad to hear you arrived safe and sound....enjoy to the max!!!!!
movie....I demand a recount....truly hideous beyond words is that sweater....The cat just freaks me out...I swear it looks real! Very glad to hear from you too, that you made it safe. That is one, looooong drive!!!! Hope someone else is doing the Thanksgiving work for you! How long are DD&D staying with you? (DD and dog).
jeannie...gosh that's a long time in "waiting room hell" for that lady! The farther out from our own dx, the more women we meet going down the same path. I find it both sad (that it still can't be eliminated from life) and weirdly "comforting" to realize I am not alone.....does that sound wrong???
sbe....moonlight ride sounds lovely, very glad to hear the bike and rider stayed in proper "alignment" this time.
bluebird....I agree with your doc. I don't believe in "bad luck" either....I believe in there is no such thing as a perfect life, but I am thankful every day, that there is life to live.
Time for another coffee and a bowl of oatmeal....then on with the day....massage and lunch with friends...woohoo!
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Movie, I can't imagine an uglier sweater. What the heck did the one look like that won?
Cherrie, those time changes are tough. Sounds like a beautiful view! Happy Tuesday! ...Julie -
Aubrey helping Grandpa with the newspaper Sudoku.
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Sbel, Aubrey is beautiful!! And obviously smart if she's already doing Sudoku...How is your sister???
Julie, so good to hear from you and that you are doing well!
Cherrie, I'm so happy you are experiencing some clear Seattle weather! Maybe you went to the top of the Space Needle today?
Crazy Movie, how in the world did you not win the VERY UGLY sweater contest??? Maybe it's because you're a beautiful person and you couldn't disguise it, HA!
Bluebird, thinking of you and hoping the pain passes quickly. I think it's smart to be taking oxycodone. I should have taken it more often than I did so my body had a better chance to heal when my skin was falling off.
My brother is getting a PICC line as we speak and will be discharged tomorrow with many more weeks of Vancomycin to make sure the infection is destroyed for good. This is good news! My eye continues to worsen. DH is bending over backwards, jumping through hoops and doing whatever he can to "stabilize" his boss long enough for him to find another job...it's tough at age 59, during the holidays but there is always hope. The message at church on Sunday was on practicing thankfulness and gratitude, making them habits, not just feeling them. As you can imagine, in some ways "doing" thankfulness is easier for me right now than feeling it. I put in two hard days at the food bank yesterday and today where we had record numbers of hungry folks. I loved it and I'm thankful I was able to do it, finally. Thankful for all of you, too! -
Goodness that baby is BEAUTIFUL!!!!! Tell Jerry he's passable too, of course!
jeannie... so glad you could spend that time at the food bank, as it obviously is something you love to do. Still keeping fingers crossed for hubby. I like your "ugly sweater theory" re: movie....there is no other explanation! -
Ok, I will be odd man out. How can a sweater with a kitten on it be ugly?the green grinch fuzz freaked me out, but kitten faces and movie's face are cute!
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Movie--That is THE ugliest sweater Ive seen, you totally should have won!
SBE- Aubrey is a living doll, beaty and brains so the world better watch out! lol
Jeannie-- Hope yourbrother is doing o.k., keeping you guys in y prayers.
Bluebird-- I hope you are able to get some relief soon!
We had to put our older dog to sleep today, he was 15. It hit me harder than I thought it would. I stroked his fur and kissed his nose while he drifted off. It was surreal, one minute he was there and next minute he wasnt. Made me think about all I have been through with this dang cancer. On the bright side, I am totally pulling out all the christmas decoratins this weekend. If I can convince DH to do it, you guys will see my house from space. lol
Hugs ladies!
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sweet-so sorry for your loss. Loosing a best friend is the worst, but he had you with him til the end. A beautiful thing. -
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Sweet, my sympathies to you. Our hearts are full of love for our dogs and it's a blow when they pass. I'm glad you could be with him. I'm glad you are with us, too!!!
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Sweetpickle, special hugs and so sorry for your loss.
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Oh, dear. My friend/acquaintance with fbc was told by the MO today that she has a "fifty-fifty chance!" What a horrible thing to say. I know her estrogen/progesterone results were low, don't know HER2, grade 3. Surgery as soon as possible, port, chemo after Christmas. She is too overwhelmed to reach out to bco.org yet, darn. Doing my best to encourage her. -
Sweet- So sorry about the loss of your dog. It is so tough to go through.
Jeannie- I feel for your friend. She had to wait so long and then to hear that. It will be hard for her to enjoy the holidays when in shock. I would say I can't imagine, but we all can. NOT FAIR!!!!
We went to the Ballard Locks, Golden Garden Park, and the Green Lake Area. A very nice day. We went to the fish market and bought salmon for a great meal tonight. The kids are brining the turkey and it is pretty funny to have our roles reversed.
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Sweetpickle - I'm so sorry to hear about your dog. I'm glad you were with him to kiss him on the nose. Big hug to you.
Janet -
good grief jeannie......!!!! Yes, we want our doctors to be "honest" with us, but there are more "encouraging" ways to deliver news like that!!!!! Hopefully, those words are not the ones the doc actually said to her, but more her "interpretation" of the seriousness of her dx????? You will likely be a very strong support and advocate for her.....Be sure to care for yourself, while caring for her, physically and emotionally.
cherrie....you certainly sound like you are getting the grand tour and are enjoying every minute...so happy you are having this time with your son.
I have a ton of stuff to get done the next few days, before the GWA, but will defo be getting in some long walks too. It has been quite mild here this week, but apparently, this will soon come to an end, and winter will return.
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Jeannie- I feel horrible for your friend! I cant imagine hearing that news, especially having to wait through the holiday.
Cherrie- Sounds like you are having a blast, enjoy having the kiddos bring the food to you!
I am getting ready for some serious baking and I am making an obscene amount of food for tomorrow. Happy Wednesday everyone
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Sweet, so sorry to hear about your doggy. They are such a big part of our lives.
However, little Liza Jane has decided that 3:30 AM is a good time to bite whatever is itching and 5:30 is time for breakfast. She's not on my good side today.
Sbe, Aubrey is just a doll. Grand kids are great. The costumes were not too fancy, but the kids were thrilled with them.
Jeannie, my heart breaks for your friend. Some doctors sure need to improve their people skills! I know that your circumstances have to be very unsettling. I can only tell you that God has ways of working things out, based on my past experience. It is so much easier to see in the rear view mirror when those things are behind us. Hang tough!
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I have 4 turkeys done - all for seniors in need of a thanksgiving meal. Tomorrow I will prepare ours. I used the carcasses to make rich turkey broth for minerals. The livers became chopped liver pate (good source of protein for healing). My beef bone broth is tucked into the freezer so that we can enjoy a cup a day, often with caramelized onions for a yummy French onion soup. Tomorrow afternoon I will be thankful to stop cooking. And perhaps, I won't want to see another turkey for 12 months (probably).
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I expect most of you gals in the US will be enjoying family, friends, and turkey with the trimmings tomorrow, as you should be!!! So just want to send "Happy Thanksgiving" wishes to you all.
May the weather allow everyone to travel safely and arrive at their destinations and then safely back home, may the turkeys be moist inside and golden on the outside, may there be enough stuffing for all (plus the leftover sandwiches that everyone craves), a bounty of veggies, both healthy and yummy, lump-free gravy and mashed potatoes, pumpkin pie that doesn't land wrong side down on the kitchen floor, whipped cream canisters that don't spray the entire table when little ones ask to do it themselves, lots of eager hands to help with the cleanup and dishes, amazing football games where everyone's favourite team wins, and above all.....many, many, many more years for each of us to "thankful" for so many things.
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Happy Thanksgiving Eve, everyone! The kids came over tonight to watch TV and eat sandwiches, and my DS brought a huge cooler with a 26-pound turkey in it so we could "brine" the thing. We poured all the ice in the freezer over it and then filled the cooler with salty, seasoned water. The whole effect was like that of a corpse bobbing around in a murky lake. I'm hoping the mental image doesn't last.
Jeannie, I saw a therapist every week for a few months, a couple of years ago (before BC, in fact) and I found it to be a very healing experience. I pray it will be the same for you.
Marty, you are amazing. But if I could find any rich turkeys I wouldn't be making broth out of them. Sorry, lame joke! I wish I could transplant you to my kitchen!
Sweet, bless you as you grieve the loss of your friend. I'm so sorry.
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Have fun and be safe, Nihahi! Turn off all electronic devices until you see the landing lights at home Sunday night! -
I am so full, I am embarrassed to say I took my compression off after dinner. First time in 10 weeks! It feels great. Happy Thanksgiving to all. -
Haha, Cherrie! It's amazing you kept it on for that long. I'm sure Thanksgiving removal is okay! Looking forward to our visit. -
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Cherrie, I'm glad the weather was so cooperative for you this week. I'll be bundled up on Monday! -
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baily6760: Again, don't waste the energy mentally crossing a bridge until you absolutely must. I know is is nearly impossible to do, but try to stay in the present moment if you can for it is the only thing that is guaranteed. When bad thoughts come into your mind, dismiss them as quickly and as best you can. The waiting game is so tough, but the mental energy spent on it is energy wasted. -
Awww, thanks Kdoole. I appreciate that. I am doing well the last several days. It's in God's hands....I am in His hands. I hope you have all had a great weekend. I sure wish I had another four days!!!
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Wow....Kdoole.....I was just reading your stats and see you had Avastin, too. I don't think I've ever met anybody else that had it. Did you have healing problems because of it? I still have healing problems and Avastin is sometimes blamed by my med professionals. I don't know....seems like it would not still affect me two years later!
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Hi bailey6760...funny that you would bring that up. I have just had the most difficult year in which I received laser treatment to telangiectasias on my previously radiated breast in April. They are basically spider veins and I was "encouraged" to do this clinical trial at MSK (MSK is always pushing you into one trial or another). Subsequently, I developed a non-healing wound in the very spots I was lasered in, and my breast implant ruptured thru the wound. Implant was removed in July, could not heal that wound. Did 6 weeks of hyperbaric tx with no effect. Hospitalized x2 for sepsis from cellulitis in non-healing wound area. In October had flaps done, so the entire right chest was removed. Thank God the wound has just about healed (tiny scabbed area healing by second intent, left purposely as I had an open wound for greater than 6 months). MSK said I was the most complex chest wound for the breast service that they had ever had. No one ever brought up the Avastin though, but I did sustain heart failure from the Avastin tx. I was part of a clinical trial in which earlier stage breast cancer patients were given Avastin concurrently w/the ACT every 2 weeks and every 3 weeks thereafter for 1 year. I developed heart failure 9 months into treatment. Tx was stopped for 2 months and I did complete it in the end. I think my heart failure was secondary to an overload of fluid during the Abraxane (that was my "T" of the ACT) as I put on 13 lbs of fluid in less than 5 days and no one would diurese me and take off some fluid. But in medicine, once the horse is out of the corral you are only guessing how he got out. I do know that Avastin does interfere with wound healing, but I did not have trouble healing my chest wound after expanders were replaced in spring 2007 (that was before the RT, so I think that is more to blame here). There are so few of us that have had the Avastin, so there are not enough numbers to know if that is to blame for our horse getting out of the corral! And the docs at the academic medical centers will never commit!!
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Oh, Kdoole, you have been through so much! I am glad you have come through it. Your advice about not worrying and taking it one day at a time was hard-earned. -
You know what Jeannie57? I think that this year in particular taught me to be in the moment. That and my 23 year old son recommended a book that he had read in his college Ethics class called "A New Earth, Awakening to Your LIfe's Purpose" by E. Tolle. When I was pending clearance for the flaps (only got official clearance <48h before the surgery) he said to me "Mom, if I were you and I had accomplished as much as you have in your 49 years, I could die happy for you have accomplished so much!" I replied to him that it would be different if you were 49 years instead of 23 years, lol! But the book really reminded me that yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not guaranteed to any of us. -
We had a wonderful time with Cherrie and her husband, Tony! Such nice, warm people. I wish I could meet all of you in person!
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Had a very nice lunch with Jeannie and her hubby, Tom. We ate at Ivar's on the water in their beautiful town of Mukilteo. It was so nice to give her a hug for everyone. It did my heart so much good to visit with her.
Katy and Nihahi- I have gotten out and walked most days since visiting Seattle. I get between 7-9 thousand steps most days. I've been eating way to much though. -
cherrie and jeannie.....THANK YOU FOR THE PHOTO!!! So happy you got to connect and spend some time together. It means so much, doesn't it!
cherrie....no judgement from me.....just congrats on the steps!!!!! If I was in Seattle and area.....with family for Thanksgiving....I'd be overeating too!!!
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Cherrie and Jeannie--what a lovely photo of the two of you! Just look at the friendship there! I've eaten at Ivar's lots of times, and I can never get enough clams.
Cherrie, walking is SO good for us, no matter what we eat or don't eat! You're just plugging away at it, and we're all so proud of you.
Bailey, you're in my prayers every day. Raft service, with love.
If I lived near Seattle, I'd be shopping at the Ex Officio store. I have to settle for ordering their stuff from Sierra Trading Post, which I love, but the store was lots of fun.
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Jeannie and Cherrie- Wonderful picture, so glad you guys got to spend time together!
Bailey- HUGS!!! keeping you in my prayers
Crazy weather here, suppose to be up to 71 by Friday. We got our tree up last night and I found three nig inflatables for outside that I thought were lost in my last move. Yay!!!!! Keep warm my northern sisters!
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Woohoo! Nipple day is February 7th! I hope we'll be able to afford it. sigh -
Our parking lot this afternoon.....thankfully.....not my car!
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Wow Nihahi! I would never come out of my den. -
Thanks for the hugs, prayers and good vibes, friends!!!
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That and more headed your way Bailey!
Jeannie and Cherrie, great photo! Looks like you had a blast!
Just coming around after a week of lying still and sleeping. Skin is finally starting to grow back after rads stopped and finally got pain under control. Doc wants to get last three done, but not so sure I want to continue. I cancelled my surgery scheduled for the 10th. I just can't go through any more right now. But looking forward to the new year and making plans to celebrate a year of treatment being done! and kicking cancer's ass!
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Oh, Bluebird, I sure hope so! You made it through a very difficult week and year. That's something. I wish you didn't have to think about rads anymore.( It's wise not to have surgery now to give your body a chance to recover. It is amazing what we can bear.Cheers to the new year! -
(((bailey))), (((jeannie))), (((bluebird))), cherrie
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Nihahi, I'm there with you, girl. The dogs don't want to step on the grass to pee because it's chilly. I actually had to put on a bathrobe this morning, and yesterday, the neighborhood kids were shivering a little on their way to the pool. Hang in there. We'll suffer through this together.
Bailey and Jeannie, you're in our prayers every night.
Happy Hump Day, everyone!
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Hey Tammy....IT'S WORKING, THANKS!!!! The sun is shining this morning! With a windchill of -20F, it's still not beach weather, but everyday with sunshine is a good one. That snow bank is the result of about 8" of powder snow, packed into rockhard drifts by the wind. When I tell you guys it gets windy here, I mean IT GETS WINDY HERE
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(shhhh.....don't tell him, but THANKFULLY, hubby decided he could make it into work today...lordy, his retirement is going to take some adjusting to
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SBE.....SNORT! We'll see who's laughing when I run you up a mountain trail, sans bike, in my neck of the woods!!!!!!!
Time for a second cup of coffee...in total peace....then, on with MY day.
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Happy Hump day to you too sbe, good luck on Friday. Back to work. -
Nihahi, when you run this sea-level girl up a mountain trail in your neck of the woods, you're going to have to bring oxygen. Lots of it.
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Nihahi, it's 27F here this morning with a high of 32, I think. Cold for us! Bright blue sky. I hope Cherrie is staying warm!! -
72 and sunny down here. Doing my best to cope with winter. -
marty.....if there was an "emotion" for giving a "raspberry"......guess what I would be selecting right now!!!!!
It's ok, really, it is, I don't mind putting on boots, mitts and a touque to take the garbage out............sob... -
A touque? What the hell is a touque?
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I looked it up. Here's what Google says:
In Canada, the knit cap is also known as a tuque (pronounced tuke; also spelled touque or toque), a word closely related to the French word toque, originally referring to a traditional headwear and now used for type of chef's hat (short for toque blanche, meaning "white hat").
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Nihahi, is this your toque?
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R.O.F.L........Love it!!!!! jeannie....you've made my day
ahem....who you calling crazy?!
I have done my morning yoga and workout in the gym....good lord, if this weather continues, I may actually have to do the dishes! -
You are all crazy...cyber loons....
I wonder what out dear Liefie is doing today????
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slapping on sunscreen no doubt! Sipping some South African wine and not giving one wee bit of thought about bc, chemo, rads, recon or nipples! That's my hope for her! -
It is cold, but it didn't stop us from visiting Alpental in the Snoqualmie Pass. We had a beautiful drive there. My son has a ski pass there. It looks mighty steep.
Home now to watch the RED WINGS and pack. Leaving in the morning. 😪😪😪
Katy- Do you live near Pasedena? The Spartans may be coming for the Rose Bowl. Lodging is &350-$500 a night. GHEEZ!!' We may be priced out of that since we are two retired teachers. Do you have a friend of a friend of a friend ........who rents their house to people coming to the Rose Bowl???? LOL
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Here's a fun game we can all play! I'm going to call it "YOU KNOW YOU'RE BORED, WHEN......"
I'll go first......
YOU KNOW YOU'RE BORED, WHEN YOU'RE REALLY HAPPY THAT YOUR DUCT TAPE REPAIR OF THE FOOT ON THE IRONING BOARD, ACTUALLY WORKS, SO YOU CAN KEEP IRONING.....
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Im with you Marty although its been gray here a lot lately. I am in serious need of an intervention ladies, I now weigh 192lbs and I walked out of the hospital in June at 177, precancer, I was 164. What the hell am I doing to myself? I eat between 1500 and 1900 calories a day and I worked out three times a week for an hour. Im so depressed, I was always the skinny girl growing up.
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Cherrie, I just PM'd you.
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Cherrie, I make sure the pic I want to post is in my iPhone camera roll. Then I go here. I click on what looks like a pic of landscape on the right, above here. I click on Choose File, go to my camera roll and click on the photo I want. Easy peasy. I am not generally tech savvy, so I'm surprised I figured this out...hope it works for you.
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Sweet, a couple of thoughts. Have you had your thyroid checked? Chemo and rads can really kill it, and a low thyroid makes it impossible to lose weight. Also, are you tracking every bite? I journal my meals on LiveStrong.com and it's a real eye-opener.
And...do NOT go into the self-loathing mode because you've gained a few pounds. I'm certain the people in your life who love you are glad you're alive and think you're beautiful just as you are. You opened a huge can of whup-ass on cancer, girl. That took strength, determination, and grit. Yay, Sweetpickle! -
Big hugs Sbe, thank you and you are right. DH and the kids are just glad to have me here. I did check my thyroid and it was low. I tested .6 and normal is .66-1.5 I think, so I was borderline low. My doc put me on levothyroxine and it made my anxiety shoot through the roof so I asked him if I could stop and he said yes so I have been off it for two days now.
I need to just go get some pretty nails done, that will make me feel better.
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Thought I better check in....been a rough day over here in Oregon......Jeannie, how'd you deal with the lipo pain? I am really hurting....hope it gets better real soon.....
Sweet, I don't think I ever acknowledged you losing your dog.....I am so sorry....I have two myself, and it is really hard to say goodby to a member of the family ......just want you to know I am sorry.......
As far as your weight gain......listen to Sbe....she has wise words.......I would just add that when I am intent on losing weight, my caloric intake hovers around 1200 calories/day, with one day a week that I allow myself more. That being said, you are dealing with more than the average person (one w/o cancer) and you have to take all that into account .....also look at the type of calories you are consuming .....ie: lean proteins, vegetables.....not much in the way of simple carbs, and low intake of complex carbs......that works for me. Also, you might consider upping exercise to 5-6 days a week to jump-start your metabolism.....I consistently work out 5 days a week, and aim for 6, when I want to drop weight. You are a youngster.....I bet if you could get your metabolism jump-started, the weight would come off easily.....not like a 59 year old woman! The key is to never give up......maybe get yourself a pedometer, and start tracking your steps....the goal would be 10,000 steps a day (I usually do 15,000-18,000, but I have been doing this for a long time, and I SHOULD be doing that many steps/day). Keep at it....you will find what works for you..........
Okay...NOW I am sleepy, again. I have a love/hate relationship with oxycodone......going to need another real soon ......
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sweet...I second what the others have said.
#1...The IMPORTANT thing is that you are here with your family and us.
#2...Tracking your food intake is very very informative, when you are trying to figure out why you are struggling to lose weight. There are lots of different sites that let you enter what you've eaten, and they break it down into different components for you. I agree....it's not necessarily how many calories (though your total seems high for weight loss) but the "value" of those calories. Sugar is a proven weight gain food, but lots of people don't realize how sneaky sugar is. If you eat a whole lot of fruit, you are actually eating a lot of sugar, natural, yes, but still recognized by your body as sugar. Fruit juice as opposed to fresh fruit....even higher in sugar. Refined carbs like pasta and white bread.....again....sugar to your body. Corn, a great veggie right....sugar!
#3...Better to do something (30 minutes minimum) everyday, than day on , day off. For me, daily exercise keeps my attention focussed on also eating right. Regular exercise has been more and more proven to be the most important thing anyone can do to minimize the risk of recurrence...as well as many other health issues.
#4...Maybe talk to your doc for some extra help/guidance??? It seems like you have a good relationship with him, why not use him.
#5...DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP....YOU'VE BEEN THROUGH HE** AND BACK!!!!! -
movie....so sorry to hear how much you're hurting. Try to rest as much as possible...let yourself have some easy days for a change!!!! -
movie, I'm sorry it's been a rough day! Add that to a rough night and you are suffering. Keep up with the Oxycodone. I only needed it for a few days and then moved on to Tylenol. My PS even allowed Advil. It just takes time, but not nearly as much as earlier surgeries. How do your nips feel? Are you numb there? Sending you smiles and hugs. -
Inner thigh lipo is tough, but it turns the corner quickly. I felt great 4 to 5 days out. It may not be the time to do 18,000 steps. 😉 My pedometer has been off, but have been pretty active on this trip.
My baby quilt is almost done. I sent it away to have it machine quilted. It will be here next week and I will do the border next. If I can figure out Jeannie's instructions, I will post a picture of it. -
Movie, I'm into avoiding the simple carbs too. I'm way into healthy food like chicken flautas, beans and rice, tortilla chips with queso dip...oh, dear...isn't it great our bodies forgive us our occasional indulgences? LOL...I would jog around the perimeter of Los Angeles to sit down for dinner with you again!
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Movie- I hope Wilber pays you a visit and takes away your pain! I looked through my lose it log and I am eating a ton of carbs like potatos and corn. Also have high sodium foods and I bet that is adding to my water retention. I am going to take your advice and start working out every day. I am also going to shoot for closer to 1200 calories. Thank you for your condolences, it was my MILs dog but they live with us and Ive known him since he was a puppy so it was like losing one of my own.
Nihahi- Yep, the fruit juices are horrible about sneaking in the sugar. I eat fresh fruit but not everyday.
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Do you guys think it might be helpful to do a shake meal replacement for a bit to help get things going?
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Sweet, in my humble opinion, 1200 calories aren't enough, especially if you're exercising. My nutritionist said 1500 is low enough, and to shoot for no more than 150 grams of carbs daily, in the form of whole grains, veggies, fruit. No refined products like sugar or flour, and no more than 35 grams of carbs in one sitting, to avoid the insulin spikes that go along with a carb load-up.
If you don't take in enough calories, your body goes into calorie-conservation mode and it's tougher than ever to lose weight.
Costco has a great protein shake with high protein and low carbs. It's "Premier Protein," it comes in chocolate and vanilla, and it's whey, not soy protein. I'll occasionally have one for a meal replacement when I'm crazy busy, but not ALL the time. Real food is better--less processing.
The hubs is outside wrapping the tomato plants in blankets so we don't lose all the gorgeous 'maters that are ripening. Fresh tomatoes for Christmas. Weird. -
sweet.....I agree with sbe...."replacement" food is ok occasionally, but healthy eating is a lifetime lifestyle choice, imho, and a fake meal is pretty hard to stick with long term. It also takes away the "learning" process of portion size and nutritional content, that will serve you well in the long run. Also, don't try to do it all at once, and tapering down your calories as you are eliminating the less healthy foods will almost be a natural process.
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Sweet - I agree with everything already said on the weight loss and food, but would add that exercise can be as simple as a 30 minute walk. Moving every day. If you haven't already killed gluten, you might do that. Many of us have a sensitivity to gluten we are not aware of and avoid wheat. I don't process the carbs in legumes well, so I avoid them. There are also options for hypothyroid besides levo. You might look at naturesthroid or armour. Different people respond differently to each - if I take levo I need to add cytomel. I currently take armor, but seem to need a nap daily so may be looking to switch or increase. No anxiety issues, but do take sertraline which helps that issue. -
Temp of -27, windchill of -35C.....at -40, F and C are the same temp...I will no longer discuss the weather until this crap has moved on...sob!
movie....hope it was a better night for you? Listen to people like cherrie and marty and jeannie...this too shall pass. Sending hugs your way until things feel better. -
Holy cow, Nihahi. You have my sincere sympathy. That's just COLD.
Being originally from Colorado, we resist turning on the heat until Christmas. It would be like admitting we're weather wimps along with the rest of the Californians. So we went to bed last night wearing stocking caps (touques?), mittens, and heavy socks, along with our flannel jammies. Very sexy.
Movie, hope you slept and are feeling better!
Marty, what does cytomel do for you?
A friend told me he was taking turmeric for his joint pain and he was amazed at how helpful it was. I bought some yesterday and will report back. And now, it's off to Walgreens for some zycam and nasal spray. I'll need to convince tomorrow's pre-op crew that I'm healthy enough for surgery.
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Cytomel adds T3 which helped stop my hair from falling out too vigorously.
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Marty...the tumeric is interesting! Do you know of a recommended dosage/formulation???? I know with herbals, you need to be knowledgeable to make sure you are getting what you "think" you are getting. I wonder if it might help my hubby with his neck/shoulder/back pain???? I'd appreciate any info you have on it. -
Sbe....I WISH I could move on......Wilbur not assisting with BM........miserable...may have to resort to dynamite....but magnesium citrate is on the docket today.........yay for me...... :P -
Nihahi - I started using New Chapter Turmeric Force which was recommended at Whole Foods. It runs about $34 for 72 tablets through Vitacost. One tab is a serving. I have since switched to Vitacost Turmeric Extract Curcumin C3 Complex® with Bioperine® -- 1160 mg per serving - 120 Capsules. It costs about $27 but you have to take 2 a day. I have been off it pending surgery, but my DH is on it. With 2 of us taking it, finding a cost effective solution is important. BTW, the bioperine is a black pepper extract that is supposed to enhance how the turmeric works.
Some of the exercises our PT is giving us do a lot on the shoulder, neck pain. In one, we lay prone on the bed with our head and neck hanging off. Then we rotate from side to side for 1 - 2 minutes. Amazing how it strengthens the neck muscles. -
Oh, Movie, how terrible for you. Not only the compression blues, but the no go's as well. I hope the mag citrate works magic for you!
I'm chugging a bottle of the stuff today too. My PS wants the bowel as free from...bowel stuff...as we can get it for tomorrow's abdominal pull. It's not exactly a colonoscopy prep, but it's going to feel like one. I thought I'd wait until I get home from work to initiate THAT launch sequence.
I bought turmeric yesterday at Costco. Now I'm going to have to check out the manufacturer and dosage.
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sbe....I'm certainly no expert on herbals, but after reading earlier about the tumeric, and googled it a bit. I looked at sites like Mayoclinic, that are apparently doing trials, and I noticed a caution that it may interfere with antibiotics.....and can affect liver and kidneys. Maybe wait on it until you check it out a bit more? I'm not discounting its value, but just because something is "natural" doesn't mean it isn't without side effects. It does sound like there may be some promise to it though, cancer wise......interesting read.
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Hey lovelies, just got done with having my "pictures" taken.....I arrived a bit early and am done before my 3:30 appointment time. Love that kind of efficiency
So now we wait. I am glad today is here, though.....at least the pictures are in somebody's hands and we will see what we will see. Prayers for those just out and those just headed in.
Love ya,
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Lol....Nihahi I was early because I was skating around the edge of a meltdown at work and decided I had better just leave 15 minutes early rather than take my cancerfrustration out on a poor unsuspecting soul!
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hubby and I finished decorating our tree tonight. I'm posting a photo, to help give those ladies who may be struggling tonight with pain or worries.....something else to think about for a minute. Love to all.
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Thanks, Nihahi!
I found out my insurance will cover one more set of compression sleeves this year. I chose a set of "bad ass" tattoo design. Not pretty.
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jeannie....the designs look very Northwest First Nation! How fitting for you! -
Nihahi, thank you....lovely tree, I wonder if I will get one this year???? Not feeling like it tonight, for sure!
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Nihahi- Pretty tree!
Jeannie- That is a funky sleeve I say go with it girl!
Movie- Hope you are doing better today and were able to clean out some. I hate the whole constipation bit with surgery.
Bailey- Hugs, I am like you and would rather show up early and just get it over.
We got our tree up too and my whole house looks like christmas threw up everywhere, its awesome! I slept most of today because I had insomnia last night and was up until 5am. Tonight Im up at 2 am, oh joy. On a positive note, I had a manic episode and cleaned my whole house tonight....lol. I think the steroid injection did me in, I took two benedryl and still wide awake. Getting ready to make some sleepytime tea. Hope everyone is well
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Testing if this picture posts, here is hubby and kidds at Halloween.
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Bailey, thinking of you. Hopefully you are getting some rest...
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Sweet, I'll join you in insomnia-land.........everytime I move in my sleep, I wake up because everything hurts! I sure won't be cleaning house......want the job? Kids are cute! DH is scary......
Bailey...hope you are doing okay.......am thinking of you!
Sbe.....soon will be in Wilbur's arms......
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Movie- I crashed just after 3 am and was back up at 6:30am........dragging hardcore this morning! I would love to come clean for you, its my thing to do when anxious. I hope you turn the corner soon with the pain, I remember being like that after stage one and it soooooo sucks! I prefer my insomnia pain free....lol. DH was a freak on halloween, I made him take off the mask because it creeped me out.
Jeannie- Thanks
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Waiting, waiting, wa-ate-ing....wait, wait, waiting, wa-ate-ing....Waiting waiting, wa-ate-ing, wait,wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, WAIT! (It's my new waiting song...to the tune of the Jeopardy theme song....what do y'all think?)
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Bailey, sending calming positive energies your way. You do so much comforting and guidance for everyone else, wish I could help in some way.
Jeannie, love the sleeve! I really want featherie, by can't fork over $100! I've spent so much money on lotions and potions and magic spells for rads. I may do some artwork on my plain medical sleeve. Thanks for the Domeboro soaks recommendation. It does help! I'm in holding pattern until next week.
I also second the Tumeric recommendation. It's in the ginger family and is a powerful anti-inflammatory. I've been taking it all year since my diagnosis. It helped with the bone pain from chemo. I'm off it now during radiation because of the anti radical antioxidant properties. Need the free radicals to do their job.
Sweet, cute Halloween photo! And love the tree nihahi. Hoping to coax my kids into decorating today. I ordered a cyber Monday vacuum cleaner and tried it out last night. It's a 3 in one Shark and did my steps too. Totally overdid it and resting today. Opened up my skin again. Errgh!
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Sweet......loved the photo of your kids....they're gorgeous! No comment on hubby....it freaks me too! I laughed at your "Christmas threw up all over the house" comment. I used to have stuff all over too when the kids were "kids". Gradually pared it down as they got older. We were forced to really "purge" when we moved to the condo, so now, I just have a few of the "very special things" left. We let the kids go through all the Christmas stuff, so they picked out things they wanted to keep, before we moved. It was a good way to not have to "let it go", but not have to store it. I'm thinking it looks a little too sparse, so might go shopping for a few "new things".
ONCE THIS FRIGGIN TEMPERATURE RISES FROM THE FRIGGING DEEP FREEZE)....sorry, should have put in a "rant warning"....I'm better now....
bailey.....I'm singing the tune along with you, trying to help time move faster for you. Did they give you any idea of when the results will be available??? I swear, waiting is one of the biggest hurdles in this whole "fandango".
bluebird....what dosage of tumeric do you normally take??? take it easy, girl.....babysteps to better skin!!!
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Carly Simon...everybody now....Anticipa-ay-shun.....it's making me wait.
No they didn't say. Usually they are pretty damn fast.
I saved all my filing and busy work for today at work so I don't have to think too hard. Six months from now I'll go to look for something though and think, "Why the hell did I file this here???"
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bailey.....I'm thinking it's time to break out something like "jingle bell rock"????? Get your groove on girl.....I decided to play Christmas carols while doing yoga this morning...I mean, I've got the tree up....why not!!!!! This "waiting" is like laying in bed, everyone's asleep....but YOU can hear a faucet drip.......drip........dripppppping. Gotta either go nuts, or drown it out!!!!!! -
bluebird- We need to strap you in a recliner with 24/7 bedside service so that you dont overdo yourself! Your skin will thank you
Nahahi- I plan to do the same once the kiddos are grown. It will be me and Dave in a condo in the outer banks! I hope you guys warm up some, its such a chore to run errands in snow and cold. I suppose you would hate me if I told you that I had to turn on my AC last night? lol
Movie and Goldie- gentle hugs, hope you guys are doing better today.
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bailey- Hope you hear something soon, I know the waiting is awful!
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Brrrr. It is so cold. My heater is on continually. Grateful we don't have precipitation with these temps. Texas girls, thinking of you!
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Nihahi, I use vitacost brand tumeric and it is 800mg caps that I took twice a day. Lots of people prefer it with curcumin complex like Marty does, but I've always used just the plain tumeric. In fact I used to just use the spice powder before the capsules. here's a recipe for tumeric tea if anyone wants to try it. Turmeric has a funky taste but this is a tasty way to drink it and it's very soothing.
Ingredients
1 cup almond milk
1/2 tsp turmeric
1 tsp cinnamon
1 tsp honey
1/4 tsp ginger
Directions
Heat the almond milk in a microwave, stir in the spices and drizzle the honey on top. Enjoy!
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Aw, Nihahi, do I need to send you blankets? So sorry about the deep freeze. Actually hope all you girls are safe.
Today, as we were leaving the house we noticed community security standing in the street 3 doors down. It appears that a 4 foot gator had taken up residence on the pine straw in the garden. Thankfully the resident dog (a giant schnauzer) was safely locked inside. The gator got relocated. As we came home this evening in the dark, there were police at the end of our yard near the lagoon. Not a gator attack this time. Apparently someone hit a 3 point buck with a car. The police and animal patrol removed him. I think I need to bake holiday cookies for our guys. They have been working overtime with the varmints this year! -
Good things come to those who WAIT!!!
Parasternal lymph nodes are less distinct than 2 months ago and essentially unremarkable. Very good news, sisters!!! So happy!!!
Now get out of my pockets....hubby sick of seeing my crack with my pants on the ground
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WOOHOO BAILEY.........HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY DANCE!!!!!!!!! -
jeez marty! ....exciting times for you!!!! -
Super Wonderful News Bailey! Now there are champagne corks popping in your pocket. Might as well just take the pants right off! -
Janet, you crack me u. -
up! I meant up! -
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WooooooooHoooooo!!!!!!! So happy to hear that Bailey!
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THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!! Thanks for all of your support and friendship, you guys are the best. We will celebrate tomorrow. I came home exhausted and our new smartphones (for the whole family) had arrived and I had to set those up and it took a heck of a lot longer than I expected! I am done with this day. I will catch up on posts this weekend.
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So happy for you Bailey! Fingers crossed for thing 1 too!
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Bailey, I would be doing the happy dance for you.......but I can't move that fast! SO happy for you!!!!! Now on to Stage 2.......( and a night with that Casanova Wilbur......). -
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Have a good, deep, restful sleep bailey.....!
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Bailey, Bailey!!!! I'm so thrilled for you!!!! "Essentially unremarkable..." YAY! YAY! YAY! -
do any of you ladies do artificial nails? I want to get my nails done but due to chemo making them come off over the summer, I hesitate to do acrylic this soon. Dont want to damage them anymore than they have been. Welcome advice from the pros, I havent had fake nails since having kids. Thanks!
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Sweet, I've never done acrylics, but I've had a couple of "gel" manicures with French tips. It lasts a long time and looks very pretty. For me, I wouldn't get acrylics because I'd be concerned about getting fungus underneath. And I really like the look of shortish, well-manicured nails. -
sbe- that is what I would be afriad of too. So would I ask for french tips? I love the look of a french manicure, very clean.
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Thanks Sbel......I love being "essentially unremarkable" !!!! I pray I am so for the rest of my very long life !!!
Sweet I think what Sbel means is the "new" gel manicure you can get. Doesn't require a tip. GOes on like nail polish, but they "cure" it between each coat with a UV lamp. Takes a bit longer, but also lasts 2-3 weeks. It is my favorite beauty thing EVER. I get a french and then you can't see it as it grows out as much. It is not as damaging to your nails as acrylics. You still go back every 2-3 weeks to get it redone, like acrylics, but it's your own nail. THey aren't thick like acrylics either, which I love.
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I did shellac and gelish gel nails for quite a while. Mine would last maybe 2 weeks. They will still thin your natural nails. I was so excited as they were supporting my normally chippy, peely nails, getting longer and longer. Then I had to soak them off at home and realized just how thin my nails had become. Many salons use the LED lights to harden, but others use the UV. There are questions about the exposure to the UV. I finally gave up. Every two weeks was costing between $25 and $35 for gel depending on the salon. They were wonderful looking. Sigh. -
Yeah, I gave up on the nail thing too.......my natural nails were looking so thin! Not sure if they will ever recover........ Now I just keep my natural fingernails shortish, and do pedicures........I can hold polish on my toenails! -
Movie - my nails have come back to their usual state. Haven't done gel in more than a year. Gotta remember it takes 6 months for the nail to grow all the way out. The past few months, I have added beef bone broth to my daily drinks. It has so many wonderful minerals and gelatin. I think it really may be helping. -
Back from Seattle and now reading posts to catch up. (4 pages)
Bailey- What fantastic news for you. CELEBRATION!!!! What a difference that can make in our attitude. You handled this much better than I could have. So happy for you.
Jeannie- Love your new tattoo sleeve. "Bad ass" for sure.
Movie- Sure hope you are feeling better today. Baby steps and this too shall pass. It is so hard not to sleep and so important for healing. Pain meds, soothing tea, sleep aid, Zzzzzzzz.
I have only had a manicure a few times in my life. My nails have ridges that drive me nutso. I keep them short. I make up for it with the money I spend on my hair. (Covering that gray!!)
Very keyed for tonight's football game. Michigan State vs. Ohio St. If we win it is roses for us. GO GREEN!!! -
Bailey and Cherrie, congrats on MSU's win! Who's going to Pasadena?? -
Trying to get tickets. I will know in two or three days. I can't afford this, but it may never happen again. My daughter and hubby will stay in LA with a BIL. So excited for my Spartans. -
cherrie.....that sounds like a fun New Year's!!!!! Hope you get some tickets and a place to crash.....go for it, I say!!!!!
Holy Crap, batman.....I have discovered there is waaaaay more feeling in my tummy than I thought. (ouch). Spent the weekend doing a First Aid/CPR course (ouch), and the instructor was great, but because of the reason for the class....really stressed the CPR component....(ouch)....it's like I did boot camp after being a couch potato.....(ouch).....I was thinking my knees would be sore (ouch).....but whoa nellie.....she had the CPR dummies scattered all around the area, and every so often she would say "crash" and we had to get to a dummy and start compressions....(ouch) 30/2....30/2.....30/2......over and over and over! Great class though!!!!!
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Sounds like a fun trip, Cherrie!
Nihahi....thanks for the weather........not! Glad you enjoyed (sort of) your CPR class.....you can recusitate (sp?) me the next time we go warp speed up an incline....... -
Nihahi, just keep doing those compressions. I keep the statistics for our area's sudden cardiac arrest survival, and last year we had fifty-two people discharged from the hospital and return to their families and friends because of CPR! Before we started really emphasizing the importance of plain old CPR, I think we had just two or three people discharged alive. But I have to say...your instructor sounds a little sadistic...or maybe it's just a new way to strengthen the abs?
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Morning everyone!
awww....sorry about the weather "gift"! Hope you all stay safe and warm. You've got to admit though, seeing the clips of the football players with helmets full of snow after being tackled IS kind of funny....don't ya think! Not to worry, it'll find it's way back here soon enough.
sbe...hope you get to nap in the tube....just such a neat experience!!!!!! Civilian CPR stats are pretty sobering, eh!
yep, that instructor was hard core, but she had been asked to be, and we all agreed to it (it was just RC Disaster recruits in the class). Hands down the best First Aid instructor I have ever had. She is an ex-Military Police, ex-California paramedic, ex-Colorado State Trouper and just to finish her resume, an ex-Colorado Prison Guard....also absolutely, tears in your eyes, hysterically funny.
Big wakeup call for me to stop babying my abs and get the ol' Pilates Ball out.....no more daydreaming on the treadmill. I kind of knew I was overdue for that mindset, when I was sore after skiing last weekend...denial is SUCH as lovely thing, eh! I didn't go so far as to flash my reason, but I did "opt out" of being a Heimlich victim....just didn't want to go there quite yet! -
my physio is working on my oblique and hip flexion. May be I should take a CPR class so I get to work on them for free... -
DHubs was laid off today along with others. Merry Christmas! -
Oh no Jeannie!!!!! I dont even know what to say, you have had so much going on and now this. My thougts and prayers are with you guys.
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CRAP. Plot twist for Jeannie and her DH, please -
Oh Jeannie. I am so sorry this is happening now. That sucks!! My thoughts are with you and hubby. ((((Hugs)))) -
crap jeannie.....just .....CRAP!!!!!! -
Jeannie, I'm so sorry. My heart just flopped to the floor for you. I wish there was something to say or do that would make it better.
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Sorry, Jeannie. Prayers for something good to come out of this, even though that is hard to imagine at this point. -
Jeannie - After all you guys have been through, you think the universe would be a little kinder. Damn universe. Hopefully the kindness comes soon, and until then you have us.
Tell your hubby that there are a bunch of women with new (newish, soon to be new) boobs who are sending him love. And to you too Jeannie. -
Jeannie, so sorry you are going through so much!
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oh Jeannie, I am so sorry you and DH are going through this. It's so difficult to do at rough times like these, but try to draw strength from the positive things you can be thankful for. I will be praying for you both. -
I'm so sorry Jeannie. Life is just not fair. Prayers go out for you two. -
jeannie..... others laid off too.....maybe you and hubby can "network" a bit, kind of a support group thing????...hope the weather is good enough for awhile so you and hubby can get out for walks.....fresh air can bring a whole lot of stress relief, at least that is what works for me.
tammyt....cute avatar...I admit, yesterday I couldn't figure out what it was...
cherrie....hope the shoulders sort themselves out....but, you have to make it a priority....you defo do not want to go the frozen shoulder route if you can avoid it!!!!! -
Nihahi- Ice on as we speak. It is my focus. Following PT instructions. The process takes one hour two times a day. ( 2 hours) and that does not include icing during the day. Holy moly!
Jeannie- We are here for you girl. -
Thanks, nihahi. The little patch on her left glove caught my heart. For all of us:
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cherrie...good on you, girl! I, for one, think you are totally worth XXXXX amount of time it takes in a day to get this sorted out. Remember.....if you run low on ice..........I'm just saying! Ask your daughter to have a couple bags of frozen peas waiting for you!
When you are travelling to VA....you can still ice in the car....you can buy little pouches, (about 6x6") that become icepacks when you activate them. No need to have ice melting on your shoulder in the car. They aren't reusable, so would be pricey for long term use, but are very effective and are certainly better than nothing. Maybe keep a pillow on your lap, and rest your arms on the pillow, so you don't have alot of drag on the shoulders while sitting. Above all.....don't stay in any position for hours at a time....move (gently and within pain free range)....ice....move.....ice.....You'll get there!!!!!!!! -
tammy ((((X))))....I'm guessing her shorts are from her "pre-tummy flap" wardrobe!!!! Those sure aren't like movie's compression squeezie!!! -
You are right nihahi, she is ready to become a flapper. Her caption: Life Is Worth Fighting for. -
Jeannie, you are in my thoughts and prayers! -
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Nihahi, you so crack me up. Thank you for all the friendship, support, encouragement, information, and love that you've shared. I so hope we get to meet someday soon, along with the rest of our dear flappers!
Tammy, I thought the figurine had ALREADY had her flap, what with the tight tummy and the patched-together glove. I look great and I'm happy with my results, but it's true, I look pretty frankenboobish and patched-together myself! -
Jeannie I haven't read enough to catch up but the gist tells me you got another plot twist. Prayers in general......Will be more specific as soon as I read more k? Love you.
I have a lifelong girlfriend who was dx the year after me. So she is 1.5 years from initial dx. They saw some spots on her last scan that were very concerning. She called me last night and she has mets to her lung and a vertebrae. The spine mets is causing her a lot of pain. My heart is broken. I was so hopeful we would both come through our scans last week with good news. It is hard to be joyful about your own good news when those you care for so deeply (like her and all of you) are hurting. Sigh. Hugs all around. Happy and sad at the same time.
We will get by, by and by.
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bailey.....such hard news to hear and to share. Certainly news none of us ever want to hear. How hard indeed, to be so happy and relieved for yourself, while your heart is breaking for your friend. But, you HAVE the right to be happy for yourself, so don't discount the need to be so. Certainly, the "significant spin" for your friend, is that she has YOU as her friend. Sending prayers that they are able to minimize her pain quickly and get her mets stabilized. And.....hugs for you.....that this does not become a bigger burden than you can bear, yourself. -
Nihahi...re: Movie's squeezes......OMG, NO!!!!! I am in the vise from HADES........
Bailey. So very sorry to hear about your dear friend.......there is no rhyme or reason, is there? Sending you love, and pass some on to her.......
Jeannie.......think about you a lot, every day.......just know I am here, and you have my #.
So thankful every day for you women.......and the strength I take from you......so wonderful to win lottery so we could all meet together........
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Bailey- So sorry to hear that about your friend, this stupid cancer stuff can be so random! Hugs to you and prayers for your friend.
Movie & SBE- How is the pain ladies? Im starting to ge nervous about my stage two, not looking forward to recoverying again!
Goldie- How are you doing?
I am seeing a PT on Thursday for my frozen shoulder. The steroid shot he gave me helped a lot and I have been icing it also. I never realized how much recoverying from cancer would take from me, I was just worried about making it through treatment.
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Bailey- I am at a loss of words. It takes so much energy just to recover ourselves. Your friend is fortunate to have you by her side. I am so sorry.
Sweet- There are so many of us with shoulder issues. I had not heard that from posts before my DIEP. We will just have to share what works. Mine is not frozen, but must keep it moving. A lot of pain. -
Bailey, I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. Love and prayers for you both. -
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Bailey, I am joyful for your good news and sorry for the news about your friend. Prayers for both of you. (((Hugs))) -
Jeannie- Thinking of you. Something good has to come out of this, but it stinks in the meantime. Just know you have a lot of support and prayers coming your way. -
Nihahi - Thanks for the wake-up call about 'babying the abs'. I realized that I've been doing the same thing. At six months I've been acting as though I'm still in recovery, and I've clung to MartyJ's wisdom of 'Being gentle with yourself'. She was absolutely correct about that, and I credit gentleness with my good healing from the inside out. But - I was at yoga last week and I still go from sitting to lying down by rolling to my side. No ab muscles - and I'm acting like a big slug. So I've started back at gentle Pilates so I can strengthen my core again. My tummy is flat (Thanks DIEP) and it's funny that I look so fit when I'm actually the least fit I've ever been. For the first time - I look fabulous in m workout pants, but I can barely do a thing. Time to stop being a baby.
By the way, what exactly is a frozen shoulder? My LE shoulder has started to ache. I noticed it when I tried to reach behind me while I was in the car. Ouch. Have noticed a dull stabbing ache ever since.
Bailey - I'm so sorry to hear about your friend
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Too funny - do be gentle with yourself after the Stage 1 - give yourself at least 3 - 4 months to heal inside and out. Then happy abs, but know they will resist you. Go slowly and build by using all of the core muscles (i.e. crunches generally do not work the entire core). But do take into consideration that after your revisions, you may need to baby yourself for a while. For me, I have not worked out for at least 8 weeks after to allow for healing inside and out. Of course, since each revision is 16 weeks apart, I have the oddest workout schedule. 8 weeks on, 8 weeks off. Getting a bit old now. -
Ok, I will agree with you sbe, my avatar IS a flapper with her tight tummy and her loose fitting pre-flap shorts. Now she needs to exercise her muscles, get new bras and new work out shorts…
I've been active since my ab-incision was completely closed (about 3 month post op), but my lower ab muscles were still "asleep" 4 weeks ago. They have caused me knee pain/back pains and a groin muscle pull. I went to a sports PT session on November 11. The therapist did deep tissue massage on and around my tummy incision and belly button and she did electrical muscle stimulation and she also has me doing muscle strengthening exercises. After 4 weeks, my tummy does not feel like it’s stuck to the muscle anymore and my lower ab muscles are much stronger. It does not take much to get hurt when some of your muscles are asleep and the others trying to pick up the slack. My groin muscle pull and knee pain happened when I was slow jogging. A good sports physical therapist can make a huge difference in our journey to get back in shape. -
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I'll have to scoot out and get a photo, I guess. It is a big variable, because of our winds. In some places it's almost bare ground, in others, it's 3 foot drifts. It's chinooking this morning....the snow will be dissolving in front of my eyes!!! woohoo!!!!!!!! -
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5 days of shoulder exercising, icing, and two days now alternating Tylenol and Advil ( thanks Nihahi) I am doing better. Today is the best I have been in 6 weeks. It is my focus it get rid of pain and inflammation, then on to more strengthening exercises. Thanks for everyone's input. -
Sounds great, cherrie!!!! Your plan sounds spot on......take it slow, but gosh, it's so good to hear you are feeling better!!!!!!
It is chinooking here today (temp is now up to 0!!!!!) I snapped a few pics of the chinook arch on my phone to show you guys....not the greatest pics, but gives you an idea of how it stretches from one end of the horizon to the other. Always a welcome site around here in the winter!
The parts of the roads that have snow on them, now feels like you are driving through a mound of sugar.....grainy, thick piles of it. In fact, when the dirt and gravel they spread on the roads gets mixed into it.....we call it "brown sugar snow". -
Tammy, that is so interesting about the muscles being asleep. I am 12 weeks out from surgery, but when I do crunches, my abs feel really weird and different. I have this weird pulling and tenderness right across the waistline kinda in line with my navel. Haven't been able to figure out why I would have such ab tenderness if they didn't do anything to the muscles. I have begun doing more planks and core type exercises hoping to engage them properly. -
Even if you had a Diep....your ab muscles were definitely part of your surgery. They separate the tummy skin and fat at the fascia level on the surface of the muscle. Then, they "tease out" the vein and artery from between the muscle fibers by pulling the fibres apart. Then, they loosen the skin and fat above and below the tummy donor site, so they can pull it over the "gap", so that tissue has to "reconnect" to the fascia on the surface of the muscle. The only difference between a Diep and a Tram-free, is that the Diep separates muscle fibres, the Tram cuts out a bit of muscle with the blood vessels. -
hey guys, just read an interesting factoid........did you know that banging your head against a wall repeatedly for an hour can burn 150 calories???? (I will not divulge how I know this......) -
Once again, Nihahi, a beautiful, articulate explanation. Dang, there is such good information from this group. Thanks! -
Movie, I'm definitely going to try that...... -
we're all in this together, zenful! What helps one, helps many in my opinion.
movie....seriously!!!!! Cabin fever already!!!!!! How many hours left before "squeezie" becomes part of the "yule log" fire -
Nihahi- What is chinooking? I have never heard that term. -
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinook_wind
cherrie.....this link explains a Chinook pretty well. It has info and pictures and diagrams. It really is quite a dramatic weather event, that is a lifesaver after weather like we've had here recently....I think it keeps people sane! -
Sweet, I am glad to see you around. I never see you on the DIEP site. Glad I was taking a quick read through here, and saw you reached out. I am good. Had my exchange surgery last week with fat grafting. The lipo and grafting was the worst part. I swore I would never do it again, but now that pain is fading and I can see the results, well.....never say never. Heheheheeh. The verdict is still out on the foobs. I think there is some tweaking to be done. Will see PS tomorrow.
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Good morning, gloobsters! Nihahi, congrats on the Chinook; I hope it makes the weather more enjoyable there. The hot wind there may keep people sane but it makes people crazy here. Santa Ana winds are our hot winds, and they just make a mess. Trash cans blow over, power lines down, hard to keep my little Prius on the road. But it reminded me of a quote I came across a long time ago, from an 18th century theologian. I think it's still worth a read--
Rules Of Contentment
Allow ourselves to complain of nothing, not even the weather.
Never picture ourselves in any circumstances in which we are not.
Never compare our lot with that of another.
Never allow ourselves to wish that this or that had been otherwise.
Never dwell on the tomorrow; remember, that is God's and not ours.
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I LIKE THAT!!!! Thanks sbe!!! (EXCEPT...I reserve the right to complain about the weather)
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sbe - I LOVE the rules of contentment! By any chance, was E.B. Pusey from Florida? It's -11 C here this morning, and even my basset hound is grumbling about the cold.
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Finished one year of treatment! Woo Hoo!!!! -
sbe, I liked that quote so much I put it as my facebook status today. Thanks for sharing. -
Great quote!
Happy 1 year Bluebird. That is huge.
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Movie....once again you made me laugh out loud.....that is an excellent exercise...you are full of good advice
Congratulations on your year, Blue
Sorry you are in this "race" at all....but so glad you are here with us in this "room" Cherrie...yes the roads have been lousy all week! 8 days straight of snow!
Thanks for all of your kind words about about my friend. We will cope...for now we just cope. Hopefully next month we will paint her bedroom the color she has always wanted and make her a beautiful sanctuary. I know my recovery room has been a great comfort to me and everyone that comes in loves it. We (the girlfriends) are not always good about staying in touch, but we are hoping to make a commitment to dinner together on the second Sunday of the month, every month, to make sure we do better. The Second Sunday Club!
And, drum roll please......THING ONE GOT A FULL TUITION SCHOLARSHIP!!!!!! We got the letter today. Good news feels so darned good, doesn't it??? We are so proud of the boy....he has worked so hard!!!
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well...just jumped on to take a peek....
Bailey!!!!!! Such awesome, awesome news....brought tears to my eyes......so very happy for you, your family, and especially Thing One......what a tremendous accomplishment! Sometimes I think our cancer journey allows us to savor the sweet just a little more, because we have so much bitter.....this is a sweet victory ! You may not have to resort to bagging your head against a wall.....
Sbe.....you little cutie......makes me want to bring you home and set up DD's hamster maze.......
Blue......you are one tough cookie, and if I ever need someone to have my back, you, my friend, are it!
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Bailey, what a beautiful kindness, to paint her bedroom "her" color. And your news about the scholarship made me gasp. How WONDERFUL! Blessings overflowing! And yes, good news is so...good. Is Thing One on the top of the world? Of course he is. -
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He is THRILLED! The scholarship is for his school of choice and now he doesn't have to compete anywhere else. We will see if he can pick up anything else by way of scholarships to help with room, board and books, but the scholarship he got today is the bulk of it.....we can cash flow the rest for him if we have to. He will have his Eagle Scout Board of Review soon....he turns 18 next week...been on two dates with a new girl...yeah lol....he feels pretty good right now....world is his oyster.
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Bailey - Wonderful news about your son! What a spectacular time of his life, and yours. You must be so proud. Heck- I'm friggin' proud of him! Such happy & deserving news. -
Bailey- Oh my gosh that is wonderful news for your son! Big congrats to him and I can bet you are one proud momma!
Bluebird- Congrats on a year!
Nihahi- I remember the months of gray darkness when I lived in Iowa so I know how far a little sunshine and warmth can go towards helping your mental state.
Goldie- Glad to hear that you are starting to feel better. I have my stage two scheduled for January 15th. The cymbalta has helped with the pain and my anxiety which is great. I jave put on yet another tenpounds in a month though so Im kinda miserable about that, I look horrible rigt now, bleh.
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Bailey, that is wonderful news!!!
Definitely have him apply for every scholarship under the sun. There are many scholarship searches online. Just be sure it's a reputable one.
At my university, the really gifted students do very well financially. Some end up with so many scholarships that not only is room and board and books covered, but they end up with money left over.
Another trick is to play one university against another. Tell them he is considering other offers from other colleges. If they really want him sometimes they will jump to offer more. Usually it's for athletes, but not always.
What a wonderful way to end the year! Congratulations! You must be so proud!
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Bailey, it's so good to hear such happy news about your son! And what a dear friend you are.
Bluebird, congrats on completing treatment. A celebration is in order.
Sbel, love the photo. It reminds me of an enlarged tube you use at the drive-through pharmacy...whoosh!
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I GOT IT.....I kept thinking that sbe's tube reminded me of something (well, something besides a hamster containment unit).....IT'S LIKE A TIME CAPSULE.....OR BETTER YET.....A TIME TRAVEL CAPSULE!!!!!!
YEP, I bet you can travel through worm holes in that thing and visit alternate universes....of course, it might just be the O2 sats playing with your brain, but....sounds like fun, eh!!!!!!!
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jeannie, your avatar always brings a smile to my face. You have such a sweet and contagious smile. I am sure everyone you know would wish you to keep on smiling. Whatever you do, jeannie, don't try the first version of the "movie exercise," I tried it before my bridge last night and it didn't work. Now I see that the version 2 has changed from "banging" to "bagging." After she explains to us how to "bagging your head against a wall.....," I might try it before my next bridge game...
Congratulations Bailey and Blue. Happy time travel sbe.
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Bailey, that is such great news about your son. Sounds like his senior year is going to be a great one.
Jeannie, I'm thinking about you sista. You are in our hearts.
Sweet, I'm on that upward track too. However I know I'm eating more than I should. I just like the way it tastes!
Sbe, you are looking good!
Grand kids have their Christmas program at church tonight. My mom's family Christmas is tomorrow. It's starting to look a lot like Christmas...
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I love spending the day away from the computer and coming home to such joyful flappers! Sounds like everyone is doing well and having a great time. Yea for Thing One! Way to go! -
For mynorthern sisters.........lol........happy friday!
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sweet.....LOVE THE PIC.....I've actually seen 4 bears at once...but it was a momma grizzly with 3 cubs. Hope to always and only see them from inside a car!!! -
Hahahaha...great pic, Sweet. I believe those are grizzlies. I've seen several black bears while camping, and kept a very respectful distance. -
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I think they are adorable as long as there is a screen between me and them!
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Bailey- Your post brought a smile to my face. You sound so proud of your son as you should be. Also, your friend is so lucky to have this circle of love. She needs it.
Sweet- Love that picture and would love to see them from a distance.
Marty- thinking of you DIEP SISTER. Your time is almost here. Give Dr. Massey a big hug for me. I am going to Chicago at the end of April as she would like post pictures. I am happy to do that for her.
Nihahi-continuing with shoulder exercises and ice. Slacked today as I was at a funeral and had an evening out. My shoulder is better, but I still have work to do.
Jeannie-I think of you every day. (((Hugs)))
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bailey.....could you please send your cleaning crew to my place when you have your place sparkling!!!!! Laundry seems to accumulate in the dark, doesn't it. I mean, there is now just me and hubby......laundry still piles up, just like it used to. Thank the lord we don't have to take it down to the stream and beat it on a rock.
sweet....????? You've put on another 10 lbs, since tracking what you eat???? Are you eyeballing portion sizes or actually measuring them??? Have you tried the sites like Fitness Pal??? Something just isn't right....maybe it is med related....????? Don't give up....you CAN get things sorted out, and feel better.....I KNOW YOU CAN!!!!!!
cherrie.....hope you eventually got some zzzzzz's!!!!!! Hang in there with the shoulder stuff....you're realistically looking at weeks or months, not days....but progress is progress...stick with it!!!!
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thanks Nihahi. I forgot Advil and Tylenol yesterday as I was so busy. My shoulder was screaming. I can't keep taking this forever. I am faithfully doing exercises and icing, but have not been getting my steps in. It is time to get back to My Fitness Pal. I am 15-20 over what I should be and have gained 3-5 since DIEP. This is my year. I will be 60 next October and I want to feel and look good. I am barely 5'2" so any extra weight really shows up.
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aw cherrie....sorry to hear it wasn't a good "shoulder" day. I'm guessing if your shoulder is screaming at you, it's an issue of overusing it with whatever had you so busy. It takes soooo little really, to flare up a shoulder, it can be frustrating. If you are in tons of pain without one day of the meds, it also shows that you HAVE to make getting it sorted out a priority....It's a tough time of year to be looking after yourself, but, in reality.....what is so important that you SHOULD sacrifice your health? I doubt if anyone in your circle of family and friends would want you to put yourself in pain, to make a "Holiday" for them, or give them less to do in prep for your travels.... 2014 should definitely be YOUR year!!!! (try not to wait until then....start today!).
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I froze my foobs off today ladies! We marched in our towns christmas parade today and it was coooooolllld! My foobs are still cold to touch three hours later......weird!
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Oh my Cherrie, we are in a heatwave compared to you! We were in the low 50s yesterday but I left my coat in the car. In the shade it was colder. God bless you guys that got all that snow, I live in the south specifically to avoid that stuff! LOL
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Hahahaha....it's 73 degrees (Farenheit) and we're going for a trail bicycle ride in the full moon. Usually we're the only ones out there, so I may take off my jersey and let the girls breathe and enjoy the moonlight. After the DIEP, I no longer have to worry about running over one of them, or getting it caught in the chain ring. -
you guys are killing me!!!! However, I did do an 11k walk, on a crisp, sunny day......so BHHHLLLLLLEEEEEPPP TO YOU .
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Nihahi, I'm rooting for you! I hope nothing needs to be messed with tomorrow. I feel like you do every time I see a doc....what NOW?
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Great photo, Nihahi. Do I see rabbit tracks on the far right side? And yes...we'll be in your pockets for the derm appt. No pokes. No sticks. Nothing but good news.
Jeannie, at the middle of the ride, when we reached our destination and turned around, I pulled off my helmet and jersey and let the moonbeams shine on the girls. But I thought of road rash, too, so I suited back up for the ride home.
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Nihahi....I will be in your pocket for sure tomorrow......screw the poking and biopsy-ing......we've had enough, and we aren't gonna take it anymore!!!!! LOVE the pic!
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Hi Ladies.....HAPPY DANCE TIME!!!!!!!!! The dermatology appointment was a success!!!!! Thanks for all the positive vibes.
No biopsies, no stitches, no areas of concern....come back in a year!!!!!!
I celebrated by buying a new pair of winter hiking/walking boots....supposedly awesome against doing the "black ice dance"...!!!!!
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Nihahi.....Yay! For the results, AND your new boots........better get out there and put them to use RIGHT AWAY....surgery next month, right???? XO
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yay Nihahi! We went at the same time a few months ago. No biopsies for me either. My DH had a couple of spots on his head frozen. HAPPY DANCE for you.
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Thanks guys....hugs to all.
Yes, movie.....surgery next month....! Sorry about the lack of sunshine....I honestly don't know how you and jeannie stay sane.....oh.....wait.....that explains......(nevermind)!
cherrie....sorry about hubby's frozen head....better than a "cut and stitch" though, eh? Travel safely tomorrow!!!!!!! Are you abandoning us or will you be in touch occasionally???? I just can't WAIT to hear more "southern" weather reports...!
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Nihahi, my brother and daughter keep reporting that San Diego is 77F, 80F....
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Nihahi - you just need to plan a visit to my island. Sunny today, in the 60s.
Okay, whoever said that thigh lipo was no walk in the park was so right. Had outer thighs done to get fat to bring the boobs up a cup size. The boobs don't feel too bad, but the thighs - o m g! I am comfy on a soft chair or the couch or my bed, but a trip to the bathroom is agony. I also have saddlebags that weren't there before the surgery yesterday. I think they are just swollen.
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at first I wondered why my PS wasn't lipo-ing my thighs.....then I realized that there is(was)plenty of fat around my middle........
Marty, I am sorry you are hurting.......hope it passes quickly!
Nihahi, I resemble your comment about my sanity.....
Cherrie, have a wonderful time, but check in when you can, okay?
Jeannie, we're not crazy...........are we??????
Sbe.....I am afraid your description of your night-riding adventures has been seared into my brain.......
Did you know the average human brain is 80% water.......this explains a LOT about me........
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Yes, Movie! We are definitely crazzzzzzzy! I've seen my brain up close and personal on the MRI, didn't show all that water. But then, I'm far from NORMAL!!!
Marty, I'm sorry you're hurting so much. I hope you can just rest and let Christmas come to you.
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to quote bailey....you all are cyber loons!!!!!! And I love you all!
marty....ooohhhh hugs, hugs, hugs.....I very much like jeannie's suggestion....let Christmas come to you!!!! Sorry to hear about the pain.
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Hey friends! Marty - oooowwwwww.....I think I might be happy I have enough to give around the middle to avoid the thigh lipo so far. Wishing you relief. Hugs.
Jeannie - how are you and DH doing? THinking of you.
Nihahi....so glad you had a good appointment.
Sbel.....wow. Even though I didn't actually see it I kind of feel like "that which has been seen cannot be unseen". LOL! I was looking at the full moon last night and wishing I was outside with it.....but not NAKED lol
Maybe it's becuase it was like 5 or something here yesterday. Sweet - my noob stays cold a lot longer than my native on the right....I think it's because it has more fat in it than tissue. My heiney always stays cold a lot longer than the rest of my body too. I think it might have something to do with congealing??? (eeewwwwww).
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Bailey- My butt does the same now that I think about it......lol
Cherrie- Safe travels and have fun
Nihahi- High of 74 on Sunday. No white Christmas for us here.
Marty- So sorry you are in pain, I hope it passes soon. What island are you on? I love the coast and I am hoping to get out there this sumer for vacation.
Movie- How goes the healing? Happy with how things look?
Sbe- Are you still diving down enjoying those long naps? I hope your healing up well.
Hugs to all! I am getting nervous about my stage two but excited to be done done done!
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snowfall warning for today....snow coming down sideways.....temps heading to a predicted low of -26C. I DON"T CARE....I have NEW BOOTS, and the ski trails need snow....that's my story and I'm sticking to it
sweet....I'm getting nervous too, and mine will be a minor "stage"....we'll get through it together girl!
marty.....hoping Wilbur hangs out with for a couple days, and that the pain eases quickly....you are SUCH a trooper.
hugs to all, turning of the computer to get started with the day.
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Bailey, I was NOT naked. I was wearing socks and a helmet. LOL... and bike shorts, you silly girl. I've never cycled without my trusty padded shorts and I don't want to!
Nihahi, way to go at the derms! Whoo-hoo! Every time I have a "you're fine, see you in a few months" visit with my onc, I feel like someone's just said, "not guilty, you're free to go." Relief. Happiness. And new boots! How high are the heels? Do they come up to your thighs? Did they come with a whip?
Marty, hang in there. Since I am the constipationator, I have to ask if things are OK with the plumbing. Have you had a "moving day" since the surgery? Hmmm?
Finally, FINALLY, our summer weather has drifted off and it's cloudy and cool this morning. It feels ridiculous wearing Christmas sweaters when it's 80 degrees outside.
For Monday's hyperbaric treatment, I chose "Kill Bill 2" for my entertainment. What an idiot. I'd seen the movie before, and I liked the quirky characters and writing, but I'd forgotten about the scene where the bad guy (they're all bad guys, really) traps Uma Therman's character in a casket. And there I was, stuck in a big Plexiglass coke can. I had to close my eyes. For yesterday's dive, I laughed through "50 first dates." Charming.
Gotta get to work! Have a wonderful Hump Day, ladies!
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Well now HERE's a topic we haven't chatted about before........
Background info relevant to the following saga.....I am a dual citizen (US and Canada), so I file tax returns for both US and Canada every year).
I got a letter today, from the IRS. The letter states that they received my 2012 US Tax Return (goodie....I mailed it lightyears ago)....but much to their regret, their information from the Social Security Administration indicates that I became deceased (ARE YOU F**KING KIDDING ME!) prior to the tax year, so they cannot process the return, and have frozen my tax account.
SERIOUSLY!!!!!! I NOW HAVE TO JUMP THROUGH HOW MANY HOOPS TO GET WRITTEN CONFIRMATION THAT I AM IN FACT STILL ALIVE, SO I CAN PAY MY TAXES!!!!! I AM NOT AMUSED!!!!!!!!!!
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Nihahi...I have wet shoes, I'm laughing so hard... I've read about stuff like this happening but not to anyone I know! But seriously, girl, the IRS knows EVERYTHING, so you might want to check your pulse.
I was born in Okinawa, which was not then but is currently Japan, and I've thought about applying for dual citizenship. You just made up my mind for me.
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sbe......trust me......I AM NOT LAUGHING!!!!!! But, I can understand why everyone else would....I mean come on....SERIOUSLY.....I'M DEAD, AND AM TRYING TO PAY MY TAXES?????
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Nihahi, that is too funny. Good luck as I am sure this may take a bit of time to sort out. I am sure we would all be delighted to affirm that you are currently alive.
SBE - no drops in the bucket yet. But then, this evening was the first time that I could actually sit on the potty. I have been hydrating and taking my colace, but now I can add apples, magnesium and prunes to the mix. I actually went in to surgery with a pretty clear track and haven't been eating lots (saltines are currently a favorite). I don't even feel bloated. I'll keep you posted.
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oh marty.....I'm thinking it may take a march on washington......anyone want to join me???? You sound better....hope the healing continues.
dang, I hope my PS will still be willing to do a stage 2 on a deceased person.....any thoughts.
My friend just had a good thought.....Since apparently I am dead.....why are they sending me a letter???? Trust me, the Canadian postal system isn't "THAT" good.
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nihahi- oh boy, that sounds like a nightmare to sort out! So since you are "dead" hows life on the other side? Are there twinkies? Seriously though, I hooe you are able to get that sorted quickly. All those letters are automated, you just need to reach a human.
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Marty, I hope it won't be too long before you can "drop the kids at the pool"..........
Nihahi.....see post on DIEP thread......seriously. I mean it!
Sbe.......I have heard Depends will solve that "wet shoe" problem.....
Sweet....too funny....thinking of Twinkies.......and FYI, the IRS are anything BUT human.....really.
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lol.....so true Movie
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I am in a hotel in PA at the present time. Came to this thread and found out that Nihahi is dead and needs to pay taxes, Marty hurts like hell, Katy watches Kill Bill in the tube, Movie is thinking of twinkles, and I can't wait to see my granddaughter tomorrow. My daughter said that the temp will be 60 tomorrow and climbing to 75 over the weekend. I just left 8" of snow. Yayyyyyyyy!!!!!
Bailey, thinking of you!!!!!
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ooohhhh cherrie.....it's just not safe to leave this group of ladies unattended!!!!! What part of Pennsy are you in?
ok....I have to tell you ladies. Searching for yourself on a list of dead people is soooooooo freaky!!!! Ok, so....now what.....the IRS says I'm dead, the SSI doesn't have me on their "list of the dearly departed"!
hmmmmm.....Maybe "Moving on" isn't the best name for this thread....??????
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sweet......haven't spotted twinkies yet, but the buildings are made of TimTam's and the trees are made of potato chips!
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Nihahi, the social security death index takes a little while to get dead people listed--many months, at least. Does the IRS say WHEN you died?
Marty, hoping for the best. I'm glad you're not uncomfortable. My PS thinks of everything--he advises me to drink a bottle of mag citrate the day before each surgery, so I can be empty pre-op and not have to deal with a plumbing blockade right off the bat.
Cherrie, enjoy your time in Pennsy! The snow will be there when you get back!
Movie, we had very different nipple procedures. I have just a stickey-outey, pea-shaped lump on my noob, no areola. The PS says he'll tattoo the areola later when everything's settled in. No special dressings or healing techniques, just a high-beam on righty and nothing yet on lefty.
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well sbe....according to the letter I got today, I passed away sometime before 2012....little sketchy on the details of my demise!!!!! I tell you, searching for myself on the "list" completely grossed me out!!!!!
Today I fired off emails. Tomorrow, I'm trying to get through by phone...the closest SSI office is in Great Falls Montana!!!!!My brother in Jamestown, is going to try to talk to someone, face to face for me, to see what can be done.....I am dreading what hidden implications this all may have.
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Made it to Virginia. My granddaughter was squealing with excitement to see us. It was 63 here today and even warmer tomorrow. This is unusual, but I will take it. YAHOO!!!!!
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Cherrie, glad you made it safely! enjoy your holiday, and walk when you can I am back on the treadmill, and have managed to get up to my 10,000 goal, but I am not allowed to sweat or get my heart rate up just yet......to close to the last surgery.....but if I sit still, I go crazy!
Nihahi, are you still dead? Please rectify before next summer....we have hiking to do, girl!
Sbe.....I am so excited about my new nips, that if Jerry doesn't go, I may accompany you on a nighttime ride sans shirt myself! I didn't take a bike ride (too cold) but I am sitting here at the computer typing shirtless.....
Well, I have to slip back into my compression and put on the nursing pads with the holes cut into the middles under my bra...very tired tonight, for some reason.....
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movie.....I bet it's a very happy "tired"....maybe it's from all the emotion of the day....I'm am beyond happy for you.
cherrie.....I can just imagine the look on your GD's face when she saw you....beautiful image. Glad you made it safe and sound.
I'm getting closer to "being alive".....talked to a very nice person in Great Falls this morning....I had her quite stumped for awhile as to how to deal with the whole "IRS thinks I'm dead" thing, but we're making progress!
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Nihahi- glad that you are making progress!
I saw my plastic surgeon yesterday for my preop and he will be doing a little lipo on my dogears and my sideboobs along with a tuck and lift. He will also be revising my tummy scar and taking out the scar tissue. No nips for me yet, that will be a surgery later on down the road. Looks like I am moving closer and closer to being done, yay!
Also,my PCP put me on an appetite supressant for a few weeks to help me jump start my diet. So far its working great and I feel better than I have in years! If only I could feel like this all the time! Enjoying the restored sex drive while it lasts......lol
Hope everyone is having a happy Friday!
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sweet....gosh, that GP seems like such an understanding supportive doc....so glad you found him. Love hearing how much better EVERYTHING is . I'm sorry, I've forgotten when your next surgery is??? Maybe you and I will be doing nips at the same time...I'm in the "at a later date" category too.
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wait, wait! Sweet - an appetite suppressant upped your sex drive? What are you taking?
Well after sending DH to get mag citrate on Wednesday, he came home without. Seems he thought it was in with supplements not laxatives, couldn't find it. Back to target today. Chugged a bottle this afternoon. Small action, but still waiting for more. Ah, the fun of the days following surgery. Otherwise I am well!
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omg marty.....why is it men refuse to ASK if they can't find something, get lost, etc, etc. etc.!!! It's like they are genetically challenged by the "just ask" gene... hope things get moving soon.
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I am bummed....my muffin top seems to be coming back, 2 months post-stage II! I haven't gained weight, am watching my diet even more carefully and have been doing the elliptical/walking when I can, which hasn't been every day. WT?? Cortisol collecting from all my stress??
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jeannie....what the "h" is going on?? You could be right on the stress.....it's a really sneaky bugger.
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nihahi- He is awesome and really takes the time to listen to me and find solutions to help me. My next surgery is January 15th.
Marty- I know right? lol Last thing I expected but grateful while it lasts. Im on Apidex which is a generic. An unfortunate side effect is insomnia, Im onky sleeping in two to three hour chunks. Hope things get "moving" for you soon.
Jeannie- So sorry, could it be the skin loosening up? That happened to me below my tummy scar and PS is going to tigten it up in next surgery.
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I'm 4 years out from last surgery and I have moved on
Ladies, we've formed a Pink Dragonboat team here in Sarasota Fl (all in boat must be BC survivors ) and will compete in the World Pink Dragonboat Championship here in October 2014. So far 98 teams (22 people + drummer and steerer ) will be coming from all over the world to compete. This is the 1st time to be held in the US..
Loving the sport and the Sisterhood, if your interested in forming a team I'll post link:)
Paddles Up!
Marcia!
For more info..
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movement accomplished! Just took longer than planned. All is well.
Marcia - my goal is to get out and learn to paddle this spring with the charleston group. My doc sponsors a community team at the races here in May. Can't wait!
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I would love to join a dragon boat crew here in Portland Oregon.......I do believe there is one of BC survivors.....but I don't know the first thing about rowing.......probably should take a class.......
Marty, glad you are getting back to normal....nothing worse than that hiccup.......
Jeannie, maybe some swelling? Maybe try putting the compression back on for a while and see if you notice a difference.....
Love to all....
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If you have a dragon boat, they most likely are giving free training to BC survivors as that is their primary mission. They should have a website with all of the details.
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What are people's family traditions/meals at Christmas?
I grew up in a strong Swedish heritage on my Mother's side. Christmas Eve was the big "family" gathering/big meal. I've always tried to carry on some of the traditions with my family, since hubby's family didn't really have any set traditions. So Christmas Eve dinner is sil (pickled herring), smoked salmon, baked ham, lingonberries sauce (like cranberries only smaller), and of course meatballs. Throw in the normal things like potatoes and veggies...it's a real feast. Dessert is fruit soup and peppakakor...(really thin ginger cookies). We used to make korv (homemade meat/potato sausage), but that's a real production, so don't do that anymore. When I was little, Christmas Eve was at Grandma's farmhouse, and everything was cooked on a woodstove. The tree wasn't seen until after dinner (parlour doors were kept shut). One of the adults must have snuck in while the kids were kept busy elsewhere and lit the candles on the tree (yup....real candles), then the doors were opened and there it was! Candles, straw ornaments, and cookies hanging on red ribbons. Everyone got one present....then we all piled into cars and had to go to midnight church services, which was agony, because it was all in Swedish, but the neat thing was everyone held a candle, and at the end of the service, the lights were turned out, and the candles were lit, and everyone left the church carrying a candle to light the way. It was soooo neat, when you were old enough to have your OWN candle!
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wow Nahahi, that sounds amazing! How did they keep the tree from catching fire My family was split since my parents divorced when I was three but my moms family usually got together christmas eve for dinner. My grandma always made rum balls which were yummy! My dads family had a big family dinner and then midnight mass, they are a large group so it was qute the party. There were two traditional gifts exchanged over a sixty year time frame, a lump of coal and a gold brick. The lump of coal started out big and would get wrapped in crazy ways, it was funny watching people trying to open it. The gold brick was started sometime in the seventies and usually was ttached to something funny like yard flamingos etc. The only tradition that I stayed with was lots of baking and food and inviting anyone who didnt have a place to go over.
I should start the coal up again, my kids are old enough now to find it funny.
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Nihahi Sounds magical.
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Nihahi, I agree with Marty that it sounds wonderfully magical. When growing up, my parents would always take us out on Christmas Eve to drive around looking at the Christmas lights in other neighborhoods. Sometimes Santa would have visited while we were gone with presents magically under the tree when we arrived home. With my children, we morphed that lovely Christmas tradition into something different. We would pack all five kids in the car on Christmas Eve to look at the Christmas lights, but we called it "Griswolding", looking for the houses with the most lights (including lights on the roof), and lots and lots of lawn ornaments. Years later, when the kids began having their own places, DH and it planted a really ugly plastic lit up snowman and candy cane on our daughter's lawn and duct taped it to a tree and plugged it into her beautifully decorated light display. It's there that the tradition began that "you have leave it up until Christmas is over". Thus began the Christmas Wars, full of pranks, knowing that the retaliation may be much worse. Over the years we have been surprised with an 8-foot blow up Winnie the Pooh in our front yard (with the ugly candy cane Santa duct taped high in our large maple tree with a spotlight on it), an upside down fully decorated Christmas tree in our living room, and a door-size picture of The Grinch with DH's picture graphically blended into the face. All of these are surprise attacks. We are all getting a little older and the kids are spread across the country so we have all reverted back to enjoying our traditional decorations with no sabotage involved, but, oh, great memories!
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zen......that sounds hilarious!!!! I can just imagine the fun everyone had planning and carrying out the "prank of the season"!
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Nihahi, your traditions sound lovely. We have friends who light candles on their tree but they aren't Swedish. It always freaked us out!
Zenful, that sounds like so much fun! What great memories. We took the kids to see Christmas lights, too. Now we go look at them ourselves. There is a neighborhood called Candy Cane Lane in Seattle that is amazing. When the kids were small we always had a birthday cake for Jesus, just as a reminder of who the holiday is about.
Off to church!
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Found this for martyj,
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Merry Christmas from our house to yours!!! Snickers
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Ouch!
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Tammy, if that's your idea of home decor.....yowzer
kat-ski.....OMG, snickers is sooooo sweet!
Currently a windchill of -26, but supposed to chinook overnight, so I'm going snowshoeing tomorrow, I figure, if I'm "half dead anyway", what's a little cold weather, eh?....YES...BYE BYE CABIN FEVER!!!!!
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What a cute puppy! And an ouchie couch!
Have fun, Nihahi!
We are having drippy but mild weather. I feel so fortunate.
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A Merry Aubrey Christmas!
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So adorable!
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What a sweet heart that Aubrey is! And Snickers, too.
Wishing each of you ladies a very Merry Christmas and Happy 2014! Love you all. ...Julie
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All the cuteness on here! Babies and puppies, oh my!
Thanks for sharing the Christmas memories. Nihahi, that was beautiful. I used to love those candle-lit Christmas Eve ceremonies.
And anyone who is into funny Christmas gifts, I gave this to my best friend who is a caffeine addict. The expressions on everyone's face at the party
was hysterical!
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Too funny, Bluebird! Do you still take the mushroom capsules? I feel like my immune system is not where it should be.
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I do. I swear by them. Only buy American organically grown. Maitake and Turkey Tail are the ones I take and are well documented with breast cancer research, but there is an all around immune system called Host Defense MyCommunity. I may switch to this one as an all around immune stimulating supplement.
http://www.fungi.com/product-detail/product/host-d...
I usually buy my Fungi Perfecti capsules on Amazon.
Now if they only made an anti-lazy supplement! It has been cold and rainy here all day and I am being totally lazy.
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My little Christmas pup, Tanner. Merry Christmas!!!
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awwww too cute!
How are you and hubby holding up Jeanie?
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Here is my fur baby with his blankie.
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I just love all these photos.....such wonderful "snapshots" into our lives. I mean, come on.....who could possibly NOT feel warm and fuzzy at photos of Aubrey and sweet little doggies.
bluebird...that shower coffee dispenser is THE FUNNIEST THING I HAVE SEEN IN A LONG TIME.....WHAT A HOOT!!!!!!
bailey.......you doing ok????
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Sweet, hubs and I are hanging in there, he better than me. I am blessed to be married to an optimistic, positive man. Our DD and DSIL have been staying with us for about a week, so that has helped a lot. My DD and I are close. Your dog looks sweet with his blankie!
Nihahi, I'm glad you were able to enjoy the snow and fresh air. ⛄ It was raining here so I settled for the elliptical. We just had some great clam chowder on the waterfront in our little town.
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Jeannie- glad that you have your family close right now. Dave and I lost our business and our house back in 2008. We were going to be homeless until my dad let me move into nis mou tain home until we got back on our feet. It sucked but we grew closer as a family and now things are going great. Hang in there!
Nihahi- So true, a gorgeous baby girl and adorable fur babies always make me smile!
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Thanks, Sweet. Things could be worse for us, for sure.
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I meant that in a positive sense!
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Jeannie, you're in our thoughts and prayers frequently. I'm so glad you can laugh and enjoy the presence of family!
Love, love, love the photos.
Today was a Monday that felt like a Saturday. We hit all the shopping needed and although Costco was crazy busy, everyone seemed to be in a holiday spirit. We had a night ride yesterday and a sunshine ride this morning. Such blessings! A couple of bobcats and a bear would have made everything more memorable, though...
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sbelizabeth - Is it my imagination, or is Aubrey starting to look like you?! Same shaped face, and expression as in some of your pictures.
The dogs are pretty cute too. Tanner sure is a well-dressed, and well-groomed young man.
Jeannie - I'm so glad that you're hanging in there, and that you've got family around right now. You are often in my thoughts and expect that if there is such a thing as karma (I think there is) you will get back the kindness, thoughtfulness, and generosity of spirit that you've been showing us for so long.
Janet
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For your next ride, sbe.
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Janet, I'm bad at seeing family resemblance in my own family, but others have said Aubrey looks a little like me, and if so, God honored me in a big way! I know it's because she's my grandbaby, but I think she's the most beautiful, sweetest baby on the planet.
Tammy...on my next ride I will be happy to think about a nice gold star with Chinese characters beneath it...! I googled "qzone" and it's a Chinese social networking site, so I bet you'd found a post about cycling, and I appreciate your thinking of me.
So this morning I woke up early, took the dogs outside and fed them, and let the hubs sleep. I'm a giver.
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The hubs just stumbled downstairs. He doesn't drink coffee anymore, so I can't pour him a cup. His new favorite morning drink? Hot water with a spoonful of Manuka honey, so I made him his "Manuka tea"!
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Hi dear ladies......just dropping by to say again that I wish a Very Merry Christmas (or Holiday) to you all......I have loved looking at all the pictures......don't have any of my own to post.....good friend has been taking some time.....which is okay....
Just want you all to know I think of you ALL, each and every day, and wish nothing but good things, and happiness, and GOOD HEALTH for 2014. You women have become very dear to me, and you are the source of whatever strength I may possess.
God Bless each of you.......XO
Jackie
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I could never go back and read all the pages I've missed in the last three days, but I want to wish you all a very Merry Christmas! Enjoy your families and your blessings. You all are never far from my thoughts, but my granddaughter is getting my time right now. Love you all.
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Yes, my heart is full of love and gratitude for all of you! Thank you for sharing your wisdom, experience, humor and encouragement. (Janet, your blog cracked me up today, especially since the PS nurse said I should outline the pinkish area on my boob. Maybe I'll just draw nipples instead!)
I'm so thankful to have met some NW ladies, including Movie, and Cherrie and her hubs. Maybe circumstances will allow more of us to meet this year. We share such a bond already!
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I'll have to read later.....about to get busy with Christmas Eve dinner stuff. Just wanted to wish one and all a Merry Christmas, full of light, love and happiness
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Doing a flyby posting so please forgive me if I missed anything. Wishing all of you amazing ladies a very happy holiday and you are all in my prayers. I am beyond grateful to have the opportunity to "know" you all. Thank you for your wisdom, strength, and hope! Blessings to all!!!
Heather
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To all my gloob sisters
Merry Christmas! Happy and Healthy New Year!
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Good Christmas morning, friends. I have a confession....I am always the first one up on Christmas morning......I have always had to wake Thing 1 and Thing 2 up to open presents. We have never hyped the present thing (although they get plenty lol) so I think they are just as happy for a "sleep-in day".
I am doing ok, Nihahi, thanks for asking. Pain was at a tolerable level much of the day yesterday.
Love the pictures, thanks for sharing
Merry Christmas, friends. Love and peace to you all.
Sheila
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Merry Christmas Sheila! My kids woke us up at 5:30am. After thirteen years of marriage, dh finally got me my most coveted gift.......
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Love and hugs to all this morning! Have a beautiful day, filled with family and friends and wonder. Katy
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ohhhhh sweet.....I have visions of culinary creations....we'll need photos of course!!!! But don't you be sampling the goodies too much!
I hope everyone had a wonderful, happy, peaceful, grateful, love filled Christmas. Ours was the best in YEARS!!!!!! Our son seems to finally be keeping his feet on a "good path", and seeing him happy and healthier and wanting to "connect" with us in positive ways could not have been a better gift for us. Our daughter seemed so much more "interactive" with everyone too....it was just a great time for us all.
My best gift was the "realization" of how far this year has taken me.....how much I truly appreciate the "fandango" of recon, and how excited I am to see what the coming year brings. Thanks to you all for giving me the gift of your understanding, your support and your laughter.
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Nihahi- So happy for you and your family! I will definately have to be careful now that baking will be easier with this bad boy! I did find a great receipe for homemade wheatbread though, thats healthy.
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Nihahi, so happy for you! As moms, we want our kids to grow up, be happy and take care of themselves. A good relationship with them is the most important thing. We had a different but nice Christmas. None of us had any money to spend, really, so we did different things. My middle daughter and her husband gave us "boxes of love." The boxes contained little slips of paper that we read out loud. There were words of praise and thanks for us, for memories, for different things. It was so meaningful and funny, too. We had a great day. There was room in my brain to think of the first Christmas instead of all the things I had to do.
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Jeannie, that sounds like a wonderful Christmas. After all, it's not really about the gifts. I agree with Nihahi, this BC thing has really made me "wake up" and learn to be in the moment. Whether it is a passing conversation with someone, walking in the freshly fallen snow, or spending time with loved ones. Each moment is more special, and I am no longer hurrying through life, anxious for the next moment, just enjoying each one now. As strange as it sounds, BC has given me a gift. Weird, huh?
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Sounds like a great Christmas Nihahi and Jeannie. It was different without my son, but we are having a great time. Spending time with family is a present in itself.
Zenful- I think being in the moment has become easier since BC. Knowing there are no guarantees and I am not a young spring chicken, I have slowed down and take more time to smell the roses. (Go Michigan State) couldn't resist. I am babysitting Granddaughter as my daughter goes to the Rose Bowl next week. Hmmmmm!!!
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Cherrie, I can think of only one thing that would come before seeing your team play the Rose Bowl...and that's your granddaughter. And you get her all to yourself! Enjoy!
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For sure!! I am blessed. Thanks Zenful.
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Sounds like it was a Happy Christmas. Nahahi - Wonderful news about your son, that's a lovely gift indeed. And Jeannie - your boxes of love sound perfect. And so much more memorable than an electric carving knife or talking scarf (my aunt was wearing one at a party).
We had a bountiful Christmas but the real feeling of the season came beforehand - during the ice-storm. The city was so beautiful, with ice all over the trees. That also included a lot of downed power lines, and branches, so there were firetrucks racing around the city. Jim and I had a truckload of toys (he had a toy drive at work) and we wanted to drop them off at a firehall before we left the city. But the first firehall we went to was empty. And the second, and the third. And we realized that every single firetruck was out on duty. So we kept driving around in the snow at 5 kph until we finally found a firehall with people in it. Finally we found one with a light on, and the door was answered by a firefighter (super handsome). We unloaded all our toys, and then we went out to a diner for a giant pre-breakfast feeling like we'd had the best day ever.
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janet....that sounds like you were delivering the true "spirit" of Christmas!!!! It's an amazing feeling isn't it, to do something for others, without any thoughts of "what's in it for me". Glad you got around safely...it still sounds so difficult for some people in TO. At least it's knocked Rob Ford off his "10 minutes of fame" headlines!!!! (oops....hope you're not a fan of his).
I think there must be a recruiting rule for firemen....never, ever seen one that isn't gorgeous....both in looks and personality. Ok ...maybe a couple that weren't GQ look alikes, but their personalities and smiles made up for it!!!!!!!
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The warm weather enjoyed this week is coming to an end as Environment Canada has issued a flash freeze warning for Calgary.
A rapidly moving cold front is forecasted across Southern Alberta this evening and overnight. Frigid temperatures reaching a low of -18C with a wind chill of -30, strong winds gusting to 70 km/h and five centimetres of snow are expected.
Environment Canada warns that visibility will be, at times, near zero, especially in open areas and on major highways. The winds are expected to ease after midnight but the cold temperatures will remain throughout the weekend.
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Sounds like fun, eh!!!!! Isn't "FLASH FREEZING" something they do to veggies....NOT people!!!!!
I am making soup and digging out the mittens and touque again!!!Toronto.....we're sorry, really.....your ice storm came from Texas, not us!!!!! Heeeellllpppppp!
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Nihahi- oh my that is tooooooooocold! Pile on the blankets and long undies.
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it is pretty, but it just stays too long. Hunker down and stay warm.
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Hi to all of my Sisters(brothers too)! Christmas Day was just about right(except I tire too much)! My dinner was quaint but my daughter and hubby were here. Well, daughter brought her cat too. We had a lovely time visiting and I pulled my usual present prank with daughter!! That one goes back to Black Friday 2001 when she dragged me out of bed to shop! She received all of her presents that day so that Christmas Day was wrapped presents with pictures of what she already received!! Oh, Googled talked and watched grandsons open their presents in San Antonio. What more can I ask for?
The next one was with my other Dad, his health is deteriorating day to day now, and we had a blast. The kids are younger and it was the gleam in their eyes as they opened presents. This time will be remembered always. My other dad just wished to be here next year. He had his filet Mignon and gobbled down my mashed potatoes(which my other sister didn't think he would) and pigged out on the chocolate mousse!!
The reason I really came on here was to thank each and everyone of you for being here for me. It gets lonesome fighting this BC and I know you all understand that loneliness. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to all of you ladies that have come so far with your reconstruction!! And Happy New Year to those of us who look forward to next Christmas at this time!
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Nihahi -
I felt the spirit of Christmas for sure - and it had nothing to do with tinsel or presents. I'm feeling very very very grateful today for all that I have, and for all that is available to me.
Except that I'm not so grateful for our mayor. He's an areshole.
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yup....right there with you janet....on both topics!
Have a wonderful day.
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I put this on the other thread so you may have seen it. Just a warning from the CDC (Center for Disease Control) that cancer survivors should contact their docs at first sign of flu symptoms because we are forever at increased risk of complications and should start antivirals, not the nasal spray form. Oh, brother, it's always something. But better forewarned. I always get the flu shot but it doesn't offer 100% protection.
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Happy birthday, Jeannie! I hope it will be a great day for you. Love, Julie
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Happy Birthday Jeannie!
I wish you lived closer to me so I could bring you a bunch of flowers, and big plate of cupcakes. I hope for all good things to come your way in the next year.
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I guess I need to start a new thread called "Moving On...After the Nipple" cause it seems my uni-origami nipple has shrunk to almost nothing! Wonder what the PS will say or do? It definitely no longer matches my much larger natural nipple, which is always in high-beam headlight mode. Definitely disappointing!
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sharon....omg.....let us know what the PS says/does.....yikes! I was aware that the recon nipple shrinks...but to DISAPPEAR OVERNIGHT
jeannie.....happy birthday girl!!!! Enjoy the special dinner with the family!!!!!
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Wait... you got your nipple in Sept and it just now shrank? That's odd.
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Yes, bdavis. I got the nipple in September. First, it shrank the normal amount, but all of a sudden it went to a little bump! I don't get it! Going to go to the pic forum & check out others.
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Never heard that... very odd.
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I got my tattoo last week & put bacitracin & gauze on it for 4 days & it was still there. Maybe it went down the bathtub drain??? I am baffled!
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY JEANNIE!!!!!! Can you feel my birthday hug? (((((((Hug))))))
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Happy Birthday, dear Jeannie........I hope this next year brings you "bushelfulls" of many good things....Heaven knows you deserve it! XO Jackie
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So somehow the tattoo affected the nipple? Very interesting.
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Happy Happy Birthday to Jeannie!!!
Janet, you crack me up!
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Happy Birthday, dear Jeannie! I hope this next year brings buckets of healing, joy, and peace.
I've been off the grid for a few days. We're in Colorado with family. I'm keeping up with reading, just behind in saying hello. It SNOWED here last night. It was so beautiful, with the pines looking like they'd been dusted with sugar and the clouds low and cozy. I know you cold-weather girls are rolling your eyes, but this is like fairyland for me.
Happy Sunday, everyone!
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sbe.....I'm so glad you got some snow...I know how much you wanted it. Hope the mittens and borrowed coat are keeping you warm and toasty. Enjoy the family time!
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Thanks for all the birthday wishes! If I could, I would gather you all up and stretch my arms around you in a big hug! I have been spoiled, the Seahawks won, and now we are going out to dinner to Benihana's. I will celebrate being alive, my flat tummy, my new boobs and being loved. I am rich in blessings.
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Help. I wouldn't bother you all here, but my husband needs reassurance.
Okay, I have an important question for all ladies who ever suffered with iron bra before they had their diep. My husband and I are at our wits end with my situation as it is right now. I have suffered with iron bra since the day I woke up from my bmx with expanders back in April. I suggested to him that we might open the door to thinking about diep again since this new surgeon is very open to working on women with not a lot of body fat, and since I have gained some weight I could very well be a good candidate for him to do surgery. My husbands biggest fear is that the iron bra would not go away even with diep. I told him I had posted the question to the forum a long time ago, and the response I got was overwhelmingly "yes" my iron bra went away. Some of you didn't even realize it till I brought it up. I was hoping some of you might chime in again, and help us add a pro to our pro and con list.
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My only two resolutions for the coming year:
1. Make it as positive and healthy a year as I possible can....
2. Make each day a little bit more in the direction of "Moving On".
Will there be bumps in the road.....yep. That's life, right! But I figure if we got through 2013.....we can do just about anything!
There is a yoga "story" about the consequences of holding on to things. Villagers in India catch monkeys by putting rice inside of a heavy container, that has a hole just big enough for the monkey to reach into it with his hand. But when the monkey grabs the rice, his fist is too big to fit back out the opening. The monkeys that won't let go of the rice, are stuck, because even though it's unhealthy to do so, they just won't leave the rice behind. The monkeys that let go of the rice.....are able to scamper away to "enjoy another day".
The motto of the story........In order to move along in life, you have to learn when to "let go of the rice".
edited to change "trapped message" to more gentle words....to help janetm
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Love your monkey & the rice analogy, nihanii. And yes, there are bumps in the road throughout this journey. My last "bump" is that I lost my bump when my origami nipple flattened to nothing - ha! Sometimes we have to laugh to keep from crying!
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Nihahi - I like your two resolutions. I feel the same way. I must confess though - I only skimmed your story because seeing the word 'trapped' and 'monkey' in the same sentence hurt my heart. Still - I bet it was good one. And so I'm offering up my favourite story. It's quite well known and may have appeared on these boards at some point in some version. It's not about monkey's, but monks:
Two traveling monks reached a river where they met a young woman. Afraid of the current, she asked if they could carry her across. One of the monks hesitated, but the other quickly picked her up and onto his shoulders, carried her across the water, and set her down on the other side. She thanked him, and left.
As the monks continued on their way, the one monk was brooding and preoocupied. Finally he said, 'Brother, our spiritual training teaches us to avoid any contact with woman, but you picked her up and carried her'.
'Brother,' the second monk replied, 'I only carried her across the river. You've been carrying her all day.'
I love this story. My brain is my worst enemy for sure. The stuff that goes on there is almost always worse than the actual event - and that goes for everything from dinner with my in-laws, to DIEP.
Janet
PS I had a runs-ins with some very vicious monkey's in Thailand and I STILL can't read the story. (And I also encountered some very nice monks).
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Good morning, gloobsters! Since we're sharing inspirational stories, I have one too:
"As a bagpiper, I play many gigs. Recently I was asked by a funeral director to play at a graveside service for a homeless man. He had no family or friends, so the service was to be at a pauper's cemetery in the Nova Scotia back country.
As I was not familiar with the backwoods, I got lost and, being a typical man, I didn't stop for directions.
I finally arrived an hour late and saw the funeral guy had evidently gone and the hearse was nowhere in sight. There were only the diggers and crew left and they were eating lunch. I felt bad and apologized to the men for being late.
I went to the side of the grave and looked down and the vault lid was already in place. I didn't know what else to do, so I started to play.
The workers put down their lunches and began to gather around. I played out my heart and soul for this man with no family and friends. I played like I've never played before for this homeless man. And as I played "Amazing Grace", the workers began to weep. They wept, I wept, we all wept together. When I finished, I packed up my bagpipes and started for my car. Though my head was hung low, my heart was full.
As I opened the door to my car, I heard one of the workers say, "I never seen nothing like that before and I've been putting in septic tanks for twenty years."
Apparently I'm still lost....it's a man thing."
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And I'm back home in sunny SoCal after a lovely weekend in Colorado. We actually shoveled snow from my sister-in-law's driveway. Good times!
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sbe.......ROLLING ON THE FLOOR LAUGHING MY FACE OFF!
Here's one for you!
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Happy New Year to you all!! May 2014 be a happy, healthy, and healing year.
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Sbel, you crack me up! Maybe we can meet this year---west coast, sista!
Happy New Year to all my new sisters here! Here's to a cancer-free 2014!
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oops, Katy, NEXT year!
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Happy New Year from the depths of my Soul!! Kat
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Happy New Year!
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DIEP sisters-- I haven't been able to keep up with all the threads, but wanted to drop by a quick thanks for all the support this past year and for all the advice through my DIEP experience. Happy healthy new year to all!
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Started off the new year with a looooong walk with hubby. 2" of fresh powder snow fell last night, and today was blue skies and sunshine, with NO WIND, and decent temperatures. The best thing about the walk.....a bald eagle flew right overhead....yep.....it's going to be a good year!!!
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So jealous. We are gray, rainy, overcast which sends my dh to bed (traumatic arthritis in all joints). So I spent the first day of the new year working on our personal accounting - spending, etc. Too depressing. Tomorrow - a walk. Maybe I'll even see a birdie.
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Nahahi- That sounds so peaceful!
We had some friends and family over and played Trivia Pursuit. It was boys vs. girls and the girls won, yay! Also, my dh landed a great commercial contract out at the beach so our year is starting out awesome! Happy new year gals!
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Congratulations to Cherrie, Bailey and any other Michigan State fans on winning the Rose Bowl!
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I am thrilled. My daughter is there. GO GREEN!!! I am a proud alumni.
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Go Blue! I mean...Go Green! Yay Michigan!
We went to see "Philomena" this morning, and then went to our DS's house to make clam chowder. It feels a little silly making hearty, creamy soup when it's seventy degrees outside, but whatever.
Nihani, I envy your beautiful, snowy walk and your bald eagle.
HAPPY NEW YEAR! Here's to healthy, happy days!
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Happy New Year! I made broccoli and cheese quiche and potato latkes yesterday....with cinnamon rolls from local favorite breakfast place.....I am still full. Doing well. Will catch up later (it's one of my goals in the new year....to catch up here!)
Love to all.
Is Liefie back yet?
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Bailey, so nice to see you back!
Happy New year all! Trying to eat less move more this year but rads are still kicking my butt. Three weeks out and I could still sleep the day away! Wintery weather is moving in tonight so I'll have to spend the day getting the girls (chickens) ready.
Last day of 2013 I lost my beloved cockatiel after 25 years. She was part of my "original" family before I had kids. But she had a good long life.
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bailey.....that food sounds like true winter comfort food.....yum yum yum.
We had chinese takeout for New Years.....I totally pigged out.....and I still feel full.....I thought with Chinese food you were supposed to be hungry an hour later??? It's two days now, still full!!!!
hey bluebird......2014 is going to be a GOOD year....RIGHT!!!!!
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Yes it is! Now I'm jonesing for Chinese food and clam chowder.
Chinese New year of the horse is January 31st!
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Bluebird - so sorry for your loss. Cockatiels are such fun birds.
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Bluebird - I'm so sorry to hear about your bird. It seems so profound to part ways on the last day of a year, especially when that year has been so challenging. It must mean something, in a good way. And I'm glad she had a long and happy life. I hope you do too.
I'm so happy it's 2014. Last year was good, and I think this one will be even better. However, I have broken almost all my New Years resolutions. And I'm gaining weight. No mystery there though - I like to eat. (Coq au vin on the 31st, Indian take-out last night, and lots of snacks in between). I think I've been in denial. I'm so happy with my lovely flat stomach that I'm letting a round arse sneak up on me.
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I "pig out" when there is good Chinese food. I was in Atlanta last week and really over did it with both Chinese home cooking and the varieties in the Chinatown food court. Gained at least three pounds as evidence. Blue, 新年快乐！(Happy New Year!)
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I posted pics of my shrunken nipple on the pic forum. Let me know what you think.
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IMO... It is really really hard to match a recon nipple to the natural nipple. Right after the nipple was done, it was not huge. Mine was huge and shrunk a lot... so I think the amount it shrank may be normal. The timing is just interesting.
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Sunrise over the Gulf of Mexico
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Beautiful!
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Love your picture of sunrise bailey, makes me feel upbeat
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Bailey....Love it.....love you. Thanks for sharing that beautiful photo.
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Bailey, lovely! Wish I were there! Did you know there is a forum called A Place for Peaceful Contemplation where beautiful peaceful photos are posted?
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jeannie....that photo thread sounds like my kind of place..thanks for the info.
I've planned a snowshoe outing tomorrow....that'll fix things!!!!
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sigh.....oh the irony of life.....it's snowing too hard to go snowshoeing.!
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My goodness, Nihahi, I'm sorry! You really needed your outing today. Maybe the snowfall will ease up later and you can get out in some fresh, fluffy stuff.
Every morning since we moved to California from Denver, I ask my hubs, "did it snow last night?" Not once has he said YES!
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No, Jeannie, I didn't know. I will check it out and maybe make a contribution. Thx.
Nihahi - I am truly sorry your plans were cancelled what else brings you peace? I always say my garden is my church....in the winter I will spend time planning for the next spring when I need a fix.....drawing and finding plants on the internet, etc. Somehow the plans rarely make it to fruition, but it does calm me.
Do you draw or paint? Your photographs are always beautiful...maybe go through them and select a few to enlarge and have printed and framed???
Praying for busy hands (or feet) and peace on your heart and mind.
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for the peace in my mind, I will settle for the story of liefie's trip,
nihahi, it's very cold here too. We are to have -7 temp on Monday and lots of snow. sbe, want some of ours? I will send it by express.
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sbe and bailey {{{{{X}}}} to you....I'm good today (well, considering the snowshoe cancellation) ....nothing like "someone else's" difficult news" to make you realize you have such minor issues... One of my neighbours, the one I occasionally drive to chemo, has been told she is now terminal (Lung ca) with very short term expectations. Just spent some time with her this morning. Makes me feel like putting a paper bag over my head in humiliation for being stressed. But, has certainly put things in perspective....I might just suit up and go for a long walk in the snow..it's not that cold here, just lots of snow.....it's not the mountains, but nothing is more peaceful than a snowy day.
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Sorry about your neighbour, nihahi. Hope you have a peaceful walk.
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Nihahi, sorry to hear about your neighbor friend. It's wonderful that the neighbors are all there for each other.
Jeannie, I love that forum. I'm trapped inside with snow and little energy, so I can at least travel to other places visually!
Bailey, I also love reading about different plants and envisioning having them. I'm in the NJ Pinelands with acidic soil and too much shade so rarely do I attempt anything other than native plants or extremely hardy ones. But I love learning about them.
Tammy, do you celebrate Chinese New Year? I always joke that I am a reincarnated Asian. I do traditional Chinese brush painting and love Asian culture. I have more fun on Chinese New Year than regular New Years. Recently I got a Shiba Inu puppy and now I'm really into Japanese culture now. Being raised in a strict German/Irish Catholic family, my parents were always baffled of my interest in animals and Asian art. lol...
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Bluebird, is that your artwork? Lovely! My friend gave me watercolor paints because she thought I needed something to do. Painting is hard! I did manage to make her a primitive painting of her garden and, I have to admit, it was fun. She cried when I gave it to her, though.....I am so sorry about the loss of your old bird-pal. Do you have others?
Nihahi, so sorry about your neighbor. It does put things in perspective. A master gardener I know is in her last days from f-ing cancer. So sad. I just went to a master gardener lecture, first in a winter series, which gets us all excited to garden even though it's gray and mucky outside. A friend gave me today's ticket. Hoping for more generosity or a job for hubs so I can go to the others. Thinking about gardening makes me happy, like Bailey. I am not ready to give up my garden and hope I don't have to yet. You've managed it, though, so that gives me hope. I do have a lot of pictures of my plant babies to bring me joy!
We're celebrating our DD's 5th wedding anniversary tonight with a big family dinner. Tomorrow they go back to frigid Michigan. We've had such a great time together.
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Bluebird, that is beautiful. Sorry to hear of your loss. Bailey, your picture is very calming! Janet, I like too eat too much, too. Trying to cut out most sugar now that the new year is here and most of my excuses are over. Jeannie, I need to check out that forum! Nihahi, sorry to hear about your neighbor. It strikes a chord in each of us in a way it never did before BC.
Our furnace has been out since New Year's eve. So happy we didn't tear out the fireplace in our remodeling! That and a few strategically placed cube heaters have kept us warm. We found a replacement part on Ebay. Read through most of their information and found out they are 30 minutes away from us. We now have a repaired furnace and a spare replacement part. What a blessing! Also, to have a DH who can fix it.
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Blue!!! It's beautiful.....you are Asian at heart, I think!
Thing 2 just shaved and is walking around touching his face telling me (sarcastically) how beautiful he is.....lmao....he is so funny
Thing 1 is CAMPING this weekend......and it's below 0·F all weekend!!!
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Julie, you got that furnace fixed just in time!
Lahela, I hope you are soon feeling yourself again soon. Be patient with yourself. You have been through so much!
Bailey, holy moly!!!!!' Your boy is either brave or crazy!!!!
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Nihahi, the painting is beautiful. I have found that tapping into my artistic side gives me a very peaceful feeling. I think I would like to try water colors. On a sad note, I lost my brother to lung cancer last week. I hadn't talked to his family for a couple days (800 miles away) so I called and he died while I was on the phone. I literally called minutes before he passed. It is so very sad, but I feel like I was there with him. I am so thankful I made the trip to see him a few weeks ago to say my goodbyes. Damn cancer.
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zenful, so sorry to hear. Hugs to you and your family.
jlbloom, your furnace curse passed to us. ha..ha.. Hubby is downstairs working on it right now. Of course it had to go on the coldest day of the year! It's 8 degrees outside and going below 0 tonight. I've been getting estimates to replace it, but so far none have been below $10,000!
Luckily we also have a gas fireplace. Fingers crossed hubs can fix the furnace.
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Lynn.... So so sorry. <<<<HUGS>>>>
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Oh, Zenful, sending you a warm hug. I'm glad you were able to see your brother recently and felt a closeness by being on the phone. Cancer is a horrible disease!
Yikes, Bluebird! Stay safe and warm. I hope you can get that furnace fixed and not replaced!
Just said goodbye to my DD and DSIL.
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zenful.....such difficult news to share about your brother. I believe you must have a strong connection to him, to have made that last call when you did. I have no doubt he felt you "with him". So sorry you and your family have to go through this sad time.
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Zenful, you have my deepest sympathy. And yes...damn cancer. (((HUG)))
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Zenful - Such sad news about your brother. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Janet
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Zenful- I am so sorry to hear about your brother. Damn!!
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Zen, I am so sorry for your loss.
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Thank you all for your kind words. Your words have special meaning to me because I know that you get it. Many of you have had someone close to you pass away from cancer, and it jolts you for a moment, and then we turn back to thinking positive thoughts and doing all we can to stay healthy, active, and happy. Love you ladies!
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Anybody ever been to Missoula, Montana?
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bailey....yes....but WHY would you ask? Now you have me curious!
Actually, I think one of movie's daughters went to university there.
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Because I think we should set up our first DIEP "reunion" there....I've been researching.
But, having never been there, I am not sure. What say you?
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I've basically passed through there on the way from Great Falls to Spokane, as Missoula has Interstate 90 going right through there. It is a pretty area. Once movie recovers from her pneumonia, we'll have to get her opinion.
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Sounds good. I am praying for her daily. No fun.
It's impossible to please everybody. So knowing that up front...I was hoping for someplace that would provide something for everyone.
Actually started looking in Gulf Shores/Orange Beach AL, since I have been there, but it's so darned expensive. So then I was searching to see if there were any places that give discounts to groups and I found a ranch outside Missoula called Camp Mak-A-Dream . They do "cancer camps" part of the year and rent the facility out the other part of the year. Accommodations are not expensive, but they are mostly dormitory style.....so I figure that's probably not going to be what most people would like.
So I looked at other accommodations in the Missoula area and there are hotels, condos, b&b's....all price ranges. I found a cute little vacation house rental for $135 a night with a big yard and nice kitchen and if I rented that (or something similar) it could be our "mass" gathering place.
As far as things to do there appears to be a couple of cute boutique type shopping districts, art museums, local eateries, a casino, a beautiful farmers market, biking (rentals available), hiking, horseback riding, kayaking, fly fishing, white water rafting (which is on my bucket list!!!). So a wide variety for the wide variety of people we are
Flights are maybe an issue.....seem a little spendy to me.
Other ideas???
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Absolutely.....no time or place is every going to be a good fit for everyone who wants to participate. Location also depends on time of year of course. Do you have something in mind....timing wise???
Is the weather out your way starting to make you dream of summer????
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Omg....brain damage....I was just looking at a b&b and at the end of their chart of amenities for each room it said "floor" and I was thinking, "Well, since when did a floor become an amenity? That's really stupid. Seems like a necessity to me." But they were listing which floor each room was on....1st, 2nd....etc.
Say goodnight, Gracie. Goodnight, Gracie.
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hahaha.......goodnight, Gracie.....
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Hahaha...Bailey, you're the best. I would travel to Antarctica to meet up with all of you. But I have, in fact, been to Missoula. Fine with me!
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Oh my gosh.......I jump on to stay caught up, and Bailey has just made my year!!!! Missoula !!!!! I. Love. Missoula......(I can barely breathe, so am not jumping up and down ) I spent five years going back and forth watching DD#3 play soccer for the U of Montana.....truly a beautiful place, and a river DOES run through it.........
I could suggest that (since I would drive from Portland-an 8.5 hour drive through some of the prettiest scenery in the US) if it is cheaper to fly in to Portland....do it...I can carry 3 others in my car.....
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I wish I could make plans but my life is filled with uncertainties. If I could, I would love to ride with Movie or I could share driving with whomever flew into Seattle.
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Haha! Gracie woke up and can't get back to sleep.
So glad you guys are excited. Me too! So when works for y'all? I was hoping for later in the year. I don't have any vacation time available (it all keeps getting sucked up for medical leaves
) right now and will take me a few months to accrue 3-4 days. When is the best weather out there?And no worries, Jeannie....we will get you there and make sure you have a bunk (just kidding about the bunk).
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Sept. is beautiful there......as is October....but we would want a weekend that the U of M Grizzlies Football team was either out of town, or had no games scheduled.....
And Jeannie, get to P-Town, and you've got a seat! If we have to pitch in, YOU are coming!
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Thanks, Movie. Are you feeling any better? Spanx at night?
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spanx 24/7.... Can't handle the Marena right now.......coughing too much......
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I remember that terrible coughing, Movie. I'm glad you're more comfortable, at least.
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Ok, so the Grizzlies are out of town the weekend of September 20. (Well, there's a sentence I didn't imagine typing today!) And I can get the best flights out of Grand Rapids to Seattle, rather than Portland. If I drive to Chicago O'Hare (3 hours or so) I can fly non stop to Portland. All under $400 which is ok with me. I used flying in to Portland or Seattle on September 17 with a return flight on September 22.
What do you think (and Jeannie I hope you know I meant we will make sure you can come and have a place to stay and we'll pitch in....what I was just kidding about was that it would be a bunk bed
ROAD TRIP!!!
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Road trip!!!!!!
I'm down! Yippee!!!!!!!!!!
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Thanks, Bailey. Does anybody else snore loudly???? You may change your mind....
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Lmao Jeannie.....my DH DOES! I kick hard lol.....they may have to split us up.
No worries....i'll take a whole Ativan and bring earplugs. ....I won't know a thing!!!
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-27C, feels like -38C here.....September in Montana sounds wonderful! It's about the same drive time for me that movie has, plus the "please Mr. Border Guard, let me in" time. hmmmm.....bunk beds, might have to pack the tempurpedic! ROAD TRIP (all things being "copesetic" for everyone,of course)
jeannie.....we're like the Marines (I think it's the Marines).......No one gets left behind!!!!!
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I finally slept....thank goodness I was able to sleep in today.
Here is a link for a very nice Missoula Visitors Guide that you can order or download
http://www.destinationmissoula.org/guideAnd I missed one of your posts last night, Nihahi. YES I am looking for ESCAPE.
Jeannie that little house I was looking at had two bedrooms. So we could each have a room and I wouldn't hear you snoring
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Haha, Bailey! You still might hear me! I really hate that I snore but there it is.
Nihahi, thanks. Hopefully I can "carry my weight" by September.
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will there be hiking?
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THERE WILL ALWAYS BE HIKING....!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And.....biking, walking, talking, eating, and COFFEE!
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I am in.
Jeannie, no snoring can wake me up, so we can be share a bunk. I call for the upper bunk!
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Now you're going to have a good laugh. It's just been confirmed to me that I do have chemo brain/whatever BIG TIME. Came back last Sunday from South Africa, and totally forgot that this thread, one of my two favorites, exists - I can't believe it, but so it is. Just happened on it by chance a few minutes ago - LOL. Read a little, looked at the pictures, and will catch up on all the posts later today. I hope everybody had a wonderful Christmas with their families, and want to wish you all a very happy, healthy 2014 filled with peace and joy.
Excited about the possibility of meeting in Missoula! Sounds lovely!
Jeannie, belated congrats on your b-day. Hope it was a very good day, and that this year will bring only good things to you!
Movie and Sbel, looks like you two had a lovely visit with little Audrey in tow - so cute!
Still not over the jet lag completely, but we're finally beginning to sleep better now after a week. At times my head still feels as if it's stuffed with cotton wool. Have to play piano in church later this morning. Don't feel 'together' or energetic at all, and I'm flying solo today to make things even more interesting.
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Thanks for the offer, Tammy.
Liefie, glad you found us again!! Church is the best place to play or sing. People are more forgiving there---no tomatoes thrown! I have made some whopping, glaring mistakes while singing at church but still felt loved. You will be just fine!
Speaking of church, off I go to greet people outside. I have my long johns on because it's only 29F. I know, that sounds like a heat wave to some of you!
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Meet me in Missoula in September, flapper girls...boo-boop-bi-doop!
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Don't worry Jeannie, I had a grandmother who snored so loud she literally shook the walls of the house (pre cpap machine days). I ain't skeered.
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Isn't that a song title????....."Meet Me in Missoula"??????????
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Oh dear.....just had a thought....what if I'm still "dead"??????
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Oh dear...I have nothing helpful to say....my first thought was, "won't they be surprised!"...not helpful.
How about, it's a whole 8 months away ...surely they'll have straightened it out by then! Use it (the trip) to (nicely, of course) put pressure on them.
Wait....aren't you coming here before then?
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Oh my word!!!!!
I love these people...DH and the Things 1&2....but they all just left to do things for a few hours and I am sooooo happy to be ALONE for a little while. It seems WEEKS since I had a minute to myself.....oh the quiet....
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bailey.....enjoy!!!! Sit all cozied up with a blankie, a hot cup of "whatever" and watch the snow....totally healing!!!!! You people around the Great Lakes have the worst of it in winter, inmo.....I grew up in a "lake effect" snow belt, there is no way to describe the way the damp cold gets into your bones, and how heavy the snow is. Our snow is usually so light, you can blow it into the air like a dandelion gone to seed.
yes....my "oh dear" moment isn't just about the rendezvous in "ole Miss".....it hit me when I thought of crossing customs. Never entered my mind when we booked the tickets to Arizona......YIKES!!!!! But then, technically, I was already deceased this past August, when I crossed to meet up with movie....so....maybe the Social Security and the IRS and the Border/Immigration people don't communicate with each other. I travel on a Canadian passport which might keep me under the radar too, so, hopefully, maybe.....please.......oh please!!!!!!!!
OK...snowshoe trip has been re-booked for tomorrow.....fingers crossed people!!!!!
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Bailey, I love it! Betty Boop can be our new flapper girl mascot!
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I live this pic of her! First of all, she is a Flapper from the 1920's...in case anybody didn't know
A bit of side boob is showing (obviously she's had time to heal from her flap). She has a curly haired pixie cut like those of us who lost hair to chemo....penciled in eyebrows and about 8 lashes lol!And Sbel's shoes!!!!
Oh, I kill me.
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Oh, you kill me too, Bailey. VERY clever, indeed!
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Seriously, bailey.....open the window....your O2 sats must be falling .
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Nihahi, during the time period Bailey suggests to visit Missoula, there is a "Dead Hipsters Dance Party!" You're in!
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jeannie!!!! .
I have a gardening question for you, oh mighty guru of the beeeooouuutiful garden........I bought an amaryllis bulb on impulse at a Home Depot this year. The first stalk gave me 3 blooms, and the second stalk is opening to 4 blooms. I'm thinking this is a keeper, but I have never tried to "keep" an amaryllis from year to year. I know they need dark/dormancy at some point...but other than that, I'm clueless. Is it possible for me to hang on to this and have it re-bloom next year????
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Oh Jeannie, it's too much ha ha ha. Nihahi, I am so sorry you are dead/not dead. Every time we talk about this I think about that movie, "Cool Runnings" with the Jamaican bobsled team that went to the olympics. Have you seen it? Every time they crash their "sled" during training the one guy says to the other guy, "Hey, mon, you dead?"
I think this compression is going to my head. Or I am loopy with worry that Thing 1 is out driving on these roads. He should be home soon, I hope. Say a prayer.
And while you are at it, please kindly say a prayer that the parents get out of town safely and successfully on Tuesday this week. They leave for Germany for 2-3 months. I think my dad's head will explode if he has to wait an extra day. More on that tomorrow.
So are we thinking that the weekend of September 20 in Missoula is a go? Should I announce it on the other thread or are we in a holding pattern for any reason? My thought is, once we feel confident at least several of us are going, I will book one of the houses I found and place a deposit. I will probably wait a bit on flights to see if they go down at all, we have lots of time. The more I think about it, the more I am considering flying straight into Missoula....idk yet. There will be room for two more with me at the one house (there are two bedrooms and I will take the pull out couch). There are other houses, hotels, etc in the area and anyone else who wants to go can make their own reservations wherever they like with whomever they would like. Thoughts??? Please share.
I was poking around on BCO today and went into the shop. I am not much for "BC wear" but they have a t-shirt (among other products) that says "I Have Information And I Am Not Afraid to Use It". I love that
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This is how some of us spend our time with the snow!! Byron Center, MI--wanted to share some fun!!
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Now that's a snowman!
Nihahi, sent you an email with a link.
Bailey, it's so hard for me to look beyond today right now. Having said that, September is a long way off. I would like to go. Since you offered a room where I won't disturb others.....Snort!....I will take you up on it. Thanks.
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Ok, no worries Jeannie, if for some unforeseen reason you can't make it I'll take your bed and we will skype you in
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bailey.....prayers going out for all that need them. Why on earth is thing 1 out on the roads anyway???
I definitely want to join the "Miss" gang, but can't commit until hubby makes some decisions. He and I are starting to plan a "celebrate his retirement" road trip around that timeframe, but he hasn't yet "picked the timeframe yet". There's a possibility that I may have to combine the flapper time with part of the itinerary of hubby's trip.
I was also wondering if movie might know of any other places for lodging, too, but I think she's still down for the count.
I like your suggestion of as others join in, we can sort out our own arrangements as to where to stay. Missoula isn't so huge that planning "rendezvous" would be too difficult. It would be nice if possible, to get places relatively close together, so "group time" is a bit easier to manage. Trying to find somewhere to accommodate everyone, is sounding about as feasible as herding cats.
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jeannie....got the emails, thanks....darn.....I thought it might be info for us dearly departed!!!!
I'm a lazy gardener too, and have always just tossed these before. But, I am half Scottish, and....I did get 7 blooms out of this thing....but.....I'm not sure I want to dedicate any condo space to it....so.....stay tuned.
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Thanks, Nihahi, I will wait until you and DH get things sorted out. Plenty of time. I think I will just sit on it for now so that it doesn't go off in 42 directions....like cats. I have been a paid cat herder for most of my life and I am not inclined to spend my free time doing the same thing
Thing 1 is in love. Need I say more?
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I completely understand where you are coming from bailey....somehow I have become the "recreation director" for a bunch of girlfriends. Everyone wants to get together....no one makes the decisions....until I get so blinkin frustrated I cave and "yet again" make all the plans.
I thought that "young hearts" might have something to do with tonights excursion....any headlights pulling into the driveway yet????
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Yup yup, he's been here almost an hour, thankfully. That was a VERY good experience for him. He and the GF were supposed to go up and visit my parents for dessert (this is a relatively new GF) tonight. However, my dad nixed their trip (10 miles north of us) up there due to the weather. He said they would feel better knowing he was home (not that he stayed home lol). So, then they went to a movie instead. He came out of the theater and was very nervous about driving in the dark and on crappity roads. So, he says he now knows why Grandpa told him not to come over. And he knows just how bad it can get (although he's never had to drive in ice or deep fog, so he still has some learning to do). but he also knows that he can do it, which is important, too. I am so glad he had the experience without any tradgedy.
Ha, social director stinks. I can remember the high school girlfriends and I sitting around talking about our approaching 40th birthdays. Talked turned to taking a trip. Somebody said camping, somebody said EWWWW to camping, somebody said cruise, somebody else said OMG I am not getting on a boat at that point my best friend leaned over and whispered in my ear, "Ok you plan it." Needless to say, I didn't plan it. And we didn't take a trip.
But I also can't handle talking about doing something incessantly and never getting the thing rolling. Makes me crazy. Next Sunday is our first "Second Sunday" meeting. I said to h.s. girlfreinds we are meeting the second Sunday of the month at Panera Bread at 4 p.m. Second Sunday.....4 pm....every month. I will be there. I hope I am not all alone LOL. But I am not going to remind everybody. I am not going to coordinate alternate dates or keep track of those who can't come. It=
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Glad to hear he's home safe and sound and maybe a wee bit "life experienced without difficult consequences"
Have a great sleep...I'm going to try to find matching socks for tomorrow's outing.
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Just sayin'...
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GO TO BED!
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I DID go to bed. Now I'm up. Can't sleep. Love the socks!
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and I never went to bed.......coughing so much I feel like my head is going to explode, or at the very least I will crack a rib, or worse.....I may pop out a few internal "tummy-tuck" sutures.........
One thing we need to keep in mind about Missoula , is that it is a pretty spread out city.......and we won't want to spend all of our time just driving to get together......Bailey, I will check out your link, to see where it is, and maybe we can rent another home close-by.......
Another thing I will throw out there, is that there is a HUGE resort area in central oregon called Sunriver.....it has TONS of vacation rental homes, all in one lovely community, some with as many as 6-7 bedrooms, or hotel rooms with small kitchens, etc. there are miles of bike trails, gorgeous hiking, swimming, and night life (in Bend). Not that I wouldn't like to go to Missoula , but it has nothing like this......sept would be slower there and we may have plenty of rental homes to choose from depending who is in, or out....sept in Oregon is pretty hard to beat. (I am putting this on the table simply because it may be easier to get homes close to each other.......). Google it, and you'll see what I mean....the hiking is superb, and no grizzlies......
. All that being said, I will do WHATEVER!Okay...sleep MAY be sitting on the edge of my bed..........love you all!
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wow! I have missed a lot. I can't commit yet, but I would feel more comfortable if we could all stay together in a bigger house, wherever that is. If we went to Portland, I could plan a visit to my son in Seattle too. We were going to go in August to early September, so then I couldn't afford to go a second time. I am open to moving my plans possibly. It would be so great to see you all.
Starting the second half of drinking prep for colonoscopy today. Not looking for to going out and driving in this weather. 15" of new snow and the winds are a whipping! Well time to drink. Yuck!!!!
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Up since the wee hours again, and had good laughs reading here - thanks girls! I've been wondering if we maybe have a ghost posting here who goes by the name of Nihahi? To think that I had tea, and visited with this ghost . . . spooky!!! Have to say she's a pretty competent, efficient, feisty little spirit - hehehe!
Wherever this get together is, I will do my level best to attend. Just have to meet all you wonderful people that I've 'known' for so long! Will say one thing though - it will be lovely to stay somewhere together. Bailey, I concur. In the end one just has to pick a time and a place, because you can just never please everybody. Those who can make it will be there, no doubt. Those who can't, there can always be a next time.
Cherrie, thinking of you chugging that colonoscopy brew. No fun, eh? I don't do any driving in icy conditions, and simply cancel everything, so I admire your courage. Be safe, eh?
Movie, have you tried good old Vicks to soothe that cough? I know it stinks, but I firmly believe in that stuff. It works. Always rub it on my chest and back, and a little in the nose. It defo eases your breathing, and slows down the coughing.
Jeannie, are you available on Saturday, January 24? Movie and I are planning to visit you on that day, so let us know. Hope you can make it!
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sbe.....today I'll be wearing 2 layers of socks, thermal winter boots, gaitors and "tennis rackets" strapped to my feet.....what is your choice of footwear today??? (my friend won't get a rats a** if my socks match)!
movie....please get better..!!!! Also, please get the pneumo vaccine once you are over this!!!!!
cherrie....wth?????? I thought you were in Virginia and heading to Florida????
Sunriver sounds good!!!!! No grizz sounds even better, because in Sept.....them bears are hungry little fur balls!!!!!! Is it a bit more sea level for sbe's O2 needs?????
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For me, I think considerations for our gathering of the DIEP Clan might include some factors--
Someplace reasonably accessible by air and with a tendency to have good airline connections. Usually that makes airline tickets a bit cheaper.
Availability of housing where we can stay together.
Perhaps off-season, so prices are lower.
September would be a pretty month, depending on location.
Nihahi, I'll take a photo of this morning's footwear choice and post it. No tennis rackets here. Wish there were, though!
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Sensible oxfords, with purple tights. Very professional. I love these shoes--they're made by Wolverine and the comfort is fabulous!
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Sbel, love the shoes and the tights! Funny how all your pictures at work are with your feet propped up on the desk. Lol.
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Sbel do you know the headquarters of the Wolverine Company is right here in my little town of Rockford, MI?
Also idc a bit where we meet....Oregon sounds awesome, I have never been there (been to Montana....just not Missoula). It's about the time spent together. Meeting and laughing out loud with my cyber sistas is on my list of things to DO. I just want to see it happen.
(And maybe whitewater rafting.....???? Lol)
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Just googled Sunriver - it looks fabulous. One can rent a house there that can sleep a lot of people. I'm willing to share a king bed with our ghost sister here. Which means I'll have it all to myself - hahaha!
Sbel, love the purple tights!
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Nihahi- I got home on Saturday. Leaving for Florida on the 20th. Fitting in doctor and dentist appointments.
If the meet up is in Portland, Jeannie and I could drive down from Seattle together. 🗻🗻🚙🚘🚗🚕🚙🚘🚗🚕🚙🚘🚗🚕
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Liefie, I can't believe we booked a float trip to watch bald eagles on the very day you and Movie are available to see me! I'm a doofus. Booking this trip was a nightmare, with date changes, etc., so I can't change it. I will be available in the evening, though tired, I'm sure. Are you leaving Sunday? I could see you in the morning if you're still around.
I've never been to Sunriver but I've heard great things about it. How far is it from Portland? Getting there could be complicated for people without a flight there. I, too, would prefer us all staying near each other. Obviously, getting to know each other in person would be the highlight of the trip for me.
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Yes, Cherrie, road trip! I hope your colonoscopy is non-eventful. My 87 year old mom is having one today. Hope hers is non-eventful, too. I hate that she has to have one. I hope she followed prep directions. I haven't been able to reach her by phone. (She's in California).
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For us northerners:
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Oh, Tammy, that is wonderful!
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LOL Tammy, that is great!
Here is my 10 lb Dachshund after two minutes in the snow. It's over her head. She is a hound at heart and searching for something under the snow (likely a lost tennis ball). But she can't stand to be out more than two minutes at a time (wind chill was -20F last time I checked). Then she comes in and I towel her off and she goes back to the door wanting two more minutes lol.
Thing 1 and Thing 2 are outside "building character" (shoveling the driveway so DH doesn't have to when he gets home tonight).
I miss being a stay-at-home mom (albeit I was only ever a part-time one). I think I will go make some hot chocolate!
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Ok that's not Bella at all, but a nice sign my BFF had made for me when I got diagnosed. Bella pic later, I'm being paged for driveway inspection lol!
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Tammy, love it, especially since we've all had fat whacked out! Bailey, love your plaque, too.
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Ok, here is the crazy "puppy forever" dog (she is almost 7 but you would NEVER know it).
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Omg, sooo cute! Love the sign and sbels shoes too!
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Bella is very cute! Got my hot chocolate in hand!
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Jeannie, we'll just shout 'Plot twist', and think of something else, no worries. Please don't feel bad! We should have let you know sooner about the date. Visiting on the Sunday morning will depend on what mode of transport we use to get to/from Seattle. Things may be complicated further since we are with a group of people. Will keep you posted.
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Thanks, Liefie. In the confusion of changing the date of our trip I completely forgot the boat show was at the end of the month. So, mea culpa.
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if the trip gets moved to Oregon/Sunriver , since I will not have travel expense, I will chip in our Tahoe , which can seat 6 comfortably, and spring for a rental, if we need more than one car......if all out of towners come in the same day, we can load up and drive there......cars/gas on me.......just a thought? Sunriver is about 140 miles from Portland.....but it is a gorgeous drive, and we can work with rental agents who will find us a home(s) to fit our needs....many with hot tubs.......perfect after a day
of hiking to Green Lake....:)(My head is ready to explode......
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Just FYI, there are some flights to the Bend airport from some western cities.
Oh, Movie, I'm so sorry you are suffering so.
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Thanks, everyone, for your condolences......they are MUCH appreciated.....
Bailey , I forgot to add that your little doxie looks JUST like ours.....Otto Von Wienerschnitzel......he's 11 years old....
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I have been reading everything but evertime I go to post, a child/husband/mother in law interupts me and I toally go off on a tangent. I would love to meet up with you guys and I dont care where it is but it would be nice if we could all stay at the same place or close together. I checked on flights out west and they are about six hundred but may be cheaper flying to a bigger town.
I am gearing up for stage two and Ooph next Wednesday. Ive been working on my stomach and chest muscles in hopes that it makes healing faster. Bailey and Movie, how are you guys feeling and how far post stage two are you?
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Movie- I hope you are resting as much as possible. Hot tea and feet up. I have never been to Oregon or Montana. I love the idea of riding and staying together. Hiking, tubbing, wining,etc. Glorious!!!
Jeannie- They found two polyps and I will have pathology by Monday. I am not fretting. I wonder why???
My niece (37) had her second mammo and was called back in for a diagnostic mammo and US. She is having a stereotactic biopsy tomorrow. Her mother (my sister) has also had BC. She has 4 young children. They found a cluster of micro calcification in one breast. Hoping she is one of the 80% that is benign. I wish she didn't have to worry about this at all.
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Cherrie, I will be praying for your niece. Sometimes I think it's harder to watch others go through the worry because we know what it feels like.
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Cherrie...hugs and prayers...I suspect all that you have seen in life has given you patience, no?
Awww, post a pic, Movie I want to see Otto! We got Bella by accident (long story) but she has been a joy to all, including out big dog, Moses.
Sweet I am 2.5 weeks out. Doing well. Painful and Braxton Hicksy toward afternoon. Been sitting at the computer (practicing to go back to work) and finding long stretches of sitting difficult. But...very very happy with how everything looks this time. What is the plan for your stage II?
Zen, I think you are spot on.
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I'm serious, Bailey! And I also had Braxton hickish contractions after stage 2a..... In fact, that is exactly what I told my PS they felt like!
I can only hope tomorrow I wake up feeling better..........
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cherrie...sending hugs.
This is what I did today to "de-stress"....sorry, they are phone pics, as I forgot to charge my camera battery. They seem to be sideways....no idea how to fix that.
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cherrie- Im so sorry that your niece has to go through all the testing, I hope everything comes back clear. My sister is in the same spot right now waiting on biopsy results.
bailey- I am having scar revision and ooph in stage two.
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Sweet, prayers for your sister that her results turn out good.
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Cherrie, not worrying sounds great! I hope your peace continues and path is a-ok. I'm sorry about your niece having to go through the testing and concern. As a mom of three girls, I can imagine how your sister is feeling, too. Only my oldest, 37, has had her first mammo, all clear.
Sweet, wishing and hoping your sis is fine!!
Movie, yes, generous offer!!! Not surprising from you.
I see the PS PA tomorrow. Hoping PS is called in to assess my fat necrosis. I just really don't want another OR visit. And so out of pocket begins again....COBRA is so expensive but grateful for it so far.
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Nihahi, I can't see your pics. I bet they are beautiful!
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hello ladies..
I think it's time for me to join in with the moving on thread. I'm still on the road to recovery but desperately trying to get back to normal.
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I would love to come meet all of you. Indianapolis to Redmond? is going to run about $500. When we pick a date, I will start saving my money for this trip. I don't post half a regularly as most of you, but I'm an avid reader of your posts and think of all of you as close friends. Let's do this! ...Julie
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Hi Blue, somehow I missed your beautiful watercolor posting. The words said it was done by someone named Christopher. Well, Chinese New Year is right around the corner, but I have not been keeping up since we usually don't have the days off around that time. Growing up, that was the best time of the year for us. Great food, new cloth, lots of fireworks... miss those care free days. This bird is for you, blue.
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Julie, I would love to meet you in person!
Butterfleye, welcome to the thread!
I saw the PS and he says to keep massaging the heck out of the bump (scar tissue) on my boob. When I get nipples in Feb., he will try to draw any fluid out of the area. If it's still a problem after six months we can address it then. We both want to avoid the OR.
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That's great news, jeannie.
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hi all...I don't want to hijack Bailey's suggestion for Missoula.......but as I mentioned, we can find homes next door to each other, or condos next door to each other, with all kinds of outdoor activities right at the front door, in Sunriver, Oregon. (Google it). If it is cheaper to fly into Portland, plan for that.....I have a Tahoe that can fit 5-6 comfortably, and will pony up the $ for a second rental.......as I will NOT have airfare to pay......
However, if Missoula is the choice.....I will be there in a heartbeat......
On another note.....maybe I am feeling a bit better.......will see how the rest of the day pans out....
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Aww. Thanks Tammy! The signature stamp should read Kristine. (Me) I've had two Asian interpretations that sounded like "kay-la-ding" so I figure that's close enough to Kristine. Lol...apparently Kristine doesn't translate well. My painting professer was from Shanghai and he helped me create my stamp.
Wish we were meeting somewhere in the middle of the country. I'm over on the east coast. But both places look fun to visit.
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Thanks, Tammy. I am relieved. I guess I'll be like Janet_M and massage my boob wherever I am....I'm excited to have nipples again. Boy, I never thought that would be a sentence I'd write.
Movie, I would hope I can drive down, hopefully with Cherrie, and my car would be available. It seats five total. That is, if Sunriver is the choice.
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Welcome butterflrye, glad you are here!
Julie- I read more than I post too, glad to "see" you!
Well ladies, got some horrible news tonight. My sweet baby sister has been diagnosed with triple neg BC. She goes for brca testing next monday but I would bet money that she is positive since I am. I am so pissed that she has to go through this and heartbroken that we live so far apart. bleh
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Jeannie- congrats on no OR visit. I have a spot like that too that I massage everyday. It has gotten smaller.
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Sweet- I am so so sorry your sister is going through this. She is so lucky to have you to talk to. Someone knowledgable and understanding. You will be her rock.
Jeannie- Tony and I could fly to Seattle to visit son and we could drive down. It sounds fabulous. Movie is being so generous.
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Oh, Sweetpickle, I am so sorry! It makes me so mad! When are we going to learn to prevent this vicious disease?? Cherrie is right, you are going to be so helpful to your sister even if you can't be in the same room with her. She is blessed to have you. Thanks for the encouragement about the hard spot. I'm going to ask DH to help with the massage.
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Thanks guys, I hope that being on the otherside and cancerfree will be encouraging for her. Hoping they find a cure before my daughter grows up.
Jeannie- I am sure your dh would love to help you with that
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sweet....tears and hugs for you and your sister. Such a difficult thing to learn. Where is your sister??? You can definitely be a source of strength and compassion for her.
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Nihahi!!! Thinking of you. You will do great.
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Oh, Sweet. So sorry to hear about your sister. She will certainly need your loving guidance and she is so lucky to have you to guide her. Loving, healing thoughts to both of you!
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Thank you Nihahi and zenful . I am hoping she has the same good outcome I had.
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sweet, my baby sister went through her bc journey before me. Knowing that she beat bc, gave me confidence that I could too. I'm sure your success story and good outcome will be a huge comfort for her. ((((Group))))
Hopping into nihahi's pocket!
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Hi Ladies,
Thought I would join in as I am "technically" on the other side....3.5 weeks post op tomorrow. Each day gets a little better, still hate this binder with a PASSION! I find if I take it off have to put it back on before the day is out cause my tummy feels uncomfortable without it.
I was suppose to go for my post op pathology results tomorrow but it got cancelled as the Cancer Clinic had a flood today. Just my luck, they called tonight and said someone would call to reschedule appt tomorrow. Hopefully it is Thursday at another area of the hospital because the waiting is stressing me out:( I had my surgery on Dec 16 so its been hard waiting for the results so long.....I just want to hear that I am still CANCER-FREE!
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. So crappy, but hopefully she sees how well you are doing and follows your lead. Its hard watching someone else in your family go through this disease as you know I had two sister's diagnosed with bc after me. My baby sister, god Bless her she is no longer here and my older sister last year who is doing REALLY well!Goldie - Dont worry about the tummy, it does feel numb and weird but I somehow think it does get better over time. The benefits of having a flat belly are AWESOME!
Ladies that are having surgery in the next day or so, all the best and may you recover quickly
Time for bed, its 12:00 am. here. My sleep schedule is so weird. I now go to bed about midnight, wake up a few times during the night, get up about 8:30 am and then have an afternoon nap (definitely need it now).
Michele
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Oh my word.
What a day, friends.
Holy carp.
I am in the Hilton at O'Hare. Most unexpectedly.
My mom and dad left for Germany today....the hard way. They were scheduled out of Grand Rapids at noon today, connecting in Chicago and Dusseldorf and ending in Hamburg. I offered to take them to the airport. Drop them at the door and get them through security and go get a mani and pedi while I waited to be sure their plane left GR. But their flight out of GR to Chicago was cancelled....and nothing available until Friday. They suggested we try to make the flight out of Ohare. Chicago is about 3 hours away in the best of conditions. And here we are in the throws of the worst storm in years. I94 was actually closed around the south end of Lake Michigan last night. We had no time to.ponder it and took off for Chicago. I got my brother in law checking the flight out of chi to Germany making sure that was on. Got my sister checking on alternAte flights and got DH on road conditions and accidents. There was crazy texting going on. The roads were treacherous. But we got here 40 minutes before their flight. I dropped them at the door and said goodbye, thinking I wouldn't see them again. Parked the car, found a restroom, grabbed some milk and a bottle of water and headed to the concourse to check their flight status and found them still at the check in. They wouldn't let them board. The requirement for international flights is 50 minutes before flight. Not 40 minutes.
So, eventually they got them a new flight. Chi to London to Hamburg....6 pm. Excellent. They even let me go through security and up to the gate with them ( I didn't ask, they offered, which I didn't even know was possible anymore.
The flight was then delayed. Delayed. Delayed. Delayed.
my poor da was a nervous wreck. He's been planning this trip to Germany for surgery for over a year now. At some point we decided I would just stay here for the night so sister booked a room for me ( my smartphone had died). Praise God for this hotel connected right to the airport regardless of price (mom and dad are paying for it lol). They finally took off at 9:45 pm....almost 2 hours after they boarded them Flight tracker shows them over the Atlantic and a two hour layover in London. They should have wheelchairs and help waiting for them at Heathrow. I pray they do. Oh goodness. Such a mess. My sister was emailing the doctor in Germany to change the car service pickup time.
I am a new kind of exhausted tonight.
More on the surgery another day. I am so tired but no longer wired! Glad this day is on the books....and I never have to do it again!!!
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And Sweet I just went back to catch up and I am so sorry about your sister
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Sweetpickle - Your sister is so lucky to have you. Such shocking news, and she'll benefit from your knowledge and support and all the stuff sisters do. Thank God for email and texting and being available for our loved ones who are far away. I'm really sorry that she has to go through this. And you too.
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Sweet where is your sister living?
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Bailey- oh my goodness, what an ordeal for you and your parents. Glad they made it out safe and sound. My sister lives just outside of Boston, MA. The really crazy part of this is that we did not meet until 2001. Her dad is my bio dad (I am adopted). We both have boys on the autism spectrum and now we both have the same cancer. Genetics is crazy!
Thank you all for the well wishes!
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Sweet, you will be an inspiration and strength to your sister. Best of luck to her.
Bailey, get some well deserved rest oh my goodness! Wishing your folks well. Fill us in on the surgery when you have time.
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Oh, Sweet. I am so happy you have come to know your sister
What a story, I am sure. I wish so much that the "bad" genetics of brca weren't there or shared. Are you able to use Skype of face time with her?I am fine lol. I washed my socks, bra and t-shirt in the sink and dried them on the heat vent overnight. I purchased a new pair of panties and the most expensive toiletries on earth before coming to my room. I actually turned out pretty good looking today, considering my little odyssey. The shampoo and conditioner that came free with the room assures me that my hair is now "head turning" AND "touchable" so I am a bit afraid to leave the room for fear of attack due to gorgeous hair. If you don't hear from me again that's why.
Movie idc where we meet up. I am happy anywhere
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Bailey that was just the laugh I needed this morning, thank you!
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Ok blue I will. I am sitting here in my room for a bit letting morning traffic die down.
My dad is a double amputee and has been since he was 10. He is now 72. After 62 years of dealing with the traditional socket type prosthesis (where the stump fits into a plastic socket or hole so to speak, and is held on with suction) and all the problems sockets entail he has found an alternative. It is called osseointegration. They put a titanium rod into the bone, in his case the remaining femur bones, and that rod sticks.out through his skin. So, the area around the rod is a stoma site (I think that's the right term)....kind of like where our drains go through our skin and into our bodies, but permanent. On the end of that titanium rod (after it heals and fuses with the bone) they put a fitting. The prosthesis then connects to the fitting and totally eliminates the socket.
Osseointegration is not approved in the states yet so he had to go overseas to get it done. He has researched for a year and investigated Sweden, Australia, Mexico and Germany. Germany send d up being the right doc and right price for him. He has first surgery on the 14th to implant the rods. Then a second surgery to add the fitting part in 4-6 weeks. Then learning to walk all over again.
He is so brave. And so is my little mom. At 72 to travel abroad for surgery is amazing to me. This is life changing for him. It will make donning and doffing his prosthetics a simple thing. Without this he is quickly nearing the point where he can no longer wear the socket type prosthetics and would be in a wheelchair and not walk again.
Can you imagine planning your flap for a year and then having to change your flight plans and wait 12 hours (and drive to Chicago in horrible weather)to get on the plane and be disabled and relying on others to even move through the airport??? Idk girls. Yesterday was very, very hard on them. I told them to remember we have seen the end of the world and yesterday sucked but it was not the end of the world. Nobody was dead and nobody was dying. I know they were thinking maybe God was trying to tell them to go home. I told them that I thought God was just making sure they worked really hard for it.
They ended up having two hours in Heathrow before their connecting flight to Hamburg. I hope that was enough time. Their movements are controlled by whomever is there to push them around in wheelchairs. If making that happen at Heathrow was as slow as O'Hare I am concerned.
We should hear something soon, I hope. All right friends I am going to head home. Love to all.
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Bailey.....hoping with everything I can muster that the trip and the surgery turns out great for your Dad....He is obviously made of "strong stuff", not hard to figure out where your "fight" comes from. I understand the rules about boarding, etc, but surely, you'd think the factors such as trying to get to unexpected airports while driving through horrible weather could cut some slack!!!!!
Be careful on you drive home....get some rest..that certainly took some energy on your part too!!!
sweet....Sometimes, fighting something like bc with someone you love, helps you find ways to fight harder yourself. You've had your own struggles....maybe this bonding will good for you too!
Welcome curlylocks....it's a "different view from this side", hope it helps you move forward, cause the future is a good one!
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Sweet, so sorry to hear about your sister. What can I say? You will be of great comfort to her, no doubt about that!
Nihahi, you seem to be holding up fine, eh?
Curlylocks, welcome!
Movie, how are you doing? Coughing any better? I sincerely hope so!
Bailey, what a brave man your dad must be - he has earned my utmost respect! Hope his surgery goes very well too.
Your airport story reminded me a little of my big mess-up when I was traveling to S.A. on November 20. We live on Vancouver Island, and I flew to the mainland early that afternoon to get to Vancouver airport in time. When I went up to the check-in counter at 6.30, 3 hours before the flight, and presented my passport, it was not my photo, but DH's staring back at me! I was shellshocked, speechless etc., but there was no way I could leave without my passport. He had taken the passport out at home, gave it to me, and I never thought to check it. So there I stood stranded with all my luggage, going nowhere. It was not as if he could just quickly bring over the right passport to the airport. Needless to say I had to spend the night at a hotel. DH took a two hour ride on the last ferry to the mainland that night to swap the passports, spent two hours at the hotel with me, and traveled back to the island on the first ferry of the day. He had not slept at all, and was in time for work that morning. We live about an hour and half from the ferry terminal, so he had to still drive home. So my long-awaited journey started 24 hours later than planned - luckily there was room on the next evening's flight, and on the connecting one to Cape Town. One thing is sure. Will check my passport every time before I leave home in future.
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Oh, ladies! Sweetpickle, what a heartache. I do know I really appreciated a good friend that had traveled this road a year before me. Bailey, you are amazing and so are your parents. Praying that everything will go smoothly for them. Liefie, your and Bailey's stories just make me realize how happy I am that I switched from a consulting job to working from home. Let's see, full time travel or working from home. That was an easy choice I made over 14 years ago. I am not a fan of airports for the reasons you two have experienced and more.
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News flash: Wilbur, the new cabana boy, is visiting nihahi
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Awe Nihahi, hopefully you are being entertained and things went well! Yes the future is certainly very bright....I feel a little better and that things are turning the corner for sure.....
Bailey - what a worry, so many flights in the Toronto International Airport have been affected by this extreme cold.....many people waiting a few days now to get out of here....what a MESS! Hoping your Dad's surgery goes well. You gave me a good laugh, enjoy that gorgeous hair of yours!
Michele
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Hope your dad's surgery and thereafter goes super smooth, bailey. He is a super tough man.
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Bailey- hope all goes well for your parents. What a day you have had. I am sure they will get there fine. How long are they in Germany and for how long? My friend's daughter lives there with her German hubby.
Thinking about Wilber visiting 3 of our girls today. Can't wait to hear from you.
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I am home. Took about six hours but I am home. We received a very brief email from them saying they are in Lubbeck, very tired and going to bed. So, they are there...praise be to God. They have traveled extensively in the lower 48....by car. The was my dad's third flight ever and my mom's 2nd!!! So no experience with the ways of travel, especially in winter in the Midwest!
They will be there 2-3 months, Cherrie. Where do your people live?
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Heidelberg, Germany
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Sweet, my sister, older by four years, was diagnosed with inflammatory BC 9 months after my diagnosis. It was pretty awful, but we walked through it together, and her last herceptin was on Dec 27! She's doing great. I'm so sorry to hear about your sis. BC should have gone the way of smallpox and the dodo bird, but we still have it. Your sis having YOU to help navigate this will be a huge relief for her, I know.
Bailey, your parents are made of strong stuff, and so are you to brave blizzards and traffic and flight headaches for them. Bless them and their journey, and bless your dad as he embarks on this life-changing surgery! Did you know the Germans blazed the trail with open reduction and internal fixation of fractures? Some of our soldiers came home from German POW camps in WW II with rods and pins and stuff, and at first the US physicians thought it was an odd form of torture...then they realized how brilliant these techniques were for fracture repair!
Nihahi, rest sweetly in Wilbur's arms. We'll be happy to hear from you whenever you can focus your eyeballs.
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Bailey, that is a wonderful story. And just goes to show the strength your family has. I had a similar (though I was younger) experience when I had a fall from my horse. I shattered my shoulder, neck and arm. I went to every orthopedic in the Philadelphia area and all of them wanted to plate me together with a million screws and I'd never be able to wear a shoulder seatbelt again. For six months I could not stand up or hold my small children. But I did research online and found a doctor who was willing to try to put me together again using a similar osseointegration, though it wasn't permanent. I went to Duke University in North Carolina and Dr. Basamania used a rod he invented that linked all the broken pieces together, then filled it with a healing essence he spun down from my blood cells. The rod also stuck out through my skin and it stayed that way until all the pieces joined. It was like a miracle. I traveled back to NC and he pulled the rod out. To this day I have a very tiny scar (only I know where it is) where the rod poked out, but I don't have any issues with my bones at all. Not a twinge, not an arthritic ache, nothing!
Wishing your Dad and parents all the best and as you said, they worked hard to find an answer so I hope he is happy with the outcome.
And hoping all the Wilbur girls are resting comfortably!
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Wow, Bluebird! You have been through so much. I'm glad you have such a good result!
Liefie, what an adventure you had in Vancouver! I will check mine more closely when I use it, too.
Bailey, words fail me. All three are you are very brave! I hope your dad's procedure and recovery go really well and he comes home with something to teach our docs. Was DH mesmerized by your hair??
Nihahi, is Wilbur with you? I really hope you aren't hanging your head over a bucket...really, really praying you can avoid that.
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Ooh, Heidelberg looks like a very long way from Lubeck (sorry I see I continue to spell it wrong).
Oh, Liefie, your journey started out bad, too...I certainly hope it improved quickly and stayed that way! Bless your DH!
Edited to add: Oh rat's rump I missed a bunch of posts whilst speaking on the phone to an aunt and friend from work and my bff ....thank you all for your kind words and well wishes and shared stories. I am so excited for Dad. He will be teaching anybody who will listen and bending a few other ears as well, I am sure.
Liefie while we were waiting for the plane we met a young family from Johannesburg. They were headed back home after visiting her father in Omaha. She had my dad's number right away. Her husband asked where my parents were traveling to and they said Germany and there was discussion of weather, of course. She looked at my dad (sitting there in shorts with his prosthetics showing) and said, "well, at least your feet won't get cold". She later told me that her best friend's daughter is 18 months old and just recently had a leg amputated. She will eventually have the same surgery my dad is having. A doctor is flying in to Johannesburg to do the surgery, but she couldn't recall where the doctor was from. We were marveling at the possibility of it being my dad's doctor. Their little boy was about 5 and fascinated with my dad's "robot legs"....especially when dad released his knee "joint" and flipped the whole lower half of his leg 180 degrees.
We had a good time while waiting, because we always do, but it was heartbreaking at the same time. And worrisome. The stress was tremendous. I think dad was about to fly the plane himself. My mom just wanted to cry ....and go home....But she held up really well. They may still have rough road ahead....But they never have to do the last two over again....those are on the books.
No, Jeannie....it was false advertising lol....or maybe I pulled too much of it out during the 45 minutes I spent traveling 3 miles around Gary Indiana ....there was an accident with a semi truck
Blue - that is truly amazing. To have no arthritis or so much as a pain. I know so many people with residual pain from being broken. Bless you...and that doctor.
Sbel no I didn't know all that originated in Germany. I was a nurse's aide at the rehab hospital here for 4-5 years when I was young, so I have seen and cared for plenty of patients with pins, rods, screws, halos, etc. I think dad's type originated in Sweden. They do it all the time here in dentistry, but not with amputees....yet!
Ok I've edited this about 42 times. I think I have jetlag....from thinking about jets.
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Bailey, yes, my journey got off to a rough start, but the rest went like clockwork. DH felt soooo bad about the passport mix-up, but he certainly made up for it. I wish your parents uneventful traveling in Germany, and a very good outcome for your dad. They are real troopers!
Nihahi, sincerely hoping with Jeannie that you are resting comfortably, and avoiding the bucket. Hang in there now!
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Bailey - Your dad is an inspiration. If I ever go down my pity highway, I'm going to think of him flipping his leg 180, and getting on that plane with your little mom even he wanted to go home . Amazing people. And I think your entire family unit sounds so strong and wonderful. A Thing in love, and and brave parents.
Thinking of all the girls today who had a date with Wilbur
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Bailey, Wow! I am just amazed about your parents going to Germany and getting surgery done. Your Dad must be a very strong and determined person. Your mom probably didn't even bat an eyelash about going with him. What incredible parents you have. They are in my prayers and may your Dad heal quickly so life can continue. And giving your mom patience and strength for her to get to the other side of this surgery.
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Nipple report - all is good. My nipple shrunk the normal amount & is only very slightly smaller that the natural one. All my friends & daughters had already told me it looked good. I get a tattoo touch-up in a couple of weeks to enhance the 3D effect. I am happy with my DIEP results & never thought at the age of 71 I would have perky D's & a flat tummy! I will probably be getting on with life & off the boards on a regular basis, but feel free to pm me with any questions. Prayers & good luck to those of you beginning this journey & those of you right behind me. God bless!
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Sharon, happy to hear all is well, and you are so pleased with your results. At 71 you have a lot of living ahead of you, so go out and enjoy it to the fullest!
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Congratulations, Sharon, on graduating from DIEP university! I am not far behind......nipples in place, (and looking good) all I have left is tats......
If you are interested in a get-together......please check out Sunriver.......or Missoula........I'm with Bailey......let's make some plans!
Nihahi.....sending (((hugs))) your way!
XO
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Movie is there a specific web site you are looking at for accommodations in Sunriver?
We were waiting a bit until Nihahi gets a bit more past surgery and she and DH make some dates for later this year.
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oh.....I MISSED that post!........
No specific web sight.....Sunriver lodge is one we can rent through, but there are 5-6 rental companies there.......I am pretty familiar with the village......know better areas to rent, and which are closer to stores/swimming, etc......as soon as we have a date.....(if we DO go there, no need for waiting for a football-free weekend) I will hop on it, and post info........
Remember, extra car (van, whatever) on me........
XO
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sbe- So glad to hear that your sister is doing well! I am grateful to be able to be there for her. I am sending her a chemo care package this weekend with all the things that helped me. I was also able to share my brca test results with her docs which will help them know what to look for in her brca test. So while this sucks that she has to go through this, there are some silver linings in it.
Bailey- Hope all goes well for your dad, that is so brave to travel so far for treatment!
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Movie and bailey, where ever you decide the place, count me in for the gathering.
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Me too! I have Mid- August to September open as of right now.
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Through September open.
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I'm also in for the get together, Sunriver or wherever it is.
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Good morning, Flappers! Mom and Dad called this morning. All is well. The anesthesiologist worked very hard to find a "fly in the soup" as the German surgeon put it, but there is none. Dad checks in Monday at noon and surgery is early Tuesday. My sister is headed out today and will be there late tomorrow afternoon. They are finding, as everyone told them, that many people speak English. This morning dad took his electric scooter to the grocery and a tiny 95 year old woman went all over the store searching for pepper for him and found it.
So they are there. They have a phone. Surgery is on. And they have pepper. Life is good
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Sounds wonderful bailey....so happy things are falling into place for them. Must take a real load off your mind. Now you can really focus on that housework!!!!!.....btw....I'm been a bit slack around here for a couple days...so when you're done dusting in Michigan....I'm just sayin'.....
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Good news, Bailey! People can be kind all over the world, isn't that a blessing? We'll be in your mom and dad's pockets next week, be sure to tell them that.
Nihahi, I'm sure Bailey would rather come dust in sunny California than snowy Canada. And I have a swiffer.
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Bailey, good news for your dad indeed! And yes, the world is full of good people everywhere.
Nihahi and Sbel, you are too funny! I'm in for a little housework myself today. There are parts of my that need some serious tidying. With DH underfoot it will be interesting. It is just too wet and miserable for him to go outside, and he's pacing like a caged tiger already, so maybe I'll give him a room to tidy? LOL.
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Liefie, your DH could come over and help paint our new baseboards! I am dreading crawling around and doing it. Seahawks this afternoon----Kakaw!
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Great news Bailey! Keep us updated.
I am taking a step back on keeping up with all the posts in the 2013/2014 threads. Staying connected to this thread and NOLA for sure. I love you guys and have come through a lot because of you.
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Bailey, so great to hear how well your folks are doing. That is incredible. The surgery looks very interesting. Praying that all goes smoothly.
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Haha....would love to dust in Canada and California....anywhere with my dear friends.
Liefie, yes, put him to work! I put DH and the Things to work for two hours with me! I am always amazed at how much we can accomplish with all four of us having at it. Thing 1 was very funny. I asked him to clean the kitchen sink. Apparently he's never been assigned that job before. So I gave him a tutorial and left. A few minutes later he yelled, "Thank you for every time you've done this before!". LOL. I came back a few minutes later and he said, "Days like today remind me why the 50's were such a great time period for one group (men) and really sucked for another (women)". And I reminded him that not only were you doing all the work to run the house but you (a woman) did it in a dress and heels (not pjs like I was still in).
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Thing 1 sounds like a sweetheart......good job parenting an enlightened male, bailey!!! Your future DIL will thank you!!!
fyi sbe....I have a swiffer, assorted scented "swiffs" AND I'll toss in a cup of coffee with a touch of "bailey's" in it !!!! Game on sista.
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Yes Bailey, you're raising a boy who's going to be a gem of a DH to some very lucky woman! So glad I don't live in the fifties. Would have worn the dress, but the heels? Nooo way. I'm barefoot 99% of the time! Was amusing in S.A. whenever my newly married DS helped to clear the table, did kitchen cleanup, pack/unpack the dishwasher, and did other jobs around the house for his new MIL. She was over-the-moon impressed with him every single time, because there men don't really help around the house as a rule. Don't know what the new FIL was thinking - probably that DS was trying to score points - lol.
DH and I now busy in our bedroom. I have a few large black garbage bags, and today we're going to throw out everything we have not worn for the last 18 months or so. He does not part easily with his stuff, so diplomacy/patience will have to be employed.
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Liefie, sorry, but you had me going with "DH and I now busy in the bedroom.."! Lol.
I was born in the fifties and I don't remember my mom wearing dresses or heels. The west coast is more informal, though, I guess. She did wear black short-heeled shoes with short white shorts, though! Strange and, I'm sure, not typical!
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Jeannie that was my very first thought. Great minds think alike. Go for it Liefie, I am in a purging mood too.
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I stopped reading and averted my eyes at the "busy in the bedroom" paragraph.....what did I miss
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haha!
I recently purged 2 huge black garbage bags full of only MY clothes. My closet looks just the same! I need to do it again and again. Do I get rid of all my dresses, the least amount of clothing I own, because I rarely wear them??
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ok, I am really in the minority here. I can pack all my summer stuff into one small tote. Then, when the seasons change, I empty the tote, hang up the summer stuff, and pack away the winter stuff...in the same tote....what is wrong with this picture???? I guess I have to admit....I have a boring closet!
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Nihahi, when I move to a condo like you, things will have to drastically change in my closet! I am trying to slowly get there....
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I got rid of anything I had not worn in the last year or two. Two for dresses as I rarely get in one and they are expensive to replace. I am trying to simplify and wear out my clothes a little more. I am not a shopper. I have one purse that is falling apart so I know I need to get a new one. Ha ha!
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But I do have 3 pairs of runners, and 2 pairs of hikers, 1 pair of snowshoe boots and 1 pair of ski boots!!! Maybe I'm a shoe person and never realized it!!
cherrie...I'm also in need of a new purse...for the same reason as you....but, then, I do have 3 backpacks!..oh, and a set of paniers!
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movie....??????.......sending hugs {{{{{{{{{X}}}}}}}}}}
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happy 2014 ladies! Well I got my first chuckle of the year (aside from the Fredericks of Hollywood catalogue right after my mastectomy).... It's a reminder for my annual mammogram from the radiologist's office....and to borrow from another BCO sister "since I failed that test miserably the first time around, guess I don't need to retake that test again!"
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hahaha...I like your response cuetang...hope things are well....it's going to be a good year...RIGHT!!!!!
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Cuetang, I received one of those notices, as well. I actually called up BS's office to tell them I wouldn't be needing a mammo......receptionist informed me that BS STILL wanted to see me (maybe to see outcome of PS's work) and to make an appt. I told PS she wanted to see me, and he said in no uncertain terms that I was NOT to have a mammo-EVER. BS did indeed want to do a US next year.....then possibly a mammo the following year (like hell, I thought to myself)...... I told her what PS said,.....and if she still insists on a mammo, I will be searching for a new place to be seen......
Nice to hear from you!
Still dealing with supercold.......having this cough kinda reminds me of getting dog poop on your shoe......you try to clean it off, then you go inside, and you can STILL smell it, but you can't see it.....but it's still THERE.......yup, that's my analogy for this crap.....pun intended.
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GHEEZ Movie, you have been dealing with this CRAP for a long time now. Hoping for congestion free days ahead. Take care of yourself.
Nihahi- How are you doing this evening? Hopefully much better.
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movie, that STINKS! Pun intended. I hope you start feeling better faster this week.
I, too, received notice that I needed a mammogram last year. The very same breast center that totally mishandled telling me I had breast cancer CALLED me and said I needed a mammo. Grrrr. I did laugh and say a mammo would be difficult since I HAD NO BREASTS!!! I love Cuetang's answer, too.
I am getting pretty annoyed with my increasing hot flashes. They weren't so bad last year but have increased. Another thing to bring up to MO on Wednesday.
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Oh you girls! I should have chosen my words better - LOL! We were busy, a different kind of busy . . . oh what the heck, this is just sounding even worse, so 'nuff said. Hahahaaa!
Movie, you're sounding way better, and I like your analogy of how difficult it is to shake off that smell, I mean cold!
It's so funny about the reminders of mammograms/tests etc. on our non-existent breasts. One would think these doc's offices would be sharper seeing that they are the ones who find the ca most of the time! One thing is sure. At this stage I cannot imagine getting a mammo of the DIEP breast ever again. To have that precious, expensive piece of flesh squished/abused flat like that? I don't think so!
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My BS office notified me about having a mammogram. I told them I did not have breasts, but they said there was still breast tissue and thought I should reconsider. Dr. Massey wrote and faxed a letter stating that I should never have another mammo again. I did need a baseline MRI though and that office did not return my call. My MO took care of everything and personally talked to my PS.
I think doctors are still learning about these surgeries and we will have to help educate them.
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hahahaha....give it up liefie...there's no "emergency exit" for you!!!! Hope hubby let go of at least a few things. Mine drives me nuts....it's like a monumental effort to get him to go into a clothing store, much less try anything on. Literally, he will stand in the doorway of a men's store and actually say "naw, there's nothing in there that looks right"....SERIOUSLY???? But then, will he ever let go of anything....noooooo...he has shirts hanging in the closet he hasn't worn in years...even before we moved...refuses to toss them, even though they last fit him 10 years ago!!!! argh!!!
movie....OMG....what is going to get things better for you??? You are being followed by a doc, right??? Try to hang in there. Have you been using your essential oils???? They probably won't help the pneumo, but might just make you feel better?? Maybe????
cherrie...I'm doing much better, thanks, aside from being somewhat "plugged". Went for a long walk today, (about 8k), which ended up being about 3k too long, so I'm tuckered out, but other than that, no complaints here.
Hubby and I are now trying to find a way to get down to Great Falls, MT to sort things out with Social Security. They agree that I never did pass away, but now they say they have no record of my name change when I married, so my "certificate of life" is only in my maiden name....and of course, all my other documents of "proof" are in my married name. There is NO WAY I am sending them things like my passport and marriage certificate through the mail, given how screwed up things are, so I now have to take those documents in person to the closest SSA office, sort out the SSA, then get them to re-issue my "certificate of life" in my married name...so I can then submit that to the IRS....SO I CAN PAY LAST YEARS TAXES!!!!!!! About a 6 hour drive, one way, at least an overnight, then another drive back....in winter.....such fun!!!!!!
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Nihahi, DH actually did part with a few things, but not close to what I threw out. Men really seem to have a hard time letting go of their old clothes. His closet is still stuffed - his problem, not mine. It sucks that you have to go through all that trouble just so you can pay taxes. Really? You did no screw this up . . . yeah, I know. Some things you just can't fight. But it is not fair.
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Oh, Nihahi, what a bummer. I'm glad you aren't dead, at least! Safe travels whenever you work it out. Does it have to happen before your AZ trip? AZ sure sounds good right now. I'm tired of the gray skies and damp cold and it's only January! I am thankful to have warm clothes, hot food and a comfortable home.
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I have given up trying to find anything fair or reasonable about this whole mess.....I'm just grateful that Den is able to take time off from work to help me sort it out. I'm just keeping my focus on the fact that in two weeks, (unless they decide to stop me at the border!!!) we'll be relaxing and playing in Arizona.
When are you going to Seattle???
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thanks gals about the reassurances that a mammogram is not needed. In my case, the PS and BS are pretty much on the same page about no mammograms...I think I just tripped up the automatic mailer time period for the radiologist's office computer. Silver lining to all of this is that I don't have to go through that squishy torture machine again!
Movie-- I hope you feel better soon, ugh!
Nihahi-- I'm just catching up on the "passing away" story-- what a mess! Hope it gets sorted out soon. How much harder can the government make it to pay taxes?
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Liefie - 'One would think that these doc's offices would be sharper...' Yes! One Would!
I was a a bit starry eyed at the beginning of my treatment, and thought whatever these offices said, goes. But it was a necessary jolt of reality when I realized that that they weren't any sharper than my mechanic, or my dentist. More educated, yes, and much more compassionate, but I learned that is was still up to me to double check everything. F'rinstance, with his chart in hand, my PS's intern told me confidently that I had enough belly fat to make one perfect breast. ( I needed two!). And then my BS didn't show up for DIEP surgery due to a scheduling error (He was in Germany). And there were lots of other little things in between.....
But if I get a reminder of a mammo - I'm going to borrow from Cuetang. That made me laugh out loud.
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Beautiful sunrise here this morning....let's all have great days today!!!!
one hour later......insane wind, thick snow blowing sideways.....WTH????? OK, we can STILL have great days!!!!!!
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We have some sunshine today after days of incessant rain - lovely! Must take a long walk before it changes.
Nihahi, going to Seattle the weekend of 24 - 26 Jan. Wanna come?
Janet, so right. One cannot just give these people carte blanche. Have to say that with every surgery before I was taken into the OR, they asked me about 10 times what my name and birth date was, and what surgery I was there for. They wanted to make 100% sure, as they should.
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Hubby and I will be in Arizona from Jan 26 to Feb 5!!!! Hmmm.....warm, blissful sunshine vs. grey, cold rainy skies....nope....Arizona it is ! Assuming I don't go postal in Great Falls this weekend, trying to beat some sense into the poor government employee at the wicket in Social Security!!!!!
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Nihahi, if anyone deserves some sunshine, it's you, you poor deceased thing. I don't know that they need anymore dead bodies in Arizona, but the ground is softer there and the digging is easier this time of year. Bwahahaha....
Sorry, couldn't resist. I do the cardiac arrest stats at work and the joke is that my office is overflowing with dead people. Not literally, fortunately.
I just signed up for the coolest thing! It's a 12-week pilates class designed specifically for breast cancer survivors, an hour every Wednesday afternoon at a fancy pilates studio, and it's free. They know all about wonky abs and frozen shoulders and pecs radiated into fan-belt-like stiffness. I can't wait. But we'll see how enthused I am on Thursday morning when I can no longer blame all the aches on the Letrozole!
And...what's a wicket? "She was a wicket, wicket woe-man," my boys used to say about Jezebel from the Bible, Maleficent, and the lady in the natural history museum who barked at them for attempting to sniff the stuffed and dusty grizzly bear.
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good lord, sbe....you have GOT to cut down on the caffeine, girl!!!! You are too funny.
Gosh....I would LOVE to do that PIlates class with you!!!!!!! OK, here's the plan....tape the sessions, then post your efforts on youtube!!! You'll be a star!!!! Seriously, though, what a neat opportunity....does this mean you have the all clear to get that shoulder moving again????
Have I shared the lastest SSA/IRS scenario with you all? Let's see, in the last chapter, the SSA lady on the phone agreed that I was still among the "un-deceased" right, and was going to send me the form for the IRS....In this chapter, we learn that yes, she sent the required form, stating they had no record of my death......BUT....WAIT FOR IT......as it turns out.... the SSA, now says they have no proof of my marriage, so.....the magical, all important paperwork...is.....ALL IN MY MAIDEN NAME......AND.......ALL MY OTHER DOCUMENTS ARE OF COURSE IN MY MARRIED NAME, rejected tax return included!!!!!...... Are you with me.....the IRS, believes I'm dead, but sometime before my demise, I married, and changed my name. The SSA, believes I'm alive, but......never married.....OMGOMGOMGOMG...OMG!!!!!!!!!! I practically snorted at her on the phone, when she said, oh, just mail us your passport, marriage certificate, etc, and we'll sort it out........NO...nO....no...no...NO!!!! She actually thinks I'm going to surrender those documents by mail, to people who can't decide if I'm dead or alive, married or single!!!!!!NOT HAPPENING.
So....hubby and I are now in for a 6 hour road trip (one way, in good weather) to Great Falls, Montana, to resolve all this in person.....of course, taking time off from his work, because the SSA is not open on a weekend...no..of course not. Hence...the doomed employee standing behind the counter with frustrated people protective glass (the "wicket") beneath a sign that indicates she is about to serve someone with a number about 482 numbers before mine!!!!!! Just wait until she hears my answer to "how can I help you"........Stay tuned to the evening news from Montana on Friday!!!!!! Also, wouldn't be a bad idea to start collecting bail money....I'm just saying!!!!!!! I wonder what SPF a dead person should use?????
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oh, Nihahii, good grief. How are you counting wedding anniversaries now? Maybe you and Den could zip over to Vegas from AZ and get married in the Elvis chapel, just to cover the bases! You newlywed lovebirds! Deep breaths! I can picture the steam coming out of your ears.....
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jeannie......FABULOUS IDEA......we'll elope!!!!!!!!
! He can never remember how long we've been married anyway! You all can meet us there, and be flower girls!!!!! None of you are sedate enough to be matrons of honour!!!!fyi....fingers crossed for your hubby!
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Oh Nihahi, I love a good laugh in the morning! I know it is more frustrating than funny to you, but it just shows how bureaucracy can mess anything up. Be careful not to get married again before you are fully alive.
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Nihahi- OMG what an ordeal! I hope your able to sort it out quickly once you are there in person. I wouldnt send all my docs through the mail either.
Movie- So sorry that you are sick, feel better soon.
I am on a full liquid diet today because tomorrow is my stage two and OOph. yay! I didnt think I would be nervous but I kinda am. Hopefully I will heal more quickly this time around. I have been doing stretches and cardio to strengthen those muscles, we shall see if it paid off. I dont post often anymore but I am lurking still, reading. I have to agree with everyone else, my dh still has clothes from high school and he graduated in 1987......lol! No way does he fit in them but my twelve year olds do!
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Sweetpickle, in your pocket tomorrow. The work you put in will surely help to get you up and running again. No exercise is ever wasted.
Nihahi, how do these weird screw-ups happen? It sounds like the plot of a very funny movie! I hope that gov. agent gets the fright of his/her life when you, the divorced ghost, suddenly materialize in front of the wicket in all your glory, demanding to be brought back to life pronto, and to be married again. Hahahahaaa!
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Drive by posting.....no time to read....just came to report on dad....right leg went great. The rod is in his femur and no apparent issues. The left leg (which is the much shorter one) not as good. The femur fractured when they were putting the implant in. So, they did keep going but they had to add some extra hardware and wiring to get it all in place and set the fracture. So the left leg is going to need longer to heal. I don't know what the plan is yet.....it's too early to make any plans.
They will xray tomorrow and see what they see.
This result was not completely unexpected.....they knew that side might pose a problem. It's still a blow to them, though. You always go in expecting the best (hahaha don't we know it?)
Please pray for healing and patience and strength.
Thank you!
Sheila
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Is anyone besides me trying to lose weight AFTER reconstruction? I am motivated because weight loss would show off my new rack better & my MO wants no extra fat cells because of recurrence factors. I wish someone would start a new thread for this to encourage each other & give each other ideas on healthy eating & exercise. To get a great looking & healthy body to go along with the great new boobs.
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Sharon, there are a few threads here for that purpose. One is called Wednesday Weigh-in where we report our losses (or gains!) every Wednesday. There are also some where people report their daily exercise. It is a huge help in keeping me accountable. I for one have been losing weight after recon, and still have another few lbs to lose. Don't want any unnecessary fat cells around that can produce estrogen.
Bailey thanks for letting us know what's going on with your dad. So sorry to hear about the problems, but he must be so glad that the surgery is over. I sincerely hope he gets good news when they x-ray that leg tomorrow.
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bailey....prayers being said for Dad.....fingers crossed....positive thoughts. Wish I could do more.
sharon...if you want a thread specific to weight/exercise post flap recon....just start one...it's easy to do.
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Sharon, the most effective way for me to lose weight is not eating ANYTHING after a certain hour (set it based on when you go to sleep). Also, I do it very slow, usually 1 lb. every two weeks. Ok, I have to say it is so much easier to gain weight. I can do 1lb a day without much effort ...
bailey, healing and patience and strength for your dad
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Bailey, sending prayers up for your dad.......may they get good news tomorrow!
Sweet.....good luck......I hope your hard work pays off for you this time......I think you will be surprised at how different the surgeries are at stage 2.......in your pocket (if you want a sicko, anyways!)
Nihahi.....drive carefully to Great Falls.......it IS January,not June! Wish I could be a fly on the wall as you go about getting them straightened out!
STILL sick with chest crud.......the good news is, I may be better by June!
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bailey- Prayers for your dad, sounds like that might be a pretty rough procedure to heal from!
Movie- Glad to have you in my pocket, sick or not.
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Bailey- a fractured fever sounds horribly painful. I hope they are controlling this well. How long is he in the hospital? Your mom is a saint for going over and sitting by his side. Thinking of you.
Nihahi- maybe our gathering should be for your wedding. Could be fun.
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Sweet- Thinking of you tomorrow. You've got this girl.
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cherrie....the guest list would be "memorable" to say the least!!!! It's a deal, if have have to elope, to be able to be "un dead"....you're all invited!!!
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ZOMBIE-WEDDING-ROAD-TRIP!!!!
Thinking of you Sweet....you got this!
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LOL........count me in Bailey! On the bright side, this bowel cleanse has me down four pounds from yesterday. Not my most favorite way to see the scale move but Ill take it!
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atta girl, sweet.....take the positives anyway you can get them!
ok bailey....you can be the wedding planner!
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Argh...up most of last night dancing around with a cramp in my leg. I'd just get back to sleep when here it comes again. At least reading all your cyber loony posts gives me an early morning laugh!
Sweet, the hard part is done! In your pockets today!
Bailey, I was thinking and praying for your dad and mom all day yesterday. Thanks for the update.
Pilates this afternoon! Let's see...where did I put my Jane Fonda tights and leg warmers?
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ouch, sbe!!!!! Still getting those buggers????
Can't wait to hear about the class tonight....I expect tutorials from you!
hmmm......hubby just announced he isn't sure if he can get away from work this week.......Do you think he's getting cold feet about the elopement????
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Sbel, I see you're on Femara. That's what I'm supposed to switch to this August after 2 years on Tamoxifen. Not looking forward if those cramps will be part of it especially if it interferes with my sleep. The more sleep deprived I get, the more b----y I become.
Bailey wedding planner, here's a tip for you. A good venue for Nihahi's nuptials would be a graveyard . . . that is if she can hold on to the groom - lol. Maybe it 's the spookiness that's putting him off?
As for exercise, will do my walk/run routine on the treadmill. Have to work off those lbs that I gained on my travels, but it is somehow hard to get motivated. Oh well, don't think. JUST DO IT!!!
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Hi jeannie, another BC survivor posted a link for eye health and she was big on essential oil, specifically Ningxia. She said that her eye sight actually improved post chemo after using it. I thought of your right away. Here is the link: http://www.aoa.org/patients-and-public/caring-for...
Hope it works. If not, copy everything inside the quotes of the following line and paste it in the URL space and it should work.
"http://www.aoa.org/patients-and-public/caring-for-your-vision/diet-and-nutrition/lutein"
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Thanks, Tammy!
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Liefie, I don't think it's the Femara that's giving me leg cramps. I've had them long before BC. Sometimes when I cycle hard during the day I get cramps at night, and I think that's an electrolyte/hydration thing. And occasionally when I wear high heels I'll get a cramp at night too. Probably a good routine of stretching, hydration, and plenty of fruits/veggies high in potassium and magnesium, etc., would help.
I'm doing pretty well on the Femara. My main side effect is the stiffness and soreness in my hands, and the feeling that I can't spring into action very fast. When I'm sitting down, say, it takes a few seconds to "unstiff" myself and stand up to walk. This probably doesn't make much sense, does it? But I'm absolutely not complaining. The fact that I have a tool like Femara to help keep BC kicked to the curb is a Godsend.
When I think about the thirteen months before my BC diagnosis that I wore an estrogen patch, for no other reason than menopausal insomnia, I shudder. I'm absolutely positive that those months of "pouring gasoline" on the small but smoldering embers of estrogen-eating breast cancer cells resulted in how hard and fast my disease struck.
But all that's in the past. I've had the benefit of the best science and physicians anywhere, and I'm happy to be alive, well, and put back together again!
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I too poured gasoline into my cells. Despite the tests telling me the patch had nothing to do with it.
But like you I'm very grateful that God, doctors and science is taking care of me.
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Well, sisters, I am off to see my MO in a couple of hours and I have found two swollen nodes, one by my clavicle and one by my ab incision, both non cancerous side, if that even matters. I will be having the dreaded blood draw in my ankle, too. Please come with me!
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Oh, Jeannie. The waiting room will be so crowded, and so will the exam room, when we all squeeze in there with you. Wear heated socks so the veins in your ankle pop up!
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Sbel, I am going to put a hand warmer in my sock!
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(((((jeannie)))))
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Oh Jeannie.......I am in with the hand warmer.......(((hugs)))
XO
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Jeannie, sending lots of positive thoughts and hugs your way!
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Jeannie, we are there with you. Let us know how it went.
As for pouring gasoline, I've been using estrogen gel every night for 6 years before diagnosed. But who knows if not using it would have made a difference? There are so many questions, and so few answers, but I do tell my friends to stop using it. Some are not listening.
Sbel, glad to hear you're doing well on Femara. Will suck for me to get that hand soreness/stiffness because I play the piano, but hopefully I'll get it somewhere else, if at all. No telling, eh? In the meantime we have to keep moving those body parts regularly.
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Boy, was it crowded at the cancer center today....my penguin sisters----you!--- circled me close! The IV in my foot took some time but the nurse was experienced and kind. Both my MO and her PA were sure the areas I was concerned with were not cancer! They weren't even nodes. The clavicle one was some kind of valve thing on my vessel popping around. I found it suddenly when I was doing MLD massage. They thought it was weird but not concerning. The round thing near my ab incision is evidently just some round scar tissue that moves around. Sure felt like a node but glad it wasn't!!!! They are concerned about the stress I am under so I still have to return in three months instead of moving to six month checkups. When I think about how far I have come in my relationship with these 2 women, I am so very grateful. It took some hard words earlier on but it is good now. It will be 2 years since dx on Jan. 17, 2 years since bmx on March 29, 1 year since finishing chemo on Feb. 1. Time does indeed march on. Thanks for your support and encouragement, as always. Hubs continues to mine his many job contacts and is encouraged by the activity. I wish time would slow down for that so I wouldn't worry about finances! I know in my heart we will be fine, one way or another. AND, the SUN came out this afternoon!
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Jeannie....glad all was relatively benign...STILL in your pocket.....waiting for DH to get a job before I jump out! ( Germs and all.....)(((Hugs))XO
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Thanks, movie. Wanna go to my gyno with me tomorrow a.m. for my checkup? I hope my one remaining ovary is behaving.
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Jeannie I like the sound of your post. You have come a long ways in the last two years. Your hubby WILL get a job and soon you will be sipping wine on your beautiful back porch reflecting how great life is. I will bring the wine myself the next time I am in Seattle. Take care my friend.
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Ha! I would be there in a nanosecond.....if the traffic around Seattle would cooperate! So bummed to not see you next weekend....
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jeannie...that is JUST AWESOME NEWS!!!!!. Is there anything the ca centre can do to help you find affordable "stress counselling"?
I was out for a long walk today, and just kept thinking of you the whole time....I saw my eagle again...and took it as a good sign for you!! Keep looking for those sunny moments!!!!
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(((((Jeannie))))))
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Nihahi, I initially started at the cancer center for a counseling referral, set up an appt. to discuss, but nobody called. I didn't have the emotional ability to follow up at the time. I have found a promising local someone who actually specializes in medical issues but since I'm dealing with things generally better, I am postponing for a bit during the job search. The fact that you thought about me all during your walk brought tears to my eyes. You know, the reason I can't meet up with Movie and Liefie---drat!--- is because we are scheduled for a float trip down a river to view, hopefully, 100's of bald eagles!
Cherrie, thanks! That sounds great! Life is wonderful even though I hear a big suck sound lately. You all are a big part of the wonderful.
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Jeannie, you are such an inspiration. You have been blasted with bad luck and yet you put a smile on and have thankfulness in your heart. Good things are bound to come your way. You are so special. Keep the positive intentions going! ((Hugs))
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For jeannie.....may you always see eagles {{{{{X}}}}}
When an eagle appears, you are on notice to be courageous and stretch your limits. Do not accept the status quo, but rather reach higher and become more than you believe you are capable of. Look at things from a new, higher perspective. Be patient with the present; know that the future holds possibilities that you may not yet be able to see. You are about to take flight.
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Nihahi, his nose is peeling.
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see the eyes? Those are going to be the ones looking at the SSA officers in the Great Falls!
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so true Tammy......TOWANDA!!!!!!
I have a small mountain of documents stacked on the dining table to take with us....hubby is coming with....I think he caved when I showed him the original marriage certificate....no denying it now!!!!!
sbe....he must have just gotten back from a quick jaunt to AZ, and forgot to take his spf for the beak
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Ha, Nihahi, thanks. Might I add that the soaring bald eagles around here are often being attacked by pesky smaller birds but they aren't taken down by them. Towanda, indeed! Do you leave tomorrow for your confrontation...ahem, appointment?
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Jeannie, where is that river ride. I would like to tell my son about it.
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Liefie, I play the piano too! And oddly enough, the stiffness/soreness doesn't interfere with it. In fact, my hands feel better after I've run a few scales and stretched them out a bit. So on a larger scale, it would seem than exercise is good for the ouchiness that goes along with the aromatase inhibitors.
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Thanks for the eagle, Nihahi. I am on notice, and loving it!
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Sbel, that's good news - thanks! Have to agree about exercise being good for stiff joints. We are meant to move, not sitting all the time, right?
Jeannie, yes, you are an amazing positive presence here. So happy everything's fine, and so sorry we will miss you next Saturday. Enjoy the eagles though! Those birds are so majestic, and sometimes one will come and sit in a tree close to the house where I can watch it. Sometimes they end up in the water when they try to catch something, they get too wet, and then cannot take off. I've watched them swim long distances using their wings like arms to get to dry land. No wonder there are so many legends and stories about them - they are simply magnificent.
Nihahi, drive safely tomorrow. Love the picture, and your post about eagles!
Tammy, your post about the eagle's eyes are soooo funny! Those SSA officers should be afraid, very afraid . . .lol.
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Thanks for your praise. Just doing the best I can. I do have faith in God which helps, even though I have struggled with even that lately. I'm feeling like I'm coming out of a dark hole---even though I still can't see much with my right eye! I feel so relieved about my MO appt. yesterday and excited about getting nipples in three weeks.
Cherrie, we will be floating down the Skagit River with PacificNW Float Trips. The eagles hang out there in winter. We used a Groupon. I'm sure not looking forward to being cold....
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Currently sitting in a cheapo motel in Lethbridge, en route to Great Falls tomorrow to do battle with the SSA. I'm planning on starting out with a smile on my face, and sweet words coming out of my mouth. If that doesn't bring results.....EAGLE EYES!!!!!!!
TV in room isn't carrying the Calgary hockey game......hubby....not amused! Oh boy....hope it's not a sign!
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Nihahi- YOU CAN DO IT!!
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BULLETIN FROM GREAT FALLS MONTANA......
I am alive, I am married.....AND THE SOCIAL SECURITY NOW OWES ME MONEY!!!!!!!
How funny is that! Got here today, waited about 45 minutes until it was my turn at the "wicket"......sat down and started pleasantly explaining things....the gal behind the window just kept dropping her jaw farther and farther open....!!!! I lay out the letter from the IRS, the letter from SSA, my marriage certificate, my birth certificate, my passport, my previous tax returns......I'm running out of counter space...!!!!!!
She fires up her computer....asks me the "identifying/verifying" questions....blinks at her screen for a minute....blinks at me for a few more minutes.....goes and gets her supervisor....! Now, their computer says I DID REGISTER A NAME CHANGE WITH THEM YEARS AGO!!! So they both stare at the computer screen, stare at the letter from them that says no, I'm still under my maiden name....back to the computer screen...call up another person to come chat.....jaws keep dropping open.....I'm actually still rather calm, (no eagle eyes yet) since it is becoming quite clear to them that I am alive, I did marry, I have been corresponding with the various govt. agencies for years in my married name, I have lots and lots of proof.....I'M NOT THE ONE WHO SCREWED UP HERE!!!!!
Long story short....I have reams of letters to send on to the IRS with all kinds of official stamps, signatures and whatnot......so I'm happy and ready to leave. Then, she says....have you decided when you want to start collecting your SS??? No, I replied, I didn't work for 10 years in the states, so I'm not eligible. She then says....no, there is an agreement with Canada that factors the years you worked in Canada into the equation......so you are eligible for a bit of Social Security payments.....and since you are married....your husband gets some $$ too!!!!!!!!
It's not much money, but after this ridiculous circus I've had to sort through...I decided...what the heck....so hubby and I are going to make it our "play money" fund....I'll be laughing at the IRS for the rest of my life!
G'night from Great Falls....time for a glass of "celebration bevvie".
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Nihahi...I am following you around on the threads......
Glad to hear that all 's well that ends well re: SS.......I will withhold judgement on that lamebrain agency the IRS, and celebrate when it is done, done, and done......Good on you....now you have play $.......Sunriver????
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Yay Nihahi! I am having a beverage and watching the Australian Open. Have a safe trip home.
Movie- hope you are feeling better!
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Congrats, Nihahi! Like Movie, I will really be happy when the IRS gets on board. Glad you get some money out of it!
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Nihahi, I am so happy you were able to get a good resolution. By the way, there are many of us in the states that laugh at the IRS, too.
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Nihahi - What a rigamorale (don't know how to spell that word but it seems appropriate). But congratulations on the happy outcome! And super- duper-congratulations for staying calm cool and collected at the wicket. I love that you and hubster have a bit of IRS money to play with.
Janet
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I am giving my hubby a surprise 60th tonight with 26 people coming over. He did so much for me in the last year, it is the least I could do. His birthday isn't until the end off the month, but we leave for Florida on Monday. We are gone for 2 1/2 months. He has no clue what is going on.
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Zen-I guess laughing at them is better than the alternative, right?
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Go Cherrie! Love it!
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Nihahi, way to to! And to get some money out of it is the best - hopefully they will now keep your file straight and up to date.
Cherrie, what a wonderful gesture for DH! Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!
Movie, you are better, aren't you?
A wonderful weekend to all you ladies!
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Just popping in to say "hi and hugs".....We've had a fun day exploring the trails here. Visited the Lewis and Clark interpretive centre, then walked about 10k on the various pathways. Heading home tomorrow.....Hope you have been having good days.
hmmm.....sbe....didn't see recent "musings" from you....hope all is well and the fires in SoCal are staying well away from you and yours?
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Hi, Nihahi and everyone. We've had a busy time around here--my DIL's best friend from Michigan came for a week's visit and brought her baby, Alexander, with her. Aubrey and Alex are two months apart in age, and it's been so cute watching them interact. We've just about settled on the marriage contract and dowry--a couple of cows and a surfboard.
The fires are a long way from here, so it's not smokey and smelly like it gets when they're closer.
Movie, you feeling better? And Cherrie...happy surprise birthday party! I hope it comes off without a hitch!
Jerry and I drove to UC San Diego this morning (about 2 1/2 hours away, in light traffic) for me to enroll in the metformin study. Today they just drew some blood and had me sign some paperwork. I'll go back in a couple of weeks and get started. I SO hope I'm randomized into the study drug.
Nihahi, have a wonderful time being alive here in the States!
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Sbe, I invoked your name (Constipationator) on the DIEP 2014 thread......by the way, I hope you get randomized into the study med, too! Love your marriage contract! Beats the heck out of the 200 cows a Masai warrior offered for my youngest daughter, after seeing a photo of her.....!!
Thanks for all the birthday wishes for the twins.......they are pretty stoked about the new year ahead....(now if I can throw off the remnants of this lousy cough.......)
Nihahi....glad you have good use of your time......I forget you are from the frozen north, and Great Falls weather if probably like the banana belt to you.......
Liefie, I am getting better, and excited about our meet-up in Seattle!
Love to all...XO
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Movie, really looking forward!
Sbel, that dowry sounds perfect to me! It is not so far-fetched either . . . my DS just married the daughter of good friends of ours. Her mom and I were pregnant together with the two of them, and she was born almost 3 months after him. They started kindergarten together, started elementary school together etc. We've got many photos of the two of them together as children. On their wedding program that was given out at the church, it said, 'We never met each other. We've just always known each other . . .' So it can happen.
Nihahi, safe travels today now that you are alive and reunited with your DH again!
Cherrie, how was the party? And DH's reaction?
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My DH was surprised and the party went great. Everyone came and it was great fun. He turns 60 at the end of the month when we are in Florida, so there will be another celebration. We leave for FL early in the morning. I will keep you updated when I can. I took off my compression for my colonoscopy last Monday, and never put it back on. I did 4.5 months of 24/7. I know of no one else that has to wear it for so long. Feeling slightly guilty, like a naughty little girl, but I am thrilled to be free.
Movie- hope you are feeling much better.
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Home from Great Falls....good drive and good to be home. Just over 5 hours, so we made great time, and Den's back and shoulder seemed to have handled it pretty well, which is a huge leap forward. Went for groceries and a 4k walk once we got home. Have good nights everyone!
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Glad you made it home safely, Nihahi, and that Den's "issues" are no worse for the wear.......the photo reminded me of you, me, and Ade........ Hmmmmmm.......
XO
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hahaha...you're still on drugs, aren't you movie!!! Hope you're feeling better???
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Drugs!?!?! Who, ME?? Noooooooooo! Just being silly.......
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I think we looked MUCH BETTER!
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HAHAHAHAHA .......you're right! We DID!
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Happy Martin Luther King Day, for those who have the day off, which I do, and intend to celebrate with a pedicure.
Nihahi, your photo is great. The people look very holey. At least the wind won't blow them over.
Bailey, how is your dad coming along, and how is your mom coping?
Happy...uh...Monday, everyone!
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Well, doing well, drive by posting as I am at work (no happy toes for me!)....Dad has a quick surgery in the morning to add a screw to the hardware store on the left side. Then we wait.....I keep thinking "Patience, Grasshopper".
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I am in Birmingham, AL which is such a historical place for Martin Luther King's life. He was jailed here and marched through these streets during the civil rights in the 60's. we are resting and leaving tomorrow for Apalachicola, FL where I am visiting my college roommate for a couple of days. It finally seems like I am retired. I spent my first whole year of retirement removing from 4 surgeries. Love you all bunches.
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Enjoy "retirement" cherrie....certainly an appropriate day to be in Birmingham! Hope everyone in the States has had a good long weekend, with some appreciation of the life of MLK.
Bailey...hope things settle for Dad.
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Just wanna say hi. Yes, MLK was a great man indeed. One has to wonder how his life would have turned out had it not been cut short. Such waste of such potential . . . we are our own worst enemies.
Cherrie, no more surgeries for you. You've had enough, and deserve to be retired. Enjoy!
Bailey, hope your dad will be able to lift that leg with all the hardware that's been put in, eh? A man of courage, truly.
Not much to report other than that I'm coming to Calgary sometime in February. Nihahi, we'll have to meet for coffee, lunch or something. My new DIL invited me for a visit, so will be there for a few days. She's already planning what we will be doing together - sweet girl.
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Hi ladies! Jeannie, happy to hear your MO appointment went well. Bailey, hope your dad's surgery fixed him up. Cherrie, FL is much better than MI or IN right now. You enjoy that retirement! Nihahi, that eagle picture is so cool. Movie, sure hope you are feeling better. Any word from Sweet?
Our trip down was a bit tense the first day since it decided to snow until we were in mid-Kentucky. I work while we travel. It was cold and I decided we should try plugging in a little ceramic heater. BAD IDEA! It blew a fuse and my inverter no longer worked. A motor home is one adventure after another. We arrived safely in Florida on Sunday afternoon to much better weather.
Any more information on our rendezvous in September? Love you all. ...Julie
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Good morning, gloobsters! I think I have the day correct...it's Wednesday, HUMP DAY!
This afternoon is the 2nd session of "Pink Pilates," the free course offered by a very chi-chi pilates studio. Last week's was pretty mild, but I did learn how to safely and comfortably lower my carcass to the ground, and haul it up again. There was a lot of creaking and popping in the room last week but we are a determined bunch.
WE GET THE BABY TONIGHT! We bribed the parents with sandwiches, and then they're off to their Bible study while we watch Aubrey. Isn't she getting big?
Love to everyone!
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sbelizabeth - Aubrey is our little mascot. It's been so fun to watch her blossom. Wilbur is my other favourite mascot, even if he is a bit cheeky with his one night stands.
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Oh my gosh, that cute little face and pouty lips!
Julie, traveling in a motor home sounds like so much fun. Sorry to here about your inverter problem though. What kind of work do you do?
We got 12 inches of snow. It's beautiful but Florida is sounding really good right now. The wind chill is supposed to be -14! Haven't braved going outside yet.
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She is beautiful, sbe. It seems just a few days ago that we were anxiously waiting for the news of her arrival... Agree with Janet, Aubery is our little mascot. bailey, hope your dad is doing well. So glad you are alive and still married, our fearless leader with eagle eyes. cherrie, is there a topless beach in FL that you can show off your new gloobs now that they are perfected? Jeannie, hope your dh's job hunting is successful. Same question as Julie, any more information on our rendezvous in September movie and bailey?
Happy hump day!
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Alive, married, watching it snow, and counting down the sleeps until we leave for 10 days in AZ.
I broke down yesterday and bought some "real" bras for the first time in years. So, so, SOOOO tired of the stretchy, one size fits all things I've been wearing, which actually aren't very comfortable since Stage 2. Not thrilled with what I bought, but, it's a step in the right direction, they were on sale, and hopefully will "work" during the nipple recon, whenever that will be.
sbe....thank you sooooo much for sharing Aubrey with us. She is beyond beautiful, cuddly, sweet, precious, exciting to watch as she grows...ADORABLE!!!! You have no idea how I enjoy "seeing" her...well, actually, you do.....so just again want to say "thank you" {{{X}}}.
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wow! Aubrey as really changed! She's even MORE adorable...if that's possible.....Sbe, you're a lucky Grandma!
As far as get-together goes....if I get time, (trying to get some stuff done.....going up to Seattle to meet up with Liefie,( and HOPEFULLY Jeannie, too) I will look into home rentals in Sunriver......some of those places sleep up to 15-16. But I think we are not real clear on a date (as per Bailey)But September is a beautiful time of year in the Cascade Mountains.....unless somebody comes up with something better
Glad you made it back to Okotoks alive, Nihahi......
XO
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Okay...I'm back....I actually did a quick view, and I think(depending on how many can make it,) that per night per person could be $50-75....but it really depends on who is in! These homes have 5-6 bedrooms (between 500-600 per night), some have some bikes, they have internet, and hot tubs. If fewer than 12 are in, we could rent a little smaller place.....and the nightly would drop some, as well.I would encourage you to google Sunriver, Oregon, and look up info on it. A ton of stuff to do, and as I mentioned, I will spring for an extra car/van rental should we need it....as I would not have travel expense....
XO
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One question, are we having a girls only gathering, or dh included? Either way is fine with me, but just need to know.
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I am thinking "Ladies Only"?????
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If we're going to wander about in the nude, my suggestion would be girls only.
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I like Sunriver OR. Maybe the next step is to take a head count so we can decide whether to get a 8/12/16+ place. I am in, for September. Bailey is quiet, I hope her dad is do well...
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I'm with you, Sbe.....I imagine there might be a wee bit of "Show and Tell".......
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Blue, I'm in IT. I work for an automotive supplier. I support the data exchanged between our NA automotive divisions and customers like Chrysler, Ford, Mercedes, etc. I have been very blessed to be able to work remotely for almost 15 years.
Sbe, Aubrey is cuter in every picture you post. Those blue eyes!
I'm in for a September get together! ...Julie
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Deb... flaps can definitely be repositioned. And areas can be lipo'd as well.
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If I can make it (still don't know ladies, and won't know for quite awhile).....I was always thinking of it as a girls only. Not meaning to exclude the guys, but it would have a different dynamic, I think, if we were there as "couples". But, those who can definitely commit, should have the "bigger say".
Meant to add....hooray, movie....you sound like you're feeling better?????
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Oh dear deb....no...I didn't mean men being HERE with us......I was referring to the thoughts of having a get together that is being discussed on this thread. Though, men do come to the bco site....if that is a concern of yours.
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Nice photo, Nihahi! It makes me happy.
I have joined a LiveStrong exercise group at the Y. It starts Feb. 17th, only ten days after I get nipples but the PS gave the ok. He just said don't do anything to jostle them. Jostle is a funny word. English is so strange sometimes...
Latest eye news: part of my vision is permanently damaged, still waiting for part of the optic nerve swelling to go down to determine how bad it is. It is my peripheral vision, which is more than just looking to the side, it's all around your central vision. My central vision is 20/25 but is surrounded by blurriness from the peripheral vision damage, mostly the bottom half of my eye. My brain is already adjusting to it, making it less annoying to me and this adjusting will continue. I will eventually try corrective lenses to sharpen up the vision in my other eye. I am more accepting of it, trying not to worry about the other eye too much. Another reason to avoid surgery--sudden drop in BP, which has happened to me, can bring on this mysterious eye event. Don't feel sorry for me. I am mostly brave and like to think I am a conqueror. Bring it on.
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Cherrie, glad the party was great! I'm so glad you are in Florida---you deserve it.
Deb, I really hope your appt. goes well. There have to be solutions for you, even if this doc turns out not to be the one. Hope he is, though.
Sbel, love your Audrey-girl!
Bluebird and the rest of you in the snow and mind-numbing cold, I hope you are warm enough---sending warm thoughts.
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Jeannie, good to hear you are adjusting to the eye issue, and hopefully the news will not be as bad once that swelling goes down. You've certainly had your fair share of difficulties, and your courage and resilience are simply amazing. I hear you and Movie are cooking up a plan for a meeting on Sunday? Would just love to hug you, brave warrior!
Sbel, that little girl is sooo adorable! Can't wait for my own little monkey, and I'm hoping it's a girl for purely selfish reasons. Only 6 more weeks to go!
Nihahi, so nice to see your face on here! In real life you're even more beautiful, really.
Movie, are you packing yet? I'm getting excited now - just have to do some more laundry, cook supper, pack, sleep. We're leaving home at nine tomorrow to drive to Victoria, then get to Seattle from there.
Debdylan, so sorry to hear about your issues. To go through this, and then be so disappointed must be so hard. All the best to you in finding a good PS to rectify what is wrong.
Cherrie, glad the party went so well. I am also hitting the 60's this year - rock and roll! 60 is the new 40 . . . .or so I hear?
Tammy, I also like Sunriver, but without men I think. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, or is it Out of sight out of mind? LOL.
Good days, everyone!
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Small photos are wonderful....they blur the wrinkles... Just felt like doing some updating lately.
I am still fighting cabin fever......the sidewalks here are just "scary icy", so just came back from doing the elliptical in the gym. I pretended I was climbing a ski trail, to stay sane.....
liefie....the 60's are great!!! Sometimes senior's discounts kick in.......and if you decide to let loose and have fun, people just chalk it up to being a crazy old lady!
jeannie.....you sound strong, girl! TOWANDA! It is amazing how the eyes and the brain can "meld things" together. Otherwise, we'd all be walking around with blurred vision and headaches. Some of the founders of vision therapy are right there in Seattle. I was there for a weekend workshop years ago. Wish I was connecting with you guys in Seattle, but I confess.....my biggest wish would be to see the eagles with jeannie!!!
adding:....sbe....how was round two of the Pilates class???
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Nihahi, I'm so relieved there will be no rain this Sat. for eagle viewing. Such a dry winter here.
Liefie, I would love a hug! I hope you have a great weekend in Sea-Town!
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Jeannie, I understand the weather is going to be great in Seattle this weekend - up to eleven degrees C, and sunshine! Great for eagle viewing too. Can we be so lucky? Here where I live the sun just finally burned off the thick fog that we've had for days now. It is after three in the afternoon, and so beautiful outside with the fog drifting away over the lake, and the blue sky and sunshine in the background! It is light and bright and my mood just became much better - sunshine has that effect on me. See you Sunday - hopefully!
Nihahi, I'm planning to celebrate every birthday whether it's 60 or 70 - bring it on! Wrinkles or no wrinkles, we are alive. That's the most important. Senior discounts will also come in handy - lol.
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Just had a call from DH announcing that he is going to a lecture tonight where they will be fed, so I don't have to cook - YAY!
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Thanks Jeannie. Spent four hours shoveling our drive yesterday. The downside to having a 120 foot long x 20 wide driveway. But it was wonderful to be out working hard! Just weeks ago I couldn't imagine being able to do this. Surprisingly I'm not even sore today.
I'll try to remember this good feeling of physical labor and feeling normal. Tomorrow I'm having more surgery and my port out. (Hooray!) It's an early night for me since I have to be in the hospital by 6 am tomorrow. Have a wonderful weekend everyone!
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bluebird...being physically able to do "normal" things is such a huge step. Positive vibes heading your way for a gentle, easy peasy deportation!!
jeannie....can I be tucked into your pocket for the eagle trip....please oh please....I'll behave....(well) I'LL REALLY TRY TO BEHAVE!!!!!
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yes, N, you will fit in my pocket no problem! I wish I had a good camera but, alas, no. Disposable will have to do.
Liefie, we have been having fog every morning for as long as I can remember. Sometimes it clears up, sometimes not. I hope sunny skies for your travels!
Bluebird, I remembering shoveling my parents' 10' x 40' driveway one Easter in the Sierra Nevada Mts. while waiting for my mom to come home from her bc mx. It was a steep driveway. At the bottom, I turned around and looked at what I had shoveled, only to see it covered in snow again. I concentrated on the snow plow berm instead. It's a lot of work! Good for you!!
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Liefie....I haven't done a darn thing....... Been in the "spare bedroom aka the JUNK room ALL day......that room has been a disaster since before Stage 1, which was my convenient excuse for doing nothing to clean it out.....well.....fast forward to 2014, and.......well, better late than never! I am going to clean it out, tear out the carpet, and re-floor (don't know if it'll be carpet, or wood, yet) paint, and install a brand new office/craft room.....just for ME! At least there is a path from the door to the middle of the room.....will have to work out from there......I should finish by 2015.........
Jeannie.....SO sorry to hear that vision loss is permanent......it seems like if it's not one thing for us, it is something else......hope the corrective glasses can help some.....the weather is cooperating for your eagle-spotting trip on Saturday......hope you can work it out so you and Tom can slip down to the city Sunday AM for a Starbucks get-together......then I can hug you in person! XO
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jeannie.....there are lots of times when I'm out somewhere "magical", and I chose to stop trying to view it through a camera lens, but instead I put the camera down and take what I call "mental pictures"....they are the ones I can carry in my heart 24/7. If you do meet up with movie and liefie....some of those hugs are from me!!!!
sbe.....I'm still waiting for the pilates synopsis!!!!
movie....you're sounding more like your normal insanely busy self. Good to hear.
snowshoe jaunt planned for tomorrow....one more snowy mountain fix before we head south to the sun and desert cacti!!!
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Movie, I'm sitting here with the cat on my lap in front of the TV watching The Taste, and listening to Nigella's beautiful English. Better get my backside in gear, get out a suitcase and get on with it. Not much to pack - only two days, right? Shouldn't take long. That office/craft room sounds like a great idea!
Bluebird, that's a lot to shovel! Good for you!
Enjoy the mountain tomorrow, Nihahi! I would like to try snowshoeing one day.
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Movie and Liefie, of course I can get to Seattle Sunday morning for coffee and hugs! DH will come but he can stand in the corner if we want. Just let me know when. And where!
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for those of you who would like to snowshoe....I just happen to know where that could happen, ya know!!!! Maybe one year we could rendezvous up here....for some playtime.
sbe, and others who are "altitude challenged".....I know of a place that transports you up the mountain, then you can wander around the mountain top surrounded by endless alpine meadows of wildflowers! Just for the fun of it....google "Sunshine Meadows"......then come for a visit!!!!!
Of course, we could snowshoe there too, but that much powder might be a wee bit too challenging for some.
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Nihahi, sounds glorious.
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Mt. Rainier has beautiful wildflowers, too, and that magnificent mt. Is in your face.
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Nihahi...if you see our "mutual friend".....please give her a HUG from me!
Jeannie...Tom can join us....Dave and Johan will be there, as well!
Blue...you make me look positively lazy.......
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movie.....of course she will be there! Can you really see me going to the mountains without Ade???? greetings and hugs will be passed along on your behalf.
Later, ladies......sleep well.
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Movie, Jeannie, we'll find a big corner for the men to stand in, and the three of us can find a nice table where we can chat and have coffee - lol. We'll let you know where, Jeannie!
Bluebird, in your pocket tomorrow. Another milestone on the road to recovery!
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Good morning, gloobsters! It's been a busy week at work and I've missed posting a lot, but I've been keeping up with reading. Jeannie, I'm so sorry you've been dealt this vision nightmare. Like everyone else, I hope things settle a bit and the glasses help.
Nihahi, the pilates are pretty great. I'm so used to BIG, MONDO CARDIO stuff on my bicycle, pumping my legs like mad, and just let the rest of the carcass come along for the ride. Well, that doesn't address my core, hence...back pain, lack of arm strength and mobility, etc. The pilates concentrate on the core a lot and it's all new to me. The class consists of twelve ladies who have had breast cancer. We're just starting to chat and share stories, and the exercise is so much fun I might look into a pilates studio when my free 12 weeks ("Pink Pilates" ... ugh...) are finished.
I so wish I were in the Pacific Northwest to meet up with you ladies later. Have a lovely time together.
Happy Friday!
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Hi,
a newcomer here...but love the theme of this positive thread. My surgery was almost 3 months ago, and I am ready to move on. I start back to work (teaching 5th grade) on Feb 3rd, and I, too have joined LiveStrong at my local Y to keep up the consistency I need for exercise. We have met 2 times already, and its a nice bunch of ladies. I have so many worries, but my promise to myself was to try and focus on the positive, and think of the things that I am fortunate for. My promise to my family was to try and not let fear invade my relationships with them, and I want to try (at least try) anything my LiveStrong coaches encourage me to do, Pilates, included. My goal is to be back at spinning classes, and get back on my road bike for the spring.
Thanks!
Ann
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Welcome skiergirl.....you sound like you're on the right path!!! We're hear for those "harder moments" too, but, your plans and "resolutions" sound like a great combo!!
7k snowshoe today...lots of hoar frost on the trees, in spots where the sun hadn't hit it before we got there. You just can't beat crisp mountain air on a sunny winter day. sbe....no animals while on the trail, but a moose and a snowy owl on the drive home. Sadly, no pics of them.
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Beautiful photos!
Home in bed with Wilbur. Think I might marry him this time. Anesthesia went much smoother and have new little boobette growing already. Hubby (don't tell him about Wilbur) made me clam chowder in a bread bowl. Life is good!
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Bluebird.....wonderful news!!!!!!
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Bluebird, thrilled for you! I hope everything continues going well for you! I'm glad you are enjoying Wilbur.
Stunning photography, Nihahi!
Welcome, Skiergirl! We're all doing our best to "move on" but sometimes life manages to get in the way. You're welcome to share from the heart! Good to hear about the LiveStrong Program. I start mine the 17th.
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Good Friday night....you ladies always seem to end up being my date (whilst DH sleeps with remote in hand lol).
Blue....I am praying for the most excellent results for you. You certainly deserve it after all you've come through!
Nihahi your picture is beautiful. I had to keep looking to see who the new girl was. I LOVED your story of IRS resurrection. Truly lovely to leave them with their mouths agape....and money to boot! Consider it for your pain and suffering!
Jeannie sorry about your eye
you are a strong and positive soul, so I know you will be ok.....just hope it doesn't progress in either eye! Hugs.Sbel.....ooohhhhhhh my word.....Aubrey is a doll baby .......you are a lucky Grandma. Pilates sounds good. I really need to get back on the workout schedule.
I am ok. Work is still kicking my butt. So happy it's Friday....finally!
Dad and mom are doing all right. The surgeon put in another screw on Tuesday. He is still in the hospital....hoping to be sprung early next week. My sister spoke with them this morning and she said my little mom sounded well.
I am totally in for a trip. My only need is some time to build up my vacation bank so fall would be best for me. Count me in!!! So looking forward to it.
We have near blizzard conditions tonight.....very cold!
Ok....I have reading to do....and will post on the flap thread about my stage II.
B
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It is a beautiful, clear day today, 30 degrees, perfect for watching eagles. What a blessing!
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So happy for you and your weather report, jeannie....I've had my coffee, put on my sunscreen....when do we leave???
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Ha! On our way!
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Nihahi, stunning photos. It's like a magical world. Thanks for sharing the beauty!
Hi, Skiergirl, and welcome. We're a fun bunch.
Thanks, everyone, for sharing Aubrey with me. She's so much fun, and so lovely, when I have her I can just sit and watch her sleep. I don't know what people do who have lots and lots of grandkids--I would do nothing but play granny!
Bailey, work is kicking my butt too. It's January and all the 2013 statistics have to be settled and reported. At quitting time my computer makes a sucking sound when I pull my head out of it.
So here's an interesting thing. I have a glucometer (I'm not diabetic) and I check my fasting blood sugar every morning just to keep a handle on things--I have a long family history of Type II diabetes. One day last week I started my day with a very stressful phone call. When I hung up I checked my fasting glucose. 123--way too high. So I waited 45 minutes--136, it's climbing. Another 45 minutes later, it's 154. Wow--this blood glucose spike is due to nothing but stress. Proof positive to me that stress scrambles my system!
Time for a bike ride--have a great Saturday, everyone!
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bluebird.....we won't tell hubby about Wilbur...but, when is the wedding????
sbe.....have a great ride! Thanks for sharing your blood glucose info....I'm a big believer in the theory that stress (beyond what we can handle in a healthy way) does many bad things to our bodies.
I'm also a big believer in daily exercise being one of the best ways that I can train my body to handle stress that I can't modify, since life just throws stress at us, whether we're ready for it or not!
(Lord knows there's little hope in training my brain not to respond to stress )!!!
"moving on" bra update......I returned the ones I recently bought....as I mentioned....just didn't love them, and decided why spend $$ on something I didn't really want to wear. After trying on every bra in the Western World...I found one brand/style that I tried on in desperation....to find I really like it!!! The bonus......I put one on today, under a "clinging type t-shirt top I haven't worn in a couple years....and didn't say anything to hubby. His instant comment was...gosh...you look great....you should dress like that more often!!! Of course, he immediately thinks he made a big mistake, because out came the tears....but when he realized....I was crying but smiling....HAPPY DAY!
Of course, now he's worried I might be hitting the outlet stores in Phoenix!!!! The sun is shining.....I'm packing the suitcases....life is great!!!!!!
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I wanted to share this with you all. It's from another thread....I think its my new outlook!
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A beautiful, peaceful morning floating on the river. We saw seven eagles, eating, flying, fighting, pooping. One just flew toward us on the road and went right over the car! Evidently December is a better month to see them as there are more salmon carcasses then, thus lots more birds. I am happy and content.
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Hi all.....Liefie and I are sitting in the University Village Starbucks...soaking up the ambiance, letting our tummies settle after indulging a wee bit too much in what Starbucks has to offer.......Liefie has emptied out the Pottery Barn Kids store, so if you were going to Seattle to shop in THAT store......forget it.....it is EMPTY........
Jeannie.....can you and DH meet up with us in the Fairmont Olympic lobby about 9 am? Breakfast is on Liefie and I.........no worries......we just wAnt to see you in the flesh.....bring Nihahi if she is still with you....... We hope the "Eagles" concert was wonderful today...the weather WAS perfect.......
Love to all..... Movie and Liefie ......who are enjoying the feeling of uber-full tummies...and sunshine
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PS: Nihahi ....LOVE the picture! Maybe HE could be Wilbur!?!?
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Hi Ladies - it's been quite a while since I've posted but I try to read as much as I can on bco. I've had a crazy few months/yr with family medical issues (ha, not mine at least!) and working a real job 40+ hours a week which I haven't done in 17 years. Boy does that wipe you out especially I think with all I've been through - chemo, mastectomy, radiation, diep, diep 2a, mother diagnosed with lung cancer fall 2012 and then had brain cancer nov 2013 and immediate brain surgery - she's still alive and kickin!
Sbe - I love your pictures of your granddaughter. She looks so darn sweet. I'd love to hold her! On the type II diabetes thing - I was on the radar for it for me even before being diagnosed. My mom has had type II for years. and my fasting levels have been high 90s and low 100s for a few years before diagnosis and I had gestational diabetes with my pregnancy with my daughter. Long story short I got on the metformin trial with my oncologist but it really bothered me not knowing if I had the "real" thing so I asked my primary physician and she put me on it based on my numbers and the information on the trial. I do get regular blood tests with her too. I think with your numbers you should have a discussion with your primary to get you on the real thing too! Just my 2 cents. Side note - I do think there is a correlation with elevated blood sugars and cancer growth.
Nihahi - I love the picture of the little dog so much! Sometimes I really feel like her! I love her energy! I think I need to have it as my new outlook too!
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Movie, we will be there! U Village is one of the few outdoor malls up here. Such a beautiful day to spend there.
I love the dog, too! My little dog loves to run that fast but he runs in a circle around our yard. I would love that energy. I did just get in from gardening for a couple of hours so I can't complain.
Nihahi, congrats on finding a bra. I haven't started my search yet. My old ones just don't quite fit and aren't all that comfy, either. Hey, I took you in the pocket of my down parka to see eagles. Can I come to Arizona in your sunhat??? 😄The taste of sun today makes me hungry for more.
Goodie, I remember you! Welcome back. I'm sorry about your mom. She sounds like a fighter!
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Thanks Jeannie - I've been following you too. You are a fighter too!
I say my mom is the luckiest person I know. Her lung cancer - like stage 3 something and chemo basically shrinks it in two tumors to basically nothing and then this brain tumor in the fall and the surgeon "saves" her. She's doing very well now. It's just hard my parents live in California and I live in Maryland.
Ugh bra issues. I've been waiting to get "real" bras at Nordstroms forever. My right breast still isn't right so I'll be going in for a fix there some time this year. So, do I go and get fitted for bras or wait? My right breast still has hard issues at the bottom and right so PS will definitely be fixing that. Any suggestions on interim bras?
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Goodie I like the Genie or the Coobie bra for my mismatched girls....there is a Bali model a lot of women here love, too, for the interim period. I can't recall the model number of the Bali....somebody will chime in here.
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jeannie...for sure, gal pal....bring your sun lotion...there's going to be lots of OUTSIDE playtime!! The eagles and your day sound lovely...so glad you had a good time.
goodie...sheesh....wishing for some "dull, unexciting" times ahead for you. It sounds like you've had more than enough of the "other kind".
BRA info: I was "unbalanced" (no comments movie or sbe) for several years pre-flap, and was less so, but still not symmetrical post stage 1. I have been wearing something very similar to the genie bra with "ok" look and comfort. Here it is sold under the name "ah bra". I am very close to symmetrical now, and one day just decided I really, really wanted to wear something more like...."a real bra again". I tried on zillions, including many varieties of Bali bras, and lucked out on the second shopping trip, with a bra made by Warner's. The style is called "Suddenly Simple". It is wire-free (which I wanted) it is lined but not padded (another "want"), my uni nipple is not visible when I'm wearing the bra, and because of the way it is designed, seems to have a bit of side support, which seems to work well for me. I wear a lot of "sporty tops", and wanted something smooth that looked good underneath stretchy type tops, which this seems to. It is very comfortable....but..I acknowledge that we all are shaped and sized differently, so what works for me, might not be the best solution for someone else. The bras are sized S, M, L and XL. Measurement wise, I'm now a 34C, and the Medium is a perfect fit for me. Colour selection isn't huge, but, comfort and appearance are more important to me.
I hope someone finds this helpful.
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Another gloriously sunny day in the PNW! Breakfast with Liefie, Movie and the guys was so much fun---lots of laughing, good food and trips to the bathroom for show and tell. (Men not included!) What a blessing to spend time together in person. A September get-together has to happen for all of us who can make it! I don't want to make anyone too envious but DH and I then soaked up some Vitamin D at Pike Place Market on the waterfront. So unusual for January and much needed. Back to painting and pruning.
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I need to remember this!!
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Hello my lovely Flapper gals......I'm back from Seattle get-together with Liefie (with a side of breakfast with Jeannie and Tom...which was DELIGHTFUL.....) Jeannie has covered the breakfast meet-up, so I will just say I had an absolute blast helping Liefie buy "stuff" for her new Grandbaby......It was so wonderful to get caught up, and spend some quality time together.....Jeannie is so right....we HAVE to do this......
Well, I am back to "reality".......off to get my 96 year old mother ready for bed.......
Love to all......XO
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Love it, Jeannie. Your positive attitude amazes me. Keep the faith! I'm praying for you.
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Sounds like some wonderful weekends happening!!!! So glad to hear how great the Seattle rendezvous went. Bring it on, eh ladies!
So hubby and I left the cold and the snow this morning and made it to Scottsdale. Enjoying a lovely resort. We just did a 6km walk in a beautiful desert night, and now are going to head to the hot tub in a bit. probably going to be taking a few days off from the threads, catch you all on the flip side! fyi....hope everyone sinking into the polar vortex again stays warm, cozy and safe.
Hugs to all.
oops....meant to say....bailey....LOVE your new avatar!
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Nihahi, which resort?
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Oh thank you, Nihahi, your new avatar made me take a look at mine! The old one was a month before diagnosis....at my sister's wedding.....the day after I found that something was not right in my breast and started watching it...figured it was time to change
Wishing the best vacation ever for you and DH!
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Today marks two years since my bc diagnosis. Breast cancer. For me, it's not a day to celebrate but to embrace the old and new me and how far I've come.
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I'm with you, Jeannie. Mine's October 20, and I don't celebrate the date. I love how you phrase it--"embrace the old and new me and how far I've come." Yes.
Bailey, you inspire me. Time for a new avatar. In my old one here, I'm bald as an egg under my helmet!
Nihahi, we're wishing you warmth, relaxation, and peaceful days during your Arizona sojourn. We'll miss you here!
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New avatar. This was taken on 12/28/2013.
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Nice, Tammy! You have a kind smile.
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Sbel, thanks! Love your photo, too.
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Thanks, jeannie, you have a contagious one. Makes me wanting to smile every time I see your posting. sbe, I was diagnosed on Oct 19, but my new girls' one year birthday is tomorrow, January 28.
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I absolutely LOVE all of your faces, every one of you. Truly beautiful friends in every way.
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You are so right, bailey, I too LOVE all of your faces. Now we need to make the rendezvous happen, so we can do our "show and tell" of our ps' creations.
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Gosh, it seems I arrive at the party an hour late EVERY time! I will just add that I LOVE ALL your new avatars......but mine will have to wait until I can return to Iceberg Lake in Glacier (temp about 34*F ) and go for another swim.......my photo represents me in my Zen place......and I am loath to change it.....you will all have to go to the rendezvous to see what I REALLY look like......
Happy Monday all......and STAY WARM!
XO
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Morning girls.
Just want to say in real life Jeannie's smile is even more contagious - she lights up the room! Thanks again for coming with us yesterday morning. What a joy to finally connect with people as warm, kind and pleasant as you and your DH. It was truly special to visit with you and Movie! There were two show-and-tell trips to the bathroom which the men at the table found really strange, to say the least - LOL. Have to say Movie's new nipples have just blown me away. Her PS must be an artist, because they look absolutely like real nipples, and I'm NOT exaggerating. I've seen other recon nipples, and hers are by far the best. If mine does not look like that I will always be envious. Jeannie has acquired remarkable symmetry, and those girls look very good, and very authentic too. It just helped me to realize once again how much we owe to these dedicated doctors who give us back so much of what we had lost. Eternally grateful here, and I salute them.
Nihahi, sounds like you're having a good time. Enjoy the warm climate!
Have to agree that it is lovey to see all your faces on here, and I fully concur with organizing that meet-up. The reason for all of us 'knowing' each other here may be such a negative one, but for me it is such a blessing to be meeting such wonderful people from all over. I just love it. It has brought such joy into my life, and I would never have thought that such pleasure could come from having bc. Thank you all sincerely!
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Holy cow - y'all must have taken over the ladies room. I hope no one was freaked out by the titty show. Sounds like fun!
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Actually Marty, we were in the biggest stall......there was someone in one of the other stalls for a few minutes.....I am sure we freaked her out.........
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In the interest of being authentic here, I have to say I am not always smiling. I had a truly wonderful time with Liefie and Movie yesterday. Today's 2yr. dx anniversary hit me harder than expected and I'm not so smiley. Still embracing, like I wrote before, but definitely not so smiley. As I think Scarlett O'Hara said, "Tomorrow's another day!"
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It is so lovely to see all of your smiling faces. Hugs, Jeannie. Don't let that eventful day define you. You have come such a long way in two years, and what an inspiration you are to all of us!
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Hey gals,
Just doing a fly by posting. Jeannie.....I like your authenticity....we all have "those days"....but like zenful says....we chose whether or not to let "those days" define us.
Having a great time here in the warm climes of AZ. Transporting ourselves to a completely different weather/geography/routine is a great way to reinforce the reality that I CAN blend in with the "normals", and not be flap conscious 24/7. Helps with the healing, in many ways. Of course, I don't have movie pulling me into the bathroom stalls for show and tell , either!!!!
So far we have made good use of the pools (I've been able to swim a few laps at a time...time to get back to working on the shoulder), the walking paths, the bike paths, and the clubhouse cabana boy! We are planning on a long bike ride today, and a try at the driving range, maybe a round or two of golf while we're here, if all goes well. Also heading up to Sedona to do some exploring....but I'm thinking I am more a fan of their "spiritual" vortexes, than the polar one some of you are playing with at the moment!
jeannie...I think you asked where we are staying.....Orange Tree Golf Resort in Scottsdale, AZ.
Stay warm, stay safe, stay busy, stay happy ladies.....hugs to you all.
ps.....LOVE THE CHANCE TO "MEET" EVERYONE VIA THE NEW AVATARS!!!!!
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Nihahi, it makes me laugh to think of someone coming into the bathroom to see three sets of feet in the stall. And the things they must have overheard! Oh, my! It's wonderful to be so liberated about it, but as we have said many times, no one else really gets it. I just would have loved to see the expression on someone's face that entered the bathroom on that fateful day...
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Nihahi - take the Vortex Tour in Sedona. It is a hoot! Our guide brought his 30" drum, playing and chanting for us with sage smudge. The Pink Jeep tours are lots of fun, too!
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Marty...we've heard of the Pink Jeep tours from the concierge here. Gotta admit.....hearing the word "pink" anything made my jaws clench....but, we'll look into it. We did a 60km bike ride today....heading to the hot tub soon...hugs to everyone....!!!!!
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Wow, Nihahi, you guys are in great shape!
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naw, jeannie.....we "circumnavigated" the hilly parts, so it was a long ride, but not that challenging. Of course what they call mountains inside the city.....not so much on our radar....big hills....mountains...nope. I am very sure we wouldn't have done 60k riding around your area!
Loving all the updates in the avatars.....hoping we can truly accomplish more get togethers as time goes on.
hugs to all....today....SEDONA!
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I really love seeing all your smiling faces. I love thinking of you all huddled in a stall comparing notes. And I wish I was there - everyone is so lovely.
I'm almost ready to change my avatar, but I really like my egg. It doesn't have any wrinkles, and the bangs are almost perfect.
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You do have a perfect wrinkle free egg, Janet
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Janet, I really like your egg too! Of course seeing your face would be nice, but you know I'm partial to chickens and eggs. lol!
I love Sedona Arizona! I'm a crazy mystical woo-woo kind of gal though.
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Blue-just noticed your new picture...with your cute doggie! Love it!
Janet, I love your egg, too........but it WOULD be nice to put a face with a name!
More get-togethers....(in bathroom stalls) are a MUST!!!!!
XO
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I agree with everyone regarding the bathroom meet up. Would have loved to hear what anyone had to say that witnessed three people in a stall! Yes, let's get plans rolling for the fall meet up.
I love the pictures and new avatars.
The weather here in Florida has been mostly beautiful. That nasty polar vortex has shoved lots of cold and snow down this way, but we are at 43 F and rain all day. I'm not complaining. It has been much colder back in Indiana.
Jeannie, hope tomorrow is a better day. Those anniversaries have a way of bringing it all back. It is good to hear that your eyesight is improving, even if it is your brain compensating. Unbelievable what magnificent creations we all are.
Take care everyone! ...Julie
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Had an ultrasound of DIEP breast yesterday, and got the all clear - a relief every time. The tech was intrigued by the whole thing, and showed me how the tissue in the new breast is totally different from breast tissue. I think it was the first time that she's seen this type of recon.
Jbloom, agree with the meet-up. We just have to make sure the place has enough bathrooms - lol.
Bluebird, crazy, mystical, woo-woo, whatever - everyone is welcome. Makes life interesting!
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Okay I've changed my avatar. And it only took about six hours! Now can I come to the bathroom?
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Yay, Janet! So good to "see" you! You look better than your beautiful egg. Julie, good to hear from you. Hope your weather improves. Ladies, I don't think we'll be running to bathroom stalls when we all meet up. We'll just lift our shirts! In our rental, of course....
Good news, Liefie. My cancer center doesn't do imaging unless there are skin symptoms or other suspicious complaints. I'm not really sure how I feel about that. My body is really rebelling from all the stress I'm going through. I think my immune system is out of whack. sigh. This too shall pass. I am so tired of doctor appointments! Hoping my Gyno checkup goes well tomorrow and my one remaining ovary is behaving.
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Janet, love the sassy look, there! Much better than the egg!
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In your pocket tomorrow, Jeannie! I'm also having a check-up with my OB/GYN tomorrow. This morning I was in the shower getting ready to leave for this appointment when I realized that today was Wednesday, and not Thursday. . . Just happy I had not driven to our neighbour city an hour and a half away before I clued in!
Janet, good to 'see' you.You have way more hair than the egg.
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janet...love your pic! It'll be much easier now to have eggs for breakfast
.Could someone explain why I am the ONLY ONE with grey hair
!OK....this "flash mob" mentality is starting to creep me out! I'll be the bathroom stall lookout, maybe.
Hubby and I did about a 9k walk in the red rocks. Sedona itself, seemed almost tacky to us.....too concentrated a "tourist trap" type of scenario. The rocks are beautiful, of course, but we preferred the solitude of the trails. Tomorrow, hubby has decreed a rest and relax day..
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Hey, Nihahi, Liefie has beautiful white hair! No "flashing" pressure. I would probably be more comfortable in some kind of "private," though when I think of the multitudes of doctors, nurses, techs, etc. who have seen my new girls.....I hope you enjoy your relaxing day tomorrow.
Liefie, I hope both of our appts. are uneventful.
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Jeannie and Liefie.....I will be in BOTH your pockets tomorrow.....with fingers crossed for good outcomes.....XO
Janet....love your new avatar....you are MUCH prettier than your egg, as cute as it is. Better bring it along for the show-and-tell in case we don't recognize you.....but, you're IN, girl! What I worry about (okay, not really) is what other people in the bathroom are thinking......I am sure that last Sunday we freaked SOMEONE out!
Nihahi.....go to the fitness center early, do 10,000 steps on the elliptical, and RELAX the rest of the day! And stop with the "grey hair" schnazz.....only the wisest among us is allowed to have it!
Love you ladies! XO
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Nihahi, only our hair stylists know! Only a few have pretty enough grey hair to go for it. Mousy brown and grey do not make for nice color.
Nice pic, Janet!
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I had to see if I could find something more recent. Still need a newer one. I'm just waiting for a good hair day! Jeannie, the weather is still not so good, but this weekend looks fabulous. It is still so much better than so many others are experiencing. Time to take the girls out to go potty before bed! Nite, all!
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Hi ladies - I have a question. What does everyone do for BC follow up? My diagnosis was July 2011, followed by treatment, then DIEP in 2013. For the first year I was having check-ups every 3-6 months, but now I'm seeing my BS and ONC once a year. I'm seeing my PS fairly regularly, and my BS said I'm basically a Plastic Surgeon's patient at this point, while he'll continue to see me on a yearly basis. He also said I can always call/email with any concerns. I'm feeling pretty content to concentrate on moving ahead, living a healthy life, and getting some nipples.
Jim, on the other hand, is astonished I'm not being looked at more regularly and fears I'm falling through the cracks. Am I being too lackadaisical about my follow-up? How often does everyone see their doctors?
Thanks,
Janet (formerly the egg)
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Julie, nice!
Janet, I haven't seen my BS since six months after bmx. I just saw my rad onc and don't really need to see her anymore but it was recommended to get an annual CT of my lungs. Not excited for that, it's such a hassle with LE. I see my Onc. every three months but we'll be moving that to every six. Their general rule is every three months for the first year then every six months for two years, I think. It's been two years since diagnosis but one year since chemo ended. I think they go from there, I don't know. My cancer center doesn't do routine imaging at these appts. and they think blood markers are unreliable, so it's more a skin exam, node exam and questions. I know other women have those other things. Of course, I see the PS a lot with all the recon. And my PCP. And my eye doctors. Gyno today. Dermatologist next week....Holy Crap! I, too, want to move on but my body really isn't cooperating except for cancer-wise. I did have an uneventful gyn. appt. today, thank God!
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Jeannie - Thanks. Your appointment book sounds jam packed. Must be pretty frustrating for you to be tied to so many doc visits, but I'm glad to hear that today's was uneventful. Uneventful is good!
I know other women who have had other forms of cancer who go for routine blood exams. My initial tumour could have been detected a lot earlier, had I bee more vigilant so I don't want to get too comfortable. Yesterday I had a bone scan as recommended by my physiatrist. I have pain in my shoulder/arm and he wanted to rule out anything out of the ordinary before we start a rehab program. I thought it would just be a scan of my arm, but it was the whole body due to 'my history of cancer'. When I looked at that giant machine my stomach just sunk, and I remembered when I first saw it two years ago. I sometimes think that my whole BC thing wasn't awful - but then I relive certain moments - and yuck. There were some bad days. However, after I got over my initial anxiety, I fell asleep on the table. How's that for progress?
Also, is the node exam as simple as just feeling them - or is it more involved.
Happy Friday Everyone
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Janet, as usual, your thoughts are so relatable! My treatment wasn't horrible (except for when my skin fell off after rads) but it was long. Certain things can bring me right back there, though, like going to the cancer center lab, an article of clothing that I wore to infusions and should just give away, etc. It has been a year today since I finished chemo. I can still smell the smells of the infusion room. I was glad to be done back then but I felt so sick and tired. Turns out I had pneumonia. I am thankful for time passing. I can count on that. As for the lymph node exam, it's just by touch. I would probably find something before the doctors would since I feel lymph areas through manual lymph drainage massage that I do every day because I have the evil LE.
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I see my surgical oncologist (so she's my MO and my BS in one) every six months at this point. They also don't believe in imaging without symptoms. They do the blood work but I never registered on any of the tests despite big ol' tumors growing quickly inside me, so those are useless to me, at least historically. I have not seen my rad onc since my last treatment.
Janet, can you try to alternate your bs and mo appointments every six months so that you are being seen by someone every six months? That way you're not going too long between having somebody "squeeze the Charmin".
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hi Ladies! Just hopping on to wish everyone a happy Chinese New Year!
JanetM-- my check ups are right now every 6 months with the breast surgeon, and 6 months with the oncologist. I do visit the oncologist's office every month for a lupron shot and they always ask about any symptoms. Like Bailey suggests, I'm trying to have the oncologist and breast surgeon at different times just to get felt up at regular intervals. My plastic surgeon now has me seeing him in a year. And...Btw I love the pix!
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Exploring and hiking today in the Superstition Mountains, east of Phoenix.....Not as warm here now as we expected it to be, but I bet it's a whole lot warmer than what most of you are having!!!
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Nihahi....did you locate the Lost Dutchman Mine?????
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nada.....movie.....too busy taking photos and keeping my hat on...it was cool and windy today! Did see some eagles though!!!!
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Dang it!!!! We were counting on you to finance our party......
On another note.....you saw eagles....see any.............*legless reptiles*?(Sorry! Couldn't help myself......
)PS......LOVE the pics!
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NOOOOO!!!!! Hopefully that is the good part of the cooler weather ! However, I am still not merrily stomping around without taking a good look first, especially if meandering a wee bit off the path for a better photo angle. Did have a slight atrial fib episode that turned out to be a small lizard (I think....didn't look too closely). Had to be the hero for hubby tonight....yucky looking spider was camped out at our front door when we got home...I can handle ANYTHING, except.....you....know....whats!!!!
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Yay for eagles! My friend is an Alaska Airlines flight attendant. She posted a picture of the Seahawks mascot, a hawk, sitting in its kennel in the jumpseat behind the pilot. That bird was on its way to the Superbowl in classy fashion!
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Lol! I can remember having food poisoning (NOT a lol moment) at our Arizona resort and spending the night on the bathroom floor. I can't tell you how many spiders I saw crawl through the floor drain, making an unpleasant experience worse. At least I had something to look at besides the porcelain throne.
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I have NO idea who the other team is on Sunday, but, I'm cheering for Seattle!!!!
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I will apologize ahead of time to any Bronco's fans......but....GO HAWKS!!!!!
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Ladies, in China it's the year of the HORSE...GO, BRONCOS! We'll be at our son's house cheering for Denver on Sunday.
I'm in San Diego--the next step of the metformin trial begins tomorrow. Everyone pray I get randomized into the active drug arm!
Nihahi, your photos look a lot more like where I live than where you live. I'm so glad you got a chance to warm up. Don't you love the magnificent cacti down there?
Today I went to a meeting here in San Diego. It was held in a hospital that occasionally hosts these quarterly meetings, and it was here on September 30, 2011. The day I was showering before driving to San Diego for my meeting and found a weird red spot of skin on my breast. In fact, I went to the bathroom today in the same bathroom where, two years ago, I pulled down my bra to see if the red spot was still there. Yes, there are triggers that take me back to the beginning of this rodeo, and they make me grateful to be on this side of it.
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Wow, Sbel, I get that. Not the Broncos thing but the triggers thing. Not the Lone Ranger's Trigger....oh, well.
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Jeannie...hahahaha....
I have a very important question for you, my sistas. I'm jonesing for a ridiculously expensive lipstick and just can't bring myself to indulge. It's "Lipstick Queen," Velvet Rope formula, in Black Tie. Guess how much $$$. Just guess. I'll wait for my birthday and ask the hubs and both kids to donate!
So here's my question--what's your favorite lippie? Do you like dramatic or nude? Sparkly or matte? Chapstick or Chanel?
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nude.......matte........chapstick with spf!
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Oh, yeah, I forgot...on a night ride last week we found a teeny, tiny legless reptile. Not the buzzy kind. He was dark brown, with an orange ring around his neck, and an orange underside. When he zigzagged away he held his adorable little tail up so we could see his orange lining. Beautiful.
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aaaarrrggghhhhh!
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Nihahi, what's the matter with chapstick with SPF? I actually thought you probably used ski wax.
On longish bike rides, I've used my chapstick on chapped places other than my mouth.
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hahaha.....techno glitch...accidentally clicked the delete button, then clicked the wrong button again when the "do you want to" choice popped up....too much hot tub...I should be heading to bed! hmmm....never thought of skiwax...you might be on to something!!!! Tomorrow, we're back on the bikes....hoping NOT to spot anything "legless".
fingers crossed for the met trial......!
G'nite from the desert.
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Good Morning,
Thanks for the feedback about doctor's appointments everyone. I like the idea of staggering them between my BS & Onc so that I see someone every six months. My initial diagnosis was summer 2011, but it seems like seeing someone once a year isn't enough. But from what I understand - the absence of blood tests is normal? And we don't have any imaging without symptoms?
sbelizabeth - I'm fascinated by your lipstick. I've never heard of make-up so expensive that the whole family has to pitch in! My advise is to go get it. (And I'm saying that, because I just followed my own advise and bought a wildly expensive pair of boots that I've always wanted. They are magnificent) Surely there must be an occasion that will justify a lipstick purchase. Chinese New Year? Aubrey's six month birthday? Oprah's 60th?
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Favorite lippie is aquaphor!!! They do make it in a lip tube so I don't have to dip into the the big ol jar o' lard for my lips lol!
Other than that I like nude, matte. But will do REDREDRED if the mood strikes me. I looked up the one you are longing for, sbel. It is an indulgence.....but I see why you are in love....it's beautiful and would be perfect on you, I think!
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Hi girls,
Interesting discussions going on here. Had an ultrasound of the DIEP breast this week - all clear. Also saw OB/GYN for routine check-up after endometrial ca - all clear. Now have to see him every 6 months till 2017, but I'm 2 years out, no recurrence, and he says prognosis is very good. As for breast check-ups, I have pretty much taken matters into my own hands, and I tell my GP when I need a mammogram or an ultrasound. Onc never said anything about check-ups when I was dismissed in August 2012, so I just have to be my own advocate.
Lipstick - mixed feelings here. I have one or two Lancome lipsticks, but after the first cup of coffee it is gone, and you have to apply it again and again. There are cheaper lipsticks that have 'staying' power, and you wake up the next morning with still-red lips, which is also not ideal. These stay-on lipsticks tend to have an unpleasant dry-out effect. So no, I have not found the perfect lipstick yet. Prefer softer colours now that I have this white hair. Red does not go well with my wrinkles, I find. I do use lip balm several times every day. Without it my lips would be like the desert . . .lol.
I have three cooked chickens sitting on the counter. Having people over for dinner tonight, and chose to make a chicken pie. Now have to debone and cut up the chickens, but feeling sooooo lazy. Why do I make so much work for myself? On a Saturday?
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Lipstick: I'm always on the quest for the perfect one. Right now I use Burt'sBees Red Dahlia around the house, Loreal Nature's Blush other times. Both are smooth and creamy. But not perfect!
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Liefie, yummy! I'm glad your check-ups went well. Mine, too. Nipples on the 7th, dermatologist on the 11th.
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Jeannie, what kind of nips are you getting?
Liefie, you're tiring me out just reading about your Saturday! And making me hungry.
I almost never wear lipstick. But I do like the Burts bees lip gloss sticks.
Does anyone see their radiation oncologist? Mine wants to see me every six months and I don't know why.
Bailey, you crack me up!
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So I have the Beatles on in the kitchen. Done with the chicken - nothing like 60's rock and roll and those timeless old songs to get me going. Next is the Rolling Stones . . . now you all know how old I am, right? Do I care? Not really - lol.
Bailey, you are Angelina Jolie, and we are your sisters.
Bluebird, my radiation oncologist said at our last appointment that she hoped that was the last time she ever saw me. Suits me.
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Bluebird, I don't know, some kind of origami things. Not sure I want to know a lot of details since I'll be wide awake during the two hour procedure.....maybe I'll ask afterwards. My PS says we'll be talking the whole time. I think he will have to do most of the talking!! I will be concentrating on not freaking out.
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Wish I could come and hold your hand, Jeannie! I am sure they will look BEAUTIFUL......
Sbe.....I rarely wear lipstick.....prefer Burt's bees pomegranate lip gloss.....but sometimes wear an Origins ...don't know the color...I say go for it! You would rock it!
Nihahi, are you leaving Arizona tomorrow? I am sure you have had a FABULOUS time......lucky girl!
Liefie, it's a good thing I JUST got on here....if I had seen your post this MORNING.....I could have jumped in the car and been at your place in time for dinner! (And I know where you live........)
Blue....I had a SKATE flap, which requires grafting around it (for the areola) which was taken from my dog ears......I think they look pretty good.....I'm happy. The other one that is often done, is a CV flap.....which (I THINK) doesn't involve grafting......you can see examples of both on YouTube, if you aren't too squeamish.
Bailey....damn straight you're sexy.......you kicked cancer's ass!
Love you ladies!
XO
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Having a cup of coffee and checking in. Sounds like good news from most corners!
Liefie....I expect to see the recipe in my "inbox"....sounds YUMMY!
Had to breakdown yesterday and buy some warmer clothes. We did not pack for single digit temps for most of the morning and evenings, and I guess hubby got tired of seeing me shiver. YES, I know it's way better than what is waiting for us at home, but sheesh.......perpetual goosebumps are not what I'd hoped for, and you can only see so much from the hot tub!!!!
Anyway....Happy Groundhog Day, everyone.....come on Spring!!!!!
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Jeannie, hopefully you won't feel a thing, but it is a little scary. I think I have to show my PS a photo of Movie's nipples . . .
Nihahi, drive safely if you are still on the road. Looking forward to next Monday!
Movie, here was enough food last night to feed 4 extra people, so it would not have fazed me if you arrived unexpectedly! Will be eating leftovers for the next two days. DH does not mind, luckily.
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Jeannie, that will be an interesting conversation!
I'm still undecided about nipples. I really like not having to wear a bra and not sure if I want headlights on all the time.But everyone says it's the icing on the cake!
Okay, so I'm bored watching the Superbowl. I'm rooting for the Seahawks only because I'm a birder. I remember someone on here (Jeannie?) mentioned the Seattle Seahawk mascot being on a flight and I wanted to ask if it was an osprey. I just saw it on tv and it's not even a hawk! It's an augur buzzard. They live in Africa on the grassland. An Osprey would have been a much better mascot!
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Bluebird, I always had headlights before bc so it won't be new for me. My bras hid them fine.
I am not bored watching the Superbowl!!!! Yahoo! We call Taima, the mascot, an auger hawk. I don't know why we don't have an osprey, or seahawk. There must be a reason. Taima is beautiful. There is a Russian eagle at our zoo which is just stunning.
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Go Seahawks... Looking good!!!!!
Sorry sbe....just not your year for football I guess..first the Michigan thing, now Denver...there's always next year.
Liefie...the warmer clothes are for the remainder of our time here. We don't leave Phoenix until Wednesday afternoon....and we're flying, not driving. I'm just hoping my poor little car will start when we get home...It's never spent a lot of time outside, not being driven, and it's been friggin cold in Calgary since we left.
Time on the driving range today, brunch with condo friends who are down here for the winter, and 36km bike ride...Time again for the hot tub!
Hugs to all.
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Actually, an augur buzzard is the appropriate mascot for the seahawks. She is going to be eating bronco corpses all night! lol...
She is beautiful! Still think they should have an osprey or true sea hawk.
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Bluebird - I feel the same way you do about nipples. Everyone says its the icing on the cake, but I feel a little indifferent. What I I wanted out of DIEP was to feel like myself, and be able to wear the clothes that I've always worn. Bras included. So I feel pretty good right now and I don't know if nipples are going to make an difference.
Oh - this is weird! I'm in bed right now and my pajama top/shirt has a breast pocket and there's a tiny wad of kleenex in it. I just looked down and it looked like I had a left nipple! Hm. I'm kind of enjoying looking at it. What strange timing.
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It's a sign! Ha..I definately want areolas but probably won't get nipples. The only good thing about nipples in my opinion is function(milk) and being erogenous. Lost both of those and can't bring them back. But I'm in the research phase and trying to figure out pros vs cons.
So far I've decided on Vinnie Myers 3D tats. The look without permanent highbeams. But that's only because I like being braless. (My autocorrect is trying to change braless to brainless. Ha...another sign!)
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I was "indifferent" on the nipple thing for years and years when I was an implant recon. What I had just did not register physically or emotionally with me as a breast, and I just didn't have the emotional energy to try to make it look like one. But, being a uni, I definitely did not like the uni nipple look either. Now that I have a "breast" again, I know I want to at least try for the "final touches" of nipple recon and tattoo. Even if it doesn't come out a perfect match (which I accept, may happen), I am sure it will be better than being a uni going forward. Did that for over 20 years.....I want to get over that "awareness of bc", every time I look at myself.
There's no one right answer for all of us....and we each know ourselves "best"....I just encourage everyone to look to the future of 5/10/20 years, instead of the surgical/bc fatigue of "now". Thankfully, in my understanding, nips and tattoos can always be done down the road, if that is the choice anyone makes.
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The superbowl was extremely boring for me. Normally I at least enjoy the commercials if nothing else. But even the commercials didn't do much for me. I did love the Chevy commercial for World Cancer Day though. (tomorrow)
Kudos to Chevy for acknowledging the cancer warriors and their caregivers. Especially during a game that promotes jiggly cheerleaders, Victoria Secret commercials, booze and babes.
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That Chevy commercial hit close to home.....we took a trip to Nashville with the kids a few weeks after I was done with rads....I wasn't ready for a trip but I couldn't stand being home.....I spent a lot of miles watching the white line in the car, trying to sleep.....and processing "cancer"....
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The Three Musketeers......Movie......Jeannie......Liefie Seattle, January 26th, 2014
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movie, we are upside down. I posted a pic that was sideways. What gives?
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You look like real sisters! Was this before or after THE bathroom break?
Both pictures look fine on a computer. Are you looking at them on a iPad, jeannie?
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What beautiful women and such great smiles! Oh, I wish I were there! Looks like a wonderful time.
I'm going to order that wallpaper pattern right away.
Ha ha...the funny thing is I come from a family of wallpaperers, and metallic and flocked wallpaper was all the rage in the 70`s. Makes me feel right at home.
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Thanks, Tammy. I am on my iPhone. I hardly ever use my computer anymore thanks to smaller devices.
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What a GREAT PICTURE! So happy to see you together!
Can't wait to meet everyone!
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You all look beautiful, so bright and happy. Wish I could have been there.
Re: nipple(s). Right now I have just the one, and it was manufactured in the "origami" style, no skin grafting. At first I thought, "What the heck? I have a huge pencil eraser sticking out of there." But my PS reassured me it would shrink, and it did. So much so that it looks like a petite, dainty little nipple, and because it's just sutured skin (and not erectile tissue, like a real nipple), I don't get the high beams look. I'm actually more pleased than I thought I'd be, and I'm looking forward to adding her "sister" to the other side.
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Sbel, that is reassuring. I am having origami style on Fri. My originals were exactly like pencil erasers! I hope I'm not disappointed to end up with something different. However, I'm tired of thinking about the whole thing.
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Dainty sounds good! There's pretty much nothing dainty about me these days.
Bailey, I think that commercial will hit home for a lot of people. The trips back and forth to doctors, hospitals, surgery and the dotted white lines will be forever etched in my mind too. We actually have a Chevy Avalanche and hubby holding my hand while the miles passed helped get me too and from those visits.
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The Three Muskateers are GORGEOUS!
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Janet......if you think WE'RE gorgeous, you should see the FOOBS!!! .........
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Hey everybody! Did you hear Seattle is having a parade tomorrow in honor of Jeannie getting nipples on Friday?!!!
I got my balloons! Shhhhh....don't tell Jeannie. It's a surpise. Be there on 4th avenue at 11 am tomorrow!!!
If you want you can cheer for the Seahawks too, but it's really in honor of Jeannie.
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Love the picture, blue! Perfect for jeannie's fipples day!
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Ha, Bluebird! You crack me up! It would be cool to get a balloon bouquet like that! We are thinking about going to "my" parade. It will be very cold and crazy-crowded, neither of which I am looking forward to. We'll see.
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I love a parade!!!
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We'll have one for sure at our retreat.........
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Oh yes we will!!!!
What's the news on the retreat, friends? Where are we at on this?
And Blue, I adore your tagline.....you certainly have.....you're like a Weeble.
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jeannie....go to the parade...somethings you never know if you'll get the chance for the "experience" again. Awesome balloons...!!!!!!!
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Yeah, now we're thinking we won't. Getting there and getting back could take ALL DAY in sub-freezing temps with a breeze. And we're talking about the bus, not the car. You know Seattle---traffic-challenged on a normal day. Up to 500,000 people are expected......
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Jeannie...watch on TV....in the comfort of your WARM home....
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Can't decide! We could go down there and just come home if it's too cold and crazy....I have the clothes to stay warm. However, I AM trying to save some energy for getting NIPPLES! 2 more sleeps....
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jeannie....it's your year to start having reasons to celebrate....hopping on the bandwagon of your local team is totally part of the picture. Have a tailgate party in the comfort of your living room....but celebrate each and every victory you come across! Anyway....that's mho.
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We're hopping a bus bright and early and we'll see how it goes! Just wanting to soak up some of that positive energy of the other "Twelves" rather than witnessing it, for once.
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witnessing it via video screen, I should have said.
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on our way! SEA-HAWKS!
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Go, jeannie, Go!
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Enjoy Jeannie!!! Yeeee haaaaa!!!!
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Woo hoo Jeannie!
New nipples on their way!
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hahaha! I have never been so cold in my life, waited four hours in 20 degrees but was right next to the vehicles. I could have shaken Paul Allen's hand (owner). The players were in open air "Ducks" and they were freezing but happy, too. Everyone pretty much behaved themselves around us. We were part of something big and communal for just a moment and it was fun. Now to eat and find a bus home in this zoo.
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THAT'S WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT JEANNIE!! Celebrations, being part of an "energy".....there is something so positive, uplifting and "communal" about it. I bet the trials and struggles of the past tough times rarely came to the front of your mind while you were there, eh! I hope we all find ways to catch moments of celebration this year!
Back in frosty Alberta....-27 today...but, it's good to be home too.
Happy Olympics everyone, may the best athletes win, may they all compete in the true spirit of the Olympics, may we see some spectacular examples of what dedication, talent and the "magic of the moment" can create, may the world leave politics out of it,
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I LOVE THE OLYMPICS! I am so excited to watch!
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Bailey, me too! I love the figure skating and the ski jumping. Nihahi, like you I pray politics will leave well alone.
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Jeannie - I'm so excited for you and your Valentine's nipples. I hope that tomorrow is more exciting than it is scary. I'll be thinking about you!
Janet
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Me too. Good luck tomorrow Jeannie!
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Thank you!!! I am mostly excited. I do regret taking two Advil for a neckache. I guess I won't bleed to death...this very minute, DH is shouting, "Tomorrow is nipplefication day!" I love that guy.
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Hahaha! Thinking of you, Jeannie, in your pockets. Tell DH that's a good one
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You go Jeannie! May you wake up with the nipples of your dreams, and tell DH we want a verbatim report of your exchanges with Wilbur!
I'm on my way to a yoga class this time of the evening. DH decided he wants to start yoga too, so I'm going with him tonight seeing that it will be his first time ever. Will be interesting to see how he handles it.
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tammy......getting caught up on the "news"....gosh, sure hope you're not one of the Penn people without power!!!!! Stay warm!
jeannie and liefie....sounds like a couple of "enlightened" hubbies!
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Liefie, sadly, Wilbur will not be there. I will be fully conscious in PS's procedure room. PS said we will talk the whole time. I think I'll be listening to him more than talking....I really hope I don't freak out. I'll try lorazepam again but it did nothing to me before. I really am excited!
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Sad to hear Wilbur will not be in the picture, Jeannie, and I hope that PS has lots of interesting topics to distract your attention - TOWANDA!
DH enjoyed the yoga, and I was amazed that he is way more flexible than I thought.
We are still struggling at this late hour to decide how and where to pack everything that we want to take with to Alberta tomorrow. I prepared some food to take with, and it seems DH will be packing a plastic container with mustard sauce into his carry-on suitcase. There's no room in the cooler for that, so will just hope for the best. LOL.
On Feb. 7, 2012, I had the mastectomy. DH spent his birthday on Feb. 8 next to my bed in hospital. Chemo, rads and reconstruction surgery were still ahead of me then. Today, two years later, all this is way behind me, life is so good, and I am eternally grateful for the second chance I have been given.
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Yay, Liefie! We are in a similar place. 2012.
I went to bed, had bad dreams, woke up worrying about low BP. Sudden low BP can cause the permanent loss of vision I have experienced. I don't want that to happen again. Headline: "Woman goes blind after getting nipples!" Sheesh. Off to my 2nd try at sleep.
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hugs jeannie....You've got this!!!! Are you allowed to drink a coffee or a coke before niptime?? That should give your bp a bit of a buzz. I should think a bit of anxiety would work in your favour too!
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Nihahi, I am on my way and I am drinking tea. I had eggs for breakfast and am working on hydration, too. I did not take lorazepam. I can't believe how excited I am!
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woohoo jeannie.....sounds like you are doing great on a "celebration buzz"! I COULD NOT BE HAPPIER FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!
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liefie.....how in the world do you get all that stuff through security????
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Nihahi, we fortunately realized that the mustard sauce in the hand luggage will set off alarm bells. So it will have to go in another suitcase. As for the food in the cooler, it is a domestic flight, and we will book it through. I see people flying with coolers all the time as long as you don't try to take a cooler into the USA. My big suitcase is filled to the brim with baby stuff - grandma went to town, literally. So the rest of my belongings will be spread out over the other suitcases - will avoid the one with the sauce in it though - LOL! DD also requested that we bring the dainty English porcelain tea set that she inherited from my MIL . . . an interesting journey it will be. See you on Monday - yayyyy!!!
Jeannie, hopefully you're being attended to, and is listening to a great PS story as we speak. All the best to you!
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I went for a lovely, lovely walk in our rare snowfall......it will be gone much too soon.......
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Pretty, Movie. We just have cold, breezy and dry.
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Movie - How beautiful Oregon looks in the snow! Lovely pictures. Is that your neighbourhood? If you ever feel like you want even more snow - come to Canada. We're up to our eyeballs in snowbanks sub zero temperatures, and nobody is too happy. However, one thing I know for certain, is that resisting something makes it worse. So rather than snuggle under my duvet tomorrow, I'm going to get up at the crack of dawn and go cross country skiing. I'm going to embrace winter!
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Good for you, Janet! Better you than me, though...
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Lovely pics, Movie...!
Janet....I'm "resisting" tomorrow....forecast is for windchills of -31. I'll be watching other people play in the snow at the Olympics.
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Janet, it is indeed my neighborhood.....I live very close to, but not on, a lake. I walked for 4 miles today....would've stayed out longer, but was getting tired from tramping through the snow! Snow is rare enough here near Portland Oregon that it is a special treat....as it doesn't usually stay for long......people here don't like to drive in it,(I don't mind) and we don't have a lot of equipment to deal with it, so many roads are almost "virgins".....as folks (if they drive at all) tend to stick to the main roads........tonight, it all turned to freezing rain.....
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Movie so glad you enjoyed your snow treat! It's no treat here, unfortunately. We've grown weary of white-knuckle driving.
Here is a pic out my work office window...I think we will need to shovel the windows soon!
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from another thread....
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Nihahi, love it, even with the plot twists. Turning the page.
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Just wanted to pop in and say hi to all of my breast friends. Florida has been good to me and I am enjoying the sun and warmer climate. I am biking, walking, swimming, and trying to play some tennis. My shoulder is much better due to moving and cod liver oil.
My grand baby is due in 5 weeks and my grand daughter turned 3 on Feb. 8. Life is moving along and it is good.
Is there a date in Sept. yet? I am hoping to combine this with a trip to visit my son in Seattle. I am 75% there, if I can work all of this out. Meeting all of you would be a wish come true.
I have not been posting or reading due to having too much fun here in Vero Beach. However, I think of you ladies often. Love you all.
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Good Morning Girls - Here's the cross country ski report. Got up, NOT at the crack of dawn. Picked up my sister and began the 90 minute drive to the ski club. Driving was super slow because of the falling snow, and we got lost. Stopped at a small town pub for breakfast. Ended up ordering shrimp with garlic bread, and watching figure skating on the TV at the bar. Fabulous! Contemplated spending the afternoon at the pub. Didn't. Finally got to our destination at 2:30. Skied for two hours. By the way Goldie - I did the whole 'layering' thing and I'm not a pro like Nahahi. So I was uncomfortable combination of sweat, cold, and overheating. Being out in the quiet though - was blissful!
On the drive home we started feeling stiff. Stopped at the drugstore on the way home and bought Epsom salts. Was running the bath before I even had my coat off. I tried to embrace winter, but this year, I really really hate it. Brrrrr.
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I love you, Janet.
Cherrie! I've been wondering about you! Sounds like all good news.
Ok ladies when are we going to Sunriver? Let's pick a date. I want to book a flight!!!
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crap crap crap......just got a phone call, my PS can't make the appointment today, so I have to reschedule!!!!! I am now committed to some Red Cross stuff for the next three weeks, so I can't book anything until early March. Although I accept things happen..... I am so disappointed
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Good morning, ladies. I've missed all of you for the last few days--been in Arizona celebrating my mom's 90th birthday.
Beautiful photos, Movie! I would so love to stomp around in some of that snow with you!
Yeah, what shall we do with our Sunriver plans?
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Jumping in to say "Hi".......I say let's keep it for the same date we had before.....was it Sept. 20th...or the next weekend.....LIefie is going to Europe the first 2 weeks of September...and I want her to come....why don't we take a count? Tell me which weekend works best....(check airfares, if they are available) and post here.....I will start looking for accommodations...based on the # of ladies "in"....gotta run.....have to take care of my Mom...she is getting worse by the day
XO
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Sbel glad to see you here. I was missing you! Celebrating your mom's 90th birthday...what a special thing!
Movie, sorry about your mom
prayers for her and you.I'm am in for Sun River. Either of the last two weekends of September works for me. So either the 19th or the 26th.
I'm going to check on flights now!
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Sbel, how blessed you are to have had your mom for so long. Mine is 87 so hopefully we will be celebrating her 90th in a few years.
Movie, sorry about your mom. You are a saint to be taking care of her. I am free either September weekend but it's so hard to make plans given our situation...I really want to be there.
Bailey, wow, I am going to claim that weight when I am weighed at the Dr.'s office!
Janet, it's impressive that you left the warm pub for the cold snow! I hope you are not too sore today. I sure am looking forward to getting in better shape soon at the LiveStrong class. I just can't jiggle these nips for the first week which is next week.
Nihahi, I'm sorry for the postponement! I always fret about that when I have a date coming up. I have been lucky, especially when my stage II was scheduled just two weeks after my appt. when we talked about it. I did have my gyno postpone because she was sick, which was a-ok with me. I want to remain healthy for as long as possible. I hope you can get the soonest date possible.
Cherrie, so good to hear from you! I am trying not to be jealous and just HAPPY for you that you are active outside and having a great time. You have earned it and you deserve it. I realize you may not even read this.....
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I cannot look at flights because I am doing 8th grade chemistry homework
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Bailey, your brain really does weigh a lot!!!
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Movie.....just want to say "you are amazing", what you do for your mom is something very special. Sending hugs.
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I would love to join you ladies and can be available anytime in September. I will combine it with a trip to see my son in Corvallis, Oregon. Just name the date!
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A moving on kind of day: my gardening group is coming over tomorrow. I made quinoa-egg-cheese mini-muffin bites but they came out tasting like salt licks. So I had to make them twice, in between a trip to my wonderful dermatologist who told me my various weird rashes were just excema due to stress. Yeah, you think???? On the way home, Coldplay's "I Will Fix You" came on the radio. It has always made me cry since FBC but today, with boobs and nipples, I laughed because I feel "fixed!" There are other parts of me that could use some fixing but those things aren't going to kill me like FBC would have. Hubby is on an important job phone interview this very minute and we are going out tonight to meet with new and old friends. It's a moving on kind of day. I love you ladies!
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Yay, Jeannie, good things....praying for that job!
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Hooray Jeannie! So happy for you.
I made a wonderful jicama citrus salad tonight and egg cheese potato puffs. Double yummy! Jicama is my new favorite thing. I didn't even know what jicama was until I found one in my supermarket.
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Jeannie - You may not have cried when you heard ' I will fix you', but I cried a bit when I read your post. That's the kind of step forward I think we all dream of - when we interpret something in the most positive way. I'm so happy for you. And I hope that hubby gets what he wants, and that whoever hires him will treat him like gold. Have a wonderful night.
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Aww, thanks, sisters. Janet, I did cry when I told my DH about the song and I think he wiped a tear. His interview seemed to go very well and they said they want to see him next week. We've learned not to count chickens but hope is always a good thing!
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jeannie....hope IS always a good thing, and it is so, so wonderful to hear the new "life" in your voice. Fingers crossed for hubby, hope you have a great night out.
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Jeannie, I'm so thrilled your day is a hoppin' kind of day. Before my lumpectomy, I randomly turned on the radio and heard Rascal Flatts singing "I Won't Let Go." It's now MY song.
My two favorite foods: jicama and avocadoes. Yummm.
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It is perfectly okay to count your chickens. I do it everyday!
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Jeannie, so happy for you that you "feel fixed". Good for you. I am saying prayers for you and your husband. It's time for good things to happen for you.
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Jeannie, I'm so genuinely happy for you that things seem to be looking up, and you sound quite happy with the surgery too. Will be praying that DH gets that job!
Movie, DH is still struggling to secure a locum. They are hard to come by, and if he can't get one, there will be no trip to Europe. I really appreciate it that you girls are so accomodating, and will move heaven and earth to attend the getaway at Sunriver. Your snow photos are beautiful! Apparently there is 15 cm of snow on Van. Island too, which is also rare. When DH got home yesterday after the weekend, some good Samaritan had shoveled our driveway. We suspect it is one of our lovely neighbours who did this in our absence. They are all great people.
Heard such a very tragic story from my sister in Namibia today. She has a friend who has been going through breast cancer treatment these last few months, and she was still doing 5 weeks of radiation. On Saturday afternoon my sister and another friend visited her at home to see how she was doing, and she was in great spirits, joking, laughing, and happy to be wrapping up her ca treatment. They had just moved into this beautiful new house that they had built. On Sunday she fell down the stairs in her house, and was killed. It seems she was walking with wet feet on the tiled floor when she slipped and fell. It is almost too unbelievable to wrap one's mind around. I have no words.
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oh, Liefie, such tragic news. We just never know, do we? What is a locum?
Thanks, everybody, for the sweet thoughts. Cute chickens, Bluebird! Zenful, so good to hear you are feeling happy and well (from other thread). Sbel, I'm going to have to try jicama dipped in my guacamole! I LOVE avocados and can eat one plain. Don't mean to offend, but country music would never come randomly on any radio of mine! Not judging, just opining.
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Liefie that is terrible. A true tragedy.
Jeannie, my fingers are double crossed for you and DH.
We are planning a trip to Seattle near the end of August. The 3 rd week in September works best as 4 weeks in WA and OR would be pushing it for our finances. I would need to find a way to "Movie's" from Seattle. If Jeannie goes I can ride with her. Is this for a long weekend or what? Factors need to work out for me to commit 100% but it just may work. Hee Hee! I am giddy.
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Cherrie, the 3rd weekend in September will be from 19 - 21 Sept. If that works for you, then maybe that could be our date. What say the other ladies? Do not worry about getting from Seattle to Movie's place. Not sure yet how I will get to Portland myself, but have to go through Seattle, so we will work something out. There must be a bus or train service from Seattle to Portland. Maybe you, Jeannie and I can hop on that bus, and Movie can pick us up in Portland? Just a suggestion.
Jeannie, a locum is a substitute physician. So agree with you guys about avocados, and I always buy a bag of them at Costco. In the past often used them to make avo and bacon pizzas, a family favorite - yes, I know, a real calorie explosion, but soooo good! These days I use them in salads, or just with some salt and black pepper. So yummy. Also good in an omelette combined with smoked salmon, sour cream or goat cheese, and some baby spinach.
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I like September 19-21 very very much! I will go look at flights now (no chemistry homework in sight!!!)
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Liefie, it might be good for me to drive from here so Movie can pick up other ladies who fly in from afar and we'd have another car when we're in Sunriver. Let's just plan on me going and driving, if you want to fly into Seattle. It is about a three hour drive from here to Portland. I can't imagine missing out!!! There is a train from Seattle to Portland. I have taken it. I am willing to drive, though, and if you and Cherrie want to share driving that would be nice, too. So the 19th and 21st would be traveling time and we'd only have one full day, the 20th, together, or are we tacking traveling days to the 19-21st????
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Jeannie, that sounds like a really good idea, and I'm so happy that you will be coming too! I've also been wondering about staying in Sunriver the Sunday night as well, and traveling back on the Monday, otherwise the weekend will be really short. Air travel is cheaper on weekdays too. Let's hear what the others think about this.
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I think coming back on Monday is a grand idea. Then we have 2.5 days together. I haven't even looked this resort up yet. Jeannie, I will be glad to help drive as we will not have a car out there. My hubby says he could drive us and stay with a friend in Portland if we need him to.
If our trip is 3 hours how much longer to get to Sunriver??? Is it near Portland??
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Cherrie, I've never been to Sunriver but I know it's a long drive from here. Movie can tell us how far it is from Portland. My daughter drove there recently. I can ask her but I don't know if she went through Portland. We should go the shortest way, for sure! I don't see any reason to go through Portland if we don't have to except to pick up someone who is flying in if necessary.
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Hi all....been a busy time around here....my mom is recovering from a staph infection on her left ankle, and has a sore in her mouth so she can't wear her "teeth" (She had implants-rods that she sticks her dentures to....)so in addition to soaking her foot 3xdaily, and re-applying the special antibiotic.....I also get to grind up all of her food......I'm telling you, old age is scary, and not for the weak........
If people can make it in on Friday.......we can book Friday, Sat., and Sun. there.....and the 19th-ish" is fine with me.....Remember, the offer of another car/van/etc. is out there.......on my $....... and depending on how many can make it......will depend on what I can book.......if you haven't looked online at the resort yet, take a moment and go there....and know that here are about 5-6 different rental companies I can rent from.......I am somewhat familiar with it, because we used to ski Mt. Batchelor all the time in the winter. I think 3 nights would be lovely......and would give us some time to explore...if we want to.Heck, I'd even stay until Tuesday, if we want another day......So far Zenful, Liefie, Cherrie, JBloom,Tammy, Bailey, Jeannie,myself......Sbe? Nihahi? and (am I missing ANYONE else who is interested???? (No insult intended..ALL are invited......) Let's get this partay started........
XO Love to all!
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Jeannie...you are about 2.5 -3 hours from PDX......
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Sunriver, is, I mean.....
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Oh, Movie, sorry your mom --and you--are going through all that. Hope it all heals soon. Take care of yourself, too! Is going to Sunriver through Portland the quickest way from here?
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I really think so, as it's freeway all the way to Salem, then a left-turn and up over the Cascade range there (a BEAUTIFUL drive) into Sisters, then Bend, and then south 15 miles or so to Sunriver.....
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Wow, that's a long day of driving but doable.
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Ok I can fly the red eye out of Chicago there and back for $188.....do I WANT to???
Nope never mind...would leave PDX @ 12:20 am on the 22nd....so that would be Sunday "night".
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Bailey, yes, red eye always sucks a little, but saving money is always good - lol. Wonderful that you will be coming, red eye or not!
Cherrie, we may have to take your DH up on his generous offer to drive us to Portland. We can then drive ourselves to Sunriver. This is getting exciting now.
DD saw her dr today. She is 2 cm dilated, but not in labour yet. Hope baby waits till after the baby shower on Sunday, but I guess he/she will pick its own perfect time to come into this world, right? Wonderful times ahead.
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which airport is the best to fly in, movie?
My scar revision was yesterday. Surgery went well, but I had a rough time. I got sick once which I never did before. Last night I had to get up and empty my bladder every half an hour. I am much better today. Ps did the injection at the time of surgery, second one in 6 weeks. I hope it works.
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Hugs Tammy, so sorry you are having a rough go. I hope tonight goes better!
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thinking of ou, Tammy.
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Hope you feel better soon Tammy! It will be all worth it when done.
Had my second fill today. It's fun growing a baby breast. lol... Looks so much better than before.
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Tammy...Portland (PDX) is the big airport......(I live in the area) and then there is Redmond.......about 30=35 miles north of Sunriver....they have commuter flights in and out...from PDX, Boise, and Salt Lake City, to name a few......
I hope you are doing a bit better tonight......another "plot twist", right?...
XO
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Feel better soon, Tammy.
Happy Birthday zenful.....celebrate all the good!!!!!!
I don't have much time for a couple weeks to read and post. Just wanted to do a quick check in. It'll be months before I have a glimmer of an idea what hubby's September/retirement plans are, so it is great to read how the gals that can are getting the ball rolling on the SunRiver gathering. Hope it happens!!!!
hugs to all.
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Bluebird, I had to chuckle when I read abut growing the baby breast. It is fun indeed! Still remember how I giggled uncontrollably in the PS' office with my first fill. Breast grew visibly bigger as she pushed in the saline. It pleased me no end, and gave me such kicks. She and DH (yes, he insisted to be present!) were giggling with me - really funny.
Tammy, hope you are feeling fine today!
Zenful, happy, happy birthday to you!
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Me too, Blue....;)
Nihahi, I am praying so hard that life works out so that you are in Sun River in September! If not we will catch you at the next one
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ok somehow this thread wasnt showing up on my favorite topics feed, just found you guys again.....yay!
Happy birthday zenful!
I am four weeks out and still pretty swollen in the belly but doing good. Still waiting to see my surgeon, this weeks weather cancelled my appointment with him. My weight went up again dangnabit! Walked into the hospital at 192 and walked out the next day at 210, I am down to 200 now. Makes no sense to me but whatever, I am alive and done so whooooooppiiiieeeeee!
Happy Thursday!
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Bailey, I'm praying with you that our Nihahi can make it to Sunriver.
Sweetpickle, so good to hear you are doing well, and happy that you found us again! That weight swing is unbelievable - are you sure there's nothing wrong with the scale? I've read on one of the weight loss threads that fresh batteries really make a difference as to recording weight correctly? Just a thought. All the best to you!
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Liefie- I wish it was the scale but it is what the hospital scales said. When the guy told me my weight thenext day I told him that it was impossible which he politely didnt argue with. All they had to do was look at my chart but no one seemed concerned but me.Its freaky to tell you the truth but what can you do right?
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Sweetpickle, I'm sure that hospital scale is way out. You cannot possibly put on 18 lbs in one day. No way. The guy did not argue because he knew his scale was wrong, but as you say, nobody is concerned about you but you. It is so frustrating. What on earth is the use of a scale there if it is so untrustworthy, and gives faulty readings? They really just don't care. That's the only explanation, sad as it is. This is not the first time you had issues with the hospital scale, right? Next time simply refuse to use that scale, tell them it is useless, and why. Maybe that will spur them into some action. It is a shame that you have to deal with this nonsense, really.
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oh sorry Liefie, I should have said what kind of surgery I had which was bilateral Ooph where they fill you full of CO2. I thought i was impossible also but my doctor said it was all gas and fluids. I dunno, as much flesh as these people havetaken off of me thelast year and yet I weigh more than when I started. lol I was 164lbs when diagnosed in November 2012.
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Okay, that explains it, Sweetpickle! Women and weight - a constant struggle, eh? But we will fight on . . . lol.
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I hope to make it to Sunriver too, but, hubby will only retire once, and I am determined to make sure he gets his time in the "spotlight"....lord knows I've had my share of attention!
Currently doing some Red Cross work again, in the town that was devastated by floods last year. Today, I went out to visit a client in their partially rebuilt home...difficult to see how much they are still struggling even after all this time. You just can't see or hear all their stories of heartache and despair, without coming away being grateful for not being in their shoes!
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nihahi- That must be hard, we think of those folks when it first happens and then go on about life while they are still trying to rebuld. Thank goodness for the redcross and volunteers like you who keep helping long afterward!
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yep sweet......like the saying goes...."you can always find someone who has bigger problems than you"!
Happy Valentines Day to all you wonderful ladies....there is a special kind of love going out from me to all of you.
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Happy Valentine's Day to all the flappers!
Nihahi, my first encounter with Red Cross volunteers was when I was helping fly patients out of Hurricane Ike. The Red Cross had set up amazing kitchens and feeding centers, and they were all so kind and helpful.
Sweetpickle, I was just thinking on my way home from work yesterday...when I get to heaven, I'll have a beautiful, scar-free body, complete with perfect breasts. And no extra poundage. But I can wait!
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I would love to come to Sunriver. I just need to see if I can get those dates off work. I know everything's still loose, but here are my questions--
- What date would we fly in, and what date would we fly out?
- What's the best airport for us?
I'll check my work schedule and the flights to and from. This would be such a wonderful experience. Katy
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Happy Valentines!
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sbe- so true, hadnt thought about that!
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Let's talk gardens gals! I will be taking my first plunge into gardening this spring. I plan to start out with containers and raised beds in the front of my house. I know we have a master gardener here but cant remember who that was, SBE?
I would like to do some lemongrass on my deck to repel the mosquitos and some roses around a bench I have in my circular drive. I am pinning like crazy on pinterest! lol
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It's Jeannie, Sweet....Lymphedemanator/Master Gardner
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Sweet, good for you! I don't really know anything about veggies as my yard is pretty shaded and most veg require sun. As for roses, look for the disease-resistant ones and make sure they get six hours of sun. You need to know what growing zone you are in. Your local nursery can tell you and they would have plants for your growing conditions. Home Depot and Lowe's have cheap plants but the plants at nurseries are generally healthier. Have fun and plant what YOU like.
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Happy Valentine's Day to all you lovely ladies - hope you get spoiled a little. My valentine is about 1300 km away, but we'll make up for it when I go home on Monday - LOL.
Sbe, Movie can probably give you a better answer, but here's my take on it. Seems we are all in agreement to stay in Sunriver on Sept.19, 20 and 21, which includes the Sunday night. So it would probably be best to fly in on that Friday on a flight that allows us to pick up the travellers at Portland airport, and drive to Sunriver, a 3 hour drive. Then we will leave Sunriver early on the Monday (Sept. 22), and drop off those who have to fly back. Maybe book those flights for the afternoon to make sure we get you there in time. Movie, does that sound okay to you?
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Thanks Jeannie, I am going to see how I do this year before tacking veggie gardening. I will do some herbs on my deck though. I would love to do some lavender too, I want lots of nice smells.
Hope you all have a great time at sunriver, I am saving up to go see my sister who just started treatment for tnbc. Hoping to see her this spring in Boston.
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Oh, Sweet, we'll miss you but surely understand!
Liefie, my daughter here in Seattle just went to Sunriver last month and she says it takes 7-9 hours depending on traffic. Yikes!
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Sweet, I had a good laugh over being conjectured as the master gardener. My "garden" is a huge tomato plant that's been blooming and producing tomatos since last spring, and still is going strong. I have a miniature compost system that I think is responsible for the tomato plant's enthusiasm.
Other than that...it's pretty pitiful. I'm rather ride my bike in the dirt than dig around in it.
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lol...... I dont have the best history with house plants, hoping I have better luck this time.
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Sbe-LIefie nailed it...if you have questions before you book, call me, okay?
My heart is so heavy today.....last night we found out that DH's brother's granddaughter (4), was killed in an accident yesterday. She was our nephew's only child......I am SO sad.........
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Oh Movie, that is absolutely heart-wrenching! What can I say? That little girl has not even lived yet . . . my sincerest condolences to you and your family. Will certainly be remembering you all in my prayers. BIG HUGS to you, dear friend.
Jeannie, we'll have to start early that day . . .
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Movie, I'm so sorry. This news just breaks my heart. The loss of a little one...there are just no words.
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Movie, so, so sorry. Prayers for you and the family.
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Movie, praying right now for the family.....no words...
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movie- so sorry, prayers for your family!
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Movie....heavy hearts with that news. Sending prayers and hugs, for strength and healing for your entire family. Just don't know how to find the right words......
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Movie, thinking of you and your family and keeping you all in my prayers. I am so sorry for your loss.
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heartbreaking, movie. So sorry for the family.
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BRING ME ANOTHER TOMATO WORM!
Good morning from Aubrey.
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ADORABLE!
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Such a cutie!!!
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Sbel, she has the most beautiful eyes. I'm sure she melts your heart regularly.
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movie... so sorry. how very painful.
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For those planning on this September's get-together at Sunriver, OR: Logistically, somewhere closer to Portland would be more convenient for travelers. Movie suggests Mt. Hood, about an hour and a half from Portland. There are fewer places to rent there so we have to move fast. Same dates: Sept. 19-21. Movie gave an example of a nice place with hot tub, gourmet kitchen, sleeping ten at $150 per person, on a river, I think. Hiking, no biking. If this sounds good to you, please commit (again) ASAP so we can get someplace rented. If you need more info we'll try to give it. It will be fun! I know some of you just can't come. There will have to be another one!
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Movie - I am so very sorry about your loss. Nobody should ever have a child taken from them. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Janet
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I am in. Anyone else play duplicate bridge? There is a Regional Tournament at Seaside OR from 9/22 to 9/28. After our meeting, I would love to head over there to play a couple of events before heading home. Movie, any of your friends play duplicate bridge? It's only 1.5 hours from Portland. Bridge players often drive for hours to go to a Regional tournament. I will be there with or without bridge.
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hey there!!!!! I might be coming to the rendezvous after all!!!! Hubby says go for it....now just have to get the details sorted out!!!!!!!
so......EXACTLY what dates are we talking????? I've been madly looking at flights this morning....best case scenario for me would be to fly into Portland....hook up with someone to ride to the "gathering". Then, if there is room in a car heading north, I could share costs/car to Seattle, to visit with sister if she's in town, and fly home from Seattle. SOOOOOOOOOOOO I need dates, available seat in a car and response from my sis....likely I'll get the info from you all, before I hear from sis. If she's not in town after our "date", I'd just fly home out of Portland. SO.....I'll take one of those beds!!!!!!!! WOOHOO!!!!! Just a thought.....Is there any kind of bus service to the gathering spot out of Portland???? That might be a way for some of us travellers to get there without the higher costs of car rentals.
sorry tammy, not a bridge player.....but I can't wait to meet you!!!!!!! Seaside is lovely....been there.
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I'm 95% of the way in! We had other plans that weekend, but I'm going to campaign with the hubs tonight and see if we can re-group. This is something that should NOT be missed!
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Although I can not participate, the train fare between Seattle and Portland is rather inexpensive. Might just be a consideration!
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ooohhhh, hadn't thought of the train....that could be a good alternative too! A bunch of us could turn it into "THE PLACE TO BE"!!!!! I'm all for the scenario that gives more time for visiting, with minimal stress/time of travelling. I've been on that drive from Portland to Seattle....NOT a relaxing commute!!!
Wish you could make it Marty.......you're a significant "link" in our chain!
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sbe......tell Jerry he'd get Aubrey time without having to share with Grandma!!! Oh, I SO hope you can come too!!!!!!! (just sneak Aubrey into your carry on!!! ).
Marty....I've looked at the train fares.....great price without the hassle of driving!!!! Good tip!!!! I might just try that instead of trying to wiggle into the trunk of someone's car!!!!
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Nihahi, so glad you are coming! I posted details last night. Sept. 19-21, leaving the "lodge" on Monday Sept. 22.. Cherrie will be in Seattle visiting her son so we have talked about driving down together in my car. Liefie has been invited to come with us, too. There is room for you to come back with us if you like. We won't have to rent a car for us to get from Portland to Mt. Hood this way. I have taken the train from Seattle to Portland. It's nice. Movie would have to go to the airport as well as the train station to pick up ladies and those arrival times would have to coordinate somehow. I don't want to speak for her, however. I would prefer to drive straight through from here to Mt. Hood since it's already a long drive.
Marty, wish you were coming. We will miss you.
Yay, Sbel! And Tammy!
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I looked at the flights, I can fly to PDX on the 19th, it's an over 9 hours trip, I would get there between 5:00 to 7:00 PM. For return, if I can get hooked up with a partner for bridge, I may spend another night at Seaside before coming home. I am also going to contact the tournament partnership desk for a partner. As soon as I find out about bridge, I will book my flight, so save one of the beds for me. Can't wait to meet you all!
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Marty, if you come, maybe we can do some party bridge...
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I'm in.....I haven't found a flight I like yet but I will be there.....even if I have to sprout mine own wings!
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This is so exciting to plan!!! Haven't heard back from my sister (sigh), but I'm thinking if she is in Seattle at those times, maybe it would work better to fly into Seattle first. I'm sure she would get me to a "pickup" site, jeannie, then we could share gas $$ both down and back, as well as eliminate the pickup in Portland issues. I will let you know as soon as I hear from her. Is the location for sure now Mt Hood? That sounds more feasible for the driving time for the majority of us. Bailey.....does that still work for you???
Important question...........Will there be potato chips allowed in the backseat????? . I'm a very tidy eater!!!!
fyi.....The funding for this adventure for me, is going to be courtesy of my newly instated Social Security benefits!!! TAKE THAT YOU SILLY IRS.........bwahahaha!
VERY IMPORTANT MESSAGE TO MOVIE......it sounds like you are booking the accommodations???? If so, or for whoever is doing that part of it, please let me know if $$ is needed upfront. No way am I letting anyone carrying my share of something for 7 mths!
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bailey....crossing posts.....HURRAY! What don't you like about your flight availability??? Where are you flying out of????
tammy.....airline costs are insane.....I was just checking things on Expedia....a round trip for me Calgary to Seattle, is $6.00 more than a roundtrip for you from Pittsburgh to Portland....INSANITY!!!!!!
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That's because you are international and I am domestic, nihahi . Yes, if there is a upfront deposit for the lodging, please let me know, I will send a check to whoever is doing the booking.
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hmmm......maybe I'll check to see what the price would be if I flew out of Great Falls????
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Hope my theory works! One of these days, I want to come up your way to try snowshoeing, nihahi. It's on my "bucket list"
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naw.....only about $70 cheaper....I'd pay that in gas money!
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I just brought up the change of location to Movie last night. I am sure she is busy dealing with family sadness right now. That's why it was me posting info. The dates are firm, the location is firm assuming we can get lodging. The tricky bit will be in picking up people from the airport. Movie has said she will do this. I sure hope the arrivals are somewhat close together! Nihahi, I can pick you up from the Seattle airport, your sister's, a meeting place or wherever! Best arrive on the 18th so we can devote the 19th to getting there. I offered my house to Liefie for that night---you are welcome, too, if your sister isn't available. So happy your IRS experience turned out to be a gift!
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I am in. I will be flying from Detroit to Portland. My DH and I are still working out the details of perhaps vacationing after that, visiting our son in Corvallis and then maybe meander through Napa Valley. He could fly in on Monday and pick me up with the rental car. I can't wait to meet you all!!
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yep, sending hugs to movie and family.
zenful......sooooo happy to hear you're coming too!!!!!!!!!!
By my count that makes "completely committed".....jeannie, cherrie, bailey, tammy, movie, zenful, and me (7) .........and "hopefuls".....liefie and sbe (2). Have we missed anyone?????
I am NOT counting Wilbur.....he can sleep in the corner!
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That's a great idea, zenful. I will see if I can talk dh into join me either Monday or Thursday (after bridge). We can fly back together Saturday!
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Tammy......are you arriving on the 18 or the 19th???? I think it's still a bit of a drive from Portland to the "spot", more so if it isn't Mt Hood. You'd be getting in well into the first evening of the gathering if you don't get into Portland until 7ish.
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19th. I will do the flight that gets in PDX at 5:06PM. If it's not Mt Hood, I could try for another airport that's closer, would that work?
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dang!
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I maybe able to get there earlier. Have to keep checking.
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Tammy - so wish I could come. I'd even risk the duplicate with you. But my September is committed to the US Air Force Academy. They can't give us a date for the reunion until the football schedule comes out in March or April.
I am so glad you have got the "count". Arrivals and departures will be the challenge. We are trying to figure out a similar thing with my hs girlfriends. Always a bit confused for a while. Love the Reunion Weekend Countdown. Gonna have to steal that cutie!
Do wait to book those flights. Some of the discount airlines aren't even taking reservations for September yet. Give it some time and there may well be significant changes (hopefully not up).
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Wow marty, were you in the Air Force? So it is still possible that you can make it? If so, we will give you Wilbur's spot
. Seriously, if you can make it when your USAFA dates are set, I would be glad to share my room with you, as long as you don't mind. Yes, I will keep checking the flights and try to get in as early as I can on 9/19.
Yay, cool countdown.
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Tammy - I am an AF brat and my husband is retired AF. It is his reunion, but we never miss. Thanks for the offer of the shared room. I sincerely appreciate your kindness. We'll have to see what happens!
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Liefie, where are you? You're coming for sure, right?
I will take Wilbur's spot in the corner because I ....snore. I've mentioned it before. Hate it, embarrassed by it, there it is. I think it's just tiny sinuses. DH has listened carefully and hasn't heard apnea but that is a possibility, I know. I just can't handle that prospect right now.
I went to my first LiveStrong today at the Y. It was fun getting to know these ladies who have had various kinds of cancer but I was hoping we'd at least move around a little today. Next time. It's a fun bunch. Some have gone through the program before and know each other. They are very friendly. I was invited to yoga tomorrow. We get a three month guest pass and can take the program more than once---sounds great to me! Hubs can come, too. I didn't enjoy the pity stares when I shared my story and one lady told me the leaders know very little about LE. I'll just have to school 'em, I guess! I was the only one with compression sleeves but they were my fierce ones! Did I tell you my dear hubs gave me a stainless steel necklace that says F$CK CANCER without the $ on the inside? It's just how I deal sometimes.
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Jeannie - I am always amazed that I am the only person I ever see with a sleeve at 5k's, etc....especially the bc ones.
I am looking at flights out of Detroit or Chicago, but may end up spending the extra to fly out of Grand Rapids so I don't have a long drive when I return. We'll see. I am planning on coming in to Portland on the 18th and leaving the 22nd.
Jeannie no worries about snoring. I
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Thanks, Bailey. If you come in on the 18th, where will you stay? I'm sure Movie will pipe in eventually and have something to suggest. I think it's a good idea--more time together!
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Hey, Marty, what year did your hubs graduate USAFA? I grew up at the Air Force Academy (AF brat, too)--my brother graduated in '76, my son in '04. Beautiful place.
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I'll likely get into PDX late, Jeannie, so I am thinking I will get a room at a hotel near the airport that has a shuttle.
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I am not going to have an easy time getting to sleep tonight, with all these thoughts of spending time with so many of you!!!! You'd think we'd all be pro's at "waiting" by now...but....nope.....I'm excited!
I had a quick chat with movie tonight. She'll be popping on again in a bit. Of course the loss of the little one has been sad for the whole family, but she and hubby are hanging in there. The rest of her life is just as busy as usual. She has felt all the hugs and prayers.
Waiting to sort out some more details with my sister, so still not completely sure if I'm flying into Portland or Seattle, hopping a ride with jeannie for one trip or two. Details, details, details....it'll all come together!
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Sorry that I've been MIA for a few days. Been visiting with my kids in Alberta, and grandma-to-be was just too busy to read or post.
Wow! Things have moved a lot since I've been here last, but good changes. Yes, I will be coming. That train trip between Seattle and Portland sounds amazing especially if the group from Seattle can all ride together - what fun that will be, but I will fall in with whatever is convenient. If the car from Seattle is full, I can always fly to Portland seeing that I'm not that far away. Mt Hood sounds good too. The most important thing is that we will be together! I'm already planning some meals - LOL. Will also pay a deposit upfront if necessary.
((((((((Movie and family))))))))
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SBE - he was class of '69. Oh, did they have fun! But then you were more than a brat - you served. So much more. Thank you!
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sbe....just checking in to see what the result of the "pow wow" was last night....You're coming to Oregon....RIGHT???????
marty....maybe the dates will work out, and you can hop over from Colorado Springs to join us!!!!
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HI All.....sorry I have been MIA......been rather tied up over here, but things are getting back to somewhat the normal routine now. thank you for ALL of your condolences....they were very appreciated.
Okay...on to the rendezvous plans....
I have found a lovely, lovely home that is big enough that we will not be right on top of each other, but is self-sufficient enough we could stay inside all weekend (and if it rains....we may want to!). I have 9 "YES's" right now:
LIEFIE CHERRIE BAILEY
JEANNIE ZENFUL JBLOOM
NIHAHI TAMMY T MOVIEHoping that Sbe can make it work..........(please please please)
And if Marty can swing it......YOU ARE WELCOME!
Total rental for 3 nights for 10 women is: $1546.42....including all hotel taxes. (If more come the price goes up at bit....)
I will need to make a deposit ASAP of $636.12....and I am going out on a limb and ASSUMING that Sbe WILL come, and we can divide the deposit 10 ways......I have to do this this week, as these homes fill up fast, and I don't want this one to not be available......
The amount I will need from each of you is: $63.61
I will pm each of you with my personal details, such as REAL name, and address to send the check to.
Here is the website address for this home: The Salmon River Rendezvous
www.mthoodrentals.com/Unit/Details/56218
I. Am. So. Excited!!!!!!!!!!!!!
XO
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Got it, movie, check is coming. Thanks! So excited.....
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Will mail my check tomorrow - hope they will take a Canadian check. Otherwise we will make other arrangements. The house sounds lovely, and it will be such a thrill to be there with everybody!
Thanks Movie!
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Movie, all I can say is, "WOW!" What a gorgeous place for a retreat with my sistas! I will put the check in the mail as soon as I find an envelope. Didn't think to pack any.
I've been MIA, too. We've been really busy here in Florida visiting with friends and I'm still working down here so I haven't been keeping up with all of you here on BCO. I really look forward to meeting all of you! Jeannie, I'm so glad you PM'd me! You all are in my thoughts and prayers. See you in September! ...Julie
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Movie, check is in the mail. No, really, I am sending a check! This is so exciting that we get to meet. Thanks for making the arrangements.
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movie...I sent you a pm before reading your message here, so will go by what you posted here.
liefie.....I am going to send a money order, instead of a cheque, to make sure the exchange rate doesn't sort change movie.
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Nihahi, thanks so much for the tip. I will do the same then. How much is it in US dollars? Do you know?
Also checked out the Rendevouz house - absolutely spectacular, and that kitchen makes me wanna cook - lol. Going to be such a blast!
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I will eat whatever you cook, liefie!
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I'll eat and do the dishes!!!! I also follow instructions well, so can happily assist in the kitchen .
liefie....just tell them at the bank you want a money order for $63.61 US, they'll figure out the exchange rate for the day, and tell you what to pay in Canadian. That way, we absorb the difference when we buy the money order, not movie, when she "cashes" it in.
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I'm IN! I'M IN! I'M NUMBER TEN!
Ok, that was weak sauce, sorry. But I'm SO excited to be coming! I will do whatever. Shop, cook, eat, do the dishes, make the beds, dust the chandelier...
September can't come fast enough. Thanks, everyone, who worked so hard to put all this together.
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Wow! That is a beautiful retreat house! I want to live there! Awesome job movie!
Is anyone taking Evista? Just read a news article about it. It sounds promising.
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Sbel, great news! So excited!
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check will be in the mail today, Movie!!!!! SO FLIPPING EXCITED!!!!
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Yeah, for #10.
Hi Blue, I don't take Evista. Will try to read more about it. You can be our #11 at that great looking house
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Nihahi, thanks for the money tip. Will be on it this morning.
I'm missing my yoga class right now because I'm watching the women's final free skate program at the Olympics. It comes only once every four years, so I've given myself permission. LOL. Love the skating!
So excited for September! I don't mean to take over the cooking completely, you girls. That would be very forward of me, and a little dangerous. Don't forget that I'm prone to cooking things like moose balls etc. . . lol.
Sbe, so HAPPY that you are coming! YAYYYY!!!!
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As long as they taste good, I don't care what balls they are
I can be the chef 's helper. Specially when she is making something really exotic...
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I would totally love to go. I'm still in a place where I don't know which end is up half the time. I get a bit panicky when I think about making plans months away yet. It's almost like I'm a bit superstitious. I know I need to learn how to relax and enjoy life instead of worrying about the "what ifs".
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Hugs Blue...you've been through a hell of a lot....I predict we will do this again and you will come when you are ready. We can Skype you in for a bit too, if you want! Hugs!
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Hi all...gotta get my hair dried before it sticks straight up, but just want to say that this house CAN hold up to 16......
XO
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Hi blue, if you decide to come at the last minute, just hop on a plane. We will save a spot for you.
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I lost you girls for awhile! You know, I'm not feeling like I'm moving on.😢. Foob is good and waiting for nipple in April, but now I'm going thru these tests for my liver. I'm so tired of this. I need someone to understand how this cancer worry thing feels. I know you guys understand. I just wish there was a real warm body around me that I could talk to. I feel like I go thru my days in my own world that is always thinking about BC. Blah!
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mamalou- I hate that you are feeling alone right now! Hugs!!
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mammalou, I understand. I totally feel like I've not moved on. I see how much further everyone else is along with their reconstruction and I'm just starting all over again. It sucks.
Hang in there. I'm sorry you feel alone. You aren't!
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Mammalou and Bluebird, I am here on this thread, thinking I was moving on, but then got slapped in the face several times with other stuff that sometimes really makes me feel stuck. I think trying to move on and wanting to move on are valid reasons to be here. If you are more comfortable on the DIEP 2013 thread, I will look for you there. I care about you both! Hugs.
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Jeannie, I think we all have blocks in our path. It just seems at times so unfair. How much crap is a person expected to deal with over and over again? I have gotten pretty good at moving blocks out of the way or scrambling over. I'm just so damn tired.
Reading about your finishing touches and your nipples made me realize that one day I too can have a parade in Seattle in honor of my nipples!
lol... Ok maybe not Seattle. Too far. It will be in Philly. It's a bigger city. More people will be there.
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Bluebird, you're funny. However, I had 700,000 + people show up for me at MY parade! My faith is pretty steady in my life, although it has really been challenged lately. It helps me like nothing else does.
I've just received some good? news. I am the cover girl for all the promotional materials this year for the bc fly-fishing program. Me and the trout. I have no words.
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I will come to your parade! Thanks for the encouragement. It just seems like it is one thing after another. It is hard to go around focusing on all the trival things in a job and at home and worry that I'm going to get some devastating news that I won't live to old age. I do a pretty good job of staying upbeat and happy, but sometimes I just feel like I can't take the uncertainty. I'm keeping busy at work and walking at least 6 miles a day, so I don't feel I'm over consumed with worry or fear. I go for an ultrasound the first week of a March, so hopefully I'll get some answers.
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oh my. A lot has been happening. My grandson was born 4 weeks early. I left the condo I had paid for in Florida and zoomed to Virginia in 12 hours. Everything is fine. Carter came home today. Everyone of us is exhausted.
Movie, I will talk to hubby tomorrow and get your money mailed to you. Thanks so much for doing this. Jeannie, the train from Seattle would be great if we can all go together. I have not talked to my son yet, but it shouldn't be a problem. I am 97% there. I'll know more tomorrow.
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Jeannie, can't wait to see the cover girl! I bet you look great in waders.
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haha, Zenful, sorry to disappoint. I didn't have to wear waders. We were in a little boat the whole time. The pic is a close-up of the fish and my face...I may have posted it here or somewhere before.
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Jeannie, post it again! I want to see it. Bluebird and mammalou you have earned the right to feel the way you do. We understand, but some of us to a lesser degree than others. I can tell when I talk to non-cancer friends that they really just can't relate to feelings we all have. They try. My tablet is not behaving well right now. Not sure how this is going to display. Movie the check is in the mail. Thanks for finding that beautiful house. If anyone hears of good flights from the Midwest, please PM me. Can't wait to meet all of you face to face! ...Julie
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sbe......wonderful to hear you are "in"...you've always been a "ten" in my view!!!!
cherrie.....glad to hear everyone is home safe and sound. My daughter was 3 mths premmie....those little ones catch up fast! Congrats on the grandma news. You know, the train could be a much more relaxing transit from Seattle. We could pitch in together to rent a car from Portland...as needed, or maybe could get something like a van/limo transport from Portland to MtHood....we'll have to keep researching.
liefie....NO MOOSEBALLS!!!!!
"moving on" to me isn't meaning life is perfect and tra-la-la......it means "the big surgery" is getting farther behind....the reality of life is always smack dab in our face. Moving on with that, with friends who "get it" is what this thread means to me. Huggles to all.
jeannie....please tell me the photo caption will name your fish as "wilbur the trout" .
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Jeannie, what a cool thing! You and your trout will be immortalized. Please share the photo again with us.
Cruising through the website of the Salmon River place this morning, and I wish we were meeting up today. What a beautiful place, and the chance to celebrate our lives together...well, this will be something very special.
I was babysitting Aubrey last night, and I put her in her low-to-the-ground infant swing, one that's shaped like a papa-san chair. I knew she didn't really want to be there, but I wanted to see what she would do. I stood by and watched her sit up and flip over onto her tummy, scootch down until her bottom was off the swing, then grab the edge of the swing to lower herself into a standing position and plop down into a sit. She is six months old. Somebody call Mensa...
Happy Friday, everyone!
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Oh, sbe, not only is Aubrey the most beautiful, she is the most advanced! I can't wait to have grandchildren. As much as I love my grandogs, I'm certain it is not the same. Lol.
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Nihahi, I'm afraid if I am to be the camp mother, you will have to eat what you get. I am quite strict . . . LOL. Love your suggestion to Jeannie re Wilbur the trout - so very appropriate!
Sbe, I love to hear about Aubrey's antics. She seems to be quite something special! Can't wait for my grandchild any more. DD is working her last day today. Her hands and feet are really swollen, she's tired, the nursery is ready, her hospital bag is packed. The world is waiting with bated breath to welcome that little one.
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Wilbur and Me
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Beautiful photo, Jeannie! Will make a lovely cover, Wilbur included.
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Love that photo! How appropriate that you will be a "Cover Girl"!
I wish they had a program near me like that. I love to fish. Never learned how to fly fish though.
Ok, I will have my parade in Seattle. I'd rather see people gathering in Seattle than gathering for an Eagles win, that's for sure!
I hate the Eagles ever since they took on Vick. Since my family is from Pittsburgh, I'm now a Steeler fan.
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Okay Ladies........Salmon River Rendezvous is on the books(reserved)...September 19th-22nd. Ten of us have signed up, so far.....we have room for more.......gotta dash!
XO Jackie
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Thanks Movie! Something so wonderful to look forward to!
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Bluebird, the fishing program I attended was through my hospital but Casting For Recovery is nationwide. You have to apply. I think they get more applicants than spots so not everyone can go. They are doing it in New Jersey in September. I just googled it. I think it's in every state. I am sorry to hear you are a Steelers fan! Seattleites think the Steelers stole the SuperBowl from us a few years ago. I still love you, though, and will throw you a parade any time, anywhere.
Aubrey is obviously training for the Olympics already.....does she have a mini mt. bike yet?
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Love your smile, Jeannie! Great picture of you and Wilbur. Hey, we definitely need t-shirts for the Mt. Hood rendezvous!
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I am now in 100%. I was waiting for my son to say that September would be ok to visit. Our original plan was August. The money is in the mail tonight, but I can't find where it said how much. Jeannie could you text me the amount.
I am in for driving to Portland with Jeannie or the train. We could take food in a car. Also, it would be more cost efficient to split gas 4 ways. Also, less planning with getting to a station and renting a car. However, I am up for whatever. My 60th is in October, so I will be celebrating that is for sure. Can't wait.
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Hi ladies
I've decded that I am ready to join this thread now that I have made it past the dreaded Stage 2 surgery last week. Since this surgery was so easy compared to the 12 hour DIEP/TRAM I can now look forward to th others as minor inconveniences to get the perky boobs I always wanted.
I spent most of 2013 fighting the disease, so I don't think that I can put it all behind me until I get past the constant bc reminders, namely the irritating port in my chest, the neuropathy in my feet, and the short grey hair. I go to MO every 6 weeks to get port flushed. MO does check up and takes blood at every other visit. I understand why MOs like to leave expensive port in for at least 2 yrs but to me it feels like there is an underlying expectation of using it in the near future. I was also told that the port would be also be used for blood draws and IVs. No other nurse or doctor has used it. My share of the port bill was over $800 so I am not happy about what appears to be an unnecessary expenditure. I am sorry to be so down. I had hoped to spend my free time this week making a plan for the rest of the year since I really want to retire from my job within the next 12 months. Instead, I am organizing medical bills.
I hav not been able read the 68 preceding pages but I have scanned about half of them. I am happy for those of you who will be getting together in Sep. I'm sure it will be a blast.
Nihahi - I am glad that the US govt knows you are still alive and et to pay you.
Bluebird - god luck with your new boobie
Jeanne - best wishes for you and hubbie
Movie - I will keep you and your family in your prayers.
To you new grannies, cherish these moments. Eventually they will grow up an then you will get phone calls similar to this "Hi Nana, I need a favor". Translate favor to $$.
Hugs to all
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Cherrie, nice to hear your plans for the getaway are all coming together. Train or car, Mt Hood, here we come! My big 60 is in July. Yes, we will celebrate!
Gwenny, welcome here on this thread! Sorry to hear about the port, and yes, it would be a constant reminder of what you just went through. As far as I know the port is normally removed a few months after treatment. I did not have one, so hopefully someone else here can chime in about this.
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Gwenny, I got my port out a month or two after finishing chemo. It seems cruel to leave it in for so long. I appreciated having it but was happy to see it go. Thanks for the well-wishes, Gwenny, and welcome here.
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Gwenny, I didn't even ask my MO, I just had my docs remove my port with my bmx and Stage 1. Just like you, I wanted to see it go! When I saw my MO, he didn't seem bothered that it was gone. Sorry you are having such a rough time, but happy to see you have joined the "moving on" group. Hugs.
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Ugh....doing taxes and laundry today.....Ugh....but happy thoughts of September rolling around in the back of my mind!
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OMG....this is going to have to be a posting on the fly.....I planned to sit and catch up.....hubby is pulling out the piles of "tax stuff".......nooooooooooooooo.....Where can I hide??????????????
Thinking of you all, hugs and hugs.....Isn't it September YET??????
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Thanks Jeannie! I signed up and will go if they have a spot open!
I know everyone hates the Steelers. I'm not much of a sports fan, I just hate the Eagles despite being a former Eagles fan. This pretty much sums up my sports watching experience:
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Gwenny, I had my port out at my first revision. They forgot to take it out during reconstruction. It was just a nuisance to me. It really disturbed my sleep when I would try to lay on that side or when I reached for things. But some people like to keep them in as an insurance policy. I never did have anyone else use the port other than at the MO office. I say ask for it to be out if it bothers you.
Taxes and laundry! That sounds like a terrible day!
lol..Does anyone use Turbo Tax or do most people use professionals? I'm trying t decide if it is worth it to have it professionally done with all the bc medical crap from last year. Though I doubt my out of pocket expenses add up to 7%.
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H & R Block is what we used and we couldn't deduct medical because we didn't spend enough out of pocket. I guess I'm thankful for good insurance.
I have had doctors tell me, " You should have a port!" because of the lymphedema/blood draw/ IV issues. I just give them a dirty stare....what, a port for the rest of my life?
Blue, yay for you! I hope you get in. I signed up for that one before I found my hospital one and they put me on a waiting list. I am hopeful for you! Funny cartoon! I don't understand a lot about football but I like watching certain teams for some reason. I'm lucky my husband isn't obsessed with watching sports on tv. He is not one to fall asleep with the remote in his hand.
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Just found the perfect companion for the September Rendezvous...........
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Movie...hahahaha....it's my sincere hope that I don't come home from Mt. Hood LOOKING like Mt. Hood!
Hey, we need a name for our get-together. Somebody think of something fabulous.
I had my port for 1 1/2 years. It didn't bother me in the least, and was very helpful for chemo and lab draws. I even convinced my anesthesiologist to use it when I had my original mx, but I was ready to be un-ported when I had my DIEP. They removed it from underneath so no new incisions. In theory, a port should be removed when reasonably prudent. It's still a foreign body and a possible focus of infection and clots. And the cancer is gone...! Out it comes!
Bluebird, we use TurboTax here and have for years. And our taxes are not straight-forward. It works great.
We spent yesterday with 650 volunteers from our church, assigned to 27 projects throughout the community. Our group of 30 people was at an elementary school. We washed windows, planted flowers and bushes, spread wood chips in playgrounds, scrubbed picnic tables, painted planters. "Many hands make light work" is the truth--it was so much fun! The principal and I had a brief chat about breast cancer. She was diagnosed Stage IV a few months ago and is bravely and cheerfully getting on with her life as leader of her school between chemo treatments and other medical issues. An amazing woman.
Happy Sunday, everyone! Aubrey's coming over after church; I can't wait!
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Hello, I hope you all don't mind me joining this thread, definitely ready to move on with you all!
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I had my port removed in my breast surgeon's office right after I finished chemo, so it hadn't been that long & it took him forever to get it out because of scar tissue encompassing it already. So, beware of leaving it in too long because of scar tissue building up if you plan to have it removed in the office. It smarted!
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Hi Gwenny and Jaz....good to see you on the "other side".
sbe...sounds like you had a great time at the school, and I'm sure that principal will be grateful for the "connection". I can't imagine a better source of inspiration and hope. Aubrey.....what can I say....start babyproofing ASAP, hide the car keys, and might as well start going through college options....omg.....pulling herself to standing at 6 months!!!!! She is going to be keeping everyone on their toes!
movie...as you well know, I LOVE POTATO CHIPS, and those are DISGUSTING!!!!
Hubby and I got up at 5am to watch the gold medal hockey game....YEAH CANADA.....but sheesh....not sure how I am going to last until bedtime.....what in the world were we thinking!
Got some more paperwork from the SSA on Friday, supposedly a followup to the "registration phone call".....hmmmm.....two of the "things I have to notify them about"
1. leaving the US for more than 30 days......uh....hello?????? I live in Canada....??????
2. not applying for Canadian pension.....ummm.....that pension is worth waaaaay more than the SSA amount????? This play money might not work out after all.
!snowing lightly all day with a windchill of -25.....does ANYBODY have spring yet????
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Feeling right springy here! Sorry about your temp. If you paid into the SSA system enough quarters to qualify and are a dual citizen, how can they control what you get from Canada if you qualify there as well?
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Movie, those chips look interesting---salty and sweet works for me!
Nihahi, I agree with Marty. It seems like you should be able to get both if you paid into both. Sheesh! We were supposed to get snow today but instead we're getting more rain. Lots of snow in the mts. We do need the rain but it is tiresome. At least Daylight Savings Time (2 weeks) will bring more LIGHT even if it's gray.
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sigh.....planning on another phone call to "the authorities" tomorrow morning, to try and sort it out....I agree with you guys, but don't want to suddenly find out I've somehow cancelled my Canadian benefits. Then there is the "can't leave the USA for more than 30 days thing"...wth????
ohhh...I'd forgotten about the time change....Have to remember that one. 208 days to Mt Hood!
How is the house sale going, marty??? Hope you're planning on staying in the same area....where you live is so special.
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Drive by.....busy worrying over Mom and Dad in Germany. Dad goes in to the hospital for the second stage surgery tomorrow, surgery on Tuesday. Tomorrow they will xray his stumps to make sure they are healed and ready for stage 2. If they are they will attach the fittings to the titanium rods they placed last month. Then he will be on bed rest until Friday when they will stand him up and start taking measurements to align his prosthetic legs. If you have an extra prayer for them I would so appreciate it.....for strength and healing, but also for their hearts. They are very homesick and my heart is broken for them. And there's nothing I can do for them except pray.....which I do without ceasing. Thanks, friends. Love to all.
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You got it, Bailey. It is an honor to pray for such amazing parents.
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Prayers and positive energy for strength and courage on their way to Germany!
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bailey.....thank you for resetting my priorities......prayers, for strength and healing going out to your parents AND to you. Cannot imagine how difficult this is for all of you.
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My thoughts and Prayers are out to your parents Bailey!
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Bailey, your parents are amazing. Traveling across the world to undergo state-of-the-art surgery, living in a foreign country, no one but each other for support while they're there. Lots of prayers for them!
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Bailey...I am doing a drive by myself....I will certainly keep ALL of you in my thoughts and prayers.....Please, keep us posted....
(((Huggles))) to you!
XO to ALL of you! Jackie
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Bailey, loving thoughts and prayers to you and your brave parents.
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Thanks everybody....no news yet.....
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I have news. I have the perfect shoes for both my my girlie side and my farmgirl side.
Don't be a jealous hater sbel.
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Bluebird, priceless - LOLOLOL!!!!
Bailey, you have amazing parents. Will keep them in my prayers. Can just imagine how lonely they must feel over there.
Jazlaumir, welcome here! You seem to be recovering really well from your recent surgery - way to go!
Movie, those chips are decadent, and I'm a sucker for sweet/salty treats . . .
A good day to you all!
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Possible name for our get together: The Wilbur Convention. LOL
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Blue-LOVE the shoes.....why don't you wear them and come and visit out in Oregon in SEPTEMBER?
Welcome, Jaz.......this is where the "really" cool flapper chicks hang out! (Just kidding......we are actually lukewarm, at best)
Liefie....happy to indulge your fantasy snack food whims.......snow shoeing in your future?
Love to all my flapper chicks.....
XO
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Movie, yes, I think I would like to try that. Once I get my sore back working again - lol.
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Blue, love your tag line in relation to your shoes: "fall down seven times, get up eight!"
Liefie, Wilbur convention indeed! I hope your back feels better soon.
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Oh I soooo want to come to the Wilbur convention. Over the weekend I woke up and decided I was going. Then realized I'll be back to work by September. I work at a university and September is my busiest month. They would not be too happy with me.
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Awww, Bluebird! I just got so excited, and then read further . . . Maybe just tell them it's something that's been organized long ago, and you've committed. Not that much of a lie, is it? It is for a good cause, after all? Milk the bc card a little. What do you think? Can you find a stand-in person for those 2/3 days?
Nihahi, sorry to hear about your new woes with the Government. Hope they do not kill you off again - LOL. We need you alive for the meet-up . . .
Jeannie, the back will probably take a few more days. Everything just becomes slower as we get older, unfortunately. It is snowing buckets here anyway, so I'll just walk slowly on the treadclimber to get in some movement at least.
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Those shoes are PRICELESS!!!!
Blue....it would be great to have you join the gang in Mt Hood. I do "get" the work commitment though too. I'm betting there will be more gatherings, and I suggest we vary the time of year and part of the country(s) to make it more possible for more people to join in. That being said, I doubt if I'll ever convince any of you to come to my neck of the woods in the winter...I can always hope though !
bailey....still thinking of you and mom and dad....everything crossed for good news and renewed courage.
liefie....what????? what is going on with your back???? I must have missed something! Take care, girl, grandma time is fast approaching!
Talked to the SSA people this morning. Apparently, much of the recent correspondence from them was of the "form letter" variety, and doesn't apply to me, but I did get a few other things clarified with them. Still waiting to hear from the IRS re: live vs. dead. I'm not sweating it at this point.
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Nihahi, I slept on a blow-up air mattress for 5 nights on a cold tiled floor in Calgary, and now I'm dearly paying for it. That's all it can be - did nothing else. Kids wanted me to sleep in their bed, which I refused. Just woke up on Thursday morning with this unpleasant lower back pain, which became worse over the weekend. Getting better now - slowly. Cancelled my strength training class for tomorrow, and will see about the one on Thursday. I'm more angry than anything else because I cannot do much. On the bright side, it has been snowing steadily here for days now, so it is the right week to be staying home - lol.
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Oh, shoot, Liefie! You're so strong, you'll probably bounce back fast, though.
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A drive-by here too...it's going to be a busy day (week, month...)
Bluebird, funny thing, I already have those shoes, only in black. Hahaha....
Tonight is....(Nihahi, close your eyes, read no further!) Snake Date Night! Since I saw more of them on trail rides in 2013, Jerry has to book the massages, make dinner plans, and pay for everything. And I'm already one ahead for 2014, so it's looking good for this year too.
Bailey, still holding your parents up in prayer. Have a great Tuesday, everyone!
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So the second stage of Dad's surgery was today and it went really, really well. They were able to attach the fittings to the titanium rods they put in his femurs back in January. The fracture in the left leg is healing. He won't be able to do any weight bearing on the left leg for several more months. But he will start on the right leg by the end of the week. They will teach him what he needs to do for the left leg when he gets home. They are in a better part of the hospital this time and they have WiFi available there and the food is better.
Lots of hard work ahead but all is well.
Thanks for holding my hands in prayer, friends. It's a very good day.
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YAY Bailey! So good to hear surgery went well for your courageous dad, and that things are better in general. Yes, it will be a long road to complete healing, but he will do it, I'm sure.
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Yay, Bailey! Yay, Bailey's mom and dad!
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Whoop, Bailey! God is good.
I have to see PCP today for a problem I'm having and was just told I need LABS! Yuk. I have never had them done there so I hope somebody has experience with foot pokes. I also hope my problem isn't serious....
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(((((((((((Jeannie)))))))))))
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Jeannie, I wish I could come poke your foot for you. I'm pretty good
. It's time you got a break, so you'll get the world's best sticker, I'm sure!
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bailey.....that is wonderful, wonderful news. Thanks for sharing.
jeannie....huggles....hop the "pokes" are good ones.
sbe....you are definitely going to be MY nurse!!!!!
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bailey, so happy to hear the good news. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.
Jeannie, sending prayers your way that all is just fine. ((((Hugs))))
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Baby alert: DD has been admitted to hospital, is being induced as we speak, and by end of day I will probably be a grandma - surreal!
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Liefie...YAY! YAY! YAY! YAY! A whole new blossoming of life is awaiting you!
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Sbe, I'm betting it's a girl. I have a 'girl feeling'. Lol.
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Liefie, I tend to trust those feelings! (At worst, they're right half the time!)
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Liefie, hope you are a Grandma soon. In Indiana we are Mamaws. Bailey, so happy to hear your good news. Will still be praying for all of you. Blue, those shoes are something else! I would break my neck. Jeannie, hoping all is well. Love you all. ...Julie
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IT'S A GIRL! My instinct was right . . . 6 lbs 9 oz. Mom and baby both well. So very grateful!
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THAT'S WONDERFUL NEWS, LIEFIE!!!!!!! So happy for you, Grandpa and the whole family. Any name yet?????
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Just heard that her name will be Emily-Anne. Mom, dad and baby are together in a room by themselves now, she's lying on her mom's chest, and we heard her making her darling little sounds on the phone - too adorable!. Still can't believe it. What a gift!
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Love the name......when are you coming to Calgary?
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Congrats, Liefie. So happy for you---a new little blessing.
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Congratulations Liefie!!! Emily Anne is such a cute name!
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Thanks a lot, everyone. What a day this has been!
Nihahi, won't be coming to Calgary this time. All roads will lead to Edmonton in the near future - lol.
A good night to you all.
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Congratulations, liefie, welcome to the world, Emily-Anne!
Bailey great news about you dad.
Good day everyone else.
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Liefie - I'm so happy for you and your family. Welcome to the world Emily-Anne!
Bailey - Such great news about your dad. Does he know that he has a posse of women with fantastic racks who are rooting for him.
Jeannie - I'm cheering you on as you clear yet another hurdle. Go Jeannie Go!
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Welcome to the sunlight, Emily-Anne! What an adorable name, and bet she's an adorable baby. Aubrey was 6-10, so almost exactly the same size. Oh, Liefie, you're going to love this part of life!
Bailey, giving thanks still for your parents and your dad's progress. What a trooper. We know where you got YOUR go-get-'em attitude!
Jeannie, how you doing?
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Thanks for the well wishes everybody! It is all highly appreciated. Mom and baby are on their way home. The new dad spent the night with them in the hospital in a sleeper chair, which I find so cool. The other grandparents have been to see little Em earlier today, and immediately set off on a pink shopping spree. They have boys only, so this is a first in their family. They brought great grandma Emily to meet her first great grandchild and namesake - so sweet.
This grandma had a haircut and a pedicure this morning, did some pink shopping herself, and is now ready to meet that precious little person. Sbe, yes, I know that I'm going to love this part of my life. What a great blessing!
Jeannie, we're here for you.
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Just stopping by before I go out to the garden again. Compost spreading day is tomorrow and I have to ready the beds. I am not spreading it, though. Anyway, I saw my PCP this week and you know how it is, every little thing with a cancer survivor or whatever we are needs to be checked out. I don't see the next doc until mid-March so I'm putting it out of my mind for now. My gut says it's not serious. Thanks for your concern. We shall see. I am actually more freaked out by the thought of a colonoscopy than anything else. I am due this year but any time I am sedated, my blood pressure could drop. Sudden blood pressure drop==could lose vision in good eye. My faith is getting good exercise, for sure!
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Jeannie, don't worry. It's the best sleep you'll ever have. I've had two so far and both times woke up refreshed! Hmmm makes me wonder exactly what happened while I was out. lol!
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A little girl named Emily. What could be sweeter? How lovely for you, Liefie!
Photos...we need photos...
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Sbe, I received two beautiful photos via e-mail, but do not have the faintest idea how to get them on here. If you pm me your e-mail address, can I send them to you so you can post them here?
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Blue, I've had two c.s, too. They don't scare me but going legally blind does.
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Of course, Liefie! Email in your PM. I can't wait!
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Congrats Liefie!
Jeannie- Positive vibes being sent your way!
We just added a new fur baby to our family, meet Gracie...............we now have George and Gracie
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Sweetpickle, look at that soft head and floppy ears! What a beautiful new fur-baby! I hope George and Gracie are wonderful friends.
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Time to nail plywood over the windows and make sure the flashlights work! IT'S RAINING IN CALIFORNIA!
As a Colorado girl, I find California's "STORM WATCH!" hoopla pretty funny.
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sbe....glad to hear you've still got some "mountain strong" in you. Rain.....unless it's torrential buckets....pfft. It would be hard rain here this morning....windchill is -30, and we had some snow last night. COME ON SPRING!!!!!
Hope you packed some warm and cozy for your trip to Edmonton, liefie. Enjoy Emily.....learn how to post pictures...it really isn't that hard.
Have to dash out the door.....have good days, ladies. Hugs to all.
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Sweet, so cute! Cute names, too.
Sbel, we get the hoopla if there is the threat of snow. If it does snow, it's HUGE news, mostly because it is hilly around here and people are scared to drive in it. I am happy you are getting rain. Your drought affects us all.
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I can stand up now, so look out, world!
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Well! That smile is a fabulous antidote to this frigid Canadian winter. She is adorable!
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I am honored to present Liefie's new granddaughter, Emily Anne! Welcome to the world, dear baby!
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Hmmm.....I see a bit of Liefie's DH in Emily-Anne..... I think MORE pictures are needed, to be absolutely SURE!
Sweet....George and Gracie, as in George Burns and Gracie Allen (The George and Gracie Show)? Or just coninkydink? Either way, a VERY adorable fur baby, for sure!
Sbe....that Aubrey is going to be a heartbreaker......what a doll! I just want to pick her up and kiss her soft little cheeks! (Maybe you could smuggle her in your suitcase to Portland in September?)
Nihahi...I have nothing to say to you ie; Winter......except that I am sorry.....I was at the Post Office this AM doing something for DH's business.....the buds are almost out on the Cherry Trees.......
Regarding the September Rendezvous....I have one more check that I am still looking for....(Not including the Canadian lovelies in this)....won't panic until the weekend......I have Cherrie's, Bailey's, Tammy's, Sbe's, Zenful's, Jeannie's, Movie's.....waiting for JlBlooms......and I am hoping it will show this weekend......not really sure WHAT to expect with the "Furrener's"
Just a reminder, the Rendezvous house can hold up to 16.....we are at 10......and can add if someone changes their mind....It's is going to be a blast....I am already planning a couple of stunning hikes, and there are gorgeous walking trails on the Salmon River, if you don't want to "Hike".....(Now....if we can only convince Liefie to plan all the meals!)
Have to go shower my mother.....fun times in Lake Oswego, for sure....
Love you awesome ladies!
XO
Jackie
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What cute babies!!! Seeing them warms my heart.
Nihahi, Janet and all those in the Polar Vortex, wish you were here today! Bright blue skies, gorgeous day, I just ate lunch on my patio table. I feel the north wind from the Canadian Fraser River already this afternoon, though, so it will be short-lived.
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jlBloom....your check was in the mail........just waiting on the Canadian connection, now....it's REALLY happening!
XO
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Ohmygosh, you guys, those babies are soooo sweet......Thing 1 and Thing 2 are only 14 and 18......so I have a long wait......but something stirs in my gut when I think about a grandchild. So happy for you!
Cannot wait for Mt. Hood!!!!
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Babies and puppies! The start to a good weekend!
So cute!
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OMG those babies are adorable!
Movie- Yes, named her after George and Gracie Burns. They are getting along great!
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Money order went out Saturday, so tomorrow will be a week in the Pony Express system......perhaps it's caught.................................
IN THIS FRIGGIN, FRACKIN, F***ING DEEP FREEZE!!!!! BUDS ON THE TREES.....ARE YOU KIDDING ME!!!!! PREDICTED WINDCHILL IN THE -40'S TONIGHT AND TOMORROW!!!!
sob sob sob sob sob sob sob!!!! Even the local ski hill closed the runs, too cold to ski????!!!!
sob sob sob sob sob !
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yikes! stay indoors nihahi!
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Hi ladies! Love the pictures of the two and four footed babies. Now we can watch two little girls grow up. Movie, happy to hear the check arrived. Nihahi, I wish for better weather for you very soon. I think we are going to have a nice weather weekend in Florida. It sure beats the weather in Indiana. Have a good weekend!
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Oh Nihahi!!! Just when I think it's cold here you doubled down on my temp! I got up in the night last night and checked the temp and it was -15....
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, I have nothing more to say, I think I'll go soak in the tub.
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You are all a bunch of big babies. It's raining in California. Raining! Oh, the humanity!
Call FEMA.
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Lol...I love you Sbe.......
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I guess I can't complain that the temp was on 15 when I went to work this morning.
Liefie - Congratulations Grandma
Bailey - will keep you and parents in my prayers
Jeanne - Hugs
Chocolate covered chips sound absolutely fantastic.
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awwww sbe......it's gonna be a mudder of a bike ride today! What the heck do you feed Aubrey??? Standing at 6 months? That's scary amazing!!!
-42 windchill this morning, temp is a balmy -36
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Riding mountain bikes with the trails this muddy is more like surfing. And it's bad for both the bike and the trail. So we'll wait for a break in the rain and have a road ride for an hour or so just to get the molecules moving.
Isn't Aubrey amazing? She turned seven months on 2/27 and my DIL texted me that she's standing without holding on to anything. She is a baby on the go. Her daddy and his twin brother were walking at ten months, so I guess it "runs" in the family.
Stay warm, all of you in the frigid zones. It might be a nice day for a pot of tea and a book. Anybody into the Outlander series? Diana Gabaldon is a wonderful writer.
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Sbe....I KNOW I love you now....I am an avid Outlander fan.........have been for years, and when I tell people about the books, they look at me like I've grown another head! (Or heid, as Jamie would say!) They are finally making it into a series....the first book-Outlander-has been divided into 16 episodes, and will start airing on Starz in August.......I have wondered for literally YEARS why no one has tried to do this......love love LOVE those books....and the EIGHTH book is being released in June......"Written In My Own Heart's Blood".......
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I need to check out that series, I have heard that it is good.
sbe- My brother posted a video of the rain on facebook today, you guys are getting drenched for sure! Hope people stay safe from mudslides.
I need help ladies. My old employer called me today with an opportunity to telecommute. I would be responsible for all of the social networking initiatives, brand mamagement, lead qualification, etc. I have no idea what kind of salary to consider. I was drasticly underpaid as the office manager but needed the job. Now I dont need this job but it is what I enjoy doing so I would like to do it. Any advice? This would be a part time gig but I could see it going full time depending on if they expand. Thanks!
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avid Diana Gabaldon fan here!!!! Read them all....been waiting for the next installment, I mean, come on.....she can't leave us hanging like she did with the ending of the last book!!!!
sweet.....my opinion is we go through all the bc crap, to "move on" with life....it sounds like you're excited about this, so why not try to nail down some details to make sure it is a good fit for you, then.....if it feels right.....go for it! Kuka certainly felt like her work opportunity was a true "new life" for her. If it doesn't work out, then, you haven't lost anything, and if you thrive in it......woohoo!!!!!
Absolutely stupid cold here....sick of winter. Truly, sick of it.
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nihahi- so true, I plan to talk further with them monday, we shall see. I most likely will take it, just dont want to undervalue my skillset like I did before.
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Sweet, DH says here in Seattle that full-time job would pay between $90-100,000. Just a tidbit of info for you! Sounds exciting!
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jeannie- Tell him thank you, that was the range my research showed as well. This is a small firm though and I know that will not be in their ballpark. I was thinking $40-50k with a 15% bonus on all new business referred by me and they pay for all of my continuing ed and license fees (real estate).
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Sounds like you have it figured out, Sweetpickle!
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Thanks Jeannie, guess I just needed to hear that I was on track. I will keep you guys psted on how it turns out.
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sweet.... hope it also means an easier "managing" of a trip to support your sister. Of course, it may also mean coming to one of the "gatherings" is in the cards too!
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I say go for it, Sweet! You can always quit, if it doesn't meet expectations.....Good luck!
Nihahi......HOW could we have spent an entire weekend together and NOT talked about Diana Galbadon?!?! I am currently listening to all 7 books again, on Audiobooks, in anticipation of the next book. I think James Alexander Malcom Mackenzie Fraser in the only man on earth I would leave DH for......and he's fictional!
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nihahi- exactly my thinking! It also means a trip to disney for the family next year. Woohoo! I really do miss working and this would be perfect since I can telecommute.
movie- thanks!
You guys have me wanting to run out to the bookstore now.....oooooo la la........lol
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back off movie.....Jamie is mine!!!! We just have to figure out how to move that dang wife of his out of the picture....maybe leave her stranded on one side of "time" without the stones she needs to follow us??? On another topic.....did that money order get to you yet??
hey sweet......I thought of something else. Since they "sought you out" any chance you could wrangle some health benefits from them, or "fitness benefits", if they won't do health care, maybe gym memberships or massages, stuff like that??? Hope it works out for you...keep us posted!
sbe....the news isn't great about SoCal and the rain...I"ll stop teasing you about it. Hope all is well with you and family.
bailey..anymore news from mom and dad???? Hoping things are well with them too.
Has anyone made their flight reservations yet for Sept????
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sweet, what a wonderful opportunity for you! Hope everything works out just as you would like it to.
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Nihahi, from what I'm hearing and reading, there were some mudslides and some homes were minimally damaged, but no one hurt. Is there other news I just haven't heard yet? It just rained at my place. Occasionally it rained HARD but no flooding or damage.
I'm waiting for Southwest Airlines to open up their flight schedules and reservations through September. Right now they're just through August. I'm planning on coming up on Thursday, and I believe the DH will be coming along and spending the weekend with his college roommate in Vancouver.
Movie, do you own the audiobooks, or do you borrow them from your library? I'm going to see if my library carries them--so far I've just done the old-fashioned thing and read the books!
Sweet, I'm with Nihahi--if they're seeking YOU out, you're in the driver's seat. Negotiate! And we're thrilled for you that this opportunity came along! It's a perfect "Moving on, after the flap" thing to do!
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hmmm.....I've read about "thousands on mandatory evac", because of concerns about mudslides??? Glad to hear YOU'RE safe and sound.
I haven't made my flight reservations yet, but it's looking like in and out of Seattle. I'm going to tack on visiting with sister before and after. We love each other, but are NOTHING alike.....small doses always work better than extended visits. Does that sound awful????
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Nihahi....you know the saying...You can't pick your family, but you CAN pick your friends...(or something to that effect). I know what you speak of, as my little sister and I love each other, and we get along...but we are SO different! And speaking of JAMMF...YOU back off...I saw him first! Claire...... I will just shove into a time-travel vortex.......I GUESS you and I will have to arm wrestle for him!
Sbe.....keep your raft at the ready....you may have to float down to Valley Glen and rescue my DD and SIL!
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Whoops! almost forgot....Yes, Nihahi...your check DID come.....now just waiting on Liefies........
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Everyone here makes fun of the TV news because they hype the weather so much. There were some evacuations in anticipation of mudslides, but I think everyone's been allowed back in. Movie, have your DD and SIL been rinsed down the California River?
I love the descriptions of the 18th century Gabaldon writes; she adds enough reality to NOT make it sound all soppy romantic and effortless. Still, I wonder how there were enough hours in a day to get everything done that needed doing on a wilderness farm. I'm late to the Outlander party--in the middle of Drums of Autumn," since a friend told me about the books right before my DIEP and I don't have a lot of reading time--but I'm an ardent fan. I hope the film does the book justice. I was so disappointed in the Narnia films! They took the stories of the books and completely missed the mark, IMHO.
Have a great Sunday and stay warm and dry!
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Hahaha...just had to share this...
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Sbe....that picture is TOO funny!
Re: The Outlander series on Stars.....the wife of the director is an ARDENT fan of the series....and DG seems to be quite involved....I think the two actors playing Claire (Catriona Balfe) and Jamie(Sam Heughan) had NO idea how their Star(s) would rise.....25 million fans and counting.....I am hopeful that the series will complement the book pretty well. That is what they are aiming for......I believe it starts airing in the US in August (Book 8 is out in June)....and is going to be on Canadian TV as well.....I am not sure about the UK yet......but these books are beloved all over the world.....I have been hoping this would happen for YEARS!
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Nihahi- I thought about asking for that too, not sure if it will fly but I can at least ask. This is a super small company with just fifteen agents and the bossman is el cheapo, however its made him pretty dang successful. I am one of the few people that kmows how much he actually makes due to my previous position. It will be interesting to see how well I do......lol I have never been sought out like this so it is a new experience for sure!
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sbe- hilarious!
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Nihahi...for you.......
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omg movie....LOVE IT!!! Sadly, it's more true than many people think!!!! Good to hear the $$ got to you. I was starting to think bad thoughts, given my track record with gov't agencies. Hope DD is ok.
sbe...puddles......PUDDLES???? You're likely braver than the average SoCal'er, given your Colorado background, so I'm sure, THAT much rain is tough....... however.....as opposed to exposed flesh freezing in 10 minutes or less........please don't send the rain up here this spring...no one wants it this year.
re:Jamie....ok, who has the most Celt in them.....on my Dad's side....3/4 Scot,1/4 Welsh (true highland blood re: Scottish part)....we'll have to give the honours to the winner, (as long as it's me!).
Sweet.....you have to be wise in how you ask for things, but, also you never know unless you ask! Looking forward to hearing how it goes!
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Great contest, Nihahi! I know I have a bit of Irish in my blood, but at least 50% is German--my dad's father took the ocean ride from Germany in the early part of the 1900's, landed on New York with all the other immigrants, and then hitchhiked to Wisconsin. My mom's side is mostly English with a dab of Cherokee tossed in. Her family lived in the backwater of Arkansas and we have lots of hillbilly stories, but not a single romantic Highlander among them.
We have a break in the rain. Gotta go take the woofers for a walk.
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Hmmmmmm.....Celt (Gaelic) blood, you say? My great grandparents on me Da's side were 100% Cornish (with POSSIBLE Scots connection, not yet confirmed)......on me Mothair's side 'tis a wee bit less, ye ken....50% Welsh and 25% Oyerish....AND.....me last name has confirmed connection to the Cameron clan of Scotland.......
So there..........
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maiden name.....Darroch, of the MacDonald of the Highlands, Clan Ranald. Mom's Svenska family probably had something to do with Jamie's red hair/blue eyes.....HE'S MINE, MY PRECIOUS, MINE MINE MINE!!!!!!!!
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Weel...me oldest is a Ginger...... Be that as it may.........
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In case the similarity isn't obvious........the cat-scratching post is Jamie...I am the cat....
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My relatives arrived here in the Colonial days. We have their Bible. Not Scots but close! My little brother and granddaughter are gingers. That has to count for something! Of course, there is the Scandinavian connection for that, too, I think.....
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auburned hair until age 5!!!!! Then turned into a dark haired, hazel eyed Scot! I used to wear a vest of our dress tartan on St. Paddy's day instead of something green.
movie....that cat/post pic is scaaaaarrryyyy.....meooooow!
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just checking in 6 pages later. I need someone's email that can post a pic for me. I am holding my 13 day old grandson with my precious 3 year old granddaughter. I am jealous when I see all your grandma pics.
Can't wait for Mt. Hood. How in shape do I need to be for our hikes? I want to hike and will work on this. I will be coming from Seattle with Jeannie, Nihahi, and Liefie. Let me know if we need train tickets, or gas for a car. I will not have a car in Seattle. We have so much to celebrate. I am not a cook, but can help set up and do dishes, etc. Will there be a grocery store nearby?
Bailey- Thinkng of your father and mom in Germany.
Liefie-Baby girl. It is so much fun. My little grand daughter is Elly Mae and my new grandson is Carter Anthony.
Jeannie- Hope all is going well. You are always in my thoughts.
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OK, this is all totally cracking me up. I'll stand in line for Jamie, but it appears I'll be WAAAAY back in the queue! I married into a Scottish line--family research revealed the the Haydocks were ship builders that chugged across the pond in the early 1600's to harvest tall timbers to be used as ships' masts. But that's the kicker...married.
As Mistress Haydock (for that's the way it used to be spelled) I can only cast heated, furtive glances in his direction, and sigh...
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Cherrie, dearest, I will be your photo poster! Check your PM for my email and we'll have it on in no time.
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cherrie....looks like sbe beat me to it....looking forward to more Grandbaby pics. Just get yourself fit for "life".....then it won't matter what kind of hikes movie has planned...you'll be good to go. Are you still in Florida???
hahahha......not that I'm into the "sister wives" thing, but hey, since JF is a fictional character.....I figure we can share....right! It's not like none of us have any imagination! Gosh movie......maybe if we dig far enough back, you and I are related???? Come from the same clan type of thing!!! Ade and I are convinced we are connected in some way.....probably shared the same straitjacket cave at some time
Just checked the countdown......200 days (exactly) until Mt Hood....can't wait my friends.....!!!!!!
The temp is heading in the right direction for us this morning....a balmy -26
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It pays to have a genealogist in the family. On my dad's side I'm directly related to Sir Robert the Bruce leader of Scotland.
On my mom's side, my great great great great grandparents came over as indentured servants. Sold all six of their kids when they reached the port of Philadelphia then walked to the Pittsburgh area to settle. The kids later also walked 300 miles to find their parents when their servitude was up many years later.
But we had German blood introduced when a (future) relative was brought over as a Hessian soldier during the revolutionary war. He changed his mind and didn't want to fight and went AWOL. The British chased him through the area but didn't catch him because as he was running through a farmer's field he came upon the farmers daughter and hid under her hoop skirt. She saved his life. But when the farmer found out a man had been under his daughters skirts, a wedding immediately ensued! Thus began my German-Scottish branch. He later fought for the Americans and thanks to him (and a few other relatives) I'm now a Daughter of the American Revolution.
Life was certainly more exciting back then!
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I will add that despite my Campbell clan and Sir Robert the Bruce family lineage, I'm happy to put up Jamie to the highest bidder.
I'll stick with my own Jamie who goes by the name Steve in this century. LOL!
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dang....I won't tangle with a "Bruce"....nor with a DAR. Interesting to hear how "old" some of the American roots are....I'm rather "fresh" in comparison!
Heading out for a swim....(indoors of course!). Have good days ladies!!!
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Bluebird, you win! What a great story! Your life now is plenty exciting.....I hope it is exciting in a happy way from here on out.
Nihahi, swimming sounds wonderful even though I'm not a great swimmer. The pool at the Y is tempting me.
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Thanks Katy. I sent a pic to you. Can't wait to see it. THANKS
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back from the pool! Jeannie.....GO FOR IT!......I'm not a strong swimmer either....if I'm not consistent, I lose the "lung capacity/cardio" really fast. I do find the swimming helps me "stretch out" from toes to fingertips. It feels so good, and it's good for me to do something that doesn't pound my feet. The pool here is a lovely temperature, and has all kinds of gadgets you can use....I usually wear small flippers to do laps, as it lets me focus on my arms, and when I am "lapped out", I put on a flotation belt and do "deep water running" laps. It's a great workout, and it's good to mix things up. I really HATE resistance stuff with my arms, but need to do it. Weights, etc......sooooo not my thing. Never has been. The water is enough resistance for me, and I can tell I'm working the muscles that need work. I just have to force myself to go, in the winter, when it is really cold outside.
How is your exercise thing going??? Did the class "pickup" for you??
ok sbe.....where's Cherrie's Grandma pics????
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May I present...ta da!...Cherrie's grands, Elly Mae, holding her new brother Carter Anthony. Aren't they both adorable?
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AWWWWWWW...........ADORABLE X2!!!!!!!! Congrats, Cherrie!
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hahahahaha........college roomate just sent me this.....circa 1970
see.....I never did have big boobs....HONEST!!!!!!
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hahahha....college roomate just sent me this....circa 1970.....see, I NEVER had big boobs......EVER!!!!!
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yay! More adorable babies, I just want to kiss their little faces!!!! Big congrats Cherrie!
Well guys, I negotiated 30 an hour, woohoo! Only ten hours a week to start but Im sure it will increase.
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Sweet, that is great! Sounds ideal for you.
Cherrie, you are so blessed! Adorable.
Nihahi, thanks for giving us your pool routine. It gave me ideas. I went to the Y early before my class today to watch the water exercise class. It didn't look great but the pool did. I may try the class and the pool. As for the LiveStrong group, we are still testing after two weeks so really haven't worked hard yet. Plus, they teach us about muscles, the machines, heart rates, and today was a lot on lymphedema because I gave the lead trainer a packet of info on it last week. LE is such a b!tch! I have to do things differently so I don't get sore because soreness causes more lymph to form. I don't know if anyone has heard of the Lebed method of clearing lymph fluid, but our trainer is good friends with Ms. Lebed and is going to ask her to come speak to us. I hope the non-LE folks aren't bored. Anyway, the trainer is going to make individual workouts for the class members so we can come to the Y and workout on our own. She said she was going to make a yoga/Pilates thing for me with the modifications I need. I told her I want to be strong and hike this summer. I have met some really nice ladies in the class.
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sweet...that's wonderful!!!! I'm so happy for you, and I think starting at 10 hours a week is perfect.
jeannie...I think your lympha info will help many people, I wouldn't worry one moment if anyone gets "bored" by the info. Question for you.....would exercising (moderately, of course), in water be a better fit for lymphadema??? I'm wondering if being submerged in the water, would give your arms some slight "external compression"??? Again, just a thought.
Sorry for the deleted messages...I was trying to post a photo my college roommate just sent me this afternoon...circa 1970....who IS that child????
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Cherrie, your babies are beautiful. So sweet. My dh's aunt has a new grandson and a 3year old grand daughter. They are visiting the new family in Colorado and she is sending lots of pics and updates....I love babies and kids sooooo much.
Sbel, thing 2 walked at 10 months, too....so funny to see them walking when they are so itty bitty still.
200 days!!!!! So excited. I haven't booked a flight yet.....still running about $400 and I'd like it down a bit lower.
Nihahi- beautiful then and now
Sweet! Congratulations on your job! Sounds great
Sbel you're too funny.
Me ma and me da are doing well in Germany. Me da stood on Friday for quite a while. Mom said he practiced taking it off and on a lot over the weekend. He started pt today. I have read that the pt program after is quite intense. I imagine he's tired. We received several pictures of him at therapy Friday and it's so nice to "see" him. He wants us to find someone who will tell his story. He is hell bent on advocating for this procedure for amputees in the States.
Love to all! Super busy with environmental reporting this time of year so I'm having a hard time keeping up......come March 15 I'll be homefree!
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I wish I could swim! Don't want to push the incision healing.
Congrats Cherie! So cute!
Good luck Sweet! Sounds like a great job!
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Thanks! They are my heart. Carter will be 2 weeks old tomorrow. He was 4 weeks early so we had to leave Florida to come help my daughter in Virginia. We are going back in a couple of weeks for one week and will bring Elly Mae. Then back to VA and finally my son comes in for a quick visit.
You can see why I don't have time to post much.
Thinking of you all every day!
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Cherrie, your grand children are BEAUtiful. Grand children are the best thing ever!
Sweet, it sounds like you did a good job negotiating. Telecommuting is grand. Don't let the 10 hours turn into 20 hours working with 10 hours pay. It can be easy to just keep on working when you are already at home.
Bailey, so good to hear your parents are doing well. Hopefully your dad will find someone good to share his story.
Movie, I'm so excited about things like chocolate covered potato chips. I hope there are some gentle walks. I also hope I'm not the only not-so-fit person in the group.
Great picture, Nihahi!
Good night, ladies. ...Julie
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Sounds like I have some reading to do (Outlander). Despite the name Sheila Bailey, I am not 100% Irish.....French Canadian, German, Irish and English.....the story is that the Irish branch of me ma's family was sent to America.....exiled....for being sheep thieves. Watch the livestock.
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Bluebird... by now you may have made a tax decision, as your post was way back there... But we use Turbo Tax and have for many years. I think its a great program. I do think that the federal medical deduction is now 10%, but in NJ you should be able to benefit.
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Julie, great avatar! Don't worry about your "fitness." I don't think that's what this get-together is about. I will be happy to take a walk with you.
Bailey, it's always good to hear from you. Your dad has come so far already. Maybe some press somewhere would be interested in his story, local or NY Times! With all our wounded vets and bombing victims, there is bound to be interest. How about a Boston paper? What exactly is your job??
Nihahi, nice pic! Pretty then, pretty now. I just read recently that scuba diving is great for LE because of the water pressure. I have never been interested but hearing that and seeing my nephew's pics of him on the ocean floor in Fiji (he's in the Peace Corps) has certainly piqued my interest. The concern about swimming, especially the butterfly stroke that I don't do (!), is the arms coming out of the water and the repetition involved. The crawl or backstroke would be more risky. I enjoy the backstroke. My LE therapist has always said to try things slowly, see what happens to the arms and adjust accordingly. I forget that sometimes. I am very compliant because my LE is under control and I want it to stay that way. The two women in our group who say they have LE don't wear compression when exercising which, from what I know, is very risky. Of course, no compression in the pool! There is a lot to do at the Y but things are heating up with Master Gardener stuff, food bank (I've been asked to be on the board) and some other commitments I have, as well as the never-ending medical appts. I am going to squeeze it all in, though! I can't find my favorite, tattooed compression sleeves. Why am I always misplacing things??? At a cost of $300, can't really replace them right now but I have lots of others.
DH has an impt.job interview on the phone tomorrow with one company and an in-person, all-morning interview with another company on Wednesday. Prayers and good thoughts appreciated!
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jeannie....positive thoughts for hubby!!!! The reason he is still interviewing is because the RIGHT position is still waiting for him....fingers crossed one of the next few will be THE one!
I wouldn't recommend scuba diving with your eye problems....I doubt if you would get medical clearance to even try. I get how all the full arm rotation strokes wouldn't be a good match for you. The deep water running type of movement, would be just like what you do on the elliptical, with your arms underwater the whole time. Maybe the lympha resource person coming to your class would be a good person to talk to about it. If not, I'll do some laps for you next time!!! I'm drooling with your comments about the gardening..we don't even set out bedding plants here until the end of May!!
Hope you find those sleeves.....
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Nihahi, can you explain about the eye/scuba connection?
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Jeannie, I would guess it is about the pressure underwater. I have my fingers crossed for your hubby. It is such a good sign that he has interviews. Thinking of you.
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yep, jeannie....I was thinking about the pressure changes and your eye issue. But....I'm not trying to pass myself off as a scuba/lympha expert, so I'm sure there are better sources of info for you. Did your sleeves turn up?? Finger crossed for hubby!
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I declare nihahi wins Jamie just for being brave enough to post a photo of herself from the 70s. There are just some time periods I would NOT want to travel back to! Disco roller skating anyone? I will even give you my "firefly" lights for the bottom of your skates.
Thanks Betsy! Still haven't started taxes yet!
Now I know where my pygmy goat's went! Bailey stole them!
Jeannie, Good luck to your husband!
Julie, if I were going I'd be happy to sit on that deck and watch the river all day with you.
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Yep, no scuba diving for me. Snorkeling should be okay, though! Someday....
Thanks for thoughts about DH. He is so great, always optimistic and cheerful. We never count on a new job actually happening until he is sitting at a desk. They have been yanked at the last minute in the past. Thankful he has good interviews ahead of him.
I get frightened when I look at pics of myself from the 70s-80s. For some reason, I thought my hair looked good in a tight round perm. There could've been animals living in my hair, there was so much of it!
Bluebird, how are you feeling these days?
Holy cow! The sun is shining, if only briefly! Hallelujah.
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Ladies, looking for some advice please. I went the route of tissue expanders/silicone implants after by BMX in 2012. Unfortunately, in November, my right breast incision opened on it's own and I had to have surgery to remove the implant. Radiation caused too much damage; not enough blood supply, etc. so after dissolvable stiches were gone there was nothing to hold it closed. What followed were two more surgeries due to a wicked infection. Finally had 21 days of daily IV antibiotics to clear it up. Needless to say, it's been quite disappointing. I now have to wait six months before considering any further reconstruction and my only options are flap surgeries (either DIEP or TRAM). I'm terrified of those as it seems the recovery is so long and surgery painful. Plus, I have to admit I'm so sick of surgery at this point I'm not sure what to do. On the other hand I'm not liking wearing a prosthesis and tend to wear nothing, just bulky sweaters and scarves. I can get away with this as it's winter, but I'm sure once warmer weather comes I'll be wanting to get something to match my other implant. Would love to hear from others on your thoughts. Thanks so much.
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Jeannie, I'm praying for the interviews to go well. God knows the right job. Hind sight shows me that. Walks are good. I'm not a hiker.
I'm anxious to see all of you that are in for September. Liefie, if you need someone to stir the pot or keep an eye on what's cooking I won't be far from the house.
Blue, come sit by me.
Maine, most of us have had flap reconstruction and would do it again. You can probably have DIEP and leave the muscle in place. I would do it again in a heart beat.
Later!
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Mainegirl, I'm sorry you have had such a rough time so far. While I can't predict how a flap surgery would work for you, I found it to be a lot less painful and easier to recover from than I imagined. It is a long process with multiple procedures so patience is the most important thing.
Julie, thanks! DH's interview today couldn't have gone better. He interviewed with the CEO on the phone and she wants him to talk to the COO next. If that goes well, he will go in and talk to them in person. Tomorrow he has in-person interviews with several people at another company. He is usually at the director level so it requires him to jump through lots of hoops.
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Mainegirl, I am so sorry you are having to endure such complications. My advice would be to let your body heal. You have time to decide how you feel later. I had immediate DIEP reconstruction after my BMX but would not do so again in hindsight. I did not have a good outcome and lost one of my flaps a month after a 12 hour surgery. I have a 25 inch incision on my stomach which I would gladly trade back my tummy fat for being able to feel again. It's the main reason I did not want to do an SGAP or TUG flap to replace my lost flap at this point in my life. I'm in the expansion process now to give me time to decide what I want to do and frankly another flap is not appealing at all. But my heart breaks for you since you are having to start all over like I did. But you will get there in time and you will know what the right decision is for you when your body is ready to try again. And if you decide not to put your body through more surgery, that's okay too. I didn't mind being flat. It was being one sided that bothered me most. In fact I almost decided to just have my flap taken off. Only you can decide what you are comfortable with. Hugs to you. You will get through this. It's just so unfair, but this too shall pass. Message me if you need to talk to someone who has been through this unique kind of loss.
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You may want to get some knitted knockers instead of a prosthesis. I hate my heavy silicone prosthesis!
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Cherrie, your grandchildren are adorable. So happy you are getting some time with them.
Sweet, congrats on negotiating a good deal! Sounds perfect.
Jeannie, I have my fingers crossed for hubby's interviews.
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Jeannie- fingers, toes, and eyes crossed for your hubby! Good things have to coming your way soon!
Julie- Thanks, I hear ya, it is easy to get caught up in a project and lose track of time. Im keeping a voice recorded log of my time. I do think it will be more hours based on the scope of what they want though.
Mainegirl- I would do my diep again, I am very happy with my results now. The pain meds helped a lot and most people bounce back pretty quick.
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Mainegirl, my options were pretty narrow as far as recon. My RO was adamant about expanders--he wanted none in the way of my rads. So I had a umx, scraped down to flat skin, since there had been some BC cells in the skin of the breast. Then rads, which were aggressive, and left me burned, with thin, tight skin. I had no choice but to wait the six months for things to settle down!
After a year of being lopsided and dealing with a prosthetic, I had my DIEP. Yes, it's a long surgery, and the recovery took longer than my umx, but I would do it again in a heartbeat. I like the feeling that I have two "breasts" again, and don't have to deal with prosthetics. And even though they're stitched together and will never look like the breasts God gave me, they are soft, warm, and feel like breasts. For me, it was an added bonus that my tummy bulge, leftover from carrying a twin pregnancy to term, was gone. And my PS removed quite a lot of rads-damaged tissue during the DIEP, so that was nice, as well.
That being said...we're all different, and have different opinions and approaches to this. Blessings as you figure out your own path!
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You're all so nice to share your comments. Thanks so much. Bluebird, I love the 'knitted knockers'!!
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Hi everyone.....just returned from PS office.....last night I had some rather suspicious "grouty"-looking junk oozing out of my belly button....no pain, tenderness, or redness....but it smelled funky, and so I called him at 10 pm. He thinks it "was" a small seroma of the remnants of the liquified fat from lipo.....so now I get to "shower the interior belly button for several weeks with a hydrogen peroxide/water mixture......Yay. Fun. Times...........
Okay...the only reason I even mentioned it here, is to segue into my intro.....Would any of you September Rendezvous ladies want to have a Q &A while here with my PS? NOT because he is the greatest(Well, I think he's great, but you know what I mean-he's a warm body, and he's knowledgeable)....but because if there are post DIEP questions you have....he has said he would LOVE to meet you all, and have an informal "session". We may have to feed him dinner(otherwise....it's completely free).....He said he would drive up to Mt. Hood....Just an idea....we'll have Friday night, Saturday night, and Sunday night....and it might be kind of fun....
jlBloom (AND everyone else).....no worries on the hiking.....I AM thinking of doing one easy hike - not much elevation gain....(I think 200 ft) but almost 7 miles. I really think any of you gals could do it....my 3 and 5yr. grandsons walked it. You can look it up: "Ramona Falls" it is a beautiful hike to take your lunch, and then eat it at the falls.......We can take as long as we want..... There is the Salmon river trail, which is easy, and then for those who want more adventure, I was thinking of taking them up on the Timberline Trail-part of the PCT (Actually, part of the Ramona Falls hike is also on the PCT) out towards Paradise Park.......Gorgeous! It is possible that the Lupine will still be blooming......smells wonderful!
Cherrie.....your GKs are adorable! No wonder you are gone from home so much! I might be too!
Maine-I personally would do DIEP again in a heartbeat......but each of us has their own story, and their own path.....when the time comes, you will know what to do. I will just say, in terms of time commitment, once the DIEP is done.....you are DONE.....no exchanging out implants every ten years or so.....THAT was the clincher for me! Best wishes on your decision-making process.
Sweet-glad everything is working out for you on the job front! Isn't that a wonderful feeling?
Jeannie, SO keeping my fingers, toes, and everything else crossed for your DH........
Sbe......are the trails too muddy to ride on, still? Or do you like the feeling of a wet mud stripe up the middle of your back?
Bailey.....so very happy your Dad is doing well! Such a relief for you! Keeping them in my prayers.....
Liefie......how is that precious new life you have been enjoying this past week? I got your email...no worries!
Nihahi.....are you frozen solid.....yet? XO
Blue...the door is open for you......LOVE to have you join us!
I am sure I have missed lots of you....apologies.....
Love to ALL!
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Deb- dang, so sorry that you lost your job! Hoping something else comes up for you soon
Movie- You must be totally over all the gunky stuff! Hope it heals up quickly for you. It is really nice to feel a part of again. I sent all my agents an email letting them know and what an outpouring of welcome backs I got. It was pretty cool.
I still have one side swollen from the side of my right foob, around to my back. Its weird, if you look atme from behind one side is bigger than the other. Hoping it shrinks away in time, not sure how they would fix that. Doesn't hurt which Im grateful for.
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Sweet, I hate to bring this up, but could you have LE? It can occur in your breasts, torso, etc. hope not!
Deb, NO! I am so sorry. I know you will get through this challenge, too, and we are here to cheer you on.
Movie, that sucks! It is no fun putting ointment, etc. on all the time and IMHO you have had enough! I could only stand to bandage my nips for three weeks. So tired of feeling like a "patient." You have my sympathies! I don't know how I feel about your doc talking to us. It's very generous of him! I have a feeling I will be wanting to "move on..." but I will go with the flow.
DH's interviews went well yesterday and today. He is pretty far along in the process with both but there are other candidates so we wait and see. He is encouraged which is always good.
I am in far worse shape than I thought! LiveStrong is kicking my butt! I am not sore, at least, just tired. The trainer keeps talking about LE which most participants don't have so that makes me uncomfortable. Evidently Shari Lebed of the Lebed Method exercises is a good friend of hers and a member of the Y and she is going to speak and lead a class. I will keep at it.
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hang in there jeannie.....it's a good thing you're doing. I still have everything crossed for hubby.
movie....ENOUGH with the healing issues girl.....good lord...THIS far out from surgery???? Hope you heal fast and completely.
I confess, I'm with jeannie on the mindset for Sept. I view the gathering as a chance to "bond in person" with each other, connected by what we've gone through, but not defined by it. Though I've no doubts there will be "flap talk", I'm not sure on what I personally would gain from discussing my scenario or my PS's work with another surgeon, as I'm not into the comparison thing. It's not like I'm going to go back in time, and have things "re-done" differently. It IS, though, a generous offer by your PS, and speaks to the kind of physician he is, and I bet after spending time with us, he would leave a more informed surgeon/physician, and that would be the true benefit....it would be OUR answers to HIS questions. I will defer to the majority opinion.
maine....have you visited the Diep threads??? I'm sure you would be warmly welcomed and supported there, too. Many of us still also visit those threads to offer our surgical experiences and support to women just having or considering their own flap procedures.
Cabin fever abated today!!! The warmer temps have reached the mountains!!!!! It dumped snow on us the whole day, but it was just heavenly being back on the ski trails. Nothing but fun and smiles and gorgeous scenery. We are going back again on Friday!!!!!
This is what 13 days until Spring looks like in the Canadian Rockies.
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Having just moved from the appalachian mountains Nihahi I have to say..... those are some mountains!!!!! Beautiful and so glad you were able to get out for a bit.
Jeannie- I though about that but I saw an LE doc a few months ago and they didnt say anything. I am going to keep an eye on it and bring it up to my pcp if it doesn't abate.
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with my children living coast to coast I am definitely on the move a lot. Thank goodness I am retired. The downside is, that at times, I feel "lost". Home isn't the same without my children/ grandchildren far away. I am feeling disconnected as I flit from VA, WA, FL and MI. I've come to the realization that I forgot about the me in me. I don't know myself as well as I thought. I am sure none of this makes sense. Although you don't even realize it, I draw from the strength that so many of you have. Nihahi (independent), Katy ( faith), Movie (generous), Bailey (thoughtful), Jeannie (perseverance), Zenful (grounded), Sweet (loving), etc. I know I have missed many, but wanted to let you all know you mean a lot to me and I think of you daily.
I know this was an odd post, as there is so much to be happy about. I was feeling 'lonely' so thanks for listening my friends. This isn't something I often do.
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Cherrie, we are here for you whenever you’re feeling lost, lonely, or directionless. It seems like you’ve been on the road a lot, and throw in the big old speed bump of BC treatment, and it’s no wonder you’re spinning a bit. You’ll figure it out…but in the meantime, pop into our support group anytime.
Movie…LOL…I would LOVE to invite your PS as our “guest speaker! I have a mental image of your learned physician surrounded by an audience of topless ladies. What a great idea, to invite him to come—I’m sure we’ll pick his brain so thoroughly he’ll think he left it behind at Mt. Hood.
Nihahi, I love, love, love your photos. I know you’re sick of winter, but for me, the beautiful stillness and purity of the mountains in the snow is breathtaking. We rode a trail on Tuesday evening, and there were a few puddles we had to duck—not easy in the dark, with just our lights!—but there were lots of hoppy toads and our favorite “squatty birds.” The birds, specifically, are “Common Poorwills,” and they’re adorable little guys that squat on the dark trail until they’re right under your nose, and then flap up in your face, scaring the pants off you. Good times.
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Oh, hey, Movie...be careful with that belly button; if you dig too deep all your innards will come slithering out. Keep a big mixing bowl handy. I'm a nurse and I know these things.
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cherrie- I felt like that coming out of BC, I spent so much time being a wife, mother and worker that I had no clue who I was. I totally get what you are saying. I wish I could reach through the internets and give you a hug!
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too late, Sbe......I had all kinds of things "slithering out" as you so graphically put it!
I thought it would be kind of fun to have him come....NOT to talk the technicals of DIEP....but to bend his ear about what we have all experienced.....at least HIS future patients might benefit (which is what I think he is thinking...where do you find a group of 10 women who have had 10 different experiences....?) Don't think he wants to see ANY of us topless! He is genuinely interested in how 10 women from all over came to be friends...when DIEP is the only common denominator. He told me yesterday that he does what he does b/c he loves seeing women's lives being transformed from living with cancer, to moving beyond it. Said he definitely isn't in it for the $$$-the insurance companies don't BEGIN to cover the actual cost/value....He's an interesting guy. I saw one of his patients results on a DIEP FB page.....incredible.....MINE don't look that good, but she's younger, and had nipple-sparing. However, it made me very happy to say he was MY surgeon, as well. ANNNNNNNNNND....I am very happy!
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cherrie......big hugs for you.....I hope you find some peace and contentment in "finding and grounding yourself in new ways". Any transition time of life can be hard, and as already been said...you've had a lot of "unwanted" changes .....bc, kids moving away, etc. I think we ALL see the strength in others, and rarely see that same strength in ourselves. You have what it takes in spades, girl, and until you "feel that" in yourself....HUGS!
sbe....I'm not sick of winter....I love days like yesterday and am looking forward to tomorrow. I DO hate it when it is brutally cold though, so I can't go out and play.
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This is for all of you still buried under snow......Pussy Willows!
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thanks movie....spring is coming....!
Anyone else planning on watching the Paralympics? I am in awe of what these athletes accomplish. Brings a whole new level of respect for the human spirit and determination to rise above!
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Pussy willows! I love them, and they don't grow in So Cal. Thanks for sharing!
Nihahi, I'm glad you can revel in the snow, and aren't discouraged by the lengthy winters you have up there. You must enjoy it when the temperature rises above the nose-pinching range and the skis beckon you. Do you always ski with a friend, or do you venture out alone sometimes?
Movie, your PS must be a true mensch. He wants to learn from our experiences, to enhance his understanding of what a life-changing procedure he performs for women. Can't wait to meet him.
I haven't ever watched the Paralympics, but I believe I will now. Truly the athletes are overcomers in every sense of the word.
Blue skies, everyone!
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woohoo.......getting ready for another play day!
sbe...ALWAYS with someone, when playing in the mountains. Skiing, shoeing, hiking, riding....You just never know what could happen on the trails. We are always amazed when we see people heading out on their own, often looking very unprepared for the trail, and later in the day. We've come across a few people over the years that were on their own and needed some help, even had one of us "go down" a couple times, once hiking, once skiing. It is tempting sometimes, when no one else is available...but.....never gonna do it.
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Hi girls, have read all posts, but can't respond now. Too busy being an Oma, and loving every minute. Going home on Sunday, will have more time then. Don 't know how I have to say good bye to little Em. She is a model baby so far, and only cries when she's hungry. Also hates to be bathed at this stage. I'm in love with the little body, silken hair and skin, tiny hands and feet. . . Okay, I've bored you enough. See you later! Jeannie, hoping/praying for that job.
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Oma! Love the handle, Liefie! When Aubs was born our son, who is ridiculously funny, said our grandma/grandpa names were Ling-Ling and Yip-Yip. ...snort...
Yes, what is it about grandbabes? I'm not a "baby" person--never have been--but when Aubrey popped out of her momma and sang her adorable little newborn song, it was like a light from heaven beamed down on me and an angel chorus shouted. She will always be my beautiful baby girl. I'm so sorry you have to journey back home and leave your little grand behind! Another trip, hopefully very soon!
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Love the pussywillows! Tried to plant some pink ones here last year but they didn't take. One of my favorite bushes! Brought some forsythia in to watch the yellow buds pop out. That'll have to do for now.
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Sbe, I've also always been more of a bigger-child person myself, that's why I taught High School, and not Kindergarten. But this is something else, a little slice of heaven, a joy, a privilege and a blessing that you cannot describe. I'm watching her while DD is taking a nap. She's napping too while I'm cooking supper. Every few minutes I go over to her, and just look at her while she sleeps. So precious.
All the best to all of you!
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Love the grandma vibes, liefie! I'm sure you'll be making many trips to Edmonton.
Nothing cute and cuddley from today's ski.....unless you're a momma moose!
avalanche across the valley
view from our lunch spot
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Nihahi, these pictures are stunning.
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Hope you come up this way for a visit someday, Cherrie....I'll happily be your tour guide!
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Wow, what beauty, Nihahi.
Liefie, grandbabies are so precious! I remember seeing mine being born eight whole years ago. She and mama are coming for a visit next month! I hope you get to see yours a lot!
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Hey, forgot to say that DH got called back already for one of the two companies he interviewed with! Thanks for keeping up the prayers/vibes.
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jeannie....that's WONDERFUL news re:hubby!!!!! So what's next for him???? Keeping everything crossed for you!!!!!!
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Nihahi, more interviews! Hopefully the last. They told him they were interviewing other candidates but then called him the next day to come back in. Who knows. It's a step in the right direction.
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Certainly sounds hopeful....and there is nothing wrong with hope!!!!!!
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Jeannie, what great news. It does mean a lot to get this far in the process. My fingers are crossed too!!
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Jeannie, what thrilling news. You'll be in our prayers.
Nihahi, I don't even know how to express my wonder at your photos. "Beautiful" isn't enough. The breathtaking moose, bowing to eat, the little bird asking for crumbs, the avalance in the actual act of 'lanching...wow. Just wow.
Liefie, I did that too. I couldn't take my eyes off her while she was sleeping (or any other time!). Hey, have you bought Emily Anne a toy called "Sophie"? Apparently it's the thing. I was wandering around Toys-R-Us when Aubrey was tiny, looking for something that she could hold and rattle, and another grandma took me by the hand and lead me to the Sophie display. It's a ridiculous giraffe, all legs and neck and nobby head, that is very easy for a baby to hold and chew. Amazon has them, too.
Happy Saturday, everyone! Time to climb on and ride away!
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Hey, friends, so much to catch up on, I had to get my bluetooth keyboard out so I can type more, faster!
Cherrie, my MI friend, thank you for sharing your heart with us and your thoughts. We are all here for you. I've had times in my life when I felt similiar - like I was lost. Like I put myself last. I understand. I'm going through a kind of reset right now - as I think about the few short years I have left with thing1 and thing 2 in the house on a regular basis and "what's next" and this ever growing feeling of needing to "give back" for all of the wonderful care I have received throughout my cancer journey. I have some things in mind, but they haven't gone past my mind, so far, so I won't share here (I suppose DH should be the first to know if Im thinking major career change, etc). You will find your way, no doubt.
Nihahi - your pictures are so lovely, so peaceful and striking. Love, love, love.
I am fine if your PS would like to be taken to school by this group, Movie
Sbel and Janet - you're both such fine writers and have such a great senses of humor - your posts always bring a smile to my face. I've never heard your voices but I hear them in your writing all the time.
Jeannie - crossing everything I can cross and saying employment prayers.
Good gravy I've likely missed someone.....oh, Sweet, missed our dear Sweet....and Liefie and the new baby......love to all!
I am working on grocery list, laundry today - tomorrow will start planning the Eagle Scout ceremony and party for Thing 1 next month......oh, and Thing 2 has confirmation next week.....suppose I should make sure he has presentable clothing....
I cannot wait for September and several days of friendship and fellowship.....and no laundry!!!!
Oh, Dad and Mom. Thanks you for all your prayers. He took five steps on Tuesday and was able to put 45 lbs of pressure on the left stump (fractured side) yesterday. I didn't think he'd be able to bear any weight on the left until after they returned home, but the fracture must've healed enough to start weight bearing. It's VERY GOOD NEWS.
No luck finding anybody to tell his story yet, but I have feelers out there.
Enjoy the day!
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Hey, Bailey, good to hear from you!
Nihahi, there is a thread called "Retreat for Peaceful Contemplation" where only peaceful photos are posted. Yours would be perfect.
I am feeling overwhelmed and teary today. Sometimes the things going on in my body are just too much.
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Oh Jeannie - I'm so sorry your body is letting you down, but your smile and your spirit are so alive and perfect.
Tomorrow will be better. But for now I hope you have a warm blanket, a box of kleenex and kind people nearby.
Janet
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hugs, jeannie....I'm so, so sorry to hear of your sad day. I hope you find some "release" in letting some tears out, and spend time today doing things that bring you peace and comfort. You DO have the strength and ability to get through today, and find a better "tomorrow".
I've viewed that thread and the photos there. I don't take any credit for my photos.....I just click the camera. I just am so thankful to be living in such a beautiful, interesting world, and love to share that with others.
I've been watching some of the paralympic events, and I have a renewed faith in our human ability to "rise above" what life throws at us and our bodies, health and minds. One of the athletes who won a medal in the "sitting downhill", achieved that remarkable feat today, which is the 10 year anniversary of the day he had a horrific skiing accident which made him a paraplegic. He views today as a major accomplishment, not a day of mourning and sadness. Makes me rethink my own mindset on certain bc related dates. How much more significant a day it would be, if I make it a day of celebrating an accomplishment of "today", as opposed to reliving a difficult part of my past. TAKE THAT BC.....!!!!!!!!
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Your thoughts made me think of this, Nihahi.....here's to a change in point of view!
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bailey......
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Nihahi, beautiful pictures. Nature gives me sucha peaceful feeling. Thanks for sharing your amazing journeys.
Jeannie, my fingers are crossed for your hubby, and you are still in my prayers. Hope tomorrow is a better day.
Bailey, that's wonderful news about your father. Sending positive thoughts that you find someone to tell his inspirational story.
Hugs to all!
Nihahi
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Jeannie.....I am sorry you are feeling...."off". I am sending you a great big Movie (((hug)))....and I hope that today has been kinder to you....Keeping you and DH in my prayers......
Love to All of you, my dear flapper sisters!
XO
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And I'm back.
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I love it, Jeannie! Warrior on!
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atta girl, jeannie.......can you hear us cheering?!!!!!
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Love you, Jeannie!
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Way to go Jeannie! DH is so excited for your hubby, and sends his regards.
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Hugs Jeannie!!
Hi Bailey, good luck with the eagle scout event and I bet you are so proud!
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I know Amy Robach cut her hair short before she started chemo in December, but why hasn't she lost her hair? It doesn't look like she is wearing a wig.
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Sharon, maybe she's doing the cold cap thing. There's a woman in my Wednesday pilates class who has shoulder-length curls, and is almost finished with her chemo. She said she hired a cold cap tech to take care of running around and swapping out the caps during chemo. It's mondo expensive, but I guess if you have the $$ and really don't want to experience being exotically bald, it might be worth it.
For me, I'd rather have the knowledge that the chemo penetrated every darn cell in my carcass, inclucing my scalp.
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I agree to let chemo have a chance to get every cancer cell! I just wonder why she is being silent about keeping her hair. Wish I knew.
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The bad part about turning the clocks ahead......it's back to getting up in the dark again.........
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Thanks, Sweet, we are thrilled with our first Eagle Scout. He started scouts at 6 and a few months into it I was explaining the ranks of Cub Scouts and Boy Scouts to him and explained Eagle as being Scounting's highest honor. He said, most assuredly, "That's what I'm going to be, Mom." And here we are. Makes me weepy, but in a good way.
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Bailey-My guys gave up on scouting when we moved to the mountains because they were the oldest in their troop. I was hoping they would go all the way but it was fun while it lasted. I loved the pinewood derby!
I wonder is its the chemo she is on. My little sis hasnt lost her hair. She is in a trial chemo at Dana Farber, I think she is on cisplatin. she will do AC after surgery. I was surprised she hadnt lost her hair yet.
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I had six months of CMF chemo and didn't lose my head hair, just hair everywhere else. My MO gave me the option of taking the C pill every day and infusions of MF once a week. So more frequent but lighter doses, for a longer amount of time. Considering all factors, she felt it was appropriate for me. Maybe Amy R had something like that?
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Prayers needed please. I'm in hospital waiting for a time for surgery to remove a mass in my brain. All my path reports were good last year and just finished chemo in December.I don't understand this. They can't even do an mri because of this damn expander. Fuck!!!!
Fucking cancer
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I am so sorry you are going through this. May you find some strength in the positive energy coming from this thread. We are here for you. Please keep us posted.
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Hugs and prayers, Bluebird. We are all in your pockets.
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bluebird....WTHell???? I am stunned to hear this news! Prayers and EVERYTHING going out to you. I am so sorry you have another struggle in front of you.
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I'm climbing into your pocket as I type this, Blue....and you had better wear something with BIG pockets....we'll ALL be with you tomorrow......Please please please keep us posted...we love and care about you! ((((Hugs)))
Uckfay Ancercay..........
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Bluebird....I am so sorry. Damn. Arms around you. Stay with us, we got ya.
Love,
Bailey
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Bluebird, I'm at a complete loss for words. What? My thought and prayers are with you, and we are here for you, dear Bluebird!
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Ah, Bluebird...we're all there with you. Hang in there and let us know as soon as. Prayers.
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Bluebird, I am sooooooooooooooo sorry to hear of your new battle. I will say an extra prayer tonight. We will all be with you tomorrow.
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Lots of prayers for you, Blue.....without ceasing.....you are on my mind.....hugs....
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Bluebird - so totally unfair for you to have to deal with this - sending lots of prayers and positive thoughts to you - Ridley
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Prayers, ((( (Blue)))), and good chi coming your way.
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You guys are awesome. Can hardly move with everyone jammed in my pocket. Headed into surgery soon. Hope so because pain is really bad and they can't give me anything since they need to check pupils and reflexes. Lost some vision on left side and stability. Damn this thing grew fast. Thought it was a sinus problem a week ago. Headache, post nasal drip. I'll try to keep you posted as best I can. Good ch,i thoughts and prayers so helpful. And lovely bluebird painting. Thanks for being the wind beneath my wings. Hope the wind is strong to lift my heavy pockets! Love you guys
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We gotcha, Blue. Hold on tight. Your friends and God are right by your side.
All our love!
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Bluebird, I'm alone in my office here and lifting you up in prayer. All of us have our arms around you this morning.
Lord, take care of our Bluebird...
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joining in with prayers, lifting arms and faith for you bluebird.......You are surrounded....we're not letting you take one breath of this "moment" on your own. Safe surgery......gentle healing.....we are here.
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Bluebird, sitting here this morning in prayer for you, as I was at bedtime last night. All thoughts, prayers, & hugs are with you today.
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Bluebird - I am joining the circle of faith, and jamming myself in your pocket. I'm sending you everything in me that is strong and good to help lift you. Everything.
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We all love you, Kristine.
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Blue, as with the rest, you are in my thoughts and prayers. My heart hurts for you. ...
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Jeannie, so happy to hear you are feeling up. Just waiting to hear that your DH received a job offer. Movie, I would welcome the chance to meet your PS. I would like for mine to see what we all talk about on here. Mamaw is the southern Indiana term for an OMA. Nothing compares. Cherries, I'm sorry your having to be so far from your grand babies. It's a great excuse to relocate. Love you all! .
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Blue-just barely got the opportunity to log on here this AM....you have been in my thoughts and prayers constantly......and I join with my sisters in lifting you up.......sending lots of love, and ((((hugs)))) to you. XO
We will ALL be waiting to hear from you.........
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Dearest Bluebird! I am praying hard for you! You are so special to us. We love you. Hugs.
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I hope you know how lifted up you are today, dear Blue.....from our lips to God's ears...we remain prayerful and watchful
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I am glad that somebody whispered in my ear what is going on with sweet Bluebird. I don't come in here since I have not moved on yet, but I wanted to send my prayers and
thoughts to Bluebird.Bluebird, you have been so strong, and positive through all of this cancer SHIT!!! Every time you got knocked down, you got back up. You are right, "cancer sucks." I am praying you find the strength to come back from this the same way you came back from all the other disappointments. Much love and prayers.
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thinking of you with thoughts and prayers until we hear from you.
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Dear Bluebird, hoping and praying all is well with you. Sending positive vibes for a good outcome, and for healing.
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I can't stand it. Let's call every hospital in New Jersey--there can't be THAT many--and ask if Bluebird is there, and how is she doing.
Blue, been praying all day, sister.
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Blue, I am praying hard for you with the rest of your loving sisters. Sending love and positive healing energy your way. ((Hugs))
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I've had tears ever since I read your post yesterday, Bluebird, because you have had more than your share of setbacks through this journey. I hurt for you on this new one, but am in constant prayer that our God has you in His hands & is watching over you while we are all in your pockets.
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Oh, Sbel, I had the exact same thought. We should've asked Blue to have someone post to us or text one of us.
Blue, thing 2 had confirmation tonight at the Cathedral of St. Andrew in Grand Rapids. Your name is in the rafters of that church and on the notes of the choir and in a few tears I shed while praying....it was a VERY long mass and I had lots of time to close my eyes and chat with a whole heavenly host of saints and angels and the Father, Son and Holy Spirit.
I hope you are resting comfortably tonight. I know I feel all of us together, warrior sisters, in our hearts praying for you....I hope you feel it, too.
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Back from a late meeting....looking for word of bluebird. So many beautiful thoughts and words.....I'm convinced our prayers are getting through to her. I'm going off the "grid" for a few days, as I'll be n the mountains with a friend. I'll be holding you all in my thoughts.
hugs....
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checking back in for word of Blue..........I can see I will just have to keep praying.......if only for her to feel the love all of her Warrior Sisters are surrounding her with.......XO
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Oh man bluebird, I am just logging in here to see that you have gone into surgery. I am sending lots of prayers and love your way and I am so sorry you are faced with this!
Ladies, may I suggest that if any of us go throug something similar, we send a private message to someone with our name and phone number?
Safe travels nihahi!
Bailey- So glad you did that for bluebird!
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Good morning, friends....was hoping for word of Blue.....reality is, I think, that it could be several days before we hear something from her. We will just keep praying and sending good vibes.
Love to all.
And I agree, Sweet, our friendships have grown so deep.....maybe we could have a couple of people with a phone list for just in case.
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Here is warrior Bluebird, kicking butt and taking names....
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Yay for the warrior bluebird! Wasn't that blue's atavar a while back?
Yes, it could be a spell before we hear from her. I'm praying she's comfortable and we're not making too much noise in her pocket.
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Heading out...sending hugs to all first.
I think the "contact list" is a wonderful idea. I volunteer to look after it. Send me pm's, and I'll get a list put together and email it out so we all have the same info.
I suggest real name, along with all or some of the following (whatever you want to share): phone contact number, real email address and real mailing address, and maybe the real name of a family member who may also answer the phone (like hubby's name). I was thinking of suggesting something like this at the September gathering. It is easy to have "someone" in the family designated to contact someone on "the list", then updates/reassurances/support, etc. can fan out. I suspect many of us will love to be staying in touch with each other long after the bc.org connection fades. You just never know what life is going to throw at you, or give you cause to celebrate, and sometimes you need more than an "online pocket party".
BEHAVE everyone......hugs to all.
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Sweet, what a fabulous idea! It sure is difficult not knowing how Bluebird is doing. I am sending my info to Nihahi. Thanks, Nihahi, for volunteering. Have a great time in the mountains. We know how much you love it there.
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Thanks, Nihahi, you're the best, as always! I hope you have a great trip. Sending my info.
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Thanks Nihahi for being the list keepr, sending my info.
I love that fierce looking bluebird Bailey!
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Thanks for that wonderful suggestion, Nihahi! Will do so. Bluebird is in my thoughts all the time. She's probably still sedated - this was brain surgery after all. Poor girl, she's gone through so much. Thanks for your wonderful post, Bailey! May those prayers rise and be heard together with all the others that are being prayed.
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I want to share this picture and backstory with you ladies. This is my sister and I many moons ago, she is now fighting the same BC. We both carry the brca 1 gene. What is crazy is that we did not meet until I was 31. I am adopted and I searched for my bio family. She and I are so alike its scary......lol! We are boston irish
I am in green.
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Sweet, what a lovely photo! You and your sister could be twins! I'm so happy you were able to find her and re-connect. How unfortunate you're both BRCA+. I hope you'll be holding hands when you're wrinkled up little old ladies, looking back on "when we had BC."
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Sweet - What a great photo - you are both such beautiful girls. I'm so glad you found each other, and I hope her treatment is calm and uneventful. I have full faith in the happy ending.
By the way - I'm sitting in my car in the middle of a blizzard - and your story was the perfect bright spot in the snowstorm. Sisters are the best. Mine is a year older, and is the person who I secretly consider to be my life partner.
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Sweet, what a wonderful photo and story! It made my heart lift a little from my concern for Blue. How blessed you are to have found each other. I have three brothers, no sisters. I'm glad I have all of you sisters!
Sending info, thanks Nihahi.
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Praying for Bluebird as hard as I can pray. Many, many thoughts of healing for her. Pockets in surgery sure do grow enormous! Hurry back to us Bluebird!! Hugs with love surrounding you!
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Sweet, beautiful photo! You two certainly have the famous Irish eyes. So pretty!
Jeannie, I'm praying for that job for DH.
Janet, yes, sisters are the best. I've just finished skyping with mine who lives in Namibia. As kids we could not stand each other, now we cherish every moment we can spend together.
Wondering how Bluebird is doing . . .
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Thanks everyone, I am so proud of her! She always makes me smile and I am so grateful to have her in my life.
I am thinking of bluebird too, hope all went ok with surgery. I hate cancer!
sbe- never thought I would say this but I too look forward to being a wrikled up old lady!
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Sweet, what a beautiful picture. How blessed you are to have found each other. I lost my sister to lymphoma six years ago, so like Jeannie, I also think of all of you as my sisters. So happy to have found you!
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BosumBlues, how is your job search coming along? DH received a "no" email today from one of his top prospects. You hate not knowing why, when the interview went so well...but his top prospect called 3 times today to set up more interviews tomorrow in addition to his Fri. appts. with them. His friends who work there say that's a very good sign. We've been through this so many times, we don't count on anything until he is sitting at a desk! Thanks for everybody's support, as always.
Zenful, I'm sorry about your sister. My best friend has a long-term but terminal form of lymphoma. You and I are sisters in heart, for sure.
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Blue....these are for you.......
Jeannie, I am sorry about the "NO"....don't these people realize what a gem Tom is?????? (Idiots!)
Sweet...you and your sister are adorable! Just sorry you are both traveling down the same road.....
Zen....I am sorry about you losing your sister......I know how that feels.....I lost my older sister to early -onset Alzheimers......
Hope we hear from Blue soon.......
XO
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Movie, the flowers for Blue are beautiful and make me feel that maybe there will be a spring. We just had another 9" of snow today. Enough, already!
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My sis and me--I'm the baby! Her BC was found 9 months after mine, and she just finished herceptin in December. I wish we'd shared some OTHER kind of experience, like having pedicures together, or the measles...just about anything besides BC...but we're both doing well.
Bluebird, looking forward to hearing from you. In the meantime, gentle rest and calm nurses...
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Thinking of our beautiful Bluebird!
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Thinking of Blue as I try to drift off to sleep...
Here is my sister and me....she's my baby by 5 years....love her soooomuch
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I love the sister pictures! Sbe, now I know where Aubrey gets her adorableness.
I am also keeping Bluebird in my prayers.
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sbe- so sorry you both had to fight this beast! You guys are so cute!!!!
bailey- you guys are gorgous!
zenful-so sorry for the loss of your sister (((hugs)))
deb- thanks, I hope something comes your way soon. Are you hanging in there? Any prospects. Sending lots of positive job hunting vibes your way!
jeannie- ack, so sorry he got a no, those guys will regret not hiring such an awesome guy! Hoping he gets a solid yes soon and you can rest easy.
movie- So pretty! I had to bring all my new plantings inside yesterday with the drop in temps. So glad I started out in containers!
blue- said a prayer for you this morning!
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Love the pics everyone! Beautiful sisters, beautiful flowers. Just checking for some news on our Bluebird. Contact list is a very good idea. Have a good day, friends!
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nihahi, I emailed you my contact information.
Kristine, strong chi coming from your hometown to NJ. Heal, my friend! Please let us know how you are doing when you can.
Love all the pics, everyone. I have four(4) sisters one in Dallas and three in Atlanta, and they took turn taking care of me post stage I surgery. I love them all. Love my flapper sisters too.
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My sister was 5 years younger than me. I lost her to a sudden illness 2 years ago. It was right after I had just finished mastectomy, chemo, & radiation. She was my only contact with my past & we shared everything. I broke out with shingles a month after she passed away. I miss her every day & have to stop myself when I think, "I need to ask/tell Judy about..." Still sad.
I have asked all my prayer warrior friends to pray for Bluebird, as I continue to do also.
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Your sisters are beautiful! Love love love! Thank you for your flowers, Movie. Extra hugs to those who have lost your sisters......and brothers....my baby brother passed when he was 7 and I was 10.
Thinking of Bluebird as she recovers and figures out what is next. We are here for you, sister Bluebird!
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Also checking in to see how Bluebird and everyone is doing. She has certainly been through a lot.
Jeannie, I just know something is coming your hubby's way. SOON.
My only sibling and sister is 3 years older. I was diagnosed with BC first. I am 11 years out and she is 6 years out. We are very different, but I love her to death.
Nihahi- sending info. We should have this for September too and then we can mass email.
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Jeannie57 I stole your baby bluebird pic.
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Tammy, sweet idea. I think we should all change our profile pic to the bluebird to show our solidarity in prayer for Bluebird. I'm changing mine now.
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I agree Sharon, but I don't know how to do this. HELP
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Great minds think alike, Sharon, Bailey, Tammy, Jeannie......and I am adding mine.
Bluebird...I am thinking about you 24/7....hoping for good things......hurry back to us-we miss you! XO
I may have a lead on the hospital, but don't know Kristine's last name.......Does anyone here have it?
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changed mine too, love you bluebird!
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Save the pic to your device with a right click or holding down in the pic until you get the save option. Different for different devices. Go to your BCO.org profile, click settings, go to your avatar setting, click on choose existing option, then pick our sweet bluebird.
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I am a sleuth. Kristine's last name is Gross. Believe it or not I saw that on the pic she shared of the medal her cousin sent her after he won a race. He addressed it to Krissy Gross. I have also found her husband through a search.
Stephen Gross
35 Norcross Rd
Berlin, NJ 08009 (856) 768-2811Movie, do you want to call him for us? Rather than all of us call. She is also on Facebook as Bluebird Acres. Let's all go ask her to be our friend!
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Thinking of you Bluebird!
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Sleuth Sharon also found Bluebird's work website. (My sister that passed away taught me my sleuthing skills. God I miss her so much!)
http://www.rowan.edu/colleges/ccca/departments/writingarts/contact.html
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I am calling you csi-Sharon from now on...
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I even went to Bluebird Acres on Facebook & tried to find out if any of her friends or family had posted updates on Kristine, but all had their posts hidden.
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Tammy, I had just thought of changing my avatar when I saw you had beat me to it. Great minds do think alike. CSI is fitting, ha! I also gave the avatar idea to another thread Bluebird is a member of. I have been in tears thinking of her.
I have a sorority sister that had breast cancer a few years ago & had a brain tumor removed last year. It was a different cancer from her breast cancer & not aggressive. They removed it & she is doing fine now. Praying it is the same for Bluebird. #Godwatchoverbluebird #thisisnotfair
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Okay....I put my big girl panties on a few moments ago, and dialed Bluebird's home #.....talked to her DH, and he told me that Blue had just come home.......the Dr. told him that they got ALL of the tumor, and DH says she is doing very well. He said that she would probably return(here) in the next day, or so. I told him that Blue had a whole bunch of women praying for her, and to tell her that we were thinking of her, and that we loved her.
I was very nervous to make that call, but I am SO glad I did! Hooray for Bluebird!
If any of you would like to send her an actual card, PM me or Sharon1942......
Love you ladies!
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Thanks for the update, movie! God is good!
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Thank you movie!
Heal, blue, heal.
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Movie - thanks for being brave.
Bluebird - wishing you a warm and cosy pain free rest in your own bed tonight. So glad surgery went well and you are home.
Ridley
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Ridley...Brave? or stupid? I'm not sure.....
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Oops- forgot to add...all of you copy Jeannie's avatar.....we're doing it for Blue......
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So happy to hear Bluebird is okay. Wonderful news - thanks Movie! Changing my avatar is too difficult for me . . . lol. Wish I was more savvy.
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Liefie...Sharon posted instructions.....not too difficult.....point on Jeannie's avatar...(right click) it should say save as....go to your pictures files.....it will say JPEG....hit save....then go into your BCO profile and say edit avatar......then you can pull up the picture you just saved...I am SO computer-illiterate..... I got it to work!
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Movie, my Apple Macbook does not have a mouse, so how to right click? See what I mean? Can't even carry out the first instruction. LOLOL.
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Liefie, can you just hold your finger on the pic unil you get a save image option?
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liefie, the easiest way is to pm movie you BCO password and she will do it for you :-)
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Liefie, Just drag the image from the browser window to the desktop. Then you have the image file on the desktop.
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Silly Liefie......
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Anyone else need help?
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Silly indeed. Thanks Movie - I owe you!
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No news from Bluebird? I will keep chevking
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movie- God bless you for being brave and calling to check on bluebird. I am so relieved that she is doing good!!!!
OK nobody from this thread is allowed to scare me like that again! I can't afford any more grey!
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Bluebird....you are loved by all the cyber crazies and loons!!! Rest well!Thanks for the update, Movie!
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Liefie - my mac book has a right click - it is the right side of the track pad. Works just the same as a mouse.
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Thinking of you, Bluebird, with loving thoughts and hope you are healing well.
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Gosh, I missed all the good news about Bluebird the last time I stopped in, weird. Okay, I am glad she will be okay. Movie, thank you!!!!
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Movie, thank you, thank you for finding out the good news about our Bluebird!
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God is good. I am so glad that Bluebird made it though surgery and that they got everything.
I have 5 sisters and one of them is currently fighting bc. She was first diagnosed 6 yrs ago before we lost our mother to bc. She was stag 4. new scans show new cells in stomach. She has been sick a lot in the last few months. She is finally well enough to start chemo again. Fortunately, she lives with another sister and I am less than an hour from them.
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Yippee, I learned how to do an avatar.
Liefie, you are not alone. It took me 3 tries to get it right.
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Bluebird, sending you all my love.
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Movie, thanks for the good news on our Bluebird! Praying and thinking of you, Blue! Love, Julie
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Movie - Thank you for making that call, and doing in spite of being nervous. And thank you for all your goodness.
Thank you all for all your goodness and love to Blue. (P.S. I'm working on changing my avatar)
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Bluebird, we are all cheering you on, and hoping you are continuing to do well. You rest, be very good to yourself, and heal up.
Thanks, Gwenny - you make me feel a little better - lol. So sorry to hear about your sis, and what she is going through. This disease . . . words fail me. Simply have to carry on, and set one foot in front of the other. That's all.
Marty, I've tried to right click, and play with it a little, but it makes no difference. My laptop is 6 years old, so maybe does not have that function? Thanks for trying to help - appreciated.
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Movie, again thanks for making the call to check on Bluebird. I'm sure we all slept much better last night! Bluebird, rest & recover! Know you are in our prayers as you heal. I'm wondering if you heard a bunch of little bluebirds flapping & hovering around you this week?
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Lol you made me think of Snow White and all the little bluebirds flitting about her.
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So I've been home sick as a dog (where did the expression come from) for three days. Trying to get in to the doctor. Severe headache off and on for five days and severe gastrointestinal issues.....some sort of damned virus. I seem to be in the virus of the month club these days. Work hates me......so sick of my absences.....do they understand that I hate it more than they do??? I am doing everything I can to stay healthy but seem to catch everything. SICK OF BEING SICK.
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Bluebird: Rest and heal fast. You are in my prayers.
Bailey: Get rid of that virus fast! I have several friends in the GR area who are having a hard time getting rid of it. They have said it just wipes them out and trying to stay hydrated is really hard and they have no energy to move. Just tell it to go away lol, and if it was only that simple! Kat
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(((((((((((((((BAILEY)))))))))))))) Hope you will get better soon! Yes, it sucks to be sick. Enough already!
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Bluebird, continuing to pray for your complete healing!
Bailey, we are flitting around you, too! Bibbidy-bobbidy-boo! Or was that Cinderella???
Gwenny and others with sisters fighting bc, I hate this disease.
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that's spot on, Kat, on the edge of dehydration all week!
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Movie -- definitely brave. You let us all breathe a collective sigh of relief with your update.
Bluebird -- hope you are resting comfortably -- count me in as a little bluebird sending postive vibes as well, despite my avatar -- that will take some time to figure out!
Bailey -- hope you are feeling better soon!
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Thanks for gathering up your brave self and making the call, Movie! I'm glad to hear Bluebird is recovering. It will be nice to see her posting again.
Bailey, feel better soon. Have you tried Manuka honey tea? Don't perseverate on the missed work. It will be there when you get back, and some things are simply unavoidable.
Don't you just love computers? Hahahaha....
It's a full moon tomorrow and supposed to be clear tonight, so midnight trail ride planned. Maybe it'll be warm enough that I can get a moon-tan. MAYBE the hubs will get lucky out there in the dirt. ...snort...
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You ladies are ALL silly! All I did was PICK UP THE PHONE! Sharon1942 deserves at least SOME of the credit....she's the one who found the pertinent information! (And just in case Blue isn't back on in a day or so, I mailed her a REAL card.....if any of you lovelies would like her street address.....PM me or Sharon!)
Okay.....off to walk my mother (really!) and THEN my two Labs...........
Love you all!
PS: Bailey.....I hope you have turned the corner on that s**t....it IS awful......
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My dearest family! I truly thought I was not getting another chance at this, seems i just can't do anything right, but God isn't ready for me yet and I distinctly heard the devil say, crap she's awake!
I looked in down in my pocket and saw this:
All my wonderful friends and bc sisters sticking tight to me ! You will never know how much it meant to me to know that you were all in my pocket. I just woke up today and felt brave enough to turn on my computer and imagine how happy I was to see all the bluebird avatars! You are an amazing strong group of women! Jackie,(movie?) thank you for calling my husband. I was pretty out of it and really appreciated hearing of my support network. Poor guy has been through so much. It was a big shock to all of us. Just had all clear scans so I could start reconstruction again back in January. I won't know much more until they get the tumor information but they are assuming its breast cancer to the brain that the chemo didn't get because of the blood brain barrier or they missed seeing it altogether. Damn it grew fast. God is truly amazing by putting the right people where I need them. I was rushed by ambulence to Jefferson in Philadelphia (#! in the country) and got the luck of the Irish #2 brain surgeon removing the tumor within 24 hours. I have some limited vision on my left that I am hoping will come back and some scary hallucinations coming from my left field, but these too shall pass. As I get stronger I'll try to check in more. Thank you, thank you, thank you to each and everyone of all my bluebird family!! Love you all!
And if I can get clearance for flight, I'm coming in September!!! Need to hug each and everyone one of you!
Kristine
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(((((Kristine))))). Soooooooo, good to hear from you! Rest and heal. Love you, Tammy
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Bluebird, you have just made my day! I'm looking forward to sitting with you in September. Bailey, I hope you are feeling better soon. Love you bluebirds.
PS. Blue the picture of us in your pocket is great!
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Oh, Bluebird, I am typing with tears of happiness rolling down my cheeks. It is so good to hear from you and to know you have received such good care. I love the picture, too. I am looking forward to giving you a big hug in September. But for now, (((hugs))).
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SItting in the docs office waiting to be seen for THE CRUD and I decided to catch up and now I'm sitting here crying and they are going to think I went right off the skids....(again).
Blue so HAPPY to here from you, honey. So so so happy. I am sure you and your family have been scared.....and still are, but hopefully less intense than the last week.
You are in my daily prayers and thoughts. So glad to hear that part of your goal is September. It'll be a September to Remember, no doubt about it!
Love to all. It's such a GOOD DAY....Bluebird flew home to roost
Hahaha ....one flew over the cuckoo's nest? Lol....I might be giddy.
Have a great day everyone.
Blue tell those hallucinations to eff off.
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Just read the news of bluebird........SUCH GREAT NEWS!!!! Now hoping for continued healing and recovery for you blue.......it would be so wonderful to have you join the group in September.
Thank you movie for making that phone call. I have the PM's from everyone....will get the list done up and sent out this weekend.
I'm a bit late to the party for changing my avatar to a bluebird....so have decided to change it, but to a "blue-ish" flower, which is a prairie crocus....the sign of spring out here....the sign of new life, new hope, new beginnings....from my heart to yours.....hugs.
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There are a lot of bluebirds tweeting songs of happiness this morning for Bluebird home in her cozy nest. We're all flying high over the good news! God is good!
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Wonderful happy news, Bluebird! Someone's watching over you, and we are here to support you. Will be soooo wonderful to meet you if you can make it in September. Take it easy, and get better soon.
Nihahi, I'm sending you my info right away. Hope you feel rested and refreshed?!
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hello ladies!
It's been months since I've been on and I am so glad I logged on today to read of Bluebird's victories! The support on this site is exactly why I got back on. Missed this.
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Bluebird, welcome back to the conversation! We're so pleased and relieved the surgery went well, and that conditions were perfect for you to get the care quickly that you needed.
Nihahi, hope your retreat was relaxing and fun.
Happy Saturday, everyone.
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Butterfleyez.....welcome back to the roost!
So glad to see you here!
Nihahi your crocus (croci??? Crocuses?? Crocus')....scratch that.....Nihahi your flowers are lovely
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Oh Blue! Just logged on and your post was the first I saw....sitting here with tears in my eyes trying to type....not easy for a goofy woman like me! When I spoke to your DH, and he told me how well everything had gone, I started to cry (which is why I was nervous to call in the first place!) I am SO happy you checked in.....and it's good for you to know that you have MANY women who love you, and are praying for you....now rest, and feel better. I really hope you can make the trip out in September......you will be surrounded by lots of Bluebird sisters! XO
Nihahi...I believe you have everything you need from me? How was your trip? Pictures?
Bailey....darn it, girl! Get rid of that crap! Seriously, I am sending you extra-special Movie (((hugs))).........
To everyone else, have wonderful days.....
Love you all!
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Bluebird, it is so, so, so good to hear from you! You will overcome! Huge bug bear {{{hugs}}}!
Bosum, I'd get scanned just to put my mind at rest. Worrying because you don't know is so draining and you don't need that. {{{hugs}}} for you too!
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Bluebird - I am still praying for you. Get well soon.
Bailey - Take care of yourself. Get some rest. Thing 1 and 2 can order pizza for a couple of days.
Thanks for the prayers and well wishes for my sister.
Hugs for all.
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bosom, if they are new and something you didn't feel last month, I would get it checked out. Better to be wrong than to ignore it. Please get it checked out.
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bosumblues....please get it checked honey. Love you! Hugs!
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bluebird- Sooooooooo happy to hear from you and you are one amazingly strong woman! Rest easy my friend.
bailey- I hope you kick this crud in the behind soon!
Nihahi- how was the trip? DD and I just got home from camping with the girlscouts. Hope you had a nice time.
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Bosum....find a way to get that checked out! You have enough stress right now without adding this to the mix.......sending you (((hugs))).......
Bailey?????? What happened today at Dr's.....? (Or was that yesterday?????-sheesh!)
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Yes, Bosum, get your lumps checked out someway, somehow.
Hoping you are feeling better, Bailey.
This has been a stressful week for all of us, but it had a happy ending. Breathe....
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Bad case of gastroenteritis...no worries, thank you for the concern. I was getting worried about dehydration, but doing fine. Love to all and to all goodnight!
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Hope tomorrow is a better day for you bailey.....sending hugs. Have you decided how you are going to re-decorate your bathroom, with all the extra "loo" time???
Mountain getaway was great. Spring is definitely coming to the rockies, and the snow is getting "sticky", but, we had a wonderful time and managed over 30 km combined skiing and snowshoeing, over 3 days. The "Alberta blue skies" for the first two days, kept bluebird in my thoughts.
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hahaha Nihahi, actually like the loo as is.... It's the kitchen that's next up on the docket. Ugh. Nobody enjoys kitchen recon....until it's done, of course!
My thoughts today are of a spring that might just come......someday....
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Bailey, what a lovely photo! Tulips popping through the snow, a promise of spring.
I changed my avatar--again--to California spring wildflowers. I don't think we'll have a carpet of lupines and poppies this year, though, there hasn't been enough rain.
Blue, hope you're resting and recovering steadily. You're in our thoughts and prayers.
Happy Sunday, everyone!
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LOVE the photo bailey.....is that your spring at the moment???....I am jealous!!!!!! Hope you're feeling better every day!
sbe.....love the new avatar....beautiful flowers. Those wildflowers might just fool you yet, and show up!
I'm posting a few from my getaway....just to bring some of you back to reality! (The latest site update makes it a pain to post photos again for me....sigh.....back to having to first load them onto photobucket...not happy!)
our cabin.....viewed from the backside.....thank goodness there was another way in!!!!!
snowshoe trail.....spring melting has begun.....
ski trail
sometimes it gets cloudy.......
happy times!
snow "bagel"
This is what happens when sticky snow rolls down a hill.
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Nihahi, I love that you call it "sticky snow". To us Ohioans, it's good snowman-building snow. We rarely see any other kind, except for this winter which was so frigid all season. I think there was only one good snowman-building day. Thanks for sharing your beautiful pictures!
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Dear Bluebird, just now checking in and, like others, I have tears in my eyes, reading your post. Thank you so much for checking in. I'm so glad you were able to and that you can feel the LOVE from us here. We will continue to snuggle you through whatever comes. You keep putting that Devil in his place! God's got you. It would be the best thing ever to hug you in person in September!!! Hey, with your wonky vision in your left eye and my wonky vision in my right, we make a perfect couple! We can help each other along...hope yours clears up soon, though.
Nihahi, beautiful pics. So glad you had a good time! My nephew recently broke his collarbone in three places (9 screws) when he hit a patch of "sticky" snow while skiing at Tahoe. It threw him right down and he's an expert skier. I'm glad you were able to enjoy it instead.
Bailey, please do your best to kick that bug into outer space. I do enjoy your silliness...and your heartfelt messages to us. I still picture you in church, with your prayers rising up, up, up.
Bosum, I wish there were some way you could get an MRI. Do your best to get it checked again---you have to be your own best advocate. It's important. I am praying it is nothing, though. (I am always running to my dermatologist to look at my latest concern. So far, so good, though). I completely sympathize with you re: insurance issues.
Butterfleye, good to hear from you again.
Sweet, how was the camping? Good weather? Are you exhausted??
DH got turned down for one job which was surprising and disappointing. He is still interviewing for others....it is getting old now to be unemployed, but we decided it feels better to be trusting and hopeful than doubting and discouraged. Working on that!
Love you ladies!
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Love all the flowers!!!! I am looking at daffodils, hellebore flowers, corylopsis (butter yellow flowers), with lots more to come. It has been raining buckets here this month but everything is budding out. Such a hopeful time in the garden here.
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Jeannie- had a great time camping and I came home, took a hot shower and collasped! Hope something comes through for your dh soon.
Deb- Have you checked the exchange yet? You may qualify for medicaid in your state. You can also contact your local health department to see if they have any programs available.
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I've been away for awhile but wanted to say hi. Bluebird... I'm glad to hear you are doing well and I'm praying for you. You guys are a wonderful bunch.
I've got my nipple and some more fat grafting scheduled for April 1st. I sure hope it doesn't turn into an April fools joke!
I had every blood test known to man done on my liver and all came back negative. Then, I had an ultrasound which showed fatty liver and no cancer. Then last Monday, I had a good breast annual MRI and it came back showing a lesion on my liver. Recommended ultrasound. Lol So then I call liver doc back and they went over my imaging, turns out, they couldn't actually see the part of my liver where the lesion showed up. That's not very comforting. They went back to a cT scan I had 2 years ago and found a cyst and they are thinking that is what is seen in the MRI. Tomorrow I go to see the BS who ordered the MRI. Do you think I should ask for another CT? Does relying on a 2 year old one seem ok?
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nihahi where did you go? The snow looks so pretty! I know those of you livin with the snow all winter may disagree lol my son is trying to convince me to take him snowboarding one more time this year. I haven't been since surgery and don't know if its the best idea just yet but the pics are inspiring!
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hey mamalou, you must be beyond frustrated with the testing and anxiety that comes with it. Were it me, I would not rely on an older scan.
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Thanks for all the well wishes my friends. I am feeling better. Just one mad dash today ....back to work tomorrow.
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Because tomorrow we're all Irish.......
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Was that an attempt at posting a picture, Nihahi? I couldn't (easily) post last.night either....sure hope they fix it soon.
Sun is shining but it's only 25 degrees.....brrrrrrr
Edited to add....oooh oooh oooh...they did fix it....I can post pics easily with the pic icon again....thank you BCO!!
Where I wish I was and what I wish I was doing....(that's Thing 2 with me)
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It works! Here's the latest of Aubrey playing with Rosie, her beloved Olde English Bulldogge. Aubrey climbs into Rosie's bed so they can pal around and lick each other.
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So sad I can't see or write well yet. Slowly catching up but lose my place and have to try again. Like learning to read. Love all the photos. Nihahi hikes, girl scout trips, bulldog and babies. I have not forgotten anyone just can't make brain cooperate smoothly but I am living life through all your eyes and lives right now. Love reading about everyone's days. I'm here a lot just can't post well. Love to all
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Yeah, blue! Stop by and see us when you can, rest, rest, and lots of rest. You will get better day by day. Love you!
Nice pics, nihahi, bailey and sbe! I thought it was a stuffed dog that Aubrey playing with.
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HELLO, BLUEBIRD! Let us entertain you and make you happy to be here! Take it slow and easy; let everything heal up and settle back into place. Rest your brain, sista.
Not a stuffed dog--a slobbery, gallumphing lug of a dogge. She's wearing a Michigan Wolverine collar, did you notice, Bailey? She is so patient and loving when Aubrey clutches her jowls. I know she understands that Aubrey is a human puppy and is to be tolerated and played with gently.
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Ya know Sbel it's the weirdest thing....I can see the baby and the dog....but not the collar....I must be blue/gold color blind.....I know....it's a rare condition that skips a generation (me da is a HUGE MICHIGAN FAN....me sister and I be wearin' the green and white and drives him bonkers....such a disappointment to him).
Hi Blue.....I am sure reading is good for you....reading us.....EVEN BETTER. We might be safer in small doses, though! Love ya, honey!
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I had my lat flap Sept 23rd. I still have draining in my back on the left. Does anyone know how long it takes for this to go away. I am getting tired of having the PS drain the back with a needle
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Sbe, what an adorable picture! Our little Emily had been licked in the face twice by Milli, their Golden Retriever, just the week after she was born. . . her hands and face had to be washed immediately. I can totally see her playing with Millie in a few months' time. Timmie the cat was also very interested.
Bluebird, you need to rest and heal up. Rest the brain like Sbe suggests. It is hard to be patient, but just know we are always here for you, and we understand if you cannot read and post regularly. ((((((((((Bluebird))))))))))
Bink, it certainly does not sound normal that you are still draining 6 months after surgery.
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Hey Blue.....so good to hear from you. I think you're doing WONDERFULLY, given what you've been through....give yourself the time to heal. If reading is really bothering you, try running your finger along the words as you read. If you need a bit more help, take a piece of cardboard, and cut out a "window" in the middle of the cardboard, the width and length of a line of print. Put that over what you want to read, so all you see is the words in the window....helps your eyes stay on track. No worries about keeping up...I've got you tucked in the backpack for every outing
Sweet pic, sbe....those two look like real friends, for sure.
bailey....I think it's a perfect day for you Spartan fans.....(I'll give you one, just one day.....then it's back to the blue and gold).
Bink....sorry, I have no answers for you. Compression might help, but that would be tricky with a lat flap. What does your PS say???
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Great to hear from you, Bluebird. Just sit back and let this group entertain you, and know we are thinking of you. Just take it easy and slow. You need your rest. (((Hugs)))
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REPOST FROM INSOMNIA THREAD
HI FOLKS DOING THIS FOR BLUEBIRD IT WILL REALLY HELP HER. SASSYBLUEBIRD.........IT LOOKS LIKE YOUR SIGHT IS GOOD.....WHEN YOU SAY IT IS AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO WEAR GLASSES TO SEE... WE WILL GO BACK TO NORMAL
IF YOU HAVE TO WEAR GLASSES TO READ ......YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE THE GLASS ARMS ANYWHERE NEAR YOUR INCISION........ CAN BE CAUSE FOR INFECTION
LARGE PRINT WILL HELP YOU BE ABLE TO READ WITHOUT GLASSES.
MAY TAKE A FEW DAYS FOR EYES TO FOCUS RIGHT
ZIGGY AIN'T WHISTLING DIXIE......YOU SHOULD HAVE SEEN MY TYPING AFTER BRAIN SX IN 2012......TOTALLY NEEDED THIS.......
SPELLING.......OMG.........NOT EVEN CLOSE.........BUT EVERYONE HAD A GOOD TIME TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT I WAS TYPING
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waving at ya Bluebird, rest easy!
bailey- I am so ready for warm weather water fun too! Looks like you guys were having a blast!
sbe- aaaawwwwwww the cuteness meter is through the roof!
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THANK YOU FOR THE TIP, SAS-SCHATZI, I HOPE THIS IS BIG ENOUGH: LOVE YOU, BLUE. SHHHH, IT'S TOO EARLY, DONT WAKE HER UP.
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HI, BLUEBIRD! LOVE YOU! HUGS!
Sbel, so cute! That photo made me smile.
Bailey, looks like such fun!
Oh my goodness, Mammalou, I'm sorry you don't have answers yet. Hoping it is nothing or an incidentaloma....
I'm hoping when I see a GI doc this Friday afternoon, it is nothing. I also hope that if I have a colonoscopy in the near future, my good eye won't be affected by a drop in bp! In God's hands.
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Just had a call from my PS office. They are moving my surgery up to March 31, that's Monday in a week. I say bring it on. The sooner I can be done with this, the better. I'll be getting a nipple on the recon breast, a lift of the healthy breast, and a little liposuction on the left side of the tummy scar where I have a bit of a dog ear. I have a question for the veterans here. How 'debilitated' will I be after this? I know this surgery is not a big deal, and have committed to play piano in church on the Sunday 6 days after the surgery. Will I be able to do it?
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liefie, I have no experience with lifting of the healthy side, but my gut tells me that it would be a pretty painful thingy. You can feel everything on that side, correct? If the area and the amount of lipo is very small (like mine), the pain should be minimum at 6 days out. No experience with nipple either, I still have my originals.
Sorry, Bink182, no experience with lat flap here.
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Bink ...,I agree with liefie...IMHO I don't think you should be still draining six months after ANY surgery. That being said, I was still draining several months after mx and rads....so I say put your foot down, sister! Ask to see a wound specialist.
Liefie YAY! I flew out of town six days after stage II with lots of lipo and all my incisions revised, including the lift. I bet you can make your date.
Jeannie hugs darlin'. You're really such a trooper.
Deb Dylan hugs to you too. It's hard to know what to do sometimes. You will find your way. Think of all you've come through already
you'll be all right. Are there any insurance companies in your area offering to help people figure out if they can go through exchange or not? Blue cross of MI is all over the radio here telling people to call them for help. Ok headed to Thing 1's Eagle Scout board of review....so I should be the proud mama of an Eagle Scout in a few hours.
It's his day and I wouldn't say something to my family that would make it about me....but I will tell my sisters here because I know you get it....all day long I've just been nearly in tears because God let me stay here on Earth to see this day. I am a lucky, grateful girl.
Love to all!
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Thanks, Bailey! I thought it would be doable. Won't even let on that I had surgery. Congrats on Thing 1, and we get those emotions you are going through. That's what I felt when I hugged that little baby for the first time almost 3 weeks ago, just so very grateful that I was able to experience something so joyful and so wonderful.
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You are his mama, bailey, it's you day too, celebrate it with all! Congratulations, for making it.
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liefie and tammy....I heartily agree with your comments to bailey....and yes, dear bailey.....we DO GET IT!!!! Milestones in life, involving people we love, are emotional moments....the "awareness" of how extra special our ability to share those moments becomes after all the bc stuff, cannot help but bring tears of relief, gratitude and joy.
liefie....can't speak to anything yet except the life of the natural breast. I had a lift and reduction at the time of my flap....can't say the sensation/pain/discomfort were an issue, but, admittedly, I had other things distracting me at the time!
bosum....the first couple years post end of tx can be a real rollercoaster, emotionally. I understand the "desire to not deal with the lump" mindset, but that is not a healthy choice for you, even considering the financial concerns. Can you really "put it out of your mind"....or would it just hang over you like a sword about drop. Try to make choices that lead you to a better place, financially, physically and emotionally. Little "positive" choices each day, will eventually lead you to a better "place". I'm so sorry the healthcare system where you are, makes your ability to access care so difficult.
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Oh Bosum.....I don't think you're "foolish" at all. I DO totally get the "I can only handle so much at this time" mindset.....I just encourage you to try to make the "healthiest for the present and future" choices you can. If today isn't full of the "best choices", you always get a fresh chance tomorrow.
I don't completely understand the system in the states, but as bailey suggested, is there no one who you can access to help you sort out some of the insurance/health coverage minefield??
re: your hubby/court issues....weren't you trying to keep your health status"hidden" from the judge before??? I can't believe being open about your dx and tx would work against you in court. I don't mean using it as a "poor me thing", just as a way to verify what you've been dealing with. Maybe, I'm being naive about the legal system....Hang in there.
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A big hug to all my family. getting better but strangely little sadder. one week ago. just posted a book on TNS group so my brain is definately tryin to engage.
Movie and all, thank you for the wonderful funny card and bluebird Pin. FUCK YOU CANCER!
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So.....I'm thinking the snowshoes and skis are done for THIS season.........
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we have an Eagle Scout!!!!!'
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CONGRATS.....BAILEY AND FAMILY AND MOST ESPECIALLY, THING 1!!!!!
I really do love eagles....of all kinds!
crap......didn't see bluebirds post....you're doing wonderfully, gal......hang tough.....we're still lining your pockets with these amazing blue fluffy feathers!
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Thanks, everybody, it's a good day!
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Bailey, congratulations on being a wonderful mother to have raised such an honorable son. And congratulations to Thing 1 on becoming an Eagle Scout!
Bluebird, so glad you have your spunk back. "FU cancer!" We're with you, Bluebird.
Jeannie, I love the new pic of you on your avatar!
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Yes, Bo, it's the Arrow of Light, which is the highest award in Cub Scouts and you should keep it! Even a single year in Scouting is something to be proud of. My boys have dabbled in various sports and junior high band, but Scouting has really been their thing. Other kids do sports or band or theater or whatever.....and spend just as much time and energy on those things.....there just isn't an award for perseverance in marching band!
Try here maybe? https://localhelp.healthcare.gov/ (if you haven't) it lists a couple of hundred places in the state of NJ to get help. Idk...I feel so bad. The whole thing is such a bleeping mess. Infuriating. Sorry your ex is being a $@));;//##_?;;©¥{¿~%] <>>^`®£. As if you don't have enough on your plate.
As Bluebird says, fall down seven times, get up eight.
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Bailey....congratulations, Mama! You deserve a big pat on the back for getting Thing 1 through his Eagle Scout! Don't kid yerself....He wouldn't have made it without Mom and Pop.....
Blue-nice to see your post, and thank you for sending the PM.......we just want you to know we love you!
Bosum.....am keeping you in my prayers....It's about time something went your way.......(((hugs)))And listen to Nihahi....she's the wise one........
Love to all!
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movie....not wiser.....just maybe more "life experienced" at times, compared to you gals who are newer to the "veteran of bc" trip.
Bosum....this may sound harsh....but....it's coming from someone who has spent many hours on hold and still had to drive to Montana just to prove I'm alive and married, because of a "computer glitch"....and some people STILL haven't agreed that I'm amongst the living yet!....here goes.....I don't mean to offend....but.......
You're currently not working (so no job to rush to get to), fresh out of bc tx (relatively speaking), still wanting to find a better recon result......AND.....you have found a new lump (likely nothing to it, but until you know for sure.......) SO WHAT IF YOU SPENT 4 HOURS ON HOLD....spend 40 HOURS if need be.....what else would you have done with those 4 hours that would address those issues for you. Put it on speaker phone and spend the wait giving yourself the world's craziest pedicure, or if you're one of the clean ladies...start your spring cleaning...you don't have to sit with the phone in your hand, until someone picks up......OK.....lecture over.....hugs.....hope the info from bailey is more helpful than me.
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have a good night bosum......tomorrow is a new day!
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Congrats, Bailey! You can be rightly proud of your son!
Bluebird, always good to hear from you, and to see that you are getting better!
Good night, everybody, and sleep well.
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Bosom- Nihahi, the Wise One is hard to argue with, isn't she? So happy you are "getting your Warrior on". We all care about you.
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Bailey, my brother was an Eagle scout and my dad was the scoutmaster. It was a HUGE deal when he earned it. My own boys finished up Cub Scouts but then were so active in church group and sports and music, we just ran out of time in the week.
Bosum, it seems to me like it's perhaps the anxiety of confusion that's being a barrier for you. It might be that if you just take a deep breath and dive into the insurance mess, you WILL figure it out.
Good Morning, world!
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Good Morning Aubrey - And GOOD MORNING BLUE!
Bosum - I hope today is a less frustrating one, and I hope everyone is feeling well. Good advise from Nihahi - just do what ought to done and try to have some fun as well.
Well, I almost had stage 2 done yesterday. I booked in for an appointment with my handsome PS so check on my 'agressve' scars and make plans for our next step. But somehow I actually got booked in for the whole procedure, and when the nurse came to get me in the waiting room and told me the whole appt would take an a few hours, I almost slid off my seat. When the PS came in I told him I wasn't psychologically ready for stage 2. He laughed, and said 'ok. Another time then'. I almost reconsidered because I could have just jumped on the table and have it done with. And I love my PS and wanted to spend the afternoon with him, but I just couldn't do it. Partly cus I'm a chicken, and partly cus I'm going on a vacation, and I don't want to be sitting on the edge of the pool again. I want to be in it. But he explained exactly how it would be - and his calmness is contagious, so now I'm super excited about this next step. I'll be going the Jeannie route of staying awake, and I'm looking forward to talking Dr. H for an hour. This, of course, calls for a pedicure.
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Good morning happy baby! There is something about smiling baby face, if you look at her, your mouth starts to curl up. Thanks for sharing sbe.
bosum, the exchange thingy bailiy posted works. My son just got insurance via the website and he said it was pretty easy.
I made myself a "sleep cream" and put on my feet last night and slept through the night without waking up. This morning I feel so refreshed! I've been waking up at least once every night since my stage I.
Read you book on the TNS group, blue, looks like you are getting doing great! I am going to find that warrior bluebird pic bailey posted and change into that...
Do you have date with your handsome ps, Janet_M?
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morning aubrey....!!!! (such a sweetie).
wowzer janet....I don't think I could have done it "spontaneously" either, pedicure is often not "up to par"! But in reality, it's the whole lipo while awake thing that has me anxious. What else is Dr gorgeous doing for a Stage 2 for you, besides nips??
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Nihiahi - Dr Dreamy is doing my left dog ear and a pair of nipples. When I read about Jeannie going through her Stage 2 wide awake I was in awe, and didn't think I could do it. But this man is so calm and easy, that my inner warrior is jumping into 'I can do anything!' mode.
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I am the total opposite, nihahi and Janet, I would have jumped on it.
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I could handle the dog ear and the nipple recon, and the fat grafting.....it's the harvesting of the fat...aka lipo...that has me trembling. I've observed lipo surgery....it's not a delicate procedure to watch!!!!!! I'd rather have been awake for my flap...that is surgery to me, the lipo procedure...more like exploratory closed pit mining with a blunt shovel and a blindfold....
!editted to add....sorry if tmi....I'm going for a run to get my head in a better place.
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Yes - in retrospect I wish I'd jumped in too. I'd love to be that kibd of person. I'm going away next week, and I don't want anything to interfere with that trip. I tell myself that that's part of the reason - but in reality I'm just a big hairy chicken. But, I did call today and book my procedure which is coming up on May 27. Nipples for summer! Yahoooooo
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Bailey, you are right, we all get it. I'm so happy you get to experience these milestones.
No job for hubs yet but at least he is still interviewing.
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I won't forget how the DIEP flap surgery was sprung on me 6 days before it was supposed to happen. Jumped right in, and had it done. Same thing now with stage 2 being moved up from April 23 to March 31, next Monday. But I agree, Janet, that would have been a bit fast for even me - LOL.
Hi Aubrey! You are a cutie pie! Got my daily photo from DD this morning of Emily sleeping in her bassinet with both arms stretched above her head, so relaxed and peaceful.
Nihahi, your description of lipo makes me shudder. I'm also having a little bit done on my dog ear, but do not have the slightest interest to see how it is done. Grrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!
Bosum, good luck on your insurance issues. It sucks, but it is a bit like cancer. There is no way around it, just through it. Hope you can get it sorted.
Jeannie, still praying for DH and that job. Something's gotta give!
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TammyT, what is the "sleep cream" you used on your feet? I'm always looking for something to improve sleep. Thanks, Jamie
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Wow, I missed a whole page when I posted before!
Bosom, I sympathize with feeling stuck and overwhelmed. Baby steps are all I can do sometimes but at least it's a forward motion.
BLUE, it's understandable to feel sad and all kinds of emotions. Don't be hard on yourself! You are never alone with this flock of birds surrounding you.
Janet, wow, that would have been freaky! I would have needed at least fifteen minutes just to process. It really was a surreal experience for me. Breaking up the scar area in my boob with the lipo thingy was weird but not painful. I think I am good at "compartmentalizing." Of course, the scar area is still there but smaller. Honestly, the numbing shots on the outer edges of the boobs were all that twinged for me.I had my dog ear revised in the OR so I can't speak to that. I was pretty fascinated with the nipple construction although I didn't watch it all. He also zapped little veins on my boobs with a cauterizer. My rads side looks a lot better in that regard but he had trouble getting the ones I really wanted done on the other side because they disappear under local. I may try that again. Maybe he can draw on them first with his purple pen. Why didn't HE think of that? Anyway, other than having to break the sterile field halfway through because I HAD TO PEE, the three hours flew by. He requested parenting advice and I got insight into, among other things, his "surgeon snootiness." He's always been kind to me, don't get me wrong. I think it's pretty common for surgeons to think highly of themselves which probably works in our favor. It was just interesting conversation. I wanted to be well-hydrated and caffeinated so maybe my bp wouldn't drop as it sometimes does. It worked but my bladder could only take so much.....
Liefie, so excited for you! Knowing you, you'll be just fine to play at church after six days.
Tammy, glad you got good sleep! What was in that potion of yours??
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back and in a better head space....
liefie...I'm so sorry....didn't mean to scare you. You're going to do wonderfully. You have a history now of "spontaneous surgery"
My curse is knowing "too much" about surgical procedures sometimes. I need the details, mentally, but struggle to apply it to my own body, emotionally. I'm sure my PS will make sure I'm comfortable and amnesiac.....right????!!!!!!!!!! That's one of the things we'll be discussing.
bosum....nihahi is indeed a First Nations word. It means "a rocky place". Nihahi Ridge is a special place for a number of reasons to me. It is the gateway to the eastern slopes of the Rockies, in my part of the world. I have experienced deep emotions sitting on the ridgetop. I had "visions" of being on that ridgetop during the most powerful Reiki session I have ever had. It is the first hike I got my daughter to do with me. It is the first true hike I did after my flap recon. I wanted a screen name that had positive emotions connected to it, but also acknowledged the "rocky path we are on in life".
This is the trail you walk to get to the ridgetop......
This is the view from Nihahi Ridge top. To me.....it's a window into heaven.
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Beautiful, Nihahi, both photo and words.
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Nihahi, 'spontaneous surgery' . . . . Whahahahaaaaa!!!!! You do have a way with words, really! No, I'm not put off by your description of liposuction. As long as I'm fast asleep, they can do whatever.
Jeannie, like your new avatar!
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can't help you, bosum.....don't understand your system, sorry, but my inclination would be to be truthful. Rarely does deception work for me....and things can get screwed up when you're completely honest too.....("sayeth the dead person").
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Bosun, I'm with Nihahi. Honesty is the best policy. Once you start lying, it becomes a slippery slope.
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Tammy -please share sleep cream recipe,
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Bosum- That is the program I used in here and this is how it went down for me. Found lump, called local health department and had an exam. She signed me up for the program for screening on the spot and said that if they found anything on mamo, I would be automaticly enrolled for coverage.
Having been on medicaid this past year, be honest because they will check against your medical records. I have until November but I wont qualify again next year because my income will be higher so I plan to buy the plan my dh did on the exchange. Hang in there, if you keep asking for help, it will come.
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Bluebird.....thinking of you as I finally drift off to sleep.....come fly with me!
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Bosum, I spoke to my PS on Monday about upcoming nip surgery and she said the scar would be right on the inner panty line (presumably that means I will be going commando for a month or so while it heals!) but regarding the hair, I'm going to have a couple of sessions of laser hair removal beforehand. Can't wait to explain why to the person doing it!
Tammy, recipe please?!
SBE, that pic of Aubrey and the dog reminded me of a story I read when my youngest was a baby about a woman who was germ obsessed for her baby daughter... until she found her sucking the dalmatian's tail!
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I think I missed I've missed a few pages. Just reading and the part that made me happy is Bluebird saying 'F*ck Cancer'
MUSIC TO MY EARS BLUEBIRD! GLAD TO KNOW YOU'RE IN THE MOOD TO BIGHT BACK!
Jeannie - Love your new Avatar - you just keep getting cuter and cuter. My whole procedure, (nips & a dog ear) will apparently take about one hour. There's no grafting - just a some origami on the boobs, and a small ellipsis around the dog ear, where I'll have fat removed and be restitched.
Nihahi - I'm the opposite of you. I don't want all the details - not at all. All I require from my surgeon are broad strokes, a lot of trust, and a recovery plan.
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Hey all, need some advice. I was told no more mammograms and to do annual breast MRI's as a followup to my DIEP. I had my first MRI post DIEP in December and Blue Cross is refusing to pay for it. They keep telling me that I need to be doing mammograms! I'm about to be sent to bill collectors but I really don't want to pay another $4,000! Health care got enough of my money last year since I have a high deductible. What have the rest of you done for followup care and have you had any problems with insurance paying for it? (And is this okay to post here or do I need to put in under DIEP 2013 or 2014? I've moved on... except for these stupid bills!)
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Klanders, have you written a letter and filed an appeal with Blue Cross? I have Blue Cross as well, although there are a zillion different plans. When they didn't want to pay for the cardiologist who read my echocardiogram (he was "out of network," but I was a hospital inpatient and he was just assigned to my case without any input from me), I wrote a letter to appeal the decision and won.
You might need to get a letter from the physician who ordered your MRI, and one from your plastic surgeon as well. Don't let it go to collections if you can help it--call the MRI provider and let them know you're working with Blue Cross and not ignoring their bill.
Good luck!
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I am not sure how useful it is because the recipe calls for
two of the Young Living (YL) Essential Oils blends and some singles. YL essential
oils are expensive (imho). I believe other brand of the single EO can be used, but
the two blends are YL special.Recipe for Sleep
Cream:1/2 cup coconut oil, 8 drops each oils: lavender,
cedarwood, Peace & Calming, and Valor.Peace & Calming is a blend of orange, tangerine,
ylang ylang, patchouli, and blue tansy.Valor is a blend of rosewood, blue tansy,
frankincense, and spruce.Another version of the recipe calls for extra 5 drops of lemon
and 4 drops of Thieves to be mixed in.Thieves is a blend of clove, lemon, cinnamon bark,
eucalyptus, and rosemary.Apply to feet before bedtime.
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Sbe....LOVE your adorable grandbaby! Any picture of Aubrey is an instant hit with me!
Nihahi....Love the pictures you posted......when my Mom passes.....I am heading up your way to get my brain put back together....
Jeannie.....keeping your DH (and YOU) in my prayers...XO
KLanders.....I am going to remember this when I am to have my MRI.....will clear it with insurance, first! Good luck!
Tammy, I am a DoTerra gal myself......will have to see what works for sleep in their collection, and give it a try! Thanks for the tip!
Well, I have to get my Mother's breakfast, and get her dressed, and then off to a friend's Birthday luncheon.......
Love you all!
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movie....I'm going to hold you to that!!!!!! (but, hope Mom stays well for lots longer). Huggles, sister!!!!
awww bosum.....you just made my day!!!! But give YOURSELF the credit, YOU'RE the one who DID it......I'm just good at nagging....! So glad things are sorting out for you, at least in one category....keep the forward motion going gal!
klanders...wowzer,
.....but sbe has the best advice, I would think. Communication is ALWAYS the best tactic, imo.....that way they are aware that you are trying to resolve the issue and not just trying to skip out. Hope it works out for you.I was going to wish everyone a happy Spring.....but.....the scene out my window today brings a different emotion.....sooooobbbbbbb
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Moveie, dōTERRA's Serenity is the calming one.
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Nihahi, light a fire, put some soup on the stove, and get out a good book. Feeling very cozy inside is the only way to forget about outside - lol.
Bosum, so glad you are moving forward at last. Perseverance always pays off.
A good day to everybody else! I am so tired after yoga, strength training, organ practise, and grocery shopping this morning - think a nap will be in order.
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bosum- So glad you got that sorted out!
nihahi- brrrrr, I hope the spring sunshine finds you soon.
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Tammy-I've got'em all! Lets get all your plant therapy and my doterra oils together........we could cure the world!
Bosum......GLAD something went your way today! It's about time, girl! Hope all is well when you get the exam.......
Nihahi, I am NOT trying to rub anything in......but this is especially for you.....I think you need it!..........
Liefie...your letter arrived today.....thank you!
BLUEBIRD......IF YOU ARE READING THIS.....HELLO! I HOPE YOU ARE FEELING A BIT BETTER......REALLY HOPING YOU CAN JOIN US IN SEPTEMBER......IT'S GONNA BE FUN!
Love to all.............
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Beautiful flowers, Movie! I had a business meeting today that was held at the local botanical garden.....what a nice treat....lots of bulbs blooming inside.
Bluebird....thinking of you every day.
Cannot WAIT for September!
I had my six month onco visit today. She ordered breast MRI without me even asking, so THAT was easy
plus blood work, bone density and heart echo (I'm a left side radiation girl plus Herceptin, so they do heart testing periodically). I saw my OT afterward and she is pretty happy with where my shoulder is ...we'll keep working on it, but we're making progress, very happy about that! -
Anybody interested in bringing their yoga mat to the gathering???
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Nihahi, I was just wondering today if someone would lead us in a little yoga. I don't do it much yet and have some LE limitations but I'm interested.
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Yes, Nihahi, that sounds great, I am novice, but sounds like a great way to spend time.
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woohoo.....meet you on the mat sista!!!!
I am NOT a teacher, but have had some wonderful teachers myself. It would be great to share what we all know and do....fyi...I'm completely into NON-COMPETITIVE, respect YOUR body and what you should/shouldn't....can/can't do.
jeannie..... did those LE sleeves EVER turn up????
bailey...what is the latest on your Dad's progress?
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yes, the sleeves showed up! They were mixed up with some old ones! They are my favorites and are getting old, too. New ones in May, assuming insurance....
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Nihahi, from what I've read, I'm not supposed to do things that put my body weight on my arms, like downward facing dog, etc., handlebars on bikes for long periods. I am very compliant because it has served me well. Having said that, my LE therapist has always said I can try something, see how it goes, and adjust accordingly. Not usually the way I roll in light of everything else. Maybe tmi....
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jeannie......no problemo girl.....you're talking to the weak shoulder, wonky wrist, wonky knee, tight hip, tight lower back queen!!!!!!!
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bosom blues, right there with ya tomorrow! You are smart, you are brave, you can do this!
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bosom, good look tomorrow. I know what you mean about chemo brain, but sometimes the words come easier when we are passionate about something. You will do great.
Nihahi, yoga sounds like a wonderful idea. I am sitting here chuckling at the vision of all of us with our wonky limitations doing yoga. That's the beauty of yoga, we can each move at our own pace. It's all about the spirit, and we all have plenty of spirit!
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Good morning, just a quick update. Standing on the steroid ledge and waiting to get talked down. If they didn't make me bipolar by cleaving my skull in two, this steroid crash will. Super emotional and either feeling high or in the abyss.
Vision is much better, scary hallucinations almost gone, and cutouts decreasing. Prayers helping so much. Thank you.
Saw my radiation oncology team on Wednesday and I asked how long would I have to wait before I could have my expander out. The lead doctor said, "if I were you I wouldn't bother completing any more reconstruction" .
I am devasted. Surgeon got all the tumor so I'm confused about why this doctor said that. I didn't hear anything else she said after that. It is a terrible thing when a doctor takes away all your hope.
Jeannie you and I can just do savasanas, or relaxation pose while the other girls make themselves into pretzels. ;*)
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Bluebird, you (or someone you love) needs to sit down with the lead physician and explain that your recon process is YOUR choice, and if getting the expander out and feeling better about how you look (and feel) is hopeful for you, you have the right to steam right ahead. And what was that statement supposed to mean, anyway?
Sounds to me like he needs HIS head examined.
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Thanks sbel. Normally I'm pretty good about letting comments go, (usually from doctors or men) but this one was especially taken to heart because it came from a woman.
I'm not sure what the implication was either.
Hubby said two things to me later: (I hope I don't offend anyone)
1) remember she's just a radiation neurology oncologist and all she cares about is your brain
2) she's a Ruskie. Not known for their warm fuzziness around here
Lol!
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geez...what is it with insensitive thoughtless doc remarks this week!
bluebird....I agree with sbe...it is NO ONE's choice....but YOUR's! Don't lose hope.....you have just as much right to complete your recon as anyone else. On the "other" topic, you are sounding stronger with each message. So good to see you come back to life.
zenful...I expect there will be LOTS of chuckles throughout the gathering....I'm pretty good at laughing at myself, and it sounds like my theory re" yoga matches yours.
sbe.....you can help us out with some of your Pilates moves!!!
bosum....sending you energy to do what you need to do today....get your TOWANDA on girl!
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Love you ladies!
Yes, meant to add I'll be sending any extra energy I have (granted not much) bosumblues way. TOWANDA
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bluebird....no offense taken here...and it sounds like hubby is a wise man. I'm guessing she's is one of "those" mindsets of "be grateful we got rid of the cancer....what more can you want" people. You can want a whole lot more, and have every right to get it!!!!!
The funny thing about energy.....I believe, the more you use on behalf of someone else....the more room it makes for you to "grow some" for yourself. Happy energy growth day to you, kiddo.
sbe...I just read on another thread that coffee has now been declared a cancer recurrance fighter....I'm going for my second cuppa....Have good days ladies...TGIF
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I agree 100%. I almost never pray for myself other than to be thankful. I pray constantly and hold people into the light, I just have always sent energy to others. I even say prayers to the universe for the next person that needs one.
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Bluebird, we are ALL praying for you, and in my humble opinion, God would welcome a conversation with you about yourself. It would be OK to say, "HELP!"
About recon...this becomes something of a metaphysical thing. Wouldn't it just suck to go through all of this, and walk out of Vinnie the Tat Guy with gorgeous new 3-D nips, only to get mowed down by a bus on your way to the car? NONE of us know what the future will bring, and NONE of us should put our lives on hold to wait for something...anything...to pan out.
What's important to me is that it's MY CHOICE. Give me the truth, give the the details, answer my questions, and get out of the way.
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Bluebird, you sound so good! I'm glad your eyes, etc. are improving. i pray your "crashes" leave you soon.I think your DH is a wise man, as are the friends here who have commented. Your reconstruction decisions are YOURS. When I read what that doc said...ooh, I wish I had been there. Please don't let go of your hope. Hope is so important to our souls. it gets me up in the morning! I have a sweet visual of you praying. I have a hard time praying for myself, too, but I think it's ok to do. I am praying that you continue improving and soaring like the mighty eagle you are. Nobody can stop you, not even that clueless doc.
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Bluebird - Do not allow that doctor to take away your hope. Sounds to me like your hope is alive and kickin', and that particular doctor is a black cloud standing in the way. Push her aside and allow yourself to move forward.
Maybe she thinks that you've been through too much all ready. But, Pshaw! Has she ever had cancer and a brain tumour?! Clearly, she underestimates how strong you are. And how deserving you are of looking fabulous and feeling whole and healthy.
My home care nurse was also Russian, and was the opposite of warm and fuzzy. His opinion of chemo was that we were all guinea pigs and probably didn't need it. Then he came over one day to give me my injection and we had this conversation:
'Why you wear wig!?'
'I'm bald'
'Bald ees better than wig. Put wig in closet'
Anyway - he redeemed himself a million times over as I got to know him. I'm not defending your doctor, but your post brought back a few memories. I just hope that you're feeling better today, and that you don't let one persons opinion stand in your way.
Janet
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bosum.......TOWANDA!!!!!!!!!!
You've been treated well by the Judge and his choices....NOW..... YOU keep making good choices for yourself.....Congrats.
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Wow, Deb, that does sound amazing! So glad you had a positive experience and your prayers were answered today.
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I do not have time to completely catch up this minute but Bluebird....WHAT EVERYBODY ELSE SAID TIMES 100.
I've learned to really dislike those "if it were me" and "if I were you" statements. I know it's a habit and often said with no harm intended, but it often seems to be or overtly is loaded with judgment. Have I ever said it, yup. Will I say it again? Likely. But I am so much more acutely aware of when others say it these days.....and I make an effort to not say it.
That's nice. But it's not you. It's me. So good for you that you think you know what you might do in these shoes, but they are my dog-gone shoes, so SHUT IT. You can be on my side or you can remain neutral. Doc gets to be the expert in whatever they are the expert in....I get to be the expert in ME....and we get to be the experts in living with this carp.
Somebody help me off this soapbox before I hurt myself.
Grrrrrrr
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Ha, Bailey, love you! Cancer has really taught me that you can't experience what someone else has experienced unless you experience it yourself (?) , so keep the "if I were yous" to yourself. Of course, we are always called to be loving and compassionate and that doesn't require the above..
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And another dog-gone thing.....next time that happens to me I'm going to laugh and shake my head and apologize for the misunderstanding....and then say, "I didn't ask what you would do....just was wondering what I can do."
(Now back to work)....
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bailey....
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Thanks for your comments. I've appealed once and lost. From comments here and on NOLA board I've figured out that I need to try to get a letter from my PS stating specifically why I can't have mammograms and I'm also going to put together a letter of appeal myself. I'm really thinking, though, from some comments made here about other ladies followup care that I'm not going to do an MRI every year like my PS suggested. (I think it was my PS who said that... it's all a bit of a blur!)
Glad your day in court went well Bosumblues!
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Bosumblues, see what some positive energies can do? Congratulations!
Janet, I laughed so hard when I read your comment with accent! You got it exactly.
{{Bailey}}
klanders, my only recommendation is to write, write, write.... document everything and include collections people. There is also an insurance commissioner in your state that you can write to and have them investigate the matter. Keep it brief. Doctor told you to get MRI. Got MRI and now insurance doesn't want to pay. Get NOLA on board to back you up if you can and that you will follow their recommendations. So sorry for your paperwork nightmare.
When I was being rushed into emergency surgery, all I could think about was letting everyone know here because I was scared and needed my pocket filled quick. I was posting as they wheeled me down the hall into the OR.
A friend on here told my story to her husband and he said, "man, she is fierce!" I have decided that I will put my warrior bluebird wings on and be known as FierceBluebird.
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Klanders, if you PM me with an email to which I can send an attachment, I can email you the letter I wrote to BCBS appealing their decision to deny my cardiologist's claim. It's a completely different situation, but you're welcome to peruse the wording I used.
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Hi all,
FIERCEBLUE -- you sound amazing!! I'm adding more support to the collective view -- you get to decide on what the next step for you is re: reconstruction -- with advice when asked for, and your own inner wisdom to guide you.
Bosum -- congrats on your day in court -- sounds like karma was alive and in action. I'm sorry about your insurance woes. I don't know anything about insurance in the US, but I listen to Dr. Radio on Sirius (I love that channel) and there is a weekly show on health insurance that I sometimes catch. The folks that are on the show are very helpful from what I can tell, and I've heard the main host (Andrew Rubin) tell people over and over to send him an email with a question on his website (rubinhealth.com). I think you have to register to ask a question, but I don't think there is any charge. Might be worth a shot for some free advice as he seems to really know his stuff. Good luck with this next step!
Janet_M -- I think I would have fainted as well at the thought of having a surprise procedure, despite the company. Glad you have a date to plan for now.
I changed my avatar to a "sign of spring", in celebration of the good news this week on the board and in hopes that at some point, spring will actually come my way. We are awaiting freezing rain tonight, flurries on Tuesday and wet snow next Friday (uhhh). Winter has really kicked butt this year.
Ridley
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hey bosum - sorry my message was not clear. You don't have to listen to the show and call in. That's just how I heard about the website and that people could email questions to the website that I believe they will respond to. If you are interested, go to rubinhealth,com and check it out. I'm fairly certain that there is no fee, but you do have to create an account to submit a question to the website. Or... You could move to Canada:)
Good luck!
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Well, HELLO WARRIOR FIERCEBIRD!! Now that the real Bluebird is back, I am changing my avatar back. But FierceBird, know that I am still in your pocket and sending lots of loving, healing energy your way. You are my warrior hero.
Bosom , glad everything turned out well. In addition to deserving it, it must have felt good to know that your ex wasn't able to fool the judge. You clearly had someone watching over you.
Nihahi, now I have a picture in my mind of a group of ladies with wonky parts doing yoga and laughing all the way through it. Well, laughing is good for the soul, too, so hopefully we will get double benefits.
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All hail Fiercebluebird!!!!!! Cancer doesn't want to meet you in a dark ally! I can see you going all ninja........:-)
I was excited about spring but Tuesday high is only going to be 40......boooooooo.......hisss........boooooooo!
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Zenful.....I love that "image"....bet it comes true. Wonky is a descriptive often applied to me by my friends...that, and bizarre, comic relief...whatever, all seem appropriate given my history with them!
sweet....I have NO SYMPATHY!!!! I went out for a run today....windchill was -13....NO SYMPATHY WHATSOEVER!!!!!!!! But I'll send you a hug anyways...love the avatar, btw, and how is the "work from home" coming along??????
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Fiercebluebird.
Indeed.
Bosom - YAY for a good day and a good outcome!
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Zenful, now I want to change my name to Warrior Fiercebird!
I was devastated by this turn of events and in so much pain. (Nothing quite like getting your head cleaved in two and they can't give you any pain meds so they can watch your pupils and reflexes)
Movie called my husband and must have told him everyone was changing their profile pics to bluebirds. He actually cried when he told me, (he never cries) and then when I was finally able to log in and see them, I got my spark back.
It reminded me of that old song "Tie a Yellow Ribbon". I was a kid when it came out and never really got it then, but small things can be HUGE!
"Whoa, tie a yellow ribbon 'round the ole oak tree
It's been three long years
Do ya still want me (still want me)
If I don't see a ribbon 'round the ole oak tree
I'll stay on the bus
Forget about us
Put the blame on me
If I don't see a yellow ribbon 'round the ole oak treeNow the whole damned bus is cheerin'
And I can't believe I see
A hundred yellow ribbons 'round the ole oak tree!" -
Fiercebluebird
Your moxie makes me happy.
Warriorfierceawesomekickbuttbluebird
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Fiercebluebird, you are one heck of a woman! Love that old song. And that doctor made a very stupid remark that was totally uncalled for - ?????? These people are supposed to be so clever, but some of them have zero EQ, and this one is a woman herself working with ca patients every day. . . unfrigginbelievable! Let it be like water off a duck's back; no use to get your knickers in a knot over this idiocy.
Nihahi, I will bring my yoga mat. Not into the heavy stuff, just very relaxing stretch yoga. Will only do what my body allows. Hope we can set up outside somewhere if the weather allows. And yes, some of my parts are also wonky - lol.
Bosum, YAYYYY! I don't think cases get overturned on appeal very often. So I'm cautiously optimistic for you. Hopefully the ex has now been put in his place. This has surely gone on long enough.
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okay ladies....let's make something PERFECTLY CLEAR.....anyone into the "I can twist myself into a pretzel and put my feet on top of my head and don't I look SPECTACULAR in spandex" is gonna have to find somewhere ELSE to practice their yoga....
Anyone who comfortably admits to being one of "Wilbur"s Wonky Women" can play with me!
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Aw, Fierce, you reminded me of our friend Tony Orlando. He is a truly generous and kind man who would weep to know his song gave you strength. Many, many years ago, right after the POWs returned from Vietnam that song had just come out and was little known. Bob Hope called Tony and asked him to come to a special gathering honoring the guys and to sing that song. Tony replied, "but Bob, no one knows it". Bob told him not to worry, that everyone would. He then got his people to get to all the radio DJs and blanket America. When the POWs got to that event the song was theirs and their families. I have held onto a yellow napkin or ribbon attached to another wife or POW and danced around many a room to that song. Last May, Tony presented his Gold Record to the Nixon Library's POW exhibit. That little song has given a whole lot to so many people.
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Nihahi- Its going great thanks. I am averaging about ten to twelve hours a week. Tuesday I am driving up the mountain for a sales meeting and I will take some pics of our mountains for you
Bosum- Hope things start looking up for you soon!
MartyJ- My mom and I used to watch Tony Orlando and Dawn.......love your story and I never knew that. What a great guy!
Fiercebluebird- I can't fathom what you have been through and I am so sorry for your pain. (((hugs)))
I found an old picture of me and my boys today and when I showed them, they asked who the lady was. Say what? I know I have aged and all but it was only five years ago when it was taken. I miss the old me sometimes.
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Sweet, you are beautiful inside and out, hair and makeup or not!
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sweet.....can't wait to see YOUR mountains...I bet they are green and forested and magical. The comment from your boys.....honestly, when I read that I didn't know if I felt like laughing with you or crying with you...such a toll this whole thing takes. But like jeannie said...you were beautiful and you ARE beautiful. (then again....maybe it's just a guy thing???). I recognized that smile and gorgeous eyes right away!!!
marty....I've gathered from the past that hubby is an Air Force vet.....didn't realize he was a POW. I cannot imagine his courage, strength, resilience and sacrifice. He is indeed a very special person, as are you. You've been quiet lately, hope it's because life is moving along and you're doing well.
jeannie...just heard about a tragic landslide in WA state north of Seattle.....didn't catch more than that....you're safe and ok????????RIGHT!!!!!!!
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Nihahi, the slide is terrible but not near me. The worry now is that the slide has dammed the river so those people and towns downriver are at risk. It's so sad about the deaths and injuries. So much rain and more on the way...
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Sigh.....we just can't control nature and it is worrisome what humans may have done to affect the weather and the land. Glad to hear you're ok, so sad for the people involved or who may be affected in the future. My SIL and family in Vancouver lost their home in a slide about 10 years ago. Their home wasn't "in the slide", but right next to it, and their lot was so compromised that their home was deemed unsafe for habitation and was torn down. They've never fully recovered, emotionally and financially.
movie....I just spotted your new avatar pic on another thread...post here so everyone can see how gorgeous you are!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Oh, Nihahi, I'm sorry about your family. That's rough.
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The "family history" made me anxious for you Jeannie.....like I said....stay safe. AND THAT APPLIES TO EVERYONE OUT THERE!
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Nihahi, you are a genius! We just might have a name for our September gathering...
The W3 Rendezvous (Wilbur's Wonky Women). Comments, anyone?
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Zenful, you're funny! We are wonky, but so much more....
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Marty, that was really touching about Tony Orlando.
Sweet, I look back at pictures with my kids and it seems so different somehow. (You guys are all just as cute and beautiful, by the way!) One time I had my son on the table at the pediatricians office and my daughter was digging through my purse and pulled out a photo of me and my husband and said, "Who are these WEIRD people?" lol!
Living in South Jersey, (an alluvial plane a.k.a. a big sandbar) we do mountains with the best of them!
NJ can't do anything right. Even our one rolling hill isn't a challenge. On Gravity Hill you can put your car in neutral and it will roll up the hill!
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Let's have fun with this....Wilbur's Open-hearted Women (WOW), or Optimistic, Outstanding......oozy, odoriferous, official, ornithoid (for fierce bluebird)........I love words.
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Jeannie- You have me rolling with your fantastic words!
Fierce- How crazy! What causes the cars to do that?
Nihahi- Our mountains wont be green until the end of May but the views are amazing. It may snow when Im up there on Tuesday.
Zenful- lol I like W3
Thanks for the compliments ladies, I laugh and I cry about how I look now. Most days I dont care but every now and then I get down.
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Quietly moving ahead, Nihahi. Actually in the process of fulfilling one of my pre-recon goals. I promised myself that I would learn to paddle the Dragon Boat this spring. When I checked the schedule, I found an 8 week intro group being formed for survivors. First major step to putting the past 30 years behind me! Soooo excited.
I have also been bra shopping. I bought 2 Wacoal at Nordstroms last May. Nice bras, but they were old lady minimizers. Never felt "right". Got a cute OnGossamer with softly molded cups a few weeks ago and yesterday I bought 2 Marie Jo's that are wonderful and give me a hint of cleavage (not being a skin saving, I will never have the "real" thing). And and Anita Athletic - a great sports bra that doesn't "compress", but holds you in place nicely. To all who are saying- oh my, those are so expensive I could never spend that much, I say hog wash. You can get a really good comfortably well fitted bra - just one. Break the bank for it if you must. Once you love the style and brand, go on line to somewhere like HerRoom.com and see if you can get more on sale. I found several in my brand, style and size that were almost 50% off. Because bras are an everyday wear, get something you will enjoy. Something that feels right and good. They will last a really long time if cared for. And just to help your brain, do the math - if you wear one of your bras for 50 days of a year for 2 years, that's 100 wearings which means a $100 bra only cost you $1 per wearing. Don't laugh, I do that a lot if I am buying something expensive. Personal brain training .
By the way, this is our mountain. So if you are buying a new car and want to see how it might take a hill should you drive 4 hours to where those things are, you drive this big guy.
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Good morning flappers! So nice to see you Marty Loved your yellow ribbon history, thanks for sharing.
I spoke with my parents this morning! They sound very well. They come home on Friday this week. They are more than ready. Dad started walking this week. He says it's very slow and not pretty, but he's doing it. He is using crutches and taking small steps. He has to still be very careful because of the fracture that is still healing. We have the house almost all ready, will be picking up a wheelchair for him this week and my sister is having the house cleaned.
Here he is! Sorry it's sideways....I can't seem to make it rotate.
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Bailey - What does he mean ' it's not pretty'. He's beautiful!
Thank you for sharing the picture. What a lovely, uplifting, inspirational, handsome fella. I wish him well every step of the way.
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Oh, Bailey, it is so good to see your dad up on his new legs. Since he is also a warrior, it feels like he is a natural member of our group. Please continue to provide updates. I'm sure it is a difficult, long process, but he looks very happy!
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BAILEY!!!!! This time I really am shouting! Your Dad looks so wonderful and happy! Such a cute photo with his Bulls shirt on!
I am so excited for your family and admire your mom and dad!
Marty, I agree. I've had setback after setback and keep moving forward but I've finally learned the difference between moving forward without expectations and to stop struggling so hard to return my life back to the way it was. I am envious of your bras! As a large breasted woman my whole life I've always had bra envy. I love my Bali bras that everyone recommended and will look up the ones you like too. That is a beautiful bridge!
Sweet, love your profile pic. I just mentioned window boxes to my husband. He looked at me and said, you want me to climb two stories to put up window boxes, so I felt bad. But they are so pretty!
Happy Sunday!
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Oh Bailey, the picture of your dad moved me to tears. Thanks for sharing it! He looks happy, and pleased with himself as he should darn well be! With his resolve and perseverance I'm sure he'll be walking around in no time. What a special, courageous man, and what wonderful children you and your sister are to your parents. Keep us posted on his progress, please!
Marty, that Yellow Ribbon song is an old favorite of mine too. So interesting to read a little history about it from the horse's mouth, so to speak. Thanks! Totally agree with your bra theory too. I myself would go bra-less if I could, but seeing that we wear bra's every day, we can just as well buy the most comfortable we can get, no matter what they cost.
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Oh you guys are the best. Making me teary. I will pass on all your well wishes on to them.
It's still cold and plenty of snow on the ground.....with more expected this week....BUT the sun is shining....I'll take that.
Good days, all.
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Fierce - you hit the nail on the head - the struggle to get back to life "before". We have a lot of perceptions of what life was like before DX and not all are really correct, but they are ours. I have know many women, and heard many on these forums, who "just want to get back to what was". They seem terribly upset that it doesn't happen and may be hypercritical of their recon because of it. Like everything in life, each day is a bit different from the last. It alters our "normal". What was yesterday and what will be tomorrow are still our "normal", just different - evolutionary. The trick is to embrace the new normal and not fight it. We need to think of this as an opportunity - an opportunity to be different, better, other. It is kind of like wishing to be 20 again, or 30 (40 or 50 or 100) pounds lighter - sure that may have been our normal at one time, our old self, our "getting back to me" - the person I was before cancer. But really, I can never be 20 again. I can be XX pounds lighter. In my new normal, that is what I am working towards. And to regain the use of muscles that were invaded by implants for 25+ years. And to be more active. That was me before DX when i was 33. I was very active, 30 pounds lighter, on the go, with divergent interests. As I write this, I guess I am trying to get back to that physical me plus the wisdom of 29 years of life post DX.
Bailey - your daddy's walk may not be pretty yet, but once he gets the hang of rockin' and rollin' on those bio-legs he will be something to keep up with. His new normal may not be the legs he had, but these may actually be the best yet!
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bailey,.....your dad is absolutely, spectacularly awe-inspiring and gorgeous......as are you. When he gets home, please give him a hug from me..I no longer have my Dad to hug...your's makes a pretty wonderful substitute.
marty....per usual....wise, compassionate and spot on....."evolutionary" exactly the right mindset. Thanks for sharing that.
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Bailey, what an inspirational and moving photo of your dad! Thanks so much for sharing it with us. I will be thinking of him as we walk around Green Lake this afternoon, a long walk for me.
Marty, "not fighting it" resonated with me. We are always changing, FBC or not. The one " constant" in life is change. I try to go with the flow and decide what is in my control and what isn't, then try to relax. Gratitude is a big deal for me. There are a million things to be thankful for every day and they all add up to feeling much better about life.
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Marty, profound words of wisdom, as usual! I particularly connected with your remark about this being an "opportunity to be different, better, other". I think that accurately describes why I have chosen to keep my hair pixie short. I suppose I am making a statement that this is the new me. I am not the same person I was before this journey, and almost everything is different, inside and out. When I lost my hair to chemo, I had a wig that looked just like my real hair, but I never wore the wig again after my Stage I surgery. That hairstyle and the consuming thoughts about my hair were no longer a part of my life. There was no room for such things! My minimalist hairstyle reflects my minimalist attitude about life. There are few things that are truly worthy of my worry, and hair is no longer one of them. Don't get me wrong, I still care about looking nice, I just don't waste as much time doing it. I am embracing the new me!
Oh, my hair is slightly longer than my avatar, but not much...
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Darn, Zen, I thought you had it pulled back in a bun. You have wonderful features for a pixie and I would be right with you if I could. Last time I tried a really short cut I got caught on the golf course in a rain storm. By the time I made it into the club it was a mass of curls. My DH just looked at me with a very puzzled expression. Neither of us knew just how crazy it would get. As it got whiter and whiter, the curls began looking like some kind of strange halo (not in a good way). I'm a pull it back and go kind of girl much of the time.
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Does anybody else live for NCAA March Madness or am I the only basketball girl here? One of my favorite times of the year!!!
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Sorry, Bailey, no. Sometimes we watch our local teams.
I just realized I have a lot of pictures of my bare boobs on my PHONE! Without nipples, nipples healing with bandages, without bandages. Maybe someday I will post them on picture forum, I don't know. I like to look at them to see how far I've come, I think, but it is dangerous! You know, you're looking for a pic of your granddaughter and someone looks over your shoulder....it's kind of funny, really.
Sure enjoyed our walk around Green Lake today. Chilly breeze but beautiful.
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Ah, the thought of Jeannie sitting on that beautiful bench admiring pictures of her beautiful new boobs. Hope no one looks over your shoulder:).
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Jeannie. Those are beautiful pictures. Are they from today? If so I'm jealous of your weather. For the photos you don't want people to see unexpectedly, there is a free app called Private Photo Vault. You import photos into the app and then delete them from your photo roll. I just started using it, because I have a few surgery pictures on my iPad that I didn't want popping up at the wrong time!
Bailey - that is such a sweet photo of your Dad. He looks happy and confident in his decision. I expect your parents will be happy to be home after all they have been through.
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It's so lovely and GREEN, Jeannie...I love green.
I miss green.
Green is a long lost love lol!!!!
I have the same thing on my phone , Jeannie, and I was going to show Thing 1's FRIEND a picture I took of him and he started leaning in to look and I said, "NOOOO!!!" LoL! Oops!!! I need to get them off the phone and onto the computer!
Thanks, Ridley!
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Wow, ladies, I have missed a lot! Warrior Fiercebird, I'm wishing my brain worked as well as yours does. You are one great woman! Lots of love and prayers coming your way. See you in September. Jeannie, love your smiling face! I hope the pictures on our phones stay safely out of sight. Bosom, it is so wonderful to hear that things are finally going your way with your legal woes. Good triumphs evil, again! Bailey, I love your wit. Thanks for sharing your father's story with us. His courage is remarkable. Nihahi, this yoga class could go viral on youtube, but probably not for our grace and elegance. So sorry for your less than stellar start to spring. Sbe and Liefie keep those grand baby pics coming. Sweet, your picture is great. All of us would recognize you. We are so fortunate to have each other because most outside this elite circle don't get it like we do. Let it make us all the more compassionate and understanding. You are all in my thoughts and prayers. Good night. ...Julie
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Ridley, thanks for the photo hint! I didn't take the lake photos but they look like today. I was wearing a tank top with a sweater and sweatshirt over it---and jeans! The breeze was cool but it was so lovely! We don't usually have great spring weather and we've had so much rain, we all run out and enjoy the sun when we can. I do live in the Evergreen state!
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Jeannie - about 15 years ago I spent the summer working in Seattle for a client. The first time I visited, I could not believe all of the green. It was so fantastic. I will never forget how beautiful it was.
I walked to church today in my parka, that I love, but am really really ready to put away. It was minus 20 with the windchill! We still have piles of snow with patches of brown grass. Thankfully the sky was bright blue.
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Lovely, lovely photo of Mt. Hood in the morning..... sigh.....I don't want to wish away spring and summer, by any means, but I am so looking forward to September!
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Ridley - thanks, you made my morning. Private Photo Vault. Yippeee!
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I am by no means a yoga person. Meaning, I know people who faithfully do it daily. But after my riding accident I needed to get some mobility back and started yoga and continued for awhile but stopped years ago. During this recent brain injury, I lost much of my balance but if I concentrate on grounding myself using tree, mountain, or Sun worship type pose, my balance comes right back. I can even stand on one leg!
My physical therapy people were amazed in the hospital.
Everyone should try yoga even if it's just to learn to focus your brain body harmony.
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fierceblue.... Core strength also helps reduce the risk of falls...aka....the dreaded hip fractures as we age.
jeannie....Now THAT would have been a LOVELY walk to do!!!! So glad you got out and enjoyed it. Dance between the raindrops gal!
W3 Weekend......179 days and counting!!!!! (Movie....I won't need snow clothes will I)
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Marty - hope it works. I just downloaded it on the weekend. So far, so good.
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bailey- your dad looks awesome! Tell him I said go bulls! I dont follow march madnes anymore but I went on a last minute road trip from Iowa to Kansas to watch my college team play. That was a fun time!
Raising hand, ducking head, I am guilty. I want the old skinny me back!!!! I dont even want 20 back.......just 32.......:-) I will continue to fight the weight issue but overall I am pretty cool with who I am today.
I want dh to build me window boxes too but I am not holding my breath. The carpenters wife can get nothing built! lol
Marty- is that the bridge is Charleston? It looks familar.
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This just in from our friends at the IRS....Nihahi may not exist but I exist twice
Can't file online because my SSN has already been filed under.....grrrrrr.....fraud forms to fill out on top of having to file on paper.
Based on my experience the IRS has it out for bc survivors......snort
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bwhahahahaha......ooohhh bailey....I can so sympathize!!!! Honest....your duplicate isn't me, trying somehow to crawl out of the darkness....!!!! How many hoops do YOU now have to jump through??? Do you only have to play with the IRS, or do you get to spend some lovely, memorable moments with SSI??? Hint....start compiling all your documents, back to pre-utero.....with duplicates, official notarized stamps and official signatures, of course.
As for the IRS....
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Bailey, sounds like you are having the same life I am having! Feck the IRS! We should make up T-Shirts....I wonder how long before we'd end up in jail?
Someone wrote (not too long ago)about the PS coming back to them for more $$ because their insurance didn't pay enough.....I remember thinking"Wow! I'm so glad that I have good insurance!".....Fast-forward to last Friday, when a letter appears in my mailbox from the insurance company.....someone representing the Surgery Center where I had all but my DIEP done, had filed an appeal to try and get more $$, as the Insurance had literally paid pennies on the dollar.......said letter contained a sentence that made my blood run cold......"If we cannot get you to bring your payment to the Surgery Center up to reasonable and customary (at 60%-this place was out-of-plan) then we will have to pursue other means of getting reimbursed. Your member(me) is NOT going to be happy when she gets slapped with an additional $15,000 in costs).........*Shit* That did nothing to bolster the weekend spirit! Besides the fact that I have had two siblings come up to visit my 97 year-old mother on her birthday (today).......(and neither one of them can be bothered to watch her so I can leave town for Palm Springs the end of April....they"re "Too Busy".....I don't know with what.....they are BOTH retired!)........ I thought my head was literally going to explode by this morning.....hence this:
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Ha! I THINK I have resolved the insurance thingy.....but my siblings are still jerky!
Bailey-your dad is amazing! I am really impressed! Will try to remember that others are dealing with so much more than I am...AND he's doing it with a SMILE on his face!
Marty, I like the way you think! I saw this and thought of what you said......
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Did someone here mention YOGA? I am the Queen of Wonky Yoga!
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I am feeling just a bit crazy this afternoon.......Love you all!
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Good Lord Movie.....What the "hey" is going on????!!!!!
Honestly, I couldn't cope with the insurance issues that you US gals, have......talk about stress!!!!!! How can they go "back" and try to get money from you???? Hope it stays sorted out.
re: mom...your siblings are scared (maybe), unfamiliar with what needs to be done (could be taught) and selfish....DEFINITELY!!!!!!!! So sorry they are being such toads.
btw....I do LOVE your new avatar...."MWAH"!
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Why, Thank You, Nihahi.......I MAY reconsider and just do this........
Oh man...I HAVE gone over the edge.......
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New phone blues! OK, here goes. We went for a lovely ride yesterday and I documented it for you.
At the top of Sycamore Canyon is a nice mock-up of a Chumash Indian dwelling:
And then we headed down Sycamore Canyon. This area burned big-time last year, and it's just now beginning to green up.
Here's what the trail looks like:
Some struggling California poppies:
And finally, the beach! The little cottage you see on the far left side of the photo is a lifeguard shack, but it's been used in a lot of TV and movie shoots. If you watch NCIS, it was Mike's house in Mexico!
And looking forward to the 8-mile grind back UP the canyon--
Bailey, bless you dad's warrior spirit! We are so proud of him to go to the lengths necessary to experience this new improvement in his life! Give him a huge squeeze from all of us.
And the IRS def knows we're alive, kicking, and earning money. Here's the form we got:
"How much money did you make in 2013? Send it in."
Love you all!
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Yep, Sweet, that is the Arthur Ravanel Bridge over the Cooper River.
Movie - love that crying little girl. I feel that way sometimes. Maybe I should enlarge the photo, print it on card stock and attach a stick to the back so I can wave it whenever the need arises.
SBE - it's starting to green up, really? Wish I had your endurance.
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movie, crazy looks good on you....
Bailey, so sorry for your hassles. I'm thankful we got a good-sized return. They took out too much, it appears. Weird.
Ridley, I am afraid I wouldn't be able to figure out how to post the boob pic to the forum from that app. But maybe I won't anyway. I am feeling more modest these days.
Ha, I learned a Pilates move today at the Y. It felt good but I felt like a klutz. And I'm supposed to remember it and practice at home? What memory??? We also did just a taste of a spin class. Ouchy bum!
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Sbel, I wish I had the thighs to go up and down the canyons.
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Love the pics sbe....!!!!!! I think I'll sit back in the chariot and have you pull me up those trails...looks like some hard, dusty work, but I bet it feels good at the end of the ride, eh!
jeannie....you and sbe can be our pilates people at W3! Good Lord, we may have to stay for a month to get everything in!
bailey....I'm thinking your "green" theme means your MichState team is doing the basketball thing??
I'm going to go eat a tube or two of cookie dough......weather forecast for the rest of the week..snow....
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Jeannie - that does sound like it would take advanced skills post from the app to the forum!!
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This is what I say to the irs......
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Can't fight the IRS or insurance screw ups. This happened to me years ago. I broke my foot 7 years previously. I was working full time with no insurance, but we had insurance through hubby. I was a nurse at a veterinary hospital so I took MY OWN xray, just to see if my freaking hurting foot was broken. It was. I drove myself to doctor, showed him xray, he told me to go to hospital, they looked at xray and said, "nice radiograph!" "yep, it is broken", gave me a stupid flat wooden shoe thing and told me contact an orthopedic. "What, no cast?" I asked "Nah, just go see an orthopedic guy. Here's his number." Had to wait 2 effin weeks to get an appointment with an ortho. even despite telling them my foot was broken. Walking was so painful I made my own cushioned cast thingy at the vet hospital. Finally get to see ortho guy and he says, "Why have you been walking around on a broken foot all this time?" I wanted to kill every single person in this chain of events.
Ok, so the foot bones (....connected to the ankle bones...) heal, We had USHealthcare at the time and we paid all our copay's and hospital deductible. The insurance asks if I have my own insurance and we say no. Never think anymore about it until 7 years later when we get a notice from the IRS that our income tax return is being withheld for non-payment of hospital bill seven years previously. WHAT? It was a good chunk of change too, probably a couple thousand dollars.
I call the hospital and they don't even have a record of me. They purged their records after seven years. I call the IRS and tell them it is over seven years, the hospital doesn't have me in the system anymore, and the IRS basically said, too bad for you. I tried to provide copies of all my paid insurance statements and they were not interested in even spending 5 more seconds on the phone with me. Too bad, so sad, boo hoo. "Hardworking Americans are sick of people slacking on their bills." WHAT?!!!
If I hired a lawyer it would have cost me more and good luck finding a lawyer who will go against the IRS.
It was one of the most frustrating experiences. I took my own xray, got my own diagnosis, the hospital just gave me a phone number which I could have also done myself, and then I get whomped with a having MY OWN money just taken away from me. Grrrr....
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Fierce....For you........
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Fierceblue - you are truly a warrior. I am glad that you are recovering so well.
Bailey- your Dad looks fantastic, except for the Bulls tshirt.
Bosom - I am glad that things worked out so well in court. Looks like karma is definitely on your side.
Good night ladies.
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I'm in with the yoga. Been doing it for years. It's so healthy. I particularly like it over sliced bananas and strawberries.
As for the real thing...my body is like a strong board. Useful in its way, but worthless for bending. This will be interesting.
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Haha gwenny raz'em!
The IRS is watching us right now. I kept trying to type "raz" and autocorrect kept putting in "tax"! Tax'em!
Sbel, I am ridiculously "core strong". I can't bend to sit up. I thought it was just surgery range of motion issues, but turns out I had a pedicled flap on one side and muscles cut. When they told me in the hospital I wouldn't be able to do situps, I thought "who cares, I don't like situps!"
Movie, I meant to add that siblings are jerky! (Well they can be) make YOUR needs known as well! (I know easier said than done.)
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Good morning, sisters!
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omg....you guys are TOO funny....!!!!!!
sweet...I LOVE the "here's to you IRS" pic....totally on target!!!
fierce....noooo, they got you too??? Gosh, I'm starting to feel like part of the "in" group!!!! I did not realize you had a pedicled flap...wowzer...you HAVE been through it, eh!!!!
sbe....I had to read your "i love yoga" post a whole bunch of times before I got it....hahaha....I'm thinking....she's "bent" alright!!!!!! You're probably in a permanent bike position,eh! Thanks for the latest Aubrey pic....is that hair getting more blond or is it just my eyes???? Could NOT sleep last night, guess I was just excited to wake up to ......more snow.....should've eaten that cookie dough!!!!!!!
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Oh my goodness, but you girls are a crazy bunch, and I love ya for it! Sorry for all the troubles with the IRS. It is like a mindless. faceless monster that you are fighting, and there seems to be no winning . . . As for myself, I am tackling the tax monster myself soon as our tax have to be in by end of April, and I have done zero/zippo so far. I HATE doing it with every fibre of my being. It is the bane of my existence every year this time.
Sbe, you are surely strong. I will not be able to do that. Just realized this morning in the gym how much work I still have to do to get as strong as I want to be. Trainer put up an ab and butt bootcamp, and chased me around that circuit. Leglifts, crunches, lunges, squats etc. etc. Afterwards I had to go buy some groceries, and could hardly walk. Moved around the store as if I was 90, but everything was just paralyzed from the waist down - lol. Aubrey is adorable as always!
Fierceblue, every time you post it makes me sooooo happy, even if you tell a harrowing tale. Love your attitude.
So had my pre-op visit yesterday,as well as bloodwork and ECG. Now I'm 'ready' for stage 2 on Monday. Can one ever be ready for surgery? Hopefully it will not be too debilitating or painful. I've had enough of starting over with exercise, and working my strength up again. Enough is enough!
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Sbe...love that little girl! Very jealous of your biking hobby....you will be hard to keep up with on a hike, I can tell already!
Liefie....think of it this way....after this next surgery, you are DONE! You can do it!
Love you ladies!
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Liefie, you will do really well after Stage II, I just know it! You will bounce back quickly.
You know, I feel myself starting to compare my physical fitness with others and I really don't want to. We are all alive, doing what we can. I tell myself, again, "comparison is the thief of joy!" Those of us going to Mt. Hood will be just fine no matter what shape we are in, what activities we do or don't do. OK, off the soapbox....
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Oh. My. Goodness. Ladies, I really didn't post our Sunday outing at Sycamore Canyon to prove how hearty we are...the strength of our massive thighs...the Super-Power fitness we've developed! I just wanted to share our Sunday outing at Sycamore Canyon with you!
Truly, it is all what you're used to. Jogging, swimming, skiing, tennis? I will be gassed and gasping within minutes. Yoga? Hahahaha....wait till you see. Bring any leftover pain meds, I'll need them.
When I ride with women who are much younger and stronger and faster...boy howdy, it hurts. But Jeannie is right. We are who we are, beautiful and unique and powerful in our own ways.
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And now for something completely different...my beautiful DIL and grandbaby, who DOES possess super-powers. Just ask me.
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Oh, Sbel, your family is beautiful! And I can see why you thought my post was a direct reaction to yours. Not. I'm GLAD you posted your canyon pics. You and hubs looked so happy and we can all take joy in each other's experiences. I hope we continue posting. I wasn't writing about any particular posts, just my frustration in sliding into comparisons lately and wanting to be so much more fit than I am....
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good grief what a beautiful DIL and of course Aubrey!!!!! Thank you for sharing!!!
sbe....no problemo AT ALL here, with seeing your pics, and I hope you post many more...goodness knows I post a lot of my outings. You are dead right, when you say it's "what you're used to", and we are all different in that. That is the great thing about so many of us getting together....there will be a wide range both interests and abilities.
Trust me, five minutes of chasing a tennis ball like Tammy...I'd be begging you all to put me out of my misery. Or 15 seconds of bridge....my mind would explode....blow itself to smithereens, it would. No way would I even try to keep up with Liefie and her trainer....couldn't do it....and very honestly....don't WANT to try. The list goes on....we each have our strengths and weaknesses....what would be gained by comparison.
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Hmmmmph! Guess that means the soccer game I was planning for the September gathering is OFF the table..........I was SO anxious to show off my MAD soccer skillz........
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Jeannie, this is for you......
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Love the picture, Sbe!
Love to all......
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okkkaaaayyy....so "moving on" ...... we're going to have coffee at the W3...right....I mean.....please dear lord let there be coffee!!!!! Nobody gets between me and my cuppa in the morning....once I get both feet moving forward...I have a homing beacon for the coffee.....movie...this place has a coffee pot right?????
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Nihahi...yes sir, yes sir, three bags full. I love my warm wakeup in the morning, and it was miserable weaning myself off before DIEP! When I was finally un-addicted I thought "why don't I just stay off the bean?" ...NAH... It's just too much of a great reason to crawl out of bed in the morning.
Too bad most of us have had our ports removed. We could really slam some high octane java, really fast.
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Jeannie, this will make you laugh. My son the radiologist was having fun poking through my old PET/CT scans on the computer. "Mom," he said, "Do you know you have a big-ass appendix?" And, "Wow, look at those thighs."
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See??? I told you!
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Seriously???? Your son made "big thigh" comments???? oh my....not a smart move! Nope, not smart at all!
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Hey, he didn't say BIG, did he??
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I stopped drinking coffee a year ago when I started chemo. It just didn't taste right or set well with me. I just recently returned to Joe and I am in love all over again!!
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I am all about the morning coffe too! I am sitting here this morning counting down the hoir I have to wait before I can have my first cup. I take my thyroid med first thing but have to wait for coffee because it screws up the absorptiin. grrrrrrrrrrrr
Great pictures! I wasn't able to get any good pics when I drove up the mountain yesterday, all foggy and snowing but I snapped some coming back down out the window.
sbe- Oh boy, gotta love our boys.......lol I say go big or go home.......heeheehee
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Sweet, I take thyroid in the morning too, but I hadn't thought about avoiding my cuppa joe for an hour. Does it really mess with the absorbtion? Gah...
It might RAIN a bit today! Turn on the news! "STORMWATCH CALIFORNIA!"
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I take thyroid meds, too, and didn't know about the coffee thing. Hmmmm...
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I never heard about the coffee thing either and have been taking for 22+ years. Sweet, where did you learn about this?
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I've been hypothyroid since I was 16. And drinking coffee since then too! It does not affect absorption. It could if you drank your coffee made with half cream/ half coffee, but luckily I like my coffee with just a splash of something or cremora. Dairy is a fairly new "restriction" with thyroid meds. supposed to hold off an hour or so after taking it. But in having my thyroid bloodwork done for over 30 years, the only thing that truly affects your bloodwork (IMHO) is the time you took your last pill. It has a 3 day life, so you will hormone circulating, but it decreases slowly. If you take your pill and have blood drawn, it can show elevated, but it's just the timing. I've learned to not take my pill before a blood draw and wait until after and the results are more accurate.
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Liefie, you'll do great! Almost done!
I have an appointment today with my PS to see when he can take this f$%@#$^&^*%^$$^ expander out. I actually don't mind the expander and the breast mound looks really good compared to my flap side, but it caused me much consternation and crisis in the hospital when they couldn't do an MRI.
I just want it out right this minute. I am so done with this chit!
Having brain surgery has made me realize how unimportant everything else is to me.
Coffee, now that's important.
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Coffee is what gets me out of bed in the morning. Two big cups, to be precise. So coffee there will be! Will bring some Saltspring Island coffee from our region. Not grown here of course, but roasted, packaged and processed here.
Yes, comparison does steal joy. Decided to stop doing that when my kids were little, and moms were always comparing their kids with other kids. So unfair. Everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses, and there is no 'one size fits all'. How wonderful that each of us is so unique, and that we can each be who we are, reach our potential, and grow in our own way. That's what we should celebrate, right?
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Fierce, when they take the expander out, will the put a small implant in as a "placeholder"? I don't know how much expansion has occurred, but if you've grown some new skin over the expander, won't it be loose and saggy when it comes out?
And I'm pretty sure they make expanders that are MRI compatible. Or are you just DONE and want all the plastic OUT?
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I googled this and found there was a study done and cited in Thyroid magazine linking coffee to reduced levothyroxine absorption. It says to wait one hour after taking your meds before your cuppa. Why can't we just take it at night??? I know it's best taken on an empty stomach. My philosophy is, just get the meds/supplements in the best you can. Better some absorption than none.
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Yep, google it and you will see the study. The nurse at my doctors office told me to wait. Heck though, if you guys are drinking coffee, I might as well to.
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Fierce, I can certainly understand your change in perspective. Boobs certainly must feel so much less important than your brain. I am so happy to see your feisty spirit!!!! I think perfect boobs are not important to me vs. my eyesight. Thus, no more OR. Tattoos, yes.
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Fierce, was the MRI problem related to the port in the TE? I had many MRIs with implants. Never a problem. Now, an echocardiogram - that was a not go.
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Yes, the complications in the hospital and during surgery were from the expander. It has metal in the port.
Saw my PS team yesterday and got lots of hope again. He told me not to let the Russians rush me. He thinks I should continue with reconstruction/revisions and he will make it so. He told me if I changed my mind (i have an open mind now-pun intended) and need the expander out to call him and he would get me into the OR in a day or twos notice and get the TE out. His assistant pulled me aside and told me her daughter had brain cancer 14 years ago and is doing well.
It was just what I needed to hear. Those Ruskies scared me to pieces.
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Fierce - Thank heaven for your PS. I was so worried that you would rush, unnecessarily, into something and be disappointed later. Just breath. Spring is here. A great time for sitting back and letting the world float around you. The best decisions will come when needed.
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Well...I took my thyroid this morning and delayed my coffee...just long enough to walk downstairs and pour a cup. Oh, well. My thyroid levels in the lab tests are OK, so I guess if it ain't broke, don't fix it.
But the Femara (letrozole) I take has shot my cholesterol up. I have a family hx of high cholesterol and heart disease, and all my life it hovered around 200--a little elevated, but I have a high HDL too, so nothing to worry about. The first testing after a year of Femara it was 254. Yikes! So I've cut out most dairy (and I really love milk) and started red yeast rice. It's down to 220, and I'm resisting suggestions to go on a statin. I don't need more pills, thank you.
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Ive been taking thyroid meds for over 30 years. Delay my coffee or this?
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Catie - someone on a FB group I am a part of suggested adding 1 tbsp of organic cider vinegar with the mother to a cup of warm water and drinking in the morning to reduce cholesterol. Had my first cup this morning - all I can say is Oy! So relish!
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marty....I'm not sure if there are a bunch of typos in your message, or if the vinegar left you a wee bit "pickled"
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Fierce, I have to agree. It will have to be life-threatening for me to delay or give up coffee. Lol.
Nihahi, you are too funny. Have to say Marty's post has me scratching my head a little too.
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I really am only slightly nuts. Mother is the "mother of vinegar"that is floating on top - look at an organic bottle. It def was not "relish" nor was it "delish". Oy!! Not sure how long I can keep this up.
Vid was great. Makes me so happy I get to do a slow roast down here in the summer.
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Fierce, it is really good to hear your good news! We will celebrate while we are drinking our coffee in September. We surely do not want to see that wolf. Sounds like there could be a few of them without some good coffee!
Marty, let me know if that ACV works. I'm going to need something if letrozole raises my cholesterol. Of course, the 10-15 pounds I've put on probably hasn't helped either.
Nihahi, your video was so good. I think most of us need a +1 in our seven day forecast. Love you ladies!
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Hysterical video, Nihahi. You could do something like that here, only it would be with rain.
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drive by.....Mom and Dad are in Canadian airspace....couple more hours to Chicago.....then home this evening!!! Can't WAIT!!!
Love to all.
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How wonderful, Bailey! Give your dad a big hug for us. And be sure to tell him he looks very young for his age! He must be doing something right!
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So sorry for not posting earlier. Going through a tough time, but there is a lot of sunshine too!! Leaving for Michigan tomorrow. I've had a great time with my grandchildren, but time for me now.
Bailey- what great news about your parents. Are you feeling better? GO MICHIGAN STATE.
Fierce- I am so relieved to hear your "voice" on here. You have been through so much and we were all thinking positive for you.
Nihahi- beautiful pics. I've not done yoga before but I can certainly try. Looking forward to September.
Jeannie- my son was here visiting and is on his way back to Seattle as I write this. We had a wonderful visit. It was hard to see him walk into the airport today. We will be coming out just after Labor Day. I love your new avatar. I need to change mine.
I will try to keep up when I get home. Take care everyone.
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My four year old grandson Edward!! That is what I looked like at that age--lol
Trevor with Grandpa
These are the two grandsons that kept Grandma grounded and sane for that month in SA!!
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FierceBluebird - Your last post was great! So glad that you've got your team working with you, and that the Rushin' Russians aren't standing in the way of progress and hope.
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Beautiful g'kids, Kat....beautiful g'ma too!
bailey....you and your entire family must be over the moon happy with being together again!!! Such an incredible experience for your mom and dad...so glad the surgery has gone well, and he is home and healthy and happy. Have a wonderful weekend!!!!
cherrie...Sorry for the "tough times"...hope you are well and things get better, whatever is standing in your way at the moment. Travel safely, please bring some Florida sunshine to the north!!!
So much snow still in the mountains...it was a great ski yesterday....might actually go again next week!
It's the weekend for all the working gals.....it's actually sunny here at the moment....have GREAT DAYS EVERYONE!
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sbe.....heard about the quakes today in Cali.....hope you didn't get too rattled
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Beautiful photos, Nihahi! And Bailey, how thrilling that your parents are on their way home. They are truly towers of strength and determination to do this.
Yes, we had a couple of quakes lately but we haven't felt a thing where we live.
Kat-ski, gorgeous grandbabies.
Busy day today...drive-by posting...
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M&D home safely with only an hour delay on their last flight, so that's pretty good. So glad they are here. Communication was limited while they were there and we are getting the whole story and picture and it was a very difficult time for them. They say they are too old to have done this. But it's done. And despite the difficulties, I really believe it was the right decision and a good decision. They do, too, but they are still too tired and close to it, I think. I went over and helped Mom unpack and did most of the laundry for her and got the tv working. Dad was doing their taxes. My sister and BIL stopped and brought dinner for them.
I've spent the last several hours doing the picture boards for Thing 1's Eagle Scout party next month. They are done.....so happy.
Ok gnite my dear friends. Love to each.
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liefie.....thinking of you, girl....I know this LAST SURGERY will be a huge milestone, and you will spend your time and energy moving on and "living life"!!!! Sending you mega hugs....(((((((((X)))))))))
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So excited for you, Liefie! Like Nihahi said, you are so ready to get this done and keep moving on. In your pockets!
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onward bosumblues.......
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In your pocket, Liefie.
Bosumblues.....it's always something (said Roseanne Rosannadanna). Hugs. You keep finding your way, despite all the yuckery.....keep on finding it.
Jeannie, still praying for the victims out there near you. What a tragedy. So sad.
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Thanks, Bailey. Everybody's heart is heavy around here for the victims and their families. The response, though, has been amazing! So many volunteers, food, supplies, money collected. It is going to be a long ordeal. I know two people who have lost friends in what was a beautiful area. It's really mind boggling.
BosomBlues, thinking of you. I keep hoping for you....
DH had a good interview today but with a company that expects lots of extra hours worked, up to 70 a week at times! Not the kind of situation we were hoping for. We'll see what happens. His other two possibilities that went so well have been silent. It's getting old but we're still hopeful.
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YAY Deb!!! So happy for you. I have one permanently damaged eye and one good eye. I am glad I can still drive, read, etc. It is just a nuisance so far.
DH was just told (after I posted) that the job he interviewed for and wanted a couple weeks ago has been divided into two junior positions instead of one senior so he's not eligible. They said he was impressive, though. That's the kind of thing that happens. Weird stuff, out of his control, certainly.
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Deb, I just take a low dose aspirin at night for the eye. No plan, no treatment, just keep BP on an even level, avoid sedation if possible or be closely monitored. Since nobody knows why it happened, I do wonder about the other eye, like there is an eye sword and cancer sword and who knows what else sword hanging over me. But life cannot be fully lived and enjoyed like that so I put those thoughts away for the most part. As for hubs and me, we are enjoying being together, for sure. We know we will enjoy being together in retirement, if we ever get there! A job to retire FROM would be required first!
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Hi guys, did not read any posts, but just want to thank you all sincerely for your good wishes today. I'm already back home, grumpy, weary and miserable from the aneasthesia and then the 3-hour drive home. Will be going to bed shortly before I bite off somebody's head - LOL. Everything has gone pretty well, and so far there is no pain anywhere. Got a nipple, a lift on the other side, and a little liposuction on the side of the tummy scar where it was a little puffy. Will only get to see my new assets in a few days' time when the bandages come off.
Will be back here tomorrow when I feel more like my old self. A good night to all of you!
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love ya, liefie...rest easy!
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rest easy Liefie!
deb- hoping things turn around for you soon!
nihahi- most awesome super hero gal!
I have put myself on a liquid diet with one meal a day now. Nothing else is working and I continue to gain weight. I am up to 206lbs. now which is six pounds more than last week. I don't understand this at all and the docs aren't helping either. They keep saying to eat less and more more. Well dropping down from 1300 to 800 to see if that changes things. All my life I never had a weight problem until now.
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hi guys! I go in for nipple, fat grafting, and surgical biopsy on good breast tomorrow. Hoping all goes well!
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Oh, Sweet. That just isn't right! I'm sorry.
Mammalou, in your pockets! You've come such a long way!
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Wow, I just realized I blew right past March 29, the 2 year anniversary of my bmx, without even noticing. Now that's moving on!
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Just a quick update. Had an appt. with a specialist yesterday who didn't leave me feeling too positive. Wants me to have whole head radiation, and I'm already scared of the gamma knife which is one day radiation.
Lots of critical decisions to make and not strong enough to make them. I Keep praying for a sign to tell me what to do, but so far no one's listening. Or more likely I'm not listening.
Good luck mammalou. Liefie rest up. Bailey, hooray! And everyone else, hugs
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Fierce, it sounds like you need your gang of bluebirds to help you through this, so I have changed my avatar back to the "gang sign". I will be praying for strength and a sign to guide you. (((((Hugs)))))
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yep....in your pockets mammalou....will be sending positive thoughts your way.
jeannie...that is some AWESOME moving on....I think it shows your determination that this yuckery is NOT going to become your life.
sweet...I can hear the frustration in your words. Wish I could just reach through the computer and give you a huge hug. I confess, I will worry about you on such a restricted diet, healthwise and happiness wise. 800 calories....not sustainable and will screw up your metabolism even more, in my opinion. Have you already tried something built around real food, like weight watchers?? You can do it on-line, I believe. Please, be careful with how you do this. I do understand how much you want to turn the weight gain around, do you understand how much your family and we here want you to be ok while doing it????
fierceblue....yes, it does sound scary...sometimes I think we look so intensely for a "positive", and it's hard to find, because the way to get there is so difficult. Maybe the positive is they want to "ensure" a future, instead of implying there is none? I can only offer a heartfelt prayer, a hand to hold and a TOWANDA mindset. Can you get more opinions to help you choose a plan of tx???
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Fierce, I never knew they did whole head radiation . . . but you are in my thoughts and prayers, and have been every day for the last few weeks. What a hard decision you have to make! Maybe think of it as an investment for the future? You've been through so much already. This #$%^&^*% disease is like a stalking monster. Just when you think you're safe it rears its ugly head again. (((((((((((((FierceBluebird))))))))))))
Mammalou, you will breeze through this part, and we are in your pockets!
I slept well, and have a little uncomfortable feeling in the lifted breast, and on the lipo hip this morning, but I can't even call it pain. That would be a lie. Looked at the girls in the mirror last night. At last have symmetry again for the first time since Feb. 7, 2012 when I had the mastectomy, and my cleavage (the little that I have!) has been evened out. It is amazing how the PS has judged just how much to lift and shift the healthy breast to match the other one. They are exactly the same size and height now - pretty pleased so far.
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That's WONDERFUL liefie....!!! So happy for you. I'd say do the "happy dance", but that might be a bit too "jostling" today....Bet there is a great big smile on your face..! Hugs, girl......a bit of healing to do and you will put this all in the "done" bin, and get on with the Grandma thing. Speaking of....how is little Em???
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Fierce, this is a challenging time for you, and we're all supporting you on our raft of friendship. Not just in your pockets...we're holding you up through these tough days and hard decisions. You're in my prayers every day, but I'll be asking specifically for guidance and assurance that you'll chose the best for you.
Liefie, I'm so thrilled you're almost on the other side of this very tall speedbump! Gentle healing and restful recovery right now.
Mammalou, safe surgery and good recovery wishes coming your way. When you can pry your eyes open, let us know how you're doing.
Jeannie, I know something good is just around the bend for your hubs and his job hunt. It's just your turn now for good news... And you're such a model of "hanging in there" with everything that's been happening in your life!
Hey, Sweet, we've probably talked about this before, but have you had your thyroid checked? Low thyroid is very common in women our age, especially if you've had radiation. You might consider seeing an endocrinologist to help get this sorted. NO ONE should be gaining six pounds in a week on 1300 cal/day, and dropping to 800 is a bad idea. You'll put your system into starvation mode, which makes weight loss much harder.
Nihahi...TOWANDA for us all!
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Sweet, I echo Nihahi & SBE. I know you are on thyroid meds, but perhaps you need to switch from synthroid to armour. They do work differently. See if you can find a functional medicine doc who can tackle many of the underlying issues. Please don't drop to 800 cal/day, so many opportunities for it to backfire. Have you eliminated those delicious items that really don't love the body - grains, rice, dairy, sugars. Things that are inflammatory to the system. Clean and simple, though well spiced. I read Amy Myers blog, Paleo Solution, marks daily apple. If I eat dairy or grains, my weight jumps and it is really mostly bloating (yeah - coupled with swelly belly from DIEP and life is such fun). The most important thing is that it doesn't have to "cost a lot". I am sure you have already thought of many of these, but just trying to help a bit.
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FierceBluebird, remember you are fierce even when you don't feel like it. You are going to continue kicking cancer's a$s out of your body. Can you hear all the wings fluttering around you? We are with you in spirit, praying for you, hurting with you, hoping with you. I am praying specifically that you will be able to make the right decision soon so you can turn the corner. Then you just have to show up and you will. My heart hurts for you but I am also confident in your inherent spunk. May God wrap His arms around you and whisper in your ear.
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Fierce- praying that you will find peace about what is right for you. Please forgive my blabbering about my weight when you haveso much on you right now.
I took a look at my food diary and I am still eating to much sugar, bread, and red meat. I have portion control down, I need to make the hard break from sugar and white flour. I have looked at weight watchers and maybe I will go that route. Dont want to pay for it I guess.
I am going to talk to my doc about my thyroid meds next visit, they may need to be changed. Thanks for listening guys.
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Sweet, I struggled to lose weight for a long time after ca treatments were done. Then I decided to cut all white carbs, potatoes, pasta, bread etc, as well as all sugar, cold turkey. Only then did the weight start to come off. It is a daily struggle for me to stay away from bread, and I love baking, but the moment I eat it the weight comes right back. I also try to drink nothing containing any calories. Hope that helps a little.
Bosum, I'm sure you will be just as thrilled with your results as I am. Don't know how the PS did what she did, but the result is just amazing.
Fierce, that thank you heart is impressive! Best wishes on your decision - can't be easy, and we're praying for you.
Jeannie, your positive, sunny attitude and amazing spirit in the face of hardship are so inspirational on this board. I love it, and pray that hubby will find a good job. It is out there, and will find him sooner or later. Wilbur did not visit me yesterday though - wonder what he was doing? LOL.
Thanks for being there for me, girls, and yes, Nihahi, I have a big smile on my face. Had a wonderful bath this morning in shallow water, careful not to get the dressings wet. Tried to scrub off the black lines that PS used to mark me up yesterday. Got off most, but some are too close to the incisions, so they will stay for a while. I have two very red cheeks still from the anesthesia drugs - it always has that overheating effect on me, and I've been hot since yesterday after surgery. A small price to pay!
Little Emily will be 5 weeks old tomorrow - time is flying! She is an easy baby, putting on weight, eating well, and DD is going out with her now. We will be visiting them over the Easter weekend, and my two boys and DIL will be there as well. Then an extra bonus: SIL will be starting a master's degree in July at a distance ed university here on Van Island. That means they will be coming out here for three whole weeks in July. He will be in Victoria, and DD and Em will stay with us - can't wait.
Movie and I have been discussing some issues regarding our Wilbur get together. The more we talk, the more excited I get. Really looking forward to meet all of you, and spend time doing nice things together. TOWANDA!
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Sweet, I've been using Livestrong.com for years. It's a website on which you can track your meals--calories, fat, carb, protein, etc. It's free. And like Liefie, when I indulge in high-carb foods, it's almost impossible for weight to come off. I know the typical dietary recommendations include several daily servings of "whole grains," but I can only eat a serving or so each day--I'm just built that way. I also stopped drinking diet soda during chemo. It was too sweet for me, and I haven't gone back except for the occasional glass of diet ginger ale.
Of course, when I was in my twenties I could just think about walking around the block and the weight would drop off. Not fair!
Liefie, I bet you're planning, planning, planning for that baby's visit in July. What a wonderful time you'll have! Aubrey is eight months old now and turning into a little girl before my eyes. The circle of life.
Fierce, this is me, gently laying my hands on your head and praying. Strength. Direction. Peace.
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Sweet - if I smell anything like a "grain-whole or otherwise" I immediately gain. Same goes for quinoa. Rice is a tiny bit better. I have used Livestrong to track as well as My Fitness Pal. The important thing is to track everything you put into your mouth. Don't blame the red meat - it is good protein. And walk at least 30 min every day. I am trying to get back to that. I like MFP because several other survivors were able to form a private support group. The frustrating thing for me about MFP was that if you however many calories you burned through exercise, you were entitled to that many more calories in food a day. Somehow I thought a bit of a calorie deficit was needed to lose. Both programs let you input your own recipes and set the nutrient intake levels. That really helps me before and just after surgeries when I am trying to really raise the protein. I think now I have my protein level at 30%, carbs at 30% and fat at 40%. Def time for me to get back to it. If you want to join me in a private MFP group, just PM me with your screen name and I will see what I can do. Always good to have friends!
A waitress I met recently told me that she had just lost 80 lbs. She looked amazing. I asked her how she did it totally expecting something crazy. And it was - she walked from her house to the neighboring golf course and then had to walk home - a total of 90 minutes a day. She did add in some portion controls, but really didn't vary her diet.
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Fiercebluebird....our dear friend....I wish I could look into your beautiful face and give you a piece of peace and strength and a smile and a hug.
Answers will come. We are with you, friend.
Mammalou.....prayers for you, too.
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Just a drive-by....this week has turned into a nightmare for me......maybe a fill-in later on it.
Fierce....sending love and strength and prayers your way.....we are holding you up, dear friend......float on that life raft as long as you need to. We are here for you.....TOWANDA!
Jeannie, you are always in my prayers.....and I am hoping for positives in bushels coming your way!
Like Liefie said...the planning stage has begun.....to September countdown!
Love, Love, LOVE you ladies.....couldn't do it without you! XO
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bluebird... Prayers for you that you can have some clarity on what to do. I can only imagine how scared and uncertain you are right now. I read this written by a doctor once and it stuck with me.
Larry Norton, M.D.
Deputy Physician-in-Chief for Breast Cancer Programs; Medical Director, Evelyn H. Lauder Breast Center; Norna S. Sarofim Chair of Clinical Oncology, Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center
If you have trouble making a decision, you don’t know enough. If you gather enough information, the decision will make itself.
Make sure you communicate. You need to say to your doctor, “I’m here to get better,” not, “Don’t hurt me.” If you’re communicating that you are not interested in toxicity, then you may miss out on a treatment that could save your life.
If you don’t like your doctor, your doctor probably doesn’t like you. Don’t stay with a physician with whom you’re not comfortable. Don’t force a relationship to work that isn’t working.
You want a doctor to say, “Here are the best options for you,” not, “ This is what I can do for you.” Doctors should be willing to look beyond their own knowledge to other experts for the best treatment.
When you think of your future, visualize positive things happening.
You are more than your body. Use your whole self to help yourself.
Don’t forget the moment. Be in the moment and enjoy it. Sometimes patients get so focused on what happened in the past or what might happen in the future, they miss the moments they have.
Hang in there.
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Had a long day of surgery yesterday.
I've been going thru liver testing for a long while and got the liver is ok 3 weeks ago. Then had annual good breast MRI and it showed a lesion and a suspicious mass in my right breast that was supposedly missed last year in a biopsy I had. To think, I worried about that biopsy a lot Last year, got benign results, then walked around for year not knowing it was still there. I was supposed to have a 6month follow up MRI but my insurance didn't approve.
Had a ct of liver last week and lesion of the liver is a cyst (yea!) and I have fatty liver from Tamoxifen.
Had surgery to remove breast lesion AND I got a nipple (yea again) , fat grafting to foob, fat to new biopsy hole created and he added some fat to my yucky ab scar from that open wound. He is trying to soften it up so he can revise it later. Thus time he took fat from outer thighs and it doesn't seem to hurt as much as the inner tighs.
Anyway, I'm gonna take today off but I'm hoping to ho back to work tomorrow.
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Mammalou....you sound great! That's a lot of "bits and pieces" done for you yesterday....rest up and heal! You have always amazed me in your drive to "get back to it" after surgeries. Hoping for good news on the lesion....congrats on the nipple!
Thank you so much for posting that article. What a wonderful physician he must be...wise, wise, wise words.
Big hugs, movie....whatever is going on....make sure to care for yourself too.
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Thanks everyone for all the positive thoughts and good advice. mammalou so happy your are done! Keep us posted.
Going to a brain support group meeting tonight. All of us smart people have to stick together.
Hope to find gather more information to help with my decision. As of right now I'm on board for WBR.
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fierce...that group sounds like a great source of support and info. Hope it turns out to be a good group of fellow brainiacs!
I realized today I'm making myself "mental" over the nip recon....(granted, not much of a stretch....). I called the PS office and said....just put me on the schedule....just do it. So.....April 14...nipple and minor fat graft. It will be 2 days after my one year flapperversary....TOWANDA!!!!!!
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nihahi, you will sail through it and wonder what all the stress was about, I bet.
Fierce, good for you! Hope you get some answers and meet some brain-fastic people there.
Movie,
(. Hope your week improves.Thanks for the kind words, friends.
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I have not had time to go back and read posts, but I think of you all so much. I am back in Michigan. Carter is 6 weeks old now. I tried to put a pic up, but have not been successful. Please forgive my sporadic postings. I don't mean to disconnect, but I have shut down lately. I am kicking my butt and doing better. I can't get that song, SEE YOU IN SEPTEMBER, out of my mind.
Here are my babies! I love them so much. Elly just turned three and Carter is 6 weeks old.
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Nihahi, glad you were able to get a date. I know you will feel so good to be done.
Fierce, the brainiac group sounds like a great idea. Still praying for you to get clarity on the next step.
Cherrie, beautiful grandchildren. No wonder you have been so distracted. I hope you find your way to a good place soon. You have been through so much, I know you can overcome this. Hugs.
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my daughter and I just peeked at nipple. She was amazed at how real it looked!
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Yay, Mamalou!
Cherrie, what beautiful babies. I'm so glad you've been able to spend good time with them. I know you miss your kids so much. Time for you and Tony now!
Boy, I wish I had more stamina. I'm working on it but it's slow. Keep on truckin,' as my Deadhead brother would say.
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Jeannie..."like the doodah man!" Now I'll have that song stuck in my head. Lol
Adorable grandbabies!
Yay for nipples and future nipples.
Got lots of good information tonight. Going to sleep on it. Goodnight dearhearts!
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Cherrie, beautiful grand babies! Mammalou, so happy to hear your good news! Liefie, so happy you are happy with the final results. Fierce, praying for direction for you. Hope that support group can provide some valuable information.
Sweet, I'm with you on that steady weight increase. Guess the carbs are gonna have to go. Check out Whole30. I'm going to give it a shot in about three weeks. It's free. I need to get the stuff out of the house and only have the good stuff around. Two and a half months in Florida with friends that love to eat and very little willpower. I know exactly why I have gained. In the best nutrition class I ever attended, I was told to never go below 1200 calories a day. It worked. Really hoping they can take that class to the internet as I don't live in that area anymore.
Jeannie, when that new job comes along you and your hubby will know why the others didn't work out. It's just the waiting that is so hard. Deb, keep on keeping on. Hope you find the right PS. Bailey, hope things are going better now that your folks are home. That was a LOT for them to do. They have more determination than most people I know in their 50s and 60s to do what they did. Movie, hope your week is getting better.
Fierce, keep being fierce. The heart was so wonderful.
Has anyone found good flights for September? Love you all. ...Julie
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Julie, I am looking for flights into Seattle and they are close to $400. Ouch!! I will be coming down with Jeannie, Nihahi, and Liefie. Really looking forward to this.
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haha, Fierce, doodah man, indeed! Throw a little tie dye on and we're ready to go. I'm so glad you got some more info to inform your decision.
Mamalou, praying about that pesky lesion.
Julie, good to hear from you! You are such an encourager.
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fierce....that's great news to hear about the brainiacs being a good fit. Hope you had a good sleep, and woke up ready to "punch and weave" like the prize fighter you are.
cherrie....gorgeous kiddies... Hope you find some energy and positive mindset, now that you're back at "home base" for awhile.
I've been keeping my eye on flight costs....they actually have dropped a bit since I started looking, but I'm not sure how much longer I'll wait before I "pounce". Anybody already "bought"?? Flight costs are just stupid!!!! Wasn't someone here supposed to win the lottery to create a travel/fun fund??? I'm sure that was the plan.
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Hey! I had to bring one of my kitties to the vet. While I was in Texas, she lost 3 pounds. She is 10 years old and weighs 7. It seems to be her liver. Xrays didn't show anything. She still eats and drinks like she always has. When I came home, all she did was yell at me for taking her to the vet. Yeah that is normal for her.
I am still very tired and having the extra wound care doesn't help. I feel so alone at times because I am doing this by myself again. Stage 2 isn't even in sight now.
I wish I could afford to join you all on your getaway but money is so tight. Well, I will get off my soapbox for now.
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I'm reading to keep up but not posting much......so busy from rise to fall (out and into bed) I can't see straight.....it'll pass......not for a while but it'll pass.
Yay for Mammalou and good news.
Fierceblue.....you are "Blue, the Most Fierce of the Fearsome"....glad you got information...it's our most powerful tool in this battle.
(((MOVIE))))
I am watching flights too.....been running $400 so I have not booked. If/when people see a deal please post!
Love to all..
Bailey6760
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I wish I could go on getaway, but my DD is getting married in Chicago on September 20th. Then, my 2 twin girls will be married. Time for some grand babies!
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Bailey and Cherrie, will you be flying out of Detroit? When we first started talking about this , tickets were $268. I hate it when I procrastinate ! I just heard recently that the best time to buy tickets is seven weeks in advance. I'm not sure I'm willing to wait that long.
Bosom, we are meeting for a weekend on Mt. Hood, Oregon in September. Wilbur's Women. Movie has done all the work. I have lost count on how many are going, but maybe Movie can update us.
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Lol, bosom. I can't guarantee there won't be some show and tell among us girls, but I don't plan on showing them in any public places. Now if it was New Orleans, maybe...
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Bosom, that's funny! I think as time has gone on since getting nipples, I have become more modest and protective of my boobs, maybe because they feel more like me instead of just appendages or "add-ons!"
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Kat, good luck with your kitty. Did the vet mention fatty liver disease or lipidosis? It's fairly common in older cats but must be treated quickly with fluids and proper food. Cats are obligate carnivores and have delicate metabolisms. When they get out of whack, they lose weight quickly. (I was a vet nurse for many years)
Glad to hear she is happy to be back home and be sure to rest up and take care of yourself too!
Bailey, thanks for the spark! Not feeling too confident these days. Hubby is out of town and really missing him. He's been my rock (and you girls too) but the nights seem extra long and anxiety filled lately.
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deb, I have no idea how to post on there, either.
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FierceBlueBird, of course, it's perfectly understandable to be anxious, especially without hubs there. You have a challenge in front of you and hubs can be a great buffer. We're all climbing in your bed with you, it's gonna be crowded in there, especially if we bring our pets! A beautiful red-tailed hawk has been landing on our patio table or fence by our family room; I always think of you when I see him. We think we hear two so maybe there is a nest in our backyard forest. As long as they don't grab our little dog, I like having them there. Makes me feel closer to you, our FierceBluebird.
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Anyone else out there paddle the dragon boat? I went out with a mixed cancer survivor's group on Wednesday. How fun! The sun was setting, the water glassy and we gliding so beautifully through the water. Wow! Can't wait for next week.
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It sounds great, Marty!
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Oh I'm in on the slumber party!!! You dog lovers would love me dogs .....and I would love yours!!
Lean your precious head on my shoulder Bluebird....we gotcha.....try to sleep....we'll hold your worries for you tonight, friend
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I didn't get any sleep at all! But it was lots of fun at the pajama party!
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Ah, Fierce, I'm sorry we kept you awake! Nap for you today.
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Hi everyone! There is no way for me to catch up all that I've missed here. Just want you all to know that I am still around and can't wait until September! Oh, love the "heart felt thanks" blue.
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Hi All,
I hate to come in here and talk about something that is not about "Moving On," but I have an question that is very important to me. I have been doing a lot of research since my original mastectomy about "iron bra" and what causes it. I once completely believed that it was from implant reconstruction, but recently it has come to light that might not be the case, and I am getting a little upset. There is a group of women with Post Mastectomy Pain Syndrome that have started a group, and they have been diligently collecting research, and compiling their own stories, and it has come out in a new study that there are definitely two nerves that get cut during a mastectomy that cause many problems for a very large amount of women who have mastectomy, and even large lumpectomies.
At one time I had asked the group how many of you had iron bra, and how many of you felt better after your flap surgeries. It was almost 100 percent of you that had suffered with iron bra that said you felt a lot better, if not totally. I just wanted to put the question out there one more time. Maybe I research too much, but I have been suffering a long time. I am going to attach the latest article on the topic. http://www.ascopost.com/issues/february-15,-2014/postmastectomy-pain-effectively-treated-with-a-simple-injection.aspx
Some women have actual nerve pain, and tightness. Some just have nerve pain. Some just have tightness. But, it is finally coming to light that it should not be ignored.
There are a few women who have come into this pain group and believe a flap surgery might help them, while other's are against it. I almost wish they never found me, because they are sending negative thoughts my way. Ugh!!!! Sorry guys. Just needed to talk to you, the ones that are done, and healed, and see how you feel. I am not expecting to feel like nothing every happened to me. I know that is too much to ask. I just want some relief.
BTW, to those of you that I don't get to see anymore. I miss you. I am glad there is a place where you all gather. Very cool.
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Tammy...I ordered the oils for the sleep cream from Rocky Mountain Oils--they seem to have comparable formulations, and are quite a lot less pricey. I'll whip up a batch when they come in the mail and let you know if I sleep any better with spicy feet!
Goldie, I never had expanders or implants, but even still...a year after my DIEP, I have sensations of tightness and pressure where the flaps were "installed." It's not pain. It's not even uncomfortable, at least most of the time. It's just...there, and a bit more intense on the side where I had so much radiation damage. My guess is that it will fade over time and my brain, doing what brains do, will learn to accomodate the new girls.
Fierce, I hope this afternoon finds you napping peacefully.
Poor little Aubrey has a cold! I babysat Wednesday evening and her little button nose was all red and snuffly, and she was sneezing cute little baby sneezes. She refused to take a bottle, probably because she couldn't breathe through her nose when she tried to suck. So I put some formula in a little cup and she guzzled like a sailor.
Here's Jerry on our night ride last night. It was pretty chilly, but we saw a bunch of squatty birds (Common Poorwills) and a huge green toad.
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aw, goldie....I'm so sorry you are struggling on this path. I know how much you are hoping the flap surgery will resolve the pain issues for you. I'm sure you have discussed this with your PS, and likely you wouldn't have proceeded with planning the flap surgery if he wasn't encouraging. I don't think any responsible surgeon could "guarantee" what affect the flap surgery will have though, especially in regards to a syndrome that is not completely understood. I read the article, and it is interesting. Do you have your OR report from your mx? It should report the nerves being visualized, and also say how they were handled. What the article promotes as tx, certainly is less invasive than flap surgery, maybe you can discuss trying it with your surgeon before May 5??? I don't think a nerve block would have much of a downside pre-flap surgery, should it not work, but I have NO idea if it would help. I honestly don't know if "iron bra" and post-mx pain syndrome are the exact same issue, but here is my story again.
I don't remember having "iron bra" type pain/sensation after my mx or first implant, but I certainly had a lot of discomfort from the tissue expander process. I don't remember having it the first year or so with the second implant after the first one ruptured. I DO remember the iron bra sensation starting before I could visually or physically detect the capsular contracture though, so I believe mine was more connected to that scenario. As the capsular contracture became worse, so did the pain. I was pretty "unwell" in hospital right after my flap, but I do seem to remember that the iron bra progressively felt like less and less of an issue, starting as soon as I was with it enough to be aware of it. The pain/sensation has been completely resolved now for months.
Can you try to get in to talk to your PS again, pre-surgery. Open forums will always have a variety of opinions, but I personally, put more value in opinions offered by people who have actually gone through the same steps as I have, so I wouldn't put much weight to women discounting flap surgery if they haven't had it themselves. My constant advice would be to stay away from Dr. Google, imho.
Hope you find the answers you are seeking.....hope even more...you find relief from the pain.
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sbe.....love the story of your nighttime ride. I saw 4 eagles today on my run. Baby's with stuffy noses and head colds are just heartbreakers, eh!!! Hope Aubrey feels better soon.
tammy.....you don't have to post everyday to be "one of us"....been thinking about you lately...hope spring has found PA for you. Yep....the countdown to W3 is coming along!!!! Can't wait to meet up.
fyi....DID I MENTION THE SUN IS SHINING HERE AND IT HAS BEEN ABOVE ZERO SINCE I GOT OUT OF BED!!!!!! WOOHOO!!!!!!!
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Great weather news, Nihahi!
Sbel, poor Aubrey but good on you for offering your precocious girl the cup. Jerry sure looks happy in that photo.
Hi, Tammy! No worries for those not checking in often.
Goldie, I had iron bra for the fifteen months I had expanders after bmx. The pain did ease some over that time period. I did NOT have it after DIEP which was in July. I do get nervy sensations in my boobs, not my rib cage, from time to time but it's not a big deal at all. I hope your pain is relieved, too. I personally wouldn't listen much to women who haven't had DIEP, like Nihahi said. I read of lots of women who are uncomfortable with expanders or implants; not so much for flaps.
Kind of a discouraging day. Hubs lost out on some opportunities this week. Time is ticking. Some things have to change soon. Also, my brothers and I have come to the conclusion that we have to make my parents move to a senior facility after my mom flooded their rental home for the second time because she plugged the sink, turned on the water, forgot and walked away. Their irate landlord called my brother today. He's done. My dad, who can barely walk, insists he's a good driver but he isn't. Both of their memories are fading. Dad will be 88 next month and so far refuses to go to "one of those places to die." I understand, but that is the best option. They say it's too cold up here so San Diego near my brother it is. No other idea is working out. Time to call them.
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Nihani, you think the OR report would give information about the nerves? I didn't even think they were taken into account during surgery, and that is why so many women end up with various forms of Post Mastectomy Pain. I will try to get my hands on the OR report, but at this point I am going ahead with my DIEP because I believe it will help me. There are many positive theories on diep and it helping women with discomfort after mastectomy, plus I hate the implants. I think you are right. I have to stay away from Google, and stay on the path I have chosen. As far as the nerve blocks. I, like SBE, have more of a discomfort, or sensation then pain. It's not something I would put myself through regular nerve block injections for on a regular basis.
BTW, thank you for you input too, SBE. I think like you, have a tightness sensation, but I also have very uncomfortable implants on top of that. When they are out I hope to feel at least 50 percent better.
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I hope the "sleep cream" works for you, sbe. Sorry to hear little Aubery has a cold. When I was little, I used to catch every single bug that was going around, but since turning 20, some how my body has been able to let the bugs go by... I used to feel invincible, until fbc hit me. Thanks for thinking about me, nihahi. The bitter cold weather is gone but the rain is here. I want to go out and have some long walks soon, being lazy lately. Slumber party, dragon boat, fun stuff.
Goldie, I never had expander/implant and my flap surgery was a little over a year ago. On the fbc side, it still feels different from the prophy side. For a long time, on the fbc side, I felt pain under the arm where the nodes were taken (can't even remember when the pain went away). Right now there is no pain nor serious discomfort, but just not the same as any other part of my body. It has been less noticeable over time. Nihahi is right, your ps would have a better handle on this.
Xross posted with Jeannie. Really hope some good news coming your way soon. (((((jeannie)))))
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Marty, I was on a dragon boat team for a few years until I developed chronic tendonitis in both upper arms, and had to quit. Still remember those warm summer afternoons on the water, and how much fun it was. Took part in competitions too, and miss it, especially the social aspect. Enjoy!
Goldie, I can echo what Sbe and Nihahi said. Since DIEP I am much more comfortable than with that TE. Now and then I'm still aware of a little tightness, but it is due to the rads, I'm sure. I can live with it.
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goldie....I hope you feel a whole lot more than 50% better!
jeannie...aging parents are one of the hardest phases of life. Aging parents who are in denial of failing health/competency....even harder a situation. I will be "selfish" and say that I'm grateful your brother might have a larger "role" than you, in arranging/looking after things...you have more than enough on your plate. Sorry to hear about the job situation for hubby. We all keep hoping for positive news soon.
Hang in there Tammy...."April showers bring....remember!"
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Goldie... My iron bra is definitely better with flap. I have some tightness sometimes but nothing like with the implant. I blamed my iron bra on radiation and CC of the implant from that. Hang in there and go for what you want.
My nipple is 3 days old and I'm afraid it's lower than the other one. Do things change when swelling goes down? I am very swollen becuase he did a lot of fat grafting too.
I went to work today because we had an open house for a project we did. Boy, I'm tired! Thank goodness it's Friday!
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Mammalou, I was quite swollen after I got my nipples. (Lipo to break up scar tissue, cauterizing surface vessels). I would wait and see. Fingers crossed!
Hubs is encouraged because a new crop of opportunities appeared today. I am encouraged because I spent the afternoon with two bc friends getting favors ready for the "fishing" fundraiser that is coming up. Nice distraction and nothing beats being with bc sisters sometimes. I haven't been able to reach my parents by phone yet. They probably left the phone off the hook again....sigh. They live in California. Thanks for being my cheerleaders.
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jeannie...I've been thinking about you and "ageing" parents most of the evening. It is such a common "mindset" that a senior living or care centre is a negative move. (not meaning you think it is). I'd like to share our family's experience. After my Dad died, my Mom lasted a year at home alone, then for safety reasons, had to move to a care facility. It was the same facility her own mother had been in for years, and where Grandma passed away, so......not a lot of positive vibes!!! One of her sisters, with more advanced MS was already a resident. We were all worried about Mom being depressed about the move....turns out, it helped her bloom into a real social butterfly! Granted, she was determined to have a positive attitude, but the family joke for years, was .....better call Mom early, because once she's up...she's too busy to answer the phone! Often, when I would call her, her response was....I've only got a minute...I'm going to "X,Y,Z". Another sister, stayed in her home far longer than she should have, and we saw her have a much better life once she moved to the same facility. (Yep......3 sisters, on the same living unit in a care facility! What I'm trying to say is, the social aspect of care facilities can be a real plus for quality of life, in ageing parents. Maybe that can be brought up when you talk about it with your folks.
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Nihahi, what a lovely blessing to share your story. I hope it's an encouragement for you, Jeannie. And we'll be praying for the perfect opportunity to come your husby's way very soon. Where in California do you parents currently live? They'll love San Diego. Never too hot or cold!
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Thanks, Nihahi. My mom has friends at the local senior place near them so she is well-aware of the social blessings there. My parents have put down payments there several times but my dad changes his mind. His life there wouldn't be so different--read, watch TV, sit outside. If he didn't whine too much when my mom left the apt., she would no doubt enjoy the social aspects. He lives in pain, unable to do the things he used to, his speech isn't very clear, all from 2 major strokes and probably smaller ones. He's been a wonderful dad and husband but he's not a happy guy anymore. My mom is very attached to their "stuff" but in their two moves in the past eight years, we have winnowed it down. We would still have to, what? Hire an estate agent? This is hard. I love my parents and know I am blessed to have them.
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Hi Ladies,
I was wondering if anyone has experienced some hard small lumpiness across the flap breast mound and chest wall above. Also, a little soreness too. I get nervous about possible recurrence. Thanks for any info.
Oceana
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Goldie 10 years of iron bra gone with DIEP. You are in countdown mode now. Perhaps it is time to refocus on expecting a positive outcome. Remember - your mind is your best friend or worst enemy and you get to choose.
I won't say all has been roses and without pain since. Lots of things to work through but I am trying to actively work through all of them. Often I try actively to stay blissfully ignorant to hold onto a positive outlook. Sometimes I disappear from these boards just for that reason.
Jeannie I so feel for you. We cared for 3. My mother dreaded the home but would move to independent living and on to assisted. After hospital stays she would end up in skilled care and lived it. Thought she was at the spa with every need met. Never would believe that she was actually in the home she so dreaded.
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Thanks Marty. You are right about staying away from any negative thoughts, or energy. Quick question. Was your iron bra from capsular contracture, or did you have it from the beginning, right after our mastectomy?
Jeannie, elder care and all that goes with it is exhausting and emotional. We did it with my MIL and it was difficult, but I am glad we were able to be there for her.
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Hope the phone call goes well today, jeannie. Maybe your Mom's "contacts" can dig up a buddy for Dad, and once he's on board...might be good to go??? It IS hard to watch our parents age and be in poor health. I wonder if it's also connected to the awareness it brings to us, of our own aging and "someday it'll be us" thoughts???
What is it with "stuff"???? I've come to realize that purging of "why the heck did I hang on to THIS" is an on-going project. Anybody want a pile of cooking magazines....circa 1990's???? I mean, sheesh....who cooks like that anymore !!!!
goldie...per ALWAYS...marty is spot on....time to refocus on the positive. No one has an easy peasy recovery, but often true recovery requires a mental reset too. I know you'll get there, too.
oceana....wow...5 years out from your flap...that's wonderful! Are these areas of concern ones that have been around for awhile, or new???? If new or changing...I'd certainly say get them checked out! If they have been with you...what have the docs said about them previously??
It's a beautiful sunny morning here today...I'm going to follow marty's plan of some blissful ignorance and go play...
Hugs to all.
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Nihahi, as far as stuff goes, my mom attaches memories to it, thus making it painful to let go of it. I'm sure I do that, too, to a certain extent. I haven't talked to her yet but I will. Enjoy your sunny day! We have more rain today. I feel so badly for the mudslide workers (including the dogs!) who have to slog through it all, let alone the families.
Goldie, of course Marty's words were true, as usual. We can talk ourselves into bad places so easily. I think you are going to feel much better after DIEP and be happy with the result. You do have to drink that glass half-full idea sometimes, as you know. For me, it feels so much better to be positive than negative. I'm always working on that.
Sbel, my parents live in Murphy's, CA, in the Sierra Nevada foothills, north of Yosemite, south of Tahoe. It gets quite hot there in summer. If they move to San Diego, their summers would be quite hot, too, as they would live in or near Chula Vista which is east valley. My brother says he would drive them wherever they want to go so they could easily escape to the cooler coast. My dad rarely wants to go anywhere, though.....My brother is semi-retired. My niece, daughter and brother-in-law also live in the San Diego area and we lived there for three and a half years. It's a great place to visit, for sure!
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Thanks for your thoughts, Marty. I know my mom would love a senior residence. She is so isolated at home right now. Hopefully we can make it happen soon.
Deb, I'm sorry things have been so tough for you. You are a survivor of many things. I have been keeping a list most days of things for which I am grateful, some big, some small. It helps to change my perspective. As for your MO, I hope you find one you can relate to. Some women try different AIs before they find one w/o so many SEs. Maybe that will work better for you. Just yesterday my bc friend told me taking her antidepressant gave her a boost of energy. It is something I am considering. Can you take a walk today or walk around the mall or something? You need some happy endorphins! Oh, I see it's early evening for you. I know with your fierce determination things will eventually get better for you. Keep hope alive! Hugs.
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Jeannie... We have a vacation home right above Arnold, which is right above Murphy's. We go to Murphy's all the time. It is such a cute little town. I get all the things you are going thru with parents, we are currently going thru trying to make sure my inlaws can take care of themselves properly, they are 95 and 90 and very stubborn. It is a very sensitive thing to talk with them when they starting losing the ability to care for themselves.
I'm reading the book, Picking Up the Pieces. It's about moving forward after cancer. I know I'm doing a great job of functionally moving on, but emotionally, not so much. Part of the problem is the 7 surgeries I've had and the regular scares of recurrance. I'm thinking that after I get next weeks benign biopsy results( positive thinking), I can truly get a break from all this stuff for awhile.
My latest fat grafting looks very ugly and the nipple is very large. I'm feeling the post surgery blues just looking at it. Uggg.
Bosom.. Hang in there. I truly think the doctors are just in denial half the time over side effects. I don't get it. Either they don't read as much research as we do or they just don't want to admit the SE. Very frustrating!
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Goldie - sorry for not responding sooner, but have been out playing with my guys. Walked 7.2 miles today. Not sure the legs will work tomorrow, but vacay is great. Not sure if this answers your question, but hopefully this might give you perspective. My MX were 3 months apart, then my tissue expanders were place about 3 months after the 2nd MX. The implants were placed about 6 months later. I really do not remember any iron bra feeling at that point. The capsular constricture began about 6 or 7 years later along with very minor silicone leaks. I really tried not to freak out (remember this was a time when they banned the use of silicone implants for all but bc patients). At the 13 year mark, the implants were replaced. It was then that the really significant cc began and the iron bra moved in with a vengeance. No matter how difficult it was to live with, I never knew there were other options so I went around with a virtual strap cinched around my ribcage for 10 years or so. Heck, I didn't even know there was a name for it until my doc asked if I had it. (funny, I am an excellent researcher though I did not research this at all). I do not know exactly when the feeling went away, but I just remember sitting the sofa several weeks after the DIEP and noticing that something was missing. The feeling was gone. I really think it will happen for you. Just don't overthink it. Don't over focus and inventory each part as your body heals. Give it time and give your mind space. It has been proven that once an issue that causes a chronic pain condition is repaired, that it can takes months for the mind to unlearn the pain response. I have watched this from a front row seat with both my DH and a friend. The source of pain is actually gone, but the mind remembers and over protects.
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Hey Marty... I did a Dragon Boat race last summer. Are you doing the race with Dr Massey? I heard she does the races.
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Mammalou, my parents had a place in Blue Lake Springs on Moran Drive for twenty years or so. We spent many family vacations there with our kids, their favorite family memories. My dad finally realized a few years ago (he's almost 88) that he couldn't shovel their steep, 30 foot driveway anymore in the winter or climb the many stairs outside and inside so they moved to Murphy's. My brother is in Murphy's now. I misspoke before--my folks have since moved to Angels Camp.
I just had a great conversation with my mom. My San Diego brother has visited senior residences in San Diego and has apparently and wisely given them my parents' names and address. They have been receiving brochures, haven't figured out why, but are getting --dare I say--excited about these places. My dad even said they could move there in July! It might take that long to get things sorted out, we'll see. I am praying he doesn't change his mind. My mom opened the conversation saying that she was getting things ready to give away, wondering why they have kept certain things for so long! This is a miracle because she was angry at me for months when I gave away literally garbage bag after garbage bag of stuff when they left Arnold. I am so relieved the convo went so well this time. This could easily change, it has before, but I am so thankful right now.
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Dragon Boat racing sounds so fun. Probably not with my stupid LE arms, though. There are plenty of other fun things I can do, don't feel sorry for me!
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it's a small world Jeannie. Our house is at Big Trees right by the redwood trees park. We did lots of summers at Blue Lake Springs, too! I hope things keep going well. I love San Diego and I'm going there for a small vacation in2 weeks.
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Betsy, I am on a team of mixed survivors. Dr M sponsors a team for the Festival from the floor her patients go to following surgery in Charleston. The nurses love her for doing it because she is one of very few doctors who do. It is a nice way to thank them. She even gives them a food budget and participates. I haven't told her yet that I followed through on this, but will offer to help if needed. She was going to paddle with me, but is spending too much time in NOLA this year.
Bosom a great idea about writing down and looking back. That will give you lots of joy in small daily victories. The really add up to a lot.
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Good for you, Deb. Sounds like a good plan.
Mamma, I forgot to say that I thought my nipples looked pretty scary at first. They started out big and have shrunk by half, look much better. I hope they don't completely flatten out but if they do, oh, well. I just don't want to think about or stress about my boobs anymore. Is that possible???
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you know Jeannie, I agree with you, I'm getting tired of thinking about my boobs too. Enough is enough!
Next week I find out if this latest biopsy is benign. I'm just going along assuming it will be benign, so if it isn't, i will be floored. I don't think I could even entertain the thought of having a mastectomy and reconstruction on the other side .
Good luck next week Bossom. I can tell you that I am spending less time worrying. Last year for a biopsy, I was a wreck. This year, just rolling with the punches. So, maybe it does get better. I'll lye you know what I think of the book when I finish it.
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mammalou, I surely hope your biopsy is benign, too! We are in your pockets, either way, as always.
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bosum... It helps to do positive things like your journal idea (great advice from the nurse...wonderful idea on your part), sometimes it takes a force of will on your part, and sometimes "life" just moves in and starts re-focussing your thoughts. I don't think the awareness of OMG, I have/had cancer.... ever leaves 100%, because it can come back with the speed of lightning at times, but, you get better at re-directing yourself, too. You really will have days, weeks, months....where you don't think about it....it takes time!!! You are still recovering and reconstructing....be kinder to yourself! (hugs).
jeannie...that's wonderful news about Mom and Dad!! So happy for you that the phone call went well. Good work on your brother's part too!
I think it's part of being "human" to attach memories and emotions to "things", I know my folks did and I certainly do too. How much that means we feel the need to hang on to many things, differs for everyone. I guess I'm the odd one out...even in my own family. When my parents had both passed away, my brother and sister and I had to go through all their belongings, as well as those of my Grandmother, as my brother had stored everything. Not an easy task, emotionally. Everything we went through had memories for us. I wanted just a few "things" of each of them, but I needed them to be things that I would use, or have out so I would see them everyday. That is enough to keep all my memories of them alive to me. Stuff that was still usable, and none of us had need for or wanted, I hoped to pass on to places that meant they would continue to have "use and life" for someone else. My brother and sister....NOPE!!!!!...completely different mindset. Barely would part ways with anything, and probably 90% of Mom and Dad's and Grandma's stuff went back into boxes and shoved in closets and dusty, moldy basements...made ME feel like I was disrespecting them and burying them all over again, made THEM feel like they were "keeping things in the family"....Made for some pretty intense family dynamics....let me tell you. Once again, differences are the common denominator.
mammalou...that book is used here in bc recovery support groups. I know a few local ladies who highly recommend it. In your pockets for the path report...keep rolling with those punches.
hmm...I seem to have written a book...time to pour another cup of coffee and "refocus" again! Have good days, everyone!
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Nihahi, I always look forward to reading your "books". You have wonderful advice and you are so willing to share yourself with others.
Mammalou, good luck with your biopsy results this week. I'm praying for you.
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Hi, all! This is Sharon1942. Changed my user name. Well I'm still moving on but just got a new ailment - BC treatment related? I've just been diagnosed with de Quervain's tenosynovitis in both hands last week by my rheumatologist - a painful condition affecting the tendons on the thumb side of your wrist. The doctor's PA gave me a prednisone regimen & had me get thumb braces. She said if this doesn't work they'll try corticosteroid injections. I'm icing it,too. I searched this on BC.org & found lots of Arimidex users have this! No! I thought it was from lots of crocheting - ha! By This is not funny. I have been miserable! Some have even had to have surgery. What next! Hope you all are doing well!
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Low energy these days, but hugs to Jeannie. Good luck with your parents moving. Went through this with my parents a few years ago, and it was tough.
Positive thoughts to all that need them.
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(((((FierceBB))))), (((((Sharon))))), (((((mammalow)))))
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hugs to everyone having struggles this week.
jeannie...hope mom stays positive and it's a great news week for you and hubby.
Sharon....that is tough to hear re: the new se. Hope the more conservative approach is successful for you, and that the pain diminishes quickly. CRAPPO!!!!
fierce....hugs, just hugs.....blue fluffy wings surrounding you.
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nihani, have you made a decision on the fat grafting? I don't remember where I read your question about the donor site skin. My understanding is that depends on how much ps mines the site. In your case, likely very little, so there will not be any loose hanging surface area. I had a bit of it on my inner tight to fill in under the arm where nodes were taking. No problem. Good luck on your final touches coming up.
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I am going to change my screen name too .
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jeannie, my mom is going to be 85 soon and she lives in an old age apartment. When we decided to move her there, she was unhappy and begged to let her stay with my little sister. Now whenever my little sister brings her home for a few days, her question is always "when are you taking me back?" Whenever we call, she is always busy doing something with her friends. I hope everything works out for your mom the same way.
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Thanks for the good wishes re: my parents. My mom was taken by ambulance to the hospital yesterday because she thought she was having a heart attack but it was just stress. She is overwhelmed with wondering where they'll live, what they'll do with their things, etc. She does know they need to move. My younger brother who lives nearby is completely burned out by them and wants them to move right away. I know she needs me to come help but I am not emotionally strong enough right now. I am hoping I will be soon. I will have to be. Dad is still saying, "let's rent a small house." Uh, no. He wants to be the one taking care of all of us, not the opposite.
Busy week here for me so I better get to it.
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Hang in there jeannie.....there's room on the raft, you know!
morningsun...(formly known as tammyt????).....yep, I'm going with the fat grafting. Decided to give it one shot. It's a different kind of lipo apparently....not a "suck out a whole area", but a finer needle type of aspiration. Shouldn't be much if any of a body "contour" difference afterward at the donor site, so I'm more at peace with the decision. Of course, now I might need to scare up a ride for next Monday....hubby strained his knee yesterday, and we spent the evening at the urgent care. He is now in a knee splint, and non weight-bearing with crutches!!!! Last year, at this time....he'd been summoned for jury duty the same day as my flap surgery. Do you detect a pattern here??????
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Got trapped on the DIEP 2014 thread....just wanted to stop by and say "Love you ladies!"......my life kinda sucks right now......but I am making it work, and counting the months until out get-together in September......I just cashed the checks today, as my AMEX didn't bill me for it last month, and I didn't feel right keeping $$ in my account........(((hugs)))
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164 days and counting, movie...hugs to you all. Each and everyone of you.
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bosum....positive thoughts for today's tests....!
There is nothing "rational" about emotions...they are what they are. Time brings changes, and when our kids are involved, it just is an inescapable fact of life. As tough as this sounds for you, I think it's good that you can see the "benefits" that your son might gain. Especially given the "caution" you understandably feel about your ex's motives. I'm not sure how old your son is, but, "couch living" might be something he just needs to move beyond, for many reasons. Before he actually moves on, can you try to connect with new things/people to fill the void you expect to feel? Even something as "superficial" as buying a pail of paint in a colour that you love to redo your reclaimed "living space", might help you view this as an opportunity to move forward too?
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Good luck BosumBlues.
Movie, we are here for you. Pop in whenever you need to.
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bosum... If you're a freak, so am I! Thanks for the prayers. My post op is Thursday and I guess I'll find out then about the biopsy. I admit when they didn't call on Monday ( their clinic day) I had a little fear attack. But, I also know it probably means nothing.
I have done everything to lead a healthy lifestyle, but honestly, it was pretty healthy before. I walk a minimum of 15000 steps a day, eat a whole food diet, don't do other bad things. I've tried to cut down on sacrificing my life for my job. If cancer comes back.... I will feel it is out if my control.
My bruising on my fat grafted breast is clearing pretty fast. I got back from a staff meeting today and realized my breast binder on my biopsy side had slipped down under my boob. I sure hope it wasn't noticeable. Lol
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bosum...no worries, gal...I'm glad the mammo went well. Mammalou....now it's your turn for a "happy scenario"!
bosum...."beating yourself up over the past" is going to have zero benefit to you in the future. There are lots of opinions on what constitutes a healthy lifestyle, but the key I think, is to find what you can do at the point you are at now....then work from there. If you're not active ....start with going for a walk every day....doesn't have to be a 50k mountain climb....try a 30min walk, somewhere that you enjoy. Consistency is what you are trying to build to start with. I bet you will find dedicating 30 minutes a day to doing something "good for your health"...puts you on the path to doing more, and finding other healthy habits too, like eating better, etc. If nothing else, I bet it gives you back a sense that you CAN control parts of your life, and that confidence may help you in many other ways.
If anyone is interested, on the "post your daily exercise thread" several ladies have recently posted studies regarding the role exercise plays in lowering recurrence chances.
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we cross posted bosum.....but I'm going to bed now....congrats on the curls!
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I'm here.....just up to my eyeballs in busy.....love you all!!!
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Hahaha it was a drive by, Bosumblues, sorry, these people I gave birth to think they come first . Sorry your lunch was less than satisfying....don't worry about how you look....I bet your chemo curls are encouraging! Love and hugs....and prayers for a job!
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It's official......straight from the IRS.....I'M ALIVE!!!!!!!! Just got my 2012 tax refund in the mail today. Sheesh....you'd think they'd at least add a little "welcome back" note or something!
bosum.....one thing bc certainly teaches us, is what is "REALLY" important in life. The fact that you find conversation about clothes, etc, boring, shows that you have stood on the edge of something scary and huge. The fact that you are still here, means, you have been able to get through some really, really tough stuff. You see life from a different perspective these days. I keep saying it, but it is soooooo important.....give yourself time to find your way forward. Give yourself opportunities to do, feel, try new things. You'll find your way.
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My kitty, Kaitlyn(which I which I brought her home in 2006 after my first round of cancer)(I was wrong about her age, my other cat is the older one) has gone to live with the angels. My husband found her this morning but didn't say anything until late afternoon because he knows how upset I would be. I did not want to see her. We put her is a special fabric box and buried her under the butterfly bushes. She loved to chase butterflies and managed to catch a bird which she promptly came in the kitty door and dropped it at my feet. lol@her This just isn't fair and my heart is broken. I just wanted to share with you all because you know how much she meant to me. I am glad she was home not at the vet's office(this does comfort me some).
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Kat-ski, my sympathies! We love our pets like family, so sorry.
Welcome to the land of the living, Nihahi!
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Bosum.....Thinking of you. As is the usual way of things....Nihahi has some good, sound advice. Hang in there.....your path will become clear to you. Just keep seeking it! (((Hugs)))
Kat-ski....so very sorry about your beloved kitty. I once read a very special poem about our pets leaving us.....this is for you.......(((hugs)))
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Nihahi...so very glad you are alive. Having you otherwise at the September gathering would be.......well....awkward, to say the least!!!!!!
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Nihahi, I track all the cardiac arrest incidents at work and I've gotten pretty good and knowing who's dead and who's not. Don't try to pull the wool over my eyes, sista.
Kat-ski, I'm so sorry about Katie. Losing a pet is absolutely losing a member of the family. (((hug)))
Bosumblues, I loved my chemo curls. After having stick-straight hair all my life, having soft, wavy curls, especially after being bald as an egg, was so much fun! I started going commando when I was still pretty hairless, and when it first started coming in, it was WHITE. Whoa. Then it got darker as it got longer, but it was still salt-and-pepper. Funny thing...now I'm blonde...
Babysat Aubrey tonight! Grandma time is such bliss.
Hey, Bailey, how are your folks doing? Your dad getting along with his bionic prosthetic snap-on tool?
I posted on the 2014 DIEP thread, but you guys are my peeps, so I wanted you to know my next surgery is June 4. Probably just two more to go, then it's tattoo and too-da-loo to BC!
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whoop, Sbel! It will feel so good to be done! My daughter and granddaughter are coming up from SD on Friday for a week. My daughter has a wedding just north over the border on Saturday so our Isabelle is terribly excited to have Nana and Grandpa to herself all day. She is eight and we haven't seen her in a year. She has a list of things she wants to do....go to Starbucks, the mall (8 going on 13), the school to play, play with our dog and do silly things with Grandpa who is very silly. I can hardly wait! I may have shared all that before....
Well, this week Mom took an ambulance ride to the hospital with a "false" heart attack, Dad fell today from having a TIA. I don't know if we can get them back and forth to move to San Diego (they live in N. CA) at this point but something must be done. They haven't lost their minds so it's hard to convince them they need help, believe it or not. It will all work out somehow!
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Katski, so sorry for your loss of kaitlyn. No matter how old or how sick, it's never easy to lose a beloved pet. She had a good life with you and knows how much you loved her.
Movie, that was a beautiful rainbow bridge painting..
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Kat-ski....hugs to you. So sorry about your loss. Pets are what get us through some of the toughest stuff. Hope you can focus on the happiness and comfort your kitty brought you.
hey fierce....good to hear from you. You are never far from any of our hearts and thoughts.
sbe...and WHAT pray-tell, is your issue with "seasoned hair colour"? just kidding....colour slides off my hair like shampoo in the shower. I let the little young things assume I'm ancient, and take every senior's discount I get offered! I AM TOO ALIVE....I mean..the IRS is NEVER mistaken! June 4 sounds like a "biggy", but I bet you'll be super happy with the results. Getting there girl....WOOHOO
jeannie....Love the name Isabelle...so pretty! You go right ahead and share your Grandma news as much as you want...!!! I'm sooo very happy to hear you looking forward to something wonderful. 8 going on 13.....going to be "good times" for sure!!!
movie....you are my hero....don't know how you keep going with your "life" responsibilities...Sure wish I could help in some way. Hugs, my dear friend....big, mountain"y" hugs.
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I saw this when I started Firefox this morning and thought about you, Kat-ski.
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Hey Girls - I've been away a while and there sure is a lot of catching up to do.
Seems that there's lots of nipple action, waiting for tests, family challenges, and all those tough tough decisions that have to be made. I'm still enjoying catching up. Last week I went to France. I've been promising myself all along that once surgery was done, and while I still had a flat tummy, I was going to to springtime in Paris. I was hoping to have nipples by now - but since nothing every goes according to plan - I went without. And it was wonderful. We went to the south, and rented bikes, and drove through fields of flowers ate fabulous food, and were surrounded by beauty. I wish you'd all been there.
Liefie and Mammlou - I'm following your progress. My surgery is scheduled for May 27 so I'm hanging on to all the details. Are you pleased. Mamma, do you still have the post surgery blues? I didn't realize that tamoxifen causes a fatty liver.
Kat-ski - I'm so very sorry about the loss of your cat. It certainly isn't fair that she was taken from you. I know your heart is broken, and I'm glad she passed at home where she knew she was loved.
Jeannie Jeannie Jeannie - You have so many little hurdles and continue to face all these challenges with such a great attitude. I have such faith in you and your husband and that good things are waiting at the end of this windy road, for you both. By the way, a lot of my peers have parents in their 80's and without exception, they've all blossomed once they got into a retirement home. (I'm not allowed to say 'old age home'). However - getting them out of their current homes and into a retirement home has always been a struggle. It's like trying to squeeze them through a very small window but once they're through - so happy and grateful. My mom is in the process of selling them family home but hasn't started looking for a place to live. I'm storing all my extra strength to deal with that this summer.
Also, I found your 'return to modesty' really interesting. And I totally get it. I've been treating my boobs like a science experiment but as they iI'm feeling more whole, I'm getting more protective too
Bosum - All your thoughts seem totally rational to me. I'd feel abandoned too, if my son moved out. I'm not a parent, but I guess you have to just put all your energy into your son's welfare rather than hateful thoughts. Having said that - I know that if I was in your shoes I'd be fantasizing about my ex's head exploding or getting run over by a truck. (I'd be a terrible parent)
Fierce - I thought about you in New Jersey while I was looking at the wildflowers and listening to the birds in France. Nature is so good at taking care of itself and decisions are instinctive. I wish your life was as easy. I wish you strength and calm in all your upcoming decisions and challenges this spring.
Nihahi - So glad you're alive!
Janet
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Just want to send {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{EVERYONE}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} hugs. Goldie, good to hear from you. I've never had TEs, so no iron bra. It does feel like I have a bra on all the time, but no pain at all. Good one year check-ups this week from my BS and MO. Movie, I don't think I've seen your results. Jeannie, enjoy that grand daughter! FierceBlue, you are always in my thoughts and prayers. I will be having lipo, fat grafting, and nipples done on May 23, 2014. Just happens to be the anniversary of my BMX. Kat-Ski, so sorry about your kitty. Yes, I love my dogs more than most people. They are totally non-judgmental as long as we feed them. Bosum you are sounding good. Hope all is well. Love you all. ...Julie
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I have one nipple and am happy to travel....Idk when I will get new nipple.....it seems to have fallen down the list of priorities right now....
Mammalou how ya doin?
Fiercelyblue you are on my prayers and mind daily, my friend.
All.of you are...Movie and Bosumblues and Jeannie with each of you in your troubles.....take a float on the raft.
Nihahi...
So.glad you are alive....I always suspected as much
Still waiting to hear if I'm "twins" (stolen social security number or just a simple typo....who knows).
Mom and Dad are coming along, slowly, but coming along. Thing 1 and Thing 2 are on spring break and went to their house with lunch yesterday. I understand a good time was had by all.
Love to all!
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Bosum - what she said was also so untrue. Not all daughters ever become best friends (or even friends) with their mother. I became the parent as the years progressed and it wasn't fun, but we were never best friends. Just ignore stupid people with little substance.
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Back in hospital again.really scared but looks like like it's a bad pneumonia. Keeping me prisoner while running iv antibiotics. Better than the alternative, I'll take it!
Hard to type.
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Fierce, thanks for checking in but I wish you had better news!! I hope those antibiotics do a quick job on those germs. We are there with you always.
Bosom, I have two able-bodied brothers who have helped out a lot with my elderly parents. Helping the folks in other ways, like organizing, encouraging, falls to me. We all contribute in our own way.
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Thinking of you, Fierce. Hope you kick this soon and you break outta there.
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Sending Love and (((Hugs))) your way, Fierce! XO
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Fierce-You just fight right back and tell those germs to scat!! Kat
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hey all... First. Nahahi, I'm glad you are alive if it means you get a refund! I was a CPA for 25 years before I was a teacher, so I have a lot of disdain for the IRS. I also always vote no on more taxes!
I just got home from my appointment. My lesion was B9, extensive sclerosing adenosis. Yay, yay, yay! I have to have an MRI in 6 months to make sure they actually got the correct spot. That's reassuring. Ha, ha.
I have been going thru this stuff for 3 months and I'm am so tired of it. I had 3 cosmos on my ride home. Sooo good. Next week I'm off to San Diego to celebrate with my high school friends and I plan on celebrating!
Got a new nipple guard on the new nip and have to wear it for a month. Tattoo for areola will be in 3 months. My BS did a great job, I have some Keloid scaring issues and apparently my PS has invented a treatment for this. So, my BS went and found the PS nurse and set me up with some of his invention. We'll see how it goes.
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fierce.....dang nab it!!!! Stare those nasty germs in the face, tell them where they can go and we'll be hanging out with you to keep you company. Prayers and hugs, girl....prayers and hugs!
bosum...hurtful, insensitive, wrong..stupid...brainless....ignorant...I'm sure it was painful to hear that.....let our words drown out hers...No one is in a position to judge how close you are to your sons. Try to dismiss her comments as nothing to carry with you.
janet....France in springtime!!! What a wonderful thing to do. So glad you did that trip!!!!!
mammalou...HURRAY for B9!!!!! Too funny...3 cosmos on the way home...sounds like you took the party bus!! The finish line is coming into view...hang in there! Hope you share the keloid info on here. I think there are a few veterans with keloid issues.
bailey....aren't you trying some kind of special scar protocol???? Or maybe I'm confusing you with your twin .
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Happy dance for you, Mammalou! Yay, yay, yay!
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Mammalou - Yipeeeeee! Such great news! Watch out San Diego!
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Janet...just read your latest blog, and just howled with laughter....you are the BEST writer!!!! btw...how are the eyebrows doing??
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{{{{{Tammy!}}} Bluebird hugs all around! If you saw the size of this goshawful gown I'm in, there's room for everyone plus some!
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Nihahi - Thank you so much! That means a lot to me - especially coming from someone who gets me.
The eyebrows are good, by the way. The itchy red bumps disappeared on my very last day! At least I looked presentable for Jim when he picked me up at the airport.
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C'est bon, Janet....I bet you could have arrived home in a burlap sack and Jim would have still been happy to see you!
fierce....hoping you get home for the weekend???
bosum....actually, I think I talk TOO MUCH about myself. Thanks for asking....I'm doing very well. Tomorrow is one year out from my stage 1, and I am spending it in the mountains with an amazing friend. I can soooo relate to the fears and tears on the current diep thread, but also, often feel like a "fish out of water", in that I am so far out from my initial dx and treatment days. I stick around because I care so much about the ladies here that have bonded together, but also, because, in my early days of bc...I was totally without support from other patients. Things were done much differently back then. The only women I knew of, who were my age, both lost their fight. Not a reassuring experience, so I try to be here to offer encouragement for belief in the "future". It really does "get better"!
just have to add...good lord....it's snowing!!!!!!!
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Janet, I, too, enjoy your blog and your wisdom, humor and encouragement. Missed you but I'm so glad you had such a lovely vacation!
Nihahi, I don't think you talk to much about yourself! Far from it. I enjoy hearing about your life (snow trips, "dead" problems, apprehensions about surgery). You have definitely fulfilled your desire to be supportive to newbies and everyone, really. You have so much good common sense to share and express it so kindly.
FierceBlueBird, I hope those drugs are starting to kick in and starting to kick OUT those nasty germs. Love to hear your spirit in your posts. I know these are challenging days: we all might be too squirmy to fit in your roomy gown with you but we are nearby, always.
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Still prisoner. Gram positive sepsis and pneumonia. Probably got at last hospital. Sigh... worn out and so tired of this shirt. Some people go shopping for shirts, My shirt come to me. If I get outta this place, I'm changing my name and going into the witness protection relocation program.
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Fierce - so sorry you are still cooped up. I hope the drugs they are giving you are doing their jobs and you will be free soon. Sneak across the border when you are able and we will hide you in Canada:)
(((Hugs)))
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Oh, Fierce, sorry to hear this news. I know you are up to this challenge but it has to be wearing. No more shirt, button down or otherwise! I would be happy to hide you here. The eagles and hawks are flying overhead every day now, the thrush are singing their annoying song, the raccoons are trying to get into the rat bait stations....it's a pretty active place. We can be entertained by it together. Hugs to you all day and night!
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bluebird... I am so thinking of you and praying it all gets better for you soon!
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Dear fierce.....I hope the "shirt" gets permanently left behind when you are discharged from this latest "pothole". Since you are stuck inside today, I thought I'd share some outside photos from yesterday....hugggssss to you girl.
fyi.....the last pic is the only bird pic I got...but I figured, who doesn't love the butt end of a Great Horned Owl!
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Nihahi, The pictures you post are so full of raw beauty!!
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I take no credit, kat-ski....it's a beautiful world.
Question for the ladies who have already had nipple recon. I know all docs are different, but how much "padding" should I dress for tomorrow? Are we talking 4" protrusion of pads....or something much less significant???? All responses greatly appreciated.
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One great looking fipple ordered for nihahi, please. Sorry, no experience, still got the OEM ones.
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nahahi.. Those pics were amazing.
I came home with a nipple guard with gauze over it. It was only a couple of layers of gauze and required nothing special to hide it. I'm in the nipple guard for a month and it works great. I can trust that the guard is protecting it from getting smashed and just wear a soft bra over it. I even wear some loose t shirts. The discerning eye could pick out the slightly protruding nipple, but I don't think anyone really notices.
My PS had a firm plastic nipple guard for a week, the he switched to a nursing nipple guard which they just cut the end off it so it didn't squeeze it too much.
Good luck, you do great!
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Nihahi, I just had several layers of gauze, no biggie. I wore a bra that was slightly too big for awhile so they wouldn't get squished.
Tomorrow is the day??? I hope everything goes well for you!
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hugs to Nihahi... Stage "done" tomorrow!!!!
Blue kick some germy butt honey.
I'm on drive by again. We had some wicked storms yesterday afternoon. 80 mph winds and hail. The power has been out since so we are camping. Estimated restoration is late tomorrow night. I stripped wallpaper by candlelight for a few hours last night lol!!!!
So I have to get off the data plan here (no power no wifi) but wanted to say hello and love to all! Gnite!
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Nihahi - Best of luck today. You're so close to being done! I'll be thinking of you, and looking forward to hearing about the results.
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Nihahi- what a great day! Can't wait to hear how it went. You are so close to the finish line. Yahoo!!!!!!
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Nihahi, stunning photos! Thanks for sharing the beauty around you!
I have just the one fipple so far, and it was pretty anticlimactic. Like Bailey, a couple of layers of gauze, nothing special. I even asked my PS if there was anything I should do to NOT "smash" it, and he looked surprised and said no. I hope we hear from you tonight, about how pleased you are with how the day went. You're in ALL our prayers!
Bailey, HEAL! GO HOME! (Well, it works for my little woofers, I thought we might give it a shot for you...)
Have a great Monday, everyone.
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Nihani - you are so almost done!!! Way to go.
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It's nipday....and I'm barely able to keep a cup of coffee down. Biggest hurdle for me is going to be "awareness under local", and all I can do is pray this PS has the same intra operative personality as he does pre and post. So many bad nightmares from surgery/local with different PS. I popped an ativan last night, which let me sleep. And I'm going in begging for more this morning. Shortly after noon, Mountain time, I will have TWO nipples again, after 22 years and 5 months.....sure hope it turns out well, physically and emotionally. A friend is driving me in, as hubby is still non-weightbearing with his bunged up knee. Thanks for the support dear friends....this little minor tweak has me more stressed out than all the rest put together. (I never claimed to be sane!).....TOWANDA!!!!!
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"Awareness under local..." We will hope that Wilbur's presence is felt!
It will be OVER before you know it, and you know we'll all be crowded into the procedure room with you. We'll try to not bump the PS's elbow.
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Nihahi, all the best for today!
Blue, hope the bugs are being put in their place!
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Oh Nihahi....I have been so derelict in checking in here..... I totally spaced your "Nip Day"! I hope all went well for you, and that you are home (or will be shortly) and resting comfortably. I am sure the procedure was a complete success! Love you!
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Perky happy thought!
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Hope all went as you planned today, Nihahi. Looking forward to hearing from you.
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With love--the girls.
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Sbel, thanks for the laugh!
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You are the best....going to take my 'FULL, COMPLETELY MATCHED SET" and go to bed.Nip 1 and Nip "new" have 22 years of catching up to do!
Haven't really looked at much, given the gauze "guards", but will report back tomorrow.
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so glad you checked in! Sleep well, nihahi
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Nihahi, hope you and your matched set have a good sleep! Yay for you! Love and hugs.
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Nihahi -
Good morning to you and your completely matched set!
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Can't wait to hear your report. What a great feeling.
Katy- Too funny!!!!
I woke up to snow this morning. WTH!! It is NOT pretty on April 15.
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Cherrie, that snow is all the way down to central Indiana! Go away, snow! Nihahi, so good to hear from you and your two nips. Sbe, that was so cute. I have to remember that. Fierce, we're here thinking of you! Bailey, hope your power is back. That is such a bummer. Have a good Tuesday ladies! ...Julie
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Sbe, that looks like me after Stage 1...the right nip was a little wonky and pointing outward. Lol.
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Zenful, you said after Stage 1, did you have nipple sparing? I think sbe's thingy is perfect. Good Tuesday to you too, Julie. Did you send you snow our way, cherrie and Julie? Feel better (((FBB))). Love to all.
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My daughter in Ann Arbor isn't too happy about the snow, either. Off to see a waterfall with the fam.! I have a nasty shin splint so no hiking for me, darn. It's a short walk to the falls.
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Sharon, where are you? Have not "seen" you for a while.
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sbel, thanks for the laugh!
Shin splints are awful! Rest up Jeannie.
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did I miss pictures!?
Nahahi... Anxious to hear how you're doing today
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Hello ladies,
I've been mia for a while since the nipple surgery 2 weeks ago. No excuse really, just busy living life. Still have sutures that were going to be removed tomorrow. Got a call from PS office earlier telling me that it was actually today - oops! Feel really bad messing up like that, but they rebooked it for next Tuesday. Had a watertight bandage on nipple for the first 6 days, then it came off in the shower. I was not instructed to wear a shield, but it is sewed on pretty tight - can see and feel it. So far so good. It is the best feeling ever to look in the mirror, and see that my girls are the same size and the same height again for the first time since the mastectomy. Just the tattoo remains to be done.
Have been reading about everybody's triumphs and struggles. Fiercebluebird, have been thinking about you all the time, and will keep you in my prayers. You have been through so much, and hopefully the tide will turn soon. Big hugs to you! I'm so happy Nihahi is alive again, Jeannie is still her old positive, sunny self, Sbe is still her old funny self, Janet had a lovely time in France, Mammalou is doing well, Tammy is now Morningsun - beautiful - , and Zenful, jbloom, Lahela, Ridley and Cherrie are all still here.
Bosun, it is not true that all girls are close to their mothers. Fact is some children are close and others are not regardless of what sex they are. A better relationship with his dad is a positive thing for your boy. You will miss him, but he will be visiting a lot, I think.
Kat-ski, big hugs to you. It is so hard to lose a kitty that has become like a child in your home. Lost my beautiful cat in 2008 when neighbour's dog killed her, and still miss her.
September is coming, and we are going to have a blast - just five more months to go!
We're off to Edmonton on Thursday for Easter with the children. I miss little Emily so much, and can't wait to hold her again. She will be 7 weeks old tomorrow - time just flies.
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Liefie, so good to hear from you and that you are doing well. It is nice to have two nipples again!
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Liefie- So happy to hear from you. Give that baby big hugs. I left mine at 5 weeks and he is 8 weeks today. Aren't they precious?
Jeannie- Shin splints-I hate those. Ouch. Ice those shins.
Fierce- thinking of you!
Julie- I bet you are tired of snow too!
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Hey Ladies...
cherrie....so good to hear from you! Hope things are well?
liefie...it's snowing here again..better pack the mittens for Edmonton.
I was told I could shower today, and let the water flow over the new nip. It looks good and pink, a little bleeding, but not much. I'm padding with gauze, and plan to switch to the cosmetic pads when the gauze runs out. The fat grafting site is bruising nicely, as is the lipo site. PS was quite surprised to discover how much feeling I actually have in the flap, which unfortunately meant a rather uncomfortable numbing for the the fat grating and nip recon. As odd as it looks at the moment, I am amazed at how "normal" it seems to have 2 nips again! Now if my thigh wasn't so tender.....I'd be dancing!
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Nihahi- You will be out walking in those mountains in no time at all. I am so happy all is working out for you.
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Jeannie, we'll have to have another show and tell, right? LOL.
Cherrie, little Em is 7 weeks tomorrow. Just want to steal that little baby . . .
Nihahi, so happy you are happy with your new nipple - feels good, eh? Thanks for the heads up. My son told me on the phone earlier that it's snowing again. I'm sitting here watching TV, stunned by the mass murder of the 5 U of C students stabbed to death. So absolutely senseless and unnecessary, and the suspect a fellow student - unbelievable.
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Nihahi - I'm so excited about the progress you've made in the last two days. I also love your 22 year road back to 'normal'!
I'm curious what it was like being under a local. Was your PS as entertaining as you remember?
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liefie...pack a toque with those mittens.....supposed to snow ALL DAY here...don't know what Edmonton is getting.
Janet...I told the nurses in Minor Surgery to give me everything they could because I was over the top anxious about the whole "local" thing. They gave me two ativan which I popped under my tongue before they could blink. I told my PS I was nervous, and he looked stunned! We chatted for a minute or two, and I explained I wasn't nervous about the procedure, it was because of how I was treated like a lab specimen, not a person during a local procedure done by a different Doc. He said....."no worries, I know you're there". Might have been the combo of the ativan AND him and his nurses, but, I was calm the whole time, was checked on a number of times, had a few conversations, and felt calm and happy the whole time. Turns out, I will have one more "trip to the table, to either do a bit more fat grafting if needed, or to even out my thighs, as he only does one donor site at a time. His routine is to do very small amounts of fat grafting at one "go"....feels he gets better "take" with smaller amounts. I now realize that I actually remember very little of the procedure, the ride home, or that evening. I am fine with that scenario...I don't need any more "memories" of this whole fandango, I have enough to last me a lifetime. But I am confident now, that another procedure with him will be nothing to fret about.
.I couldn't be happier with my PS or my long awaited nip.
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Nihahi, it may have been the Ativan,but I think it is very typical to feel calm once you get there and are in the hands of those skilled individuals. My experience has been that they are very good at knowing we are scared sh**less, and they have the skills to make us feel at ease. The hard part is really the time leading up to the surgery. That's why I love the saying " you just have to show up". It's so true.
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zenful....unfortunately, I have had two previous rounds of surgeries on my face, under local, by another PS who, along with his staff, were completely tuned out to any pain or emotions I was experiencing. Horrific experiences and has left me with nightmares to this day. Thankfully, this time was nothing similar!
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Nihahi, I will come prepared . . . yes, Edmonton had snow too. Was hoping to take Emily for walks - hopefully the stroller has snow tires? LOL.
Wishing each of you a happy Easter. It's a bit early, but I will not have the opportunity to come here again before I leave, so have a very good weekend with your loved ones, and enjoy everything to the fullest. Today is the only day we have, so let's celebrate!
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Nihahi -
Thanks for sharing your story and I'm so glad it's a happy one, and that you felt at ease. Two Ativans sound like the perfect way to kick off your surgery. Being happy is a perfect way to end it!
I hope to do as well (or as calm) as you when I get my nipples in May. I'm having a local as well, so it's nice to know that you and Jeannie are doing so well.
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Thought for today!
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Blue birds are smart!
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Janet, I was eerily calm right before and during my nipple "arts and crafts project," as my PS referred to it. I thought about taking Ativan but didn't. It was a pleasant surprise to me to be so calm and EXCITED!
We're having so much fun with GD, Isabelle. 8 years old is such a fun age. She says the funniest things and is smart and kind. It would be so fun to live near each other and hang-out. We are making good memories. I did end up walking too much yesterday at Snoqualmie Falls but it was worth it. There is a new trail to the bottom of the falls. It's only half a mile down but with shin splints that seems so far! Luckily there is a new pkg. lot down there so DH and one DD hiked up and drove the car down. Today was a ferry ride and now little girl movies. Izzy's mom is in Seattle exploring with friends----who are on their honeymoon! DH is still interviewing at various places, which is more than a lot of unemployed folks get so that is a blessing. One of these days......
Kat-ski, that bird is a beauty! We've been listening to red-tailed hawks and eagles nearby and watching birds build nests in the Hydrangea vine on a fence perpendicular to our family room window. The hawks would have to be pretty bold to search out those little nests.
My daughter is only 5'2" ---Izzy is catching up to her!
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Katski, love it!
Morningsun, you are too cute. Here's a bluebird fact of the day....bluebirds raise their babies and unlike other birds who chase their young away, the first chicks hatched and grown help raise the siblings who come along.
Jeannie, beautiful girls!
Liefie, happy Easter!
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Jeannie, I was once told that "big girls are admired, little girls are loved." I am just over 5ft1
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hi ladies I just discovered this discussion. I missed all of you and it felt like coming home to read your names and posts again. I have not been reading the boards for about 6 months. I have felt as the title of this discussion says that I have moved ahead beyond the diep I had in dec 2012 and the stage 2 I had on April 2013 which had some complications. I've had two nipple tattoos the last one being this October when I received my certificate of completion from my ps. I have been working more after branching out more in my career and I have enjoyed it. My DH who was unemployed during my surgery and recuperation got a job and things were moving ahead. Then this long and lousy winter hit along with the mood swings of menopause. I spent much of the winter depressed, not so much as a result of the bc more about the culmination of events in my lifetime. However now that spring is supposedly here ha ha I am starting to feel a little lighter about things. I have to say that menopause sucks and has given me as much trouble as bc did. I look forward to catching up with what you have all been up to.
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Nihahi, sounds like good reason to be terrified! I am happy you had a better experience this time, and that you are feeling complete.
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Not meaning to be a "downer" but I think the ativan has completely worn off and I have a case of the post-op blues. Not liking the shape of the nippled breast as much as I first thought....hoping it's a matter of a bit of swelling that needs to resolve. Also not liking the shaping of the thigh where the lipo was done for the fat grafting...again...hoping it's a matter of things settling down. On the happy side...the fat grafted area looks good....very bruised, but good.
Of course, maybe it's the day of snow that has me down too....will it NEVER STOP SNOWING
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Hey my Moving On pals, got a question. For you guys that had "crop circles, " how where they dealt with at stage 2. Are they gone after stage 2? If so, how do they close them up? My PS is talking about making them smaller at stage 2 and then putting nipples in them? Hmmm...not sure how that would look since there seems to be an indentation around the crop circle. At least in the pics that I have seen.
Hope everybody is doing well. My surgery is getting closer and I am excited.
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Nihahi, you're 100% right about waiting for the swelling to settle down before you really know how things will look. But that knowledge doesn't help the post-op blues. There's something about the build-up and anxiety about surgery, whether or not we get general anesthesia, and when it's over, we've got what we've got.
A couple nights' sleep will help with the perspective, I think. And a few weeks of settling in for the new girls and the thigh will also help a lot.
I'm thrilled the procedure itself wasn't the nightmare you've experienced before. Hang in there, sista...
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I LOVE the pictures, ladies! (And Jeannie, I know I told you on FB that your GD was adorable....but she really is a cutie....and I am really partial to redheads.....)
Lilyun, it's nice to "see" you here........stick around....this group is pretty chatty.......
I have been somewhat under the weather since Sunday evening....I have some pretty major food intolerance/allergy issues, and know better than to eat raw Zucchini .....and apparently the zucchini I ate in the Indian food DH brought home wasn't cooked enough.......the only thing worse than spicy Indian food going down is..........well, you get the picture......my skin around my eyes is STILL red from broken blood vessels....and I am still not feeling like myself.....
Nihahi. I agree with Sbe....time is your new best friend.......find a good book (re-read last book in Outlander series.....new book due out on June 10th) I was amazed at how much things changed over the six weeks after my surgery in December. And when all else fails, remember that September isn't THAT far off.......
Love you all......XO
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Nihahi, sorry to hear you are feeling blue. Sometimes expectations can get the best of us. A few days of getting used to the "new you" will hopefully help you feel better.
I know what you mean about the snow. This has been one if the longest winters ever! I thought I would scream when I woke up to snow earlier this week after 70 degrees the day before.
Hang in there. Big (((HUGS))).
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nihahi, I was very unhappy for a few weeks after my stage II fat grafting. I thought I looked much better before than after. Martyj was the one told me to give it time and be patient. As always, she was right.
lilyun, good to hear from you.
Feel better, movie. Love you!
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mimihon... I got that too, but just on the right side. It is very painful, and I went to the orthopedist for x-rays just to make sure it wasn't something cancer related. I have had 4 shots so far. Each one helps me for about 3-4 months. Now that I have had so many shots, I am a surgical candidate. The problem is finding 4-6 weeks of not using my right hand (two weeks not using it at all). My job requires me to use the computer, mouse etc., so not sure when to do it. The good news is, the doc said that I can indefinitely get shots and I am not making it any worse. I have had shots in both feet for plantar fascititis, my shoulder for inpingement, my finger for some quirky problem, and in all cases it helped permanently. So I just keep hoping that the next shot will be the ticket. But I have a lump on my wrist, so I am not overly hopeful.
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I had a long post and lost it. I hate that and don't feel like doing it again.
Nihahi- give it time!! I remember those days right after surgery and not being happy. You will do fine.
Jeannie- Great picture! How nice to have them so close.
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well CRAP, movie.....literally!!! Sure hope you're feeling better. You have more than enough on your plate to deal with, without "dealing with your plate"!!!!
jeannie....GD and DD are gorgeous....how could they not be...you're the "source"! Hope things are moving forward a bit for mom and dad.
Yup...Agreeing with the advice of "give it time", and going with kat-ski's wonderful message and jeannie's wise words of comparison is the thief of joy. Hard not to compare the "new" with the original sitting right beside, but....my PS hasn't done me wrong yet, so I'm just going to focus on the future. Thanks everyone for the hugs and encouragement. I know I'll be happy with the final result, just got to get there. I'm been "reviewing" my reaction to things today, and I really think it's partly the shock of seeing "something" there again, after all these years, combined with normal post-op swelling, skin reaction, etc. I'm betting by the time I see my PS again....I'll be smiling. I just love the honesty on this thread, though. Sometimes the best "help" is to know you can just express your tears and fears and then move on. (((((X)))))
countdown is now 154 days, and I can't wait to spend time with everyone.
bdavis....I'm sorry, I don't remember the post you're referencing, but, it sounds like you're having pain/difficulties with something....hope you find the next "shot" does the trick.
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Movie, I sure you are feeling better by now!
Nihahi, you are right to remind us, especially ME, about comparisons. Not sure I want to "share" my girls in Sept. for that reason. Still thinking about my feelings on the matter because it was so automatic to rush to the ladies room when I saw Liefie and movie. I know you will become more and more accustomed to your new girl's look, thrilled even!
Just put our girlies on the plane---Wahhh! Now we're working through emotions, gearing up to face DH's job hunt, etc. again. It was a nice respite.
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Hey friends, we got our power back on Monday night, fortunately.
Nihahi, healing hugs, and patience, Grasshopper.
Looking forward to much family time this weekend for Easter.
Love and Happy Easter to all!
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